M56
Ok fella's, join me on the war against "non reply"!
April 02 2017
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Mctag9
9 years ago
After many years on here as a guest I finally decided to pay for membership and I sent a few messages out to a few couples and ladies.... My messages had reasonable grammar, punctuation and spelling and were respectful without swearing... Overall I've had a pretty good response with courteous replies, which have resulted sometimes no reply but I've had a few who seem to think I am desperate and as such have great leverage and can be rude and insulting.... That's people I suppose.... :/
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RHP User
9 years ago
I send messages and I know I am not the best at the great pickup lines, so I don't expect a reply and I am not disappointed. But when I do get a reply, I tend to be a happy chappy. Not all replies end up in a meet and not all meets end in play. But wasn't that life before social media and the satisfy my wants now society - Posted from rhpmobile
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naughtycple4U
9 years ago
As mentioned earlier, we don't reply to guys who clearly haven't read the profile. If guys can't be bothered to find out if they are what we are looking for then why should we be bothered to reply, we have spent our hard earned $$$ too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Quoting 'luvitruf' So we get a lot of messages and the majority are a template messageIf you can't be arsed writing a proper message - we can't be arsed spending time to respond - really simple! Given I've been really consistent and communicative to you both and everyone else. I think I'm deserving of the courtesy of a response so that I'm not dicked around in return ~ Just sayin' Indy
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RHP User
9 years ago
yesterday with a friend from here. She and I were comiserating over the types of messages we receive, and the lack of respect from some.She received 3 messages in a row that were just the guy's phone number. No "hi, how are you", just a number...like she's a free escort service or something. Looking at their profiles there was NO info what so ever...just "ask me", and not even template responses in the 'About Me' section. So what makes them think they'll get ANY response at all to that?!? My suggestion to her, was to give one guy's phone number to the other, and let them work out for themselves who they're talking to! Maybe after they've exchanged cock pics they'll realise.... lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
While it can be frustrating, a little disheartening even. It's your / our choice to become a premium member and our choice who we use the messages on. Just like it is the recipients choice to not reply and have to explain why they are not interested.... in my experience, just getting to access some of the members restricted pics would nearly justify the fee of membership 😍 lol focus on the positives brother , good luck with your future attempts 🖒 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Bad manners not to reply, even wen makin new frnds for meet & hook ups? Sum people may be afraid to explore their curious side so they don't reply for tht reason? Just go for it & take risk, no harm in tht - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I gave the courtesy of a pleasant reply, only to cop your abuse 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
and any sales process is a numbers game... You develop the product over a lifetime, you evolve it to a point where you know it's strengths and weakness's, you use your creative skills to hone a story that depicts the strengths that your research tells you will appeal to your target market... the story must be honest, forthright and appealing. Sadly this is a mass market site... sure you target those who indicate interest in a product of your shape, size, age, thoughts and desires... but it is what is not shown on a profile that determines a persons interest or not! I know I am made for a specialist market, I only target females, 35-55 with an indication of intelligence, a will for deviant behavior and a lascivious mind. I deliver a concise and relatively detailed description of what I am an what I seek. Within that defined category there are those who run away screaming FREAK (and perhaps they are right), others that say they would not read anything longer than a tweet (well they are not for me as that is the only way DONALD can think), and then there are the ones who are curious (there is nothing as sexy as curiosity). Beyond that there are those who are caught up in post 50 shades of interest and would like a bit of that (fine... I have sampled a couple of those and... well it is always a one off and I don't wish to go back as it is shallow and vacuous). I have been lucky along the way to have found several wonderful women who see eye to eye with me... where our minds and bodies have clicked... and it has been fabulous for months or years. Sadly all good things come to an end and we start again... more learned, more experienced and equally as precise in what you seek. The point I make is that some people will not like you and what you represent... move on... next please. Don't be offended and do not offend... live and let live. La LA La LA...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Abuse has no place anywhere!!!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
got called a cheap slut for not replying. Guy had old chopped down pictures from a wedding or something, other pictures were very dark and grainy. The slut part? Thank you very much. Yes I am and proud of it 👍 However your abusive message won't do you any favours. Word gets around mate, you might want to learn to be respectful. We're not hookers and don't owe you anything
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Seachange73
8 years ago
Report him? That behaviour is unacceptable. But you did dodge a bullet so best you got out of that one unscathed.. Some people really think they are entitled to a reply when they don't even make an effort... 😒 Focus on Mr Wednesday 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not worth reporting but thank you. After that moment when you read the medsage, comes the realisation you made the right choice, dodged s bullet yes. Block, breathe a big sigh of relief you never let them into your personal space, and move on. You do wonder if they were raised to respect women though and I maintain my opinion about what they put in, the effort or lack thereof, they put into their profile, makes a big difference. Having to chase clear pictures is a red flag and i never do that anymore. Bottom line though yes, respect, what possesses them to react that way?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fat thumbs 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
Seriously, no wonder people have so many problems on here. Instead of bitching about piss poor treatment in the fora or via 'gossip', perhaps take your responsibility in your own hands and REPORT! Don't downplay what you and so many other women have been whinging about all along! I have to say it's highly ironic that abuse arrives whether you reply or not... So, I'm going to say that's a useless reason for the next time, some poor, hard done by woman claims she doesn't reply because of the abuse. Women, take your journey in your hands, you deserve better!!! Put it in your profile if you're not going to reply to every message. Establish boundaries... That is your entitlement. Then when a thread like this comes up, you can honestly say, you do your best Oh and I said it before... but that whole thread went by the by... that you can turn off the flirts under your account settings if you don't want to receive them. It makes me wonder how this thread survives but the other one disappeared. I guess it depends who you're pissing off... some poor innocent newcomer or a regular... PeachyPearL
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RHP User
8 years ago
Who are you going off at? I'll report abusive messages if I feel it necessary thank you very much. None of your business. I don't appreciate being yelled at, maybe it's just your bold print/text, but don't come in here dictating, making demands, and venting about a topic disappearing or something? I couldn't even understand what you meant. Did you not sleep well last night? Are you okay?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wtaf 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
...is the one we fellas need to be fighting. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, you can do whatever you want. I'd be a fool to suggest otherwise... and you can take or leave what I say... I'm easy. My problem is the mixed messages I get that spin my head around sometimes. You women say you get abused and that's one of the reasons you (specifically) give for why you don't reply. Then you march in and claim you got abused for not replying. And you're not going to report because it's not worth it. But you're not going to reply to people because you get abused when you do... WTF... Just don't tell me it's someone else's fault that you don't reply. and Please don't read anything into my writing, it's the same text and size I always use. The one part I wrote in bold was to make it stick out from the rest because it's the best thing since sliced bread. No longer does anyone have to put up with unwanted flirts, they can take action to improve their own experience. I'm all for a better experience and happy to say mine is. PeachyPearL PS: Deviate... I can tell you where to stick that comma. Avagoodweekend
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RHP User
8 years ago
Duly noted
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RHP User
8 years ago
Still not making sense Sorry 😐 I tried, really I did, but you now seem to be angry about me not replying or my reasons for that. Here's the thing, it's none of your business. Settle Gretel
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RHP User
8 years ago
Reduce the size of your bloody text. Do you realise how much extra scrolling we have to do to get past your comments? You do it just to piss people off, well it's working. Concratulations. We have eyes, we can read normal size text, if not we wear glasses. Your huge/bright text is the equivalent of shouting, and inconveniences every person visiting that topic. But no problem, you continuebon the way you are, report this comment, as you do, and I'll scroll past your shouting
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RHP User
8 years ago
nah, i'm with you. i'm poor as shit and only have the money to use on people that care. plus it isnt difficult to say no thanks, or fuck you your not hot enough for me, or whatever the hell they wanna say as long as i understand i'm either welcome or not welcome, as money isnt infinite for any of us we don't all rake in over a k a week.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Seriously? And you think I have problems... My text hasn't changed for years and now you decide it is shouting. I'm going to say it is you with the problem and if anyone else has one. Puhlease! Here, let me show you what it looks like smaller... I've been told in the forum that it is nigh on impossible to read... Anyway, I can see how this is much more important than reporting abuse... And as I have already said more than once today, I haven't reported a post for months. You must have noticed none of your posts @ me disappeared this last couple of weeks. I had a small breakdown earlier in the year as I realised the truth of how nasty people can be and how far they will go behind the scenes but I am long over that. "Not my circus, not my monkey." I do apologise for the tone of my first post today. I wasn't trying to be nice is the thing and I do have to wonder that if there was a widespread refusal to accept it and reporting was a common thing, if it would peter out... I suppose some might say I'm victim blaming... but you're no victim and of all the people here, you are the one I would picture reporting comments you don't like. It still makes me wonder how angry this topic makes people. And how some try to minimise it with senseless comments. The idea of what I view as common decency but... I... am... an... idealist and not trying to get it on with any of the women hehehe. Anyway, I don't reply to messages and that is the first thing in my profile and funnily enough, I don't get messages, so I must be doing something right. I don't reply to flirts either but I do have this in my profile, "A huge thanks for the flirts from the 'Hot or What"' picture feature... sorry I won't reply to them to save confusion." It's due an update, so I'll make sure that I mention the not replying to any flirts. I don't need the angst, it's bad for me in so many ways. Have a great weekend everyone. PeachyPearL
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
When you go for some popcorn and the cupboard is bare.......
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RHP User
8 years ago
... is a poor way to get what you want from women. Your financial situation is none of my concern, and does not entitle you to my attention. As much as I'd love to converse, I'm new to the site and swamped with messages. So for now I have an auto-reply set up. Does that make it better or worse to you OP? Quite curious. CC
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RHP User
8 years ago
This one is still going lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Shove over and pass the popcorn 😛
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RHP User
8 years ago
"I suppose some might say I'm victim blaming... but you're no victim and of all the people here, you are the one I would picture reporting comments you don't like" No, nice try. I only report outing type comments and ones usually from men that scare me, that make me constricted in the chest, threatening as if they're building up to outing, there are a few serial offenders. But no, I prefer to leave it all in print. Don't try to pass the buck onto me 👎 Someone pass the popcorn 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
You said how angry this topic makes people. I'm perfectly happy and perfectly calm, as others seem to be here. You're the only one who is angry 🐒
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'the_antichrist'I can't believe.... This one is still going lol To all intents and purposes it should be deleted or in the basement but it was resurrected recently after a long siesta... The other current 'Reply' thread was deleted overnight. Quite a lot of that going on apparently. The winds are blowing strangely... I wonder if there's a new mod in the house. PeachyPearL, cooked popcorn on the bbq the other night, that shit flies everywhere.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You seem to have an issue with this topic still being here, you've mentioned it a few times now. Why?
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bonefide
8 years ago
As stated very well said a selected approach that matches your profile could be a option as to throwing heaps of rocks at a glass house to see if u can bounce it off or smash it. Possibilities yes some good some bad. No response back then move on, angle the shoulders at 45 deg let the shit roll off. Same same as to the built in bullshit detectors and people reading the cover and knowing the book. Safe hpy travels everyone
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you ever get a sense of where I'm coming from, you might understand... It's as simple as, "Doing unto others as you would have them do unto you". The never ending double standard here never fails to surprise me. The demands on men from women which expects them to have everything on the ball. Pay for it, message for it, but don't whatever you do.. expect anything in return! Pffft! And angst is not the same as anger. The same as stress is not the same as anxiety (something I openly admit to living with) I do try to choose my words carefully... Here... Hope you're having a great weekend. Idealist, PeachyPearL... angstaŋst/nouna feeling of deep anxiety or dread, typically an unfocused one about the human condition or the state of the world in general."the existential angst of the middle classes"anxiety, fear, dread, apprehension, worry, perturbation, foreboding, trepidation, malaise, distress, disquiet, disquietude, unease, uneasiness; rareinquietudesynonyms:informala feeling of persistent worry about something trivial."my hair causes me angst"
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bonefide
8 years ago
If I haven't got popcorn watch should I reach for ????✌ Umm I'm gunnar duck my head and await some of the responses. LOL
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you don't take the time to read our profile then why should I respond to you? At no point does it say we are after single men, yet the majority of our messages are from them. I don't believe we owe anyone anything. If someone goes out of their way to send a thoughtful message then I will reply, but the effort I put into the reply will be directly relative to the effort put into the message. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry I'm really against this "The demands on men from women which expects them to have everything on the ball. Pay for it, message for it, but don't whatever you do.. expect anything in return! Pffft!" So you think because they pay for a membership, we should give them something in return, that we 'owe' them? Any more popcorn? ☺
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't care what the definition of angst is so you can pug your dictionary away. You came into this topic guns blazing, having a go at me, and others indirectly, angry. Your post was angry and dictating how we should behave re replying and treating men. Here's the thing, you are free to do whatever you wish, but do NOT dictate to me or anyone else, what we should do on here. Name calling 'hypocrites' isn't doing you any favours, it just makes you sound bitter and angry
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RHP User
8 years ago
'pug' your dictionary 😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_Mrs_E' If you don't take the time to read our profile then why should I respond to you? At no point does it say we are after single men, yet the majority of our messages are from them. I don't believe we owe anyone anything. If someone goes out of their way to send a thoughtful message then I will reply, but the effort I put into the reply will be directly relative to the effort put into the message. If you're not looking for men, why should you reply to them?... You don't have to, right? But if they message you and they do match what you are looking for?... They deserve a reply, do they not? But it's funny as Hell to follow on that you'll reply if they send a thoughtful message, nothing like mixed messages, eh? PeachyPearL, had a great weeked.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_Mrs_E' If you don't take the time to read our profile then why should I respond to you? At no point does it say we are after single men, yet the majority of our messages are from them. I don't believe we owe anyone anything. If someone goes out of their way to send a thoughtful message then I will reply, but the effort I put into the reply will be directly relative to the effort put into the message. If you're not looking for men, why should you reply to them?... You don't have to, right? But if they message you and they do match what you are looking for?... They deserve a reply, do they not? But it's funny as Hell to follow on that you'll reply if they send a thoughtful message, nothing like mixed messages, eh? PeachyPearL, had a great weekend.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It seems you have forgotten the topic. It's not about how poor guys behave or how you can blame them for your not replying. And that's not what my posts are about either. So, I won't waste anymore time trying to explain to you, you obviously want to be angry and expect people to behave the way you think is right... I love irony. But in future, if you are going to repeat what I say back to me, please get it right. I can't see where I called anyone a hypocrite either. There is a difference between labeling the person vs labeling the behaviour. Here... Hypocrisy: Always criticizing others for what they are doing and you are doing the same thing as others. Double Standards: is when one group of people is allowed certain privileges and the other group (s) is not. Have a goodun, PeachyPearL
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RHP User
8 years ago
Again I'll say you are dictating to all and sundry what they should be doing, and I'll add, ridiculing in the process. Your last comment to Mr_Mrs_E you started with "Well der", so rude, and then proceeded to tell them if they did get a well thought out message from a man, they should reply? Huh??? Who are you to tell us what we should be doing. And please put your dictionary away, I know the meaning of these words, that's just trying to bignote yourself, and again talking down, aiming to humiliate. You don't have to ram your way down our throats peachy, just respect our choices, as we do yours. I don't make fun of you for replying. Just leave people to comment openly on the topic without attacking anyone who says they don't reply. Opinions for and against have been posted and that was fine, until you came in with your ruler to rap us over the knuckles
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RHP User
8 years ago
The dictionary is because you are not getting what I am saying... you keep coming back with stuff that has nothing to do with what I'm trying to put across. It's not entirely for your benefit, I want it to be clear what I mean, not what you interpret it as. I have every right to my opinion whether you like it or not and I am on topic... The topic is about replying to proper approaches, not about abusing someone (as you did further back) because they abused you for not replying. When I say der, I mean you don't owe anyone any reply Mr-Mrs-E... imo at least. Why feel bad? There is no need to. I apologise if you feel I was rude, I am quite direct at the best of times and that doesn't translate well! Sincerely... Cheers, Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pfft who cares about non replys.. I send flirts because I like the pics and profile of who I'm sending it it to.. If I don't get one back I don't care..doesn't keep me up at night - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your opinion is very clear, you want everyone to reply to thoughtful messages, and slamming those who don't? Is there something I've missed? No dictionary required. Hang on, maybe you don't understand the meaning of dictator 🐒 dictator dɪkˈteɪtə/Submit noun a ruler with total power over a country, typically one who has obtained control by force. synonyms: autocrat, monocrat, absolute ruler; More a person who behaves in an autocratic way. (in ancient Rome) a chief magistrate with absolute power, appointed in an emergency. Hope that helps you understand your behavior here
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Your opinion is very clear, you want everyone to reply to thoughtful messages, and slamming those who don't? Is there something I've missed? No dictionary required. Hang on, maybe you don't understand the meaning of dictator 🐒 Like it or not, I am entitled to my opinion. You can try to minimise what I have been putting across your way if you really want to but there's a lot more to it than that including supporting assertiveness which includes not taking abuse from anyone. You might be prepared to put up with the poor behaviour of an abuser (and post about it on a thread it has nothing to do with) instead of reporting it, I am not and would not and don't think anyone else should have to either. So please don't try to dictate to me... PeachyPearL Are we done yet? Weekend's all over here but only a couple of days till it's on again.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Whatever
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RHP User
8 years ago
You liked that comment? Very odd. You seem to like having the last say. Let me be clear, I am not agreeing with you or your behavior, I'm simply moving on for the sake of the topic. Agree to disagree and move on and save your lectures thanks
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RHP User
8 years ago
One of those "If I send a message, would you reply" flirts. I reply with a "That's a no but good luck in your search". So what do you think happened? He sends me a freaking message! Am I expected to reply? Not on your nelly. Plus I've already turned him down before 😪 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
One of the things I hated about flirts was not knowing if people realised there were different replies lol, so any reply was taken as a positive. I'd be the type to message back to explain that. :-D Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
I get your frustration, but agree with peachy. I used to get all excited about return flirts, not even bother reading what the flirt was 😀 eventually realised there were 'no' flirts, so have never sent the thanks but no thanks flirts for that reason. They may not have read it? Either way, the no reply is fine, you've already expressed no interest politely, can't do any more than that
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RHP User
8 years ago
from someone who states in their profile no relationship, just fun? Mate, you're my age and you just want fun? I can get that anytime I want and I don't do purely play meets with anyone remotely close to my age. My profile is not great atm admittedly, just having a laugh with it lol but still clear what I'm after? No reply and fine about that
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yeah, me too.......eventually, as I'm OCD and always end up replying. But, for now, I will just let it sit in my inbox 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
8 years ago
Off topic maybe ??? Only 6500 happy people on line tonight. stand up and take a bow people. 😅
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RHP User
8 years ago
Does that count stealth 😎
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bonefide
8 years ago
Ssshhhh I'm in stealth hunting wabbits. 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
me too 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'tulips4u'Peachy Yeah, me too.......eventually, as I'm OCD and always end up replying. But, for now, I will just let it sit in my inbox 😈 Ooohhh, I'm OCD too... but I gave up on replying to flirts at all because of the possible confusion! Nearly all of mine come from Hot or What? though. Did you know you can turn them off in your settings now? Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Haven't had any messages I don't want to reply to lately. YaY! Thanks to the many, many people who look at my profile and don't make me have to say No! Cheers, Peachy
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bonefide
8 years ago
yeh me too 😆 U ghost so don't need stealth for wascaly wabbitz, how can that work young Casper apprentice ? LOL
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
"Yo bitch how bout it?" On review of his profile it said this "Thick Prong & Two Ballsrs and sensual teaseI'm a great kisser and turned on by intelligent conversation " The intelligent conversation would have been a little one sided I suspect.But in the spirit of this thread, I did reply..........
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you to the powers that be that I get to say thanks for the ratings on HoW? It's a bit of fun. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Oooops... Posted that on the wrong thread... I am happy to say that I got a great reply to the message I sent last week! Peachy
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