Should i be upset with my boyfriend or not?

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Your getting a lot of painful and mixed responses Id say you have every right to be upset as he neglects you after work This was most likely upsetting you prior to talking but now its fueled by knowing he is getting off during the day And you know that guys will get off a great many times per day if time permits So you feel rejected, it hurts But, i urge you to consider a different track When do you throw affections his way? Did he just walk in? Or is it later ? For me, when i get home from work, im wrecked I need to sit and decompress for a while Im tired, irritable and demotivated. I don't want to talk DnM, i don't want to think about complex shit or do anything energetic I typically want some quiet and distraction So I'll generally look at stupid shit online for a while, then have a shower Then im refreshed and back to full energy (And very susceptible to being horny) Decompression will take longer depending on what bullshit i had to deal with or if i had to do extra hours Now I've been on both sides of this fence It feels shit to be neglected It feels equally shit to neglect someone Try changing up your approach try to spot his decompression pattern When he gets his energy back, pounce him When you have a better idea of his flow, you can look for ideas to recharge him faster If your going to talk about it Go slow, make sure he understands your problem isn't him getting off or to who But that you want him to give it to you. If it all fails I'm single ;p

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks guys for all the interesting feedback and for the flattering comments 😊

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Meet him for lunch!!!!!

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Mazz, if you are both active on this site and you are both willing to invite other people into your life, and all the cards are in the table, you guys are in a beautiful place. It’s a place where anything especially sexual can be discussed. How awesome is that. He has shared with you, now time for you to share with him. Tell how it makes you feel and together build a solution. Keep going Mazz.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  He is a selfish kind of person his needs are always a priority because he is the man. My needs dont matter. Theres no mind bogaling solution. He is jst an idiot. I suggest ways to spice things up but he says whats the point it never does anything for him. Im on this site so i can explore more about myself. Him on the other hand sees it as extra pussy without the guilt. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ i love him been with him forever we are best friends as well as bf/gf and i am happy with him but things could be abit better if he learned to prioritise me for once in a bluemoon and didnt take me for granted. 🙂

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Hey Maz, so now we are getting a bit more info around this situation. Ok with this added info yes you should be pissed off. You are a beautiful woman with everything any guy would want so why is he wanting (in person or in his imagination) to fuck other women. I hope you don’t mind me saying this but I don’t think he is devoted to you. How do I know that - been there done that myself too many times. Be careful Maz and protect yourself. Xx

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Nice

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  The only problem l see is, l would have preferred him to ring you so you both could masturbate together lol, now that would have livened up the whole experience, just also be thankful that he's honest enough to tell you. He's reaching out to you, so instead of being miffed, talk through it.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  How are you happy being with a selfish person who always puts his needs before yours?

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I definitely wouldn’t be offended! I’d find it a turn on he told you about jerking off over a fantasy and not acting on it, it’s fine to be tired when home. Maybe even opportunity for you to masturbate in front of him as you’ve said your ready when his home

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Well to me a third party in any relationship is alarm bells cause it means your not happy with what you have and for him to tell you that he tossed off over a girl in a mini skirt at work must mean it’s the third party he wants cause he already tossed off over her and doesn’t want you when he gets home from work. So to me if he had the chance he would jump in bed with her anyways.. So yeah like someone said flick ya bean or buy some toys

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