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Should i be upset with my boyfriend or not?
December 09 2018
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Supernova
7 years ago
Your profile says you are wanting a third girl for a threesome with you and your man. So, you have no issues with him actually fucking another woman, but stress that he fantasizes and wanks over another female in the bathrooms at work? Are you positive you are truly ready to share your man with another woman if you feel this way? Just doesn't add up IMO.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Ok So your profile reads you and your partner are looking for a woman only. I would seriously review this if just a wank in private has you offended! I hope you come to terms with what it is about this that has upset you so you can move forward with positive experiences Mrs LAL
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
The only unusual thing in this is the fact your boyfriend fessed up to it. Being tired is nothing unusual after work but also could be a symptom of other stuffs. Not sure why he went against the man code and told you about the walking. Maybe he's super honest or maybe he's indirectly trying to raise a boredom issue.
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
If you're upset because your man tosses himself off..... which we all do...... how do you honestly think you'll cope welcoming others into your encounters? Alarm bells much🤔
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Is he offended everytime you flick the bean? Lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
Most women want out of this world sex... right. Most women want to be tempted in their mind first... right. Well believe it or not most men want out of this world sex too... it's just some of them don't understand what it is cause they haven't experienced it yet. Do you both communicate about what each other wants. Yes he could be tired after work but it could be you are not talking to him about what you want or he not talking about what he wants. Throw that spice jar down and sprinkle some over you and entice both your minds.
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
Your partner confessed to you. What more do you want? You can choose to believe him or not. It's your choice. I'm sure each and every one of us have had these sort of feelings/thoughts before. Best advice is to talk to your partner or seek counselling. This is a public announcement: The forums are not a free counselling service. 😝 Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
Man Code? Did you just publicly expose an unspoken Man Code, that every man lives by. Thanks for the education. 😂 Ms Foxy
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MissRedFox
7 years ago
Just for a different pov I think situations like this - it depends My ex would use porn and then there was nothing left in the tank for me. Do I have an issue with using porn? No-one guilty as charged What I had an issue with was not getting enough physical attentiom and feeling unwanted bevause literally I wasn't Time on the swing scene has taught me you can desire several people at a time or desire others while still holding a strong bond with one So the question then becomes is this in addition to you or a replacement?
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RHP User
7 years ago
The issue is not about him fantasizing about other women or being aroused by other women. The issue is about a boyfriend that rather wank than come home to have sex with his girlfriend. She feels offended because he chose to wank over coming home to have sex with her. I understand the OP frustrations, perhaps surprise him at work and have a quickie on lunch break?? But bottom line is, I think your bf needs to take it easy to not wank at work too often and save energy to care for you. I think he's not doing the homework as he should. But it is also understandable that he may be completely tired depending on the nature of work. What about on days he doesn't work. Do you have sex?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Ok i dont mind him doing it at all but i feel like he rejected me and thats not cool. Yes im inviting another woman to join us that doesnt bother me at all as we will all be equals in the relationship. And no one is left out. Its not like he would go off have sex with the other woman then when it comes to me he is too tired. Lol. I hope that makes my view abit clearer.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lover_ToyBoy you are spot on. We do have sex.
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nightingale8
7 years ago
Spin it around and think about your needs. E.g. In this relationship, is my need to feel valued/sexy/wanted/sexually satisfied being met? If the answer is no, then address that. Same for him. We'd all be happier with fewer shoulds. That sucks OP. Mismatched sex drives are rarely good.
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RHP User
7 years ago
If he eats at home.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Man Code? Did you just publicly expose an unspoken Man Code, that every man lives by. Thanks for the education. 😂 Ms Foxy A mans wank is very sacred. The only time it should be discussed is if he gets caught. And certainly the subject of the wank fodder never revealed. If pressed he can say that he was fantasizing of sex with his beloved. Once a third party is revealed, life changes. Side note. Wanking doesnt make you tired. It's the real mans power nap equivalent. They dont have leather couches where the real men work for a quick power nap. They have the site shitter to go and knock the top off in, coming out refreshed and ready to tear back into it.....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Toy boy and Red... Kudos to you both for NOT judging the OP and assuming something is wrong in her relationship.. A simple question was asked. OP, great you have an open relationshipand he told you about it. Why don't you let him know how it makes you feel. Im sure he is probs unaware. Good luck 😎
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RHP User
7 years ago
Are you wearing mini skirts for him? Maybe that's what he's hinting at, if he's saying that he's tossing over his colleague because he's turned on by her in her mini skirts...
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RHP User
7 years ago
He is just a horny guy so anything can set him off. Yes i do wear minis. He could tell i wasnt ok with that by the look on my face. So i tried to explain it that it wasnt kool and he didnt get it. I know im not a skunny hot thing and everyone will service themselves when ever they feel like. That is alk good by me. But he wouldnt too be happy with me if i came home said i fingered myself at work because of a hot work coleague.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Dude jacks off at work? Seriously? Please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks work is the absolute last place on the planet, ever in your life, that you should rub one out? Numerous times?
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Okey..... i think you'd be in the minority there. Alot of men wank at work, maybe its workplace dependent...... probably takes on a whole new meaning if you're a Door to Door salesman 😋😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol well thats what i thought too but i guess its each to their own unfortunately.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Boyfriend admits to girlfriend he's jerking off to another woman? And he can't contain himself so much he's doing it "numerous times" at work? Certainly, this isn't cheating... but I'd put this in the "unkind" bucket. Sure, they want a 3some with another woman, but that's within their relationship. Why would a lad admit to this? Way, way too much to be told to your girlfriend. If they want a 3some, that's a shared experience - this solo action is something that could breed jealousy. If he jerked off to porn on his phone cause he was feeling horny in his car... maybe. But feeding the ducks where his co-workers just dropped a deuce? Come on. Bit much.
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I am with you on that one. It's not somewhere remotely sexually satisfying. Maybe you could write a forum up, "Jacking off at Work Place". I would be curious seeing responses. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mazz, It’s time for you and your BF to have a discussion. He has told you something he did. You don’t feel good as a consequence. There are two gaps in communication in this situation. 1) it sounds like you want to know more about why he wanked at work. Ask what you need to know so you don’t move ahead in your own mind with assumptions that may be inaccurate or damaging. 2) if you are feeling offended or upset you need to let your BF know so that he can learn about you and also so he can gain conscious awareness about the specific action/behaviour of his and how it upset you. It is unlikely he would intentionally do something to hurt or upset you if he truly cares for you. My guess is he told you what he did because he is trying to open the door to something deeper he wants to discuss but probably doesn’t know how to.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I am with you on that one. It's not somewhere remotely sexually satisfying. Maybe you could write a forum up, "Jacking off at Work Place". I would be curious seeing responses. Ms Foxy I have tried posting topics but they never appear, it may be because they have chucked me in the naughty corner, for what I don't know - I don't think I'm the worst on here.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Correct me if I’m wrong.... But the issue here isn’t the fact he’s wanking over someone else, but it’s the fact he’s got nothing left for you afterward? If that’s confirmed, I think it’s pretty understandable that you’d be feeling rejected as fuck.... It’s compounded though by your willingness to continue to have sex when you’re tired which feeds an expectation that he returns the favour in appreciation.... I don’t have any idea why you’d be still having sex with him when you’re not in the mood though...it only makes you resent sex in the long term as it’s no longer a 2 way street...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Get Miss mini skirt to join you, problem solved 🙌
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'FatFunFiesty' Okey..... i think you'd be in the minority there. Alot of men wank at work, maybe its workplace dependent...... probably takes on a whole new meaning if you're a Door to Door salesman 😋😂 I'm not sure that many do, and how does this come up in conversations that you have with men anyway? Like USA Gent states, choking the chicken in a work toilet lacks certain qualities -hygiene (piss on the floor, piss on the seat, skid marks all being hallmarks of your average male work toilet) being one of the more important ones. Class would be another... Eww. Just eww. Glad to put my hand up and say ''yeah, nah''.
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Okey never said it comes up in coversation but I receive ALOT of pics and vids from men "rubbing one out" at work. It would be nearly a daily occurrence....... some in toilets, under desks, treatment rooms, empty offices, work ute/car..... and thanks to the Navy boys for their contributions "on deck" lol...... I love em👍🏻👍🏻
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'FatFunFiesty' Okey never said it comes up in coversation but I receive ALOT of pics and vids from men "rubbing one out" at work. It would be nearly a daily occurrence....... some in toilets, under desks, treatment rooms, empty offices, work ute/car..... and thanks to the Navy boys for their contributions "on deck" lol...... I love em👍🏻👍🏻 Wasn't meaning that in an antagonistic sense - I was a bit flabbergasted. Not as flabbergasted as this though - that's how men try to get you interested? Sending you pics and vids from those sorts of places. My opinion is that these dudes have a problem (a treatment room? As in at a doctors?). Navy dudes I can understand though - prolonged periods with no outlet and all that. The rest - sheesh, go and purchase some services.
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
All good, its just harmless fun though Okey. Most of the men I've either met and become friends with or met and played with so its more in the vain of, "I was between consults/meetings/jobs and thinking of our meet and this happened.....". Makes me giggle anyway😋
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RHP User
7 years ago
If I went home to my bf ( imaginary at this time ) and said, "Oh, theres this hot guy at work, Im so horny looking at him Im rubbing a few out every day in the toilets" and then told him I was too tired for sex.......I dont think he would be too happy. Porn is porn, but when the object of his fantasies is a real person then I think its a bit much too, as USA Gentleman said.
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HouseOfHorny
7 years ago
It really depends on the reason why he confessed this to you.. Was it while you two were talking about sexual desires, past sex experiences, fetishes and things alike? Or was it a tongue in cheek comment to push your buttons and get on your nerves? Either way, you're not right or wrong because what you feel on the inside is what all that matters! So if you're upset about it and feel offended then you have every right to be but do something about it and make those feelings known to him so he doesn't make you feel like that again! But my personal opinion of the way I see it is different and I'll keep that to myself
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m going to go right ahead and say what others are thinking because you’re actively replying Why did you choose a single profile when you’re clearly not a “single seeking”? I’d like to hear your reasoning
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RHP User
7 years ago
This has been my account for 8yrs. And i couldnt be bothered setting up a new account and then filling out all the forms for both of us. Also bf is not very tech savvy so it was just easier to control my own account. Its not like im deciving anyone as i am up front in my profile. I also have pics of us two in the private album. And when i talk to someone i always offer to chat on cam or over the phone so they know its legit.
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DonnaBrett
7 years ago
You say you are happy to have another woman join you both,,,but are you really? If you feel neglected by him jerking off over a woman at work there is a good chance the green eyed monster will make an appearance during any threesome. One guy..two girls..it is impossible to give you both 100% equal attention at the same time. In addition to that what happens if you need to say take a bathroom break or go get a drink or something? Will you expect them to stop playing while you're out of the room? Think through all the various scenarios before going there and how different situations may make you feel. There is no room for jealousy or insecurities in this scene. Good Luck.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Foxy.... Really? I thought the forums were to help others with their thoughts and to gain some perspective... Isn't chatting about something bothering you a form of self council? Harsh. IMO.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Im not jealous im more annoyed that i put myself out there for him and he rejected me coz he had nothing left to give. Im pretty sure 3sums are not just 1sided i dont think he will be all over her and give me no attention at all. If the attention is all equal theres no need to complain. Some of you hit the nail on the head and some of you read way too much into it. He is just a plain douchebag sometimes and doesnt use the right head to think about things.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have a feeling Mazz2010 won't dive into this... but a lad named Stanley Kubrick did a film called "Eyes Wide Shut". Is cheating physical? Is it also mental? You should watch it with your boyfriend... have a chat about it after. Your answers would come from that chat.
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perthinker
7 years ago
Quoting 'mazz2010' Im not jealous im more annoyed that i put myself out there for him and he rejected me coz he had nothing left to give. Yeah, I see what you're saying there, but I'd say the elephant in the room is that a single wank shouldn't put him out of action several hours later. Most of us can bounce back for another round. I reckon you should have another talk to him, the "confession" might not be as honest and open as you think.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol ive seen that with him long ago. He doesnt read into movies that much either.
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RHP User
7 years ago
The_Antichrist is on the money But I want to add, your feelings are valid - and despite how cruel some have been in the comments, you are absolutely allowed to feel upset over the fact that he's not meeting your needs. I totally understand that! I've been there. 1. Have a chat to him about this, discuss exactly why it's upset you and how in future together you can manage that. 2. You're actually not far from us - I'd be happy to catch up and chat over coffee from one kinkster to another hehe. I think we live alternate lifestyles where we don't always get the support we need (hence your posting here). If you do message, refer to this forum so I know it's for me not my partner or both haha. Xx. Rach from Thekinkykind
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RHP User
7 years ago
🤦🏼♂️
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RHP User
7 years ago
We all have a yank once and a while. Maybe try something before work?
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lifetoshort86
7 years ago
What more gets me is why couples love to have singles a profile!! So he told you about it at least he is open with you he simply could have not said a word and you would be none the wiser...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Man code? That’s funny. I was telling my girlfriend While I was home I was having a wank just the other day. It turned her on. I did it three times that day then when she came over I did her too. Ain’t no code in a good relationship. You can talk about anything when you’re both open minded
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RHP User
7 years ago
What do you masturbate over?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Nope. I'm with you OkeyDoke45. Wanking at work is kind of inappropriate... Had he not wanked would he have had the energy for sex? I know you're linking wanking at work (wtf) to him having no energy for you at home but I'm not sure they are linked. Numerous times I've indulged in self pleasure and then 10 minutes later I unexpectedly get action - the wanking didn't prevent that. But I'm often too tired when I get home from work.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thekinkykind. Thanks would love to catch up over coffee sometime. I post on here to get a better understanding than just my point of view. Its away for me to look at every perspective so i can make an informed choice on how i feel an learn from others. 🙂
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funcouple2017
7 years ago
I Tried not to click on this link but my curiosity got the best of me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Your boyfriend being honest with you is wonderful, but don't expect him to do it again. In my opinion, he has every right to be offended that you shared his confidence on a public forum.
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SalaciousSam
7 years ago
Mazz you might find that his libido has shifted because of his/your work/daily routine... it just so happens that he's at his "horniest/neediest" point in the middle of the working day and not at night at the end of the day...not everyone wants to get it on at 10pm on a tuesday night so to speak! Sure it might have been a bit upsetting but now you know more about him...use it to your advantage. Time to send a racy text or flirty email to him at work... make sure it's you hes fantasising about at work all day and then he'll have no desire to think about his colleagues. A suggestion: (happy to take feedback from others here as well) 1. Send a pic/message/email/phone call etc with something that'll get his attention 2. Follow up with a message about how you cant stop thinking about doing [insert something that the two of you like that isnt just a normal romp... a one-on-one activity] 3. Do said activity as soon as you can...DONT WAIT TILL THE END OF THE DAY!!😂 E
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
There seems to be more going on here than just wanking. You’re definitely right to feel upset if your sexual needs aren’t being met at home. Sounds like maybe you guys need to talk frankly about what’s happened in terms of your personal sex life slowing down and talk about what you’d like to do to get it back sizzling again. Communication and honesty is huge for keeping things hot. Your man sounds like he’s got some office sex fantasies going on in his head. Perhaps you could explore this together. Watch some porn or visit a club where you can explore the fantasy together? Or even act it out at home. There’s nothing quite like being bent over a desk and being..... well you get where this is going 😉 I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with wanking in the men’s room if he’s aroused. Again, he’s seen something which turns him on (perhaps a fantasy) and needs a release. Maybe you need to find a way to be a part of those thoughts while he’s in that mindset? I wish you both the best. Ms HNP XX
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RHP User
7 years ago
I love the diversity in all of these answers to her question. It just goes to show how everyone is different and only YOU know the true answer to your questions. And there you go.. that is my opinion 😊
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RHP User
7 years ago
I she is saying she is just upset cause she didn't get any due to the wanking...if he could have put out at home as well she might have been ok with it all???
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Affogato
7 years ago
Seriously I could maybe understand....only slightly that is.....if he was in a sexless and loveless relationship, I could understand his actions. But if you getting intimacy and sex on the weekends then ditch him. I would happily go home to the wife if she was interested in any sort intimacy. If went 2 years without then sure, wank if too whatever.
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imjustmetassie
7 years ago
Nahh gorgeous he loves u I get myself off over my guy when hes not around Its a man thing same as we perve on guys
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RHP User
7 years ago
You have the right to feel offended as he shouldn't be wasting his energy and sperm in the work toilet and he should come back home horny and have fun with his gf i believe he want to try other ladies thats why he is doing this the only way you make him want you more and more when you have male playing with you while he watch
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RHP User
7 years ago
You sound like a screw ball before you mind f&ck some poor girl with your insecurities get off rhp X
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RHP User
7 years ago
Who cares because sometimes when your randy you need to do something right there and then especially if your turned on by something I’d rather have the honesty and open trust to share any moments
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RHP User
7 years ago
Don’t let it bother u , u just concentrate on you been the best , you could have the most awsome , sexiest , partner ever and be everything that most guys would find not interesting , or be a pig , dog watever names they wana invent but let me say I’ve been married to the pic magazine centerfold that had the body , the boobs , the waist the legs etc and put her beside the girl that’s unattractive , no boobs , terrible legs and has a big or no arse ........ if u spend the night both girls and say you were mad about anal an for 12 hours that girl let’s u do anything to her arse and she drives u wild , pashes u with a tounge that makes you drip , who you wana be with next time ...... looks won’t make u an awsome lover , try this and see , put a couple of princess in a spa or sum thing with a couple of witches and pash them for 20 sec approx each .... wat girls kiss made u quiver ??? Lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
I can understand why you're offended. You are trying to satisfy his needs by having sex with him after work. You need to be appreciative that he has told you the truth. Perhaps sit down and talk to him. Pick out the right timing and ask him whats going on in a non confeontational way. A way that he can open up more. Perhaps you can discuss and say it'll be hotter if he could hold his urges and tells you about his fantasies (mini skirts) and both of you can fuck together fantasizing bout the same thing rather than doing it seperately... Just a thought and hope it helps...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yeah. He is trying to cheat on you.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Oi what are you doing?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Wanking at work because of another woman turns him on. Most likely happens a lot. Wanking knowing he's seeing you after work.......I for one wouldn't, I'd wait to get home to my woman for that. In saying that I have jerked off to porn or imagined a co worker having sex with me, it's only natural to have thoughts like that as long as it's not acted on, unless my woman is with me. We are in this swing thing together. I think you have the right to be upset by his actions but whatever you do, don't blow it out of proportion. Let him know how you feel. At least he is open and honest about what he has done and isn't hiding it. Regards, HeLikesThat.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Create contentent he'd be interested in don't be judgemental or prejudice we all have different fantasies,
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RHP User
7 years ago
Your post a few times and your boyfriends behaviour it seems was not just a one - off occurrence but has happened numerous times. IMO you have a right to be concerned,but only you and he know all the different permutations of your relationship. Follow your gut,if something feels not quite right,then it probably is not quite right. Hugs Q
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RHP User
7 years ago
Didn’t read all the comments but here is one that may be original or previously said. Reward his honesty with gratitude, smile that he has the confidence in you to speak so. Next, meet this girl that has caught his eye, she just might be the 3rd you seek 😜👍🏻
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol im not knocking him for being brutally honest with me. I am knocking his choice to use his hand in a busy bathroom over coming home to me and letting me satisfy his urge. Its not even that it its more that there was nothing left for me. The woman was his bosses fiance so i dont think it would be wise to venture into that as an option. Lol. Also to those who say watch porn and dress up i do all those things to keep it interesting but all i get is "porn doesnt do it for me." Or "why you wearing that for? its just a hassle coz its just going to come off." Ive said this before he is a stupid male. And in starting this thread i was hoping to find that i wasnt over reacting feeling like crap and that it is ok to feel the way i felt. He told i was an idiot and i was crazy feeling the way i did as i was trying to explain to him why it bothered me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Men are very spur if the moment sexually...that's pretty much it
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madotara69
7 years ago
Should you be upset or not ? It's most important that you feel your emotions, wear them on your sleeve, if something hurts, it hurts for reason. To better understand the reasons of the emotions leaves a place for finding meanings, your guy is treating you as a friend, he is communicating with you and does not have all the answers, not without time and better understanding himself. It's the intensions, are his intensions good and kind, to care, be honest, a friend as you would have to him ? It does not look to be, his intensions are to betray nor disrespect, his intelligence maybe simple ? Feel everything IMHO Should or should not ? be careful with these two. Mado Mado Tara xx
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Hawt1
7 years ago
I'm curious if it was just a one off. "A bit too much enthusiasm dear, please leave so etching in the tank for me ", maybe all that's required?!?
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Hawt1
7 years ago
Something*
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RHP User
7 years ago
You need to take a deep breath and focus on your fantasies. What makes you hot. Have a good go by yourself. That’s the key to ones sexual satisfaction. To then have extras is all one big bonus. Good luck to both of you. Perhaps track down the chick in the mini for your threesome.
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RHP User
7 years ago
First of all, let me begin by saying, how lucky you are to have a partner... secondly I want to add, I think theres nothing sexier than visualizing my partner being turned on... and finally men naturally have a higher libido than us, I'm not generalising however...
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RHP User
7 years ago
I understand that it wouldnt be such a problem if he didnt reject me when he gets home. Im not nieve about secret mens business in fact i do encourage it. But when i put myself out there and i get rejected it bloody stings.
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RHP User
7 years ago
To a comment earlier work is definitely a place you can wank. Its a stress buster and gets your brain back to normalcy. Its not just about hot women at work but just relieving yourself on a stressful day. To to topic of discussion i think each to their own but why would the guy tell his partner he wanks thinking about some hot chic at work or on the train or wherever. Its just not the approach you take unless you want trouble in your relationship.
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RHP User
7 years ago
All men toss off
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JimmyIsHere
7 years ago
mazz, It seems that your worry relates to his (possibly) declining sexual interest in the relationship, despite his libido being intact. If this is so, you are right to be concerned about this, especially given you have tried some approaches to keep the fire burning (porn, sexy outfits).The question now is how you will respond to this... do you have any thoughts?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Max I think him jacking off at works fine but if he cums home and your looking the way u do Then if he loved you deeply he would have missed u all day and would kiss you hi and then shown you just how perfect you are and givin just abit more of his time to show u just how much ,,,,, if I had a princess wanting to make love to me each day after work we would save a fortune on food etc lol ......
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RHP User
7 years ago
I wank everywhere as long as its discreet. I love ejaculating I don't even hold out I just want to cum. Sorry ladies I need help with that part. .
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RHP User
7 years ago
Oh FFS double standards much! Why are you even on this site?!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes chic you should be the comment was put to you in an offensive manner by the sound of it no different to you and I getting naked and having selfie in the same room
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RHP User
7 years ago
Our two cents, fantasizing about other women wearing minis at work is ok (these occurrences are few and rare btw) and he wouldn't have confessed if he hadn't trusted you enough to tell you. However, that should make him horny enough to toss your salad after work not have the opposite effect. So you have the right to be upset. After you make up(and hopefully there's sex involved) maybe you could get him to wear one of those penis locks to work for a brief period.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi Mazz none of us can tell you how to feel because you feel the way you feel for a reason. Your mission is to understand why his behaviour makes you feel that way, is it because he is fantasising about her or do you feel threatened by the fact that his fantasy has satisfied him for the day. Once you understand your own position then you open up the communication to find a solution (maybe a mid day quickie, maybe some upskirt photos on his phone to remind him what’s waiting at home). Trust your own instinct, none of us can tell you how to feel about a scenario but hopefully can help you navigate how to deal with it
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hmmm I think Super Foxy is right . Seek couples counciling ,, because from ur profile only seeking other females for him sounds like he’s bored with you . Sorry ,, that’s my spin on things
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol its me who wants the female he is just coming along for the ride. Dont think we need couples couciling because i want to explore a female. 🙈🙈🙈
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RHP User
7 years ago
Nope. Don’t be that kind
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RHP User
7 years ago
Let's hope he does not work at McDonald's because that would explain the special sauce.
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RHP User
7 years ago
The sooner you realize life is meant for you to be happy. As soon as you feel uncomfortable or used, move on. Life is magical when you do what makes you happy. He knows you'll be waiting for him as he's got you to the point where you can't remember the spark with him. After the first shag with him, you felt like he wasn't communicating enough. Not enough time to text. Later.
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Cometobed
7 years ago
I’d be super annoyed at him. My partner and I let other women into the bedroom with us, but that’s a decision we make together. A work colleague is not a stranger. It’s someone he sees on a regular basis. I’d be re-thinking the threesome idea also, but only because he seems to inconsiderate to enter into that dangerous territory. On the other hand, I appreciate his honesty. If he acknowledges your feelings on this, then that’s a good thing and you can work on it. If he doesn’t, that’s a worry. Good luck 😉
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HotfunGC
7 years ago
Why isn't anyone understanding this from her perspective? She's missing out on sex when he should also be satisfying her not just himself, a relationship goes both ways. She's missing out all because her partner is too selfish to share with her, his dick by jacking off while she's not around. - I get it, I'd be offended.. Don't make your partner miss out on something just because you can't keep it till you get home 🙄🙄🙄
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RHP User
7 years ago
Don’t be upset I just had a wank to your picture, I think your rocking if your ever in need of another man msg me
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RHP User
7 years ago
Could go one better and wear a mini skirt but with revealing lace panties..? Lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yeah you should be upset your very beautiful he should want to do you reather he tired are not
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RHP User
7 years ago
😬😬
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curiousgirl35
7 years ago
Maybe he has hinted on who he wants to make the 3rd?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Pick me for a mmff 4some ,that way you get fucked too as hes fucking another girl.. even..😋😋😊😘😘
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RHP User
7 years ago
sorry to be blunt... Simply put, you fired up his imagination. He is going to start wanking off a lot over anything he sees. Boundaries have been blurred and you are no longer exclusive, there is a third in his mind - in this scenario, its just in the world of wanking right now. This doesn't go backwards. You gave him license to entertain his thoughts and wanking is affirmation. He has already tasted the forbidden fruit. His fantasies about the other woman (any other) woman have taken flight. When you two kick it off with another lady, don't be surprised if the forbidden fruit is so rightly bought to his ideas of normal acceptable sex. She will be a real life pussy wank, not a self hand job in the toilet. You think it's hard to compete now? Wait until then... So circle closed, deal done. A new status quo is growing and the wanks will fuel the fire, and the pussy wanks with other women will leave you on the outer as you alone won't be able to satisfy him. That's whats happening now right and that's just his hand on his dick. Fantasy affirmation wanking to the forbidden fruit is here and now and you're already on the outer. You haven't even stoked the fire properly yet. I see flames. it might be a good idea to get the councillor on speed dial when all the wanking, other woman pussy wanks and tiredness, one-on-one mundane no longer exciting partner only sex kicks in and you're left with a broken relationship with a guy too wanked out and interested and lusting on other pussy to have anything left - physical or desire. Maybe I'm wrong. But I'm a guy. I know the drill.
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RHP User
7 years ago
By the way you're gorgeous! whoa! ;)
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