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Nice Guys
January 06 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
... Nice Guys Finish Last ;(
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks Mooka... can I tattoo your list on my chest ??? Any guy hoping to lick or suck has to read it first ! I could supply the pen for them to tick each off. Your list means that I have met NO NICE guys from RHP !!! Shit... that's really bad. I've met a lot guys ! None would tick all your boxes. No wonder I'm in a sex drought... I knew I was holding out for something !!! Is it YOU ? Hugs Ms Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
""A Nice Guy will pay for the coffee, the dinner, the drinks etc, without a moments hesitation. He knows that he is the one being honoured with the ladies pressence, it is the expect thing for him to do.""this point has 3 components, and IMO it uses the sandwich method - fine at the start, crap in the middle, and good at the end. Now, I'm happy to pay, and I'm well aware that being male it may be expected - but I call BS on the middle.Why is it that I'm being honoured with her presence and not the other way around, or that it goes both ways equally - she is getting the benefit of my presence, and vice versa.sorry, end of rant :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
AND on RHP of all places Saturn86.....who'd have thought it?!? I've met two lovelies on here.....which is saying something as I joined hoping to find a nice grrrl to play with :) Me thinks you is just in the wrong state..but judging on your dinner party guest list am sure you will meet one of em soon enough ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I hate to say this however, I believe Mooka just made RHP 'most wanted' list for men and women alike. Tho for vastly different reasons...lol "wonders if the BS boys have got their pestilent posse of pontificating prats present & accounted for' Now THIS is going to be interesting....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey mooka awesome post,What you ssay is so true hahaha. I am every one of those points you haave listed lolNice to see someone get it right about us for a change and because we exhibit those qualities does not mean we are wimps it just shows we know how to treat women the way they deserve to be treated.Pierced_Knightp.s. we just need more women to read the original post lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Pierced ..Yes you are all of those things and it was you i was thinking of as reading ther pionts.. Mooka ..I think you could run "nice guy" classes for some of the not so nice guys out there
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RHP User
16 years ago
Or is that....are u in yet love?...always get those two mixed up... either way...Im feelin all loved up atm....ready, willing and wanting to taste a nice guy..change is as good as a holiday...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well Mooka... now you've done it... you've let the cat out of the bag for all the idiot "fcuk me now..." that will try to EMULATE the nice guy... Just when I thought I was unique, you go and blow it for us all mate... sheesh... I'll have you drummed out of the mens club now and NOT invited to MsSaturns dinner party for it.... but then I'd not be a nice guy would I... I agree with your list... except for the chic flic... I can do it.. but will probably fall asleep :-( I'd add one more point to it... Niceguys... do what they do naturally and don't do it with the hope to pull the wool over the ladies eyes. Oh - and given I patented the term NiceguyTM everyone on this thread owes me royalties... Live Long and Prosper Wayne xxx PS - some nice guys are geeks too :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
A fantastic post!! I have met a few nice guys...... and they don't always finish last!
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RHP User
16 years ago
As a general rule...nice guys do finish last...or at least they do when it comes to nooky ;) *giggle* Gotta agree completely with your list Mooka - well done! I like the one you added too Wayne :) Ya know, I would like to think that most girls would be able to tell if a 'bad boy' was just pretending to be a 'nice guy' - it's instinct that we all just need to listen to and trust :) There are definately nice guys to be found on RHP...I have found them myself! Wayne...stop it with the geek talk...you know they're 'my type' *giggle*
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RHP User
16 years ago
In general I agree with what you've said... until this little gem..."A Nice Guy will sit thru a chick flick and even preent to enjoy it. He will do it simply because the lady asked him. He also knows that serious brownie points can be accrued by doing this."PPffftttttt to your brownie points. You take me to a chic flick and you'd better be giving me lots of diamonds afterward, because that's the only thing that would inspire me to torture myself like that. Give me blood and gore!!!! On the other hand though, my lovely man is everything you say a nice guy is, only he is wrapped up in Gentleman's clothes. Viking*owned and loved by a very bad man*
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nice guys are just guys A Guy knows you can't get anyone drunk at a coffee shop, so would never suggest it as a first date. A Guy will not expect sex after just one drink. A Guy will only contact you if he thinks he has a chance with your sister/mum/neice/best friend and needs a phone number. A Guy would prefer to lose the "I'll get this" argument over the bill. He doesn't shit gold! A Guy will not ask too many personal questions, he knows the answers are boring. However, he is willing to answer any question about himself with a lie about being a fighter pilot. A Guy will know what face to pull to fake listening, and listening intently. He doesn't want to know the ladies opinion, it will most likely be wrong anyway. A Guy will call you chicky babe... it's easy to remember, and if your memory is poor, is easily written on a palm. A Guy will not sit through a chick flick. Don't you have a sister/mum/neice/best friend ?? A Guy will sleep with your sister, your mother, your best friend, your daughter or neice. He know it's important to have mutual firendships. A Guy is willing to settle for just being your friend. You will call it stalking, he will call you his girlfriend.
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RHP User
16 years ago
ya see you answered ya own comments in one then vbyou wouldnt ask to be taken to a chik flick now would ya? totally agree with the list too mooka well done matei think the list was described in older times as being a gentleman
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RHP User
16 years ago
ya see you answered ya own comments in one then vbyou wouldnt ask to be taken to a chik flick now would ya? totally agree with the list too mooka well done matei think the list was described in older times as being a gentleman
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RHP User
16 years ago
I like to agree with with most of what mooka wrote, and I totally agree with the first 3 the 4th one if the lady will let me pay that is fine but I won't agree the point if they don't Rich
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RHP User
16 years ago
Come on boys... tell the truth. A Nice Guy is a wolf in sheeps' clothing.
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RHP User
16 years ago
*hahahaha*...actually, you had me spit coffee all over the keyboard I was laughing so hard! Thank you and well done to you!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I like your list, but to me it is a list of basic things one would do. It's not until I read some other posts that I realised some men would not be so thoughtful. I was raised to be respectful, polite and a gentlemen. That doesn't make me less of a lover, less sexually interested, or less capable. Actually I think all of those things make me a better lover - as my attention it to the other person - not focused on myself. I have though noticed as I have matured that these acts does often mean I am less inclined to initated the first move as I would when I was younger. Perhaps more respectful and considerate has also come with a package of less likely to make a move without being 100% certain. Often women don't give you 100% cues. Perhaps it is this act (or lack of act) which minimises opportunities to get closer to someone. It is a strange balance of being a gentlemen and wanting to be close with someone. The fact is the bad boys are likely to make the moves, and the good guys do often miss out. To the bad boys it's a numbers game - so you get rejected, so what. To the good guys though it's not just the rejection its also to assumption that you are not behaving as gentlemanly as you could/should. From my side there is no excuse for no respect - if you can't give it - then you don't deserve it. Gentlemen keep up the good work - nothing wrong with dignifying your gender.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi mooka ...My estrange husband..funny enough..would watch chic flicks..with our daughter and i..he fitten all you have said to a t..he his a nice guy but has his moments..like the little girl with the curl in middle of her forhead. Maybe some might be sheep in wolf's clothing..ridge...but its done with class...lolxoxoheymuma
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gailes brings up a good point. there is concensus that many guys may pretend to be nice, But what about the nice guys pretending to be bad boys, are there many out there.. I know I go through stages of pretending to be a bad boy, but in the end my "nice guy" true clolours seem to expose themselves, and spoil my wannabe reputation as a bad boy. PS - Niceguy0068, i'll leave your royalty check on the fridge. TREV <<< hoping no one tells anyone that i'm a nice guy...or a professional !
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think guys are fundamentally nice..... but we are easily corrupted and influenced to the dark side by all you, Jezabels. :p Wayne... nice try mate, suggesting that you are the orginal nice guy lmfao ..... Whitehawk most surely was! :p Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well I was actually just having a msn convo with my besty GF sassyme..........And as usual her and I always agree.. Men are nice....but.... Their dicks control them ....simple fact..lol....Such a weakness huggies sweetpetite41..
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RHP User
16 years ago
hehe - look don't mention Whitehawk and me in the same sentence.. please... the only thing I've ever agreed on that he's posted is about Avatar being a kick ass movie :-) As for the original niceguy - well - I'm the only one posting here aren't I :-) Trev - thanks for the cheque - make sure you make it out in US $ so I can put in into my US bank account where the ATO can't see it ;-) Sonise - I'll talk geek to you all night hun... if you like ;-) (oops running before mynameonurlips hits me for that one) Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
You might enjoy it niceguy....lol..getting a smack from myname..hehe and your right sweet.. about their dicks controling them..problem also is some of these ones will nail anything that movedand have no qualms in how they go about doing it.As i see it bad boys have attitude..negative and to a point..no ethics and ive no intention of trying to change/fix one pfftand they be hard work...might put up a fight when being tied up....lmaoNice guys can be bad boys in bed..hehexoxomumma
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RHP User
16 years ago
on the grounds it may incriminate me... ;-) You'd have to ask the ladies that and given I'm a niceguy, I'm not about to go naming names :) Quoting 'heymumma'Nice guys can be bad boys in bed..hehe Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
my experience has been that if someone is good at something...they have no need to tell anyone that fact...they just do...and people see for themselves...cheersjose...
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16 years ago
Jose - Mooka started it - not me... :-) I'm the silent achiever... Wayne
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16 years ago
Wayne, come on mate you are willing to take credit for being the ONLY Nice Guy here, but still willing to deflect criticism from Jose back to me - that doesn't sound very nice to me lmao Just remember: A Nice Guy has a little Bad Guy lurking inside of his phyic (he wouldn't be on this site otherwise) but it is rare to find a Bad Guy with a Nice Guy hidden inside...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was trying sooo hard to bite my tongue!! But I can't take it anymore!!! ARRRGGGHHH!!! A Nice Guys is a softcock. Sorry, but surely you all agree? Or am I gonna be left out in the cold again for saying what we're all thinking? And ultimately, women don't REALLY want them. They tire of them very quickly. They want someone who will challenge them... not bore them. So all the nice guys out there asking themselves "What am I doing wrong?" - Now you know.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' but it is rare to find a Bad Guy with a Nice Guy hidden inside... not at some 'parties' Mooka ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
you are right - I did not give credit to ya - my bad. I guess I need to be whipped/spanked/whatever by mynameonurlips and mssaturn as punishment... ohh... is that my bad guy peeking out now ;-) As for the badguy hidden inside the niceguy.... leaving that alone... :-) Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Ridge_Forester' I was trying sooo hard to bite my tongue!! But I can't take it anymore!!! ARRRGGGHHH!!! A Nice Guys is a softcock. Often - so no arguments here.. That's not to say that all women want a generic clone of a bad boy either.. But a lot of the time, someone who takes way too much crap, grovels enough to make you ill and doesn't stand up for themselves is handed the title "Nice Guy" PS - You were a pretty nice guy to organise a suitable place to have dinner with your mates hypocondricac girlfriends.
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16 years ago
both mooka and wayne...and mooka?...keep it up mate...errrr...ya great comments i mean...grinscheersjose...
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16 years ago
Quoting 'au46305' PS - You were a pretty nice guy to organise a suitable place to have dinner with your mates hypocondricac girlfriends. That's true... I guess I was a nice guy that night. And I'm disgusted with myself! haha... :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ridge, Damn how did I miss your comments! Okay first point, who said Nice Guys are wimps? Okay some are, some aren't, they just work to a different set of moral rules to others. Yes they are perceived to put a woman up on a pedestal, but hell, that only makes it easier to look up her dress!!!! And of course, a woman never tires of a Bad Guy, simply cos the Bad Guy doesn't hang around after fucking her, he is off to brag with his mates, scratch another notch on the bedpost and start looking for his next victim.
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RHP User
16 years ago
awww, I like the list
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16 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Ridge, Damn how did I miss your comments! Okay first point, who said Nice Guys are wimps? Okay some are, some aren't, they just work to a different set of moral rules to others. Yes they are perceived to put a woman up on a pedestal, but hell, that only makes it easier to look up her dress!!!! And of course, a woman never tires of a Bad Guy, simply cos the Bad Guy doesn't hang around after fucking her, he is off to brag with his mates, scratch another notch on the bedpost and start looking for his next victim. Yeah I guess that's correct... the nice guy will get to see up the girl's dress eventually... maybe. But it’ll cost him shitloads more time and effort than it would if he was an arsehole... or a Bad Boy. You gotta be a little aggressive if you wanna get the girl before your mates do. Take the average African Lion pride for example. Which lion gets ALL the ladies? The alpha male does. He didn't get to be the alpha male by being a nice lion... He's a bad lion who has an ego that the lionesses can't resist... The poor old "ordinary" lion (nice guy) can tell the lioness that "her coat looks lovely today" or "he really enjoyed having lunch with her this afternoon" all he likes... he still ain’t gonna father her cubs. That’s a job for a real lion.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I had a few dates with a nice guy recently........Cause bad boys who just say anything to get into my pants has taken it's toll on me...And they piss me off.... He was too touchy feely....and kept rubbing my hair..messing it up!!! wtf....I spend nearly and hours with the hair straightener and he does that! In public!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..... 3 dates and I had had enough... Guy has to have honesty..Intergrety...and can challenge me.. huggies sweetpetite41
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16 years ago
Thanks for hopping on my side Sweet! I knew there was at least one woman out there who'd agree with me!! haha Any more ladies wanna come clean? Come on....
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RHP User
16 years ago
I really think guys are capable of multitasking. We can all be nice and I know that deep down inside me there's a nice guy cowering in a corner somewhere competing with all the other personalities. Mental note... keep a tight hold ofl sweetpetite's hair so that it stays straight. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Because Ridge is a guest, his posts have to go thru moderation before being posted which means his posts arrive in order but later than other members with immediate access making it easy to miss his comments unless you go back in the thread.On the nice guy topic, I thought you made excellent points and thought 'niceguy' added a good point too. They certainly described my idea of a 'nice guy' as far as my post to you on saturn's 'Bad Boys Vs Good Guys' thread went that we {yes, a couple I know} have a preference for and have met nice/good guys.I thought you were right on the money with this comment. Quoting mooka: Yes they are perceived to put a woman up on a pedestal, but hell, that only makes it easier to look up her dress!!!!Lolol... boring nice guys are not! Hugs... Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
It's quite simple, if you're a naturally nice guy, (not the fake one's trying to get close to girls by trying to be nice) you don't finish last.People forget that people can usually unconsciously see through people.The "Bad boy" gets the girl cause he is a bad guy and just being himself. Ironically he is still being honest and truthful about who he really is."Nice guys" don't get the girl because they are trying to hard to be nice and its just not them. They are being fake and misleading.Guys that are just naturally nice and are just themselves. I know from experience that these nice guys that are just themselves, rarely finish last.These are the naturally nice guys, people often take about ladies finally settling for when they are done having fun with bad boys. But often it just takes a while for girls to find a guy that is naturally nice and not faking it because he is lusting over her.Unfortunately, all nice guys get lumped together under one banner whether they are fakes of not.So I think people should just be themselves, and that way no one will "finish" last.
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16 years ago
No only when there is sex involved then hair pulling is allowed...lol huggies sweeptpetite41
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16 years ago
a nice guy always comes last the woman should cum first
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16 years ago
Quoting 'freerabbit' a nice guy always comes last the woman should cum first Too true. The woman should cum first, and more than once, ideally.
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16 years ago
Quoting 'freerabbit' a nice guy always comes last the woman should cum first Yes, very very true. At least once, ideally.
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16 years ago
Hi Mooka !! WOW what a list!! I feel sorry for the poor guy that has to check all those before he can be classed as being nice :) Being nice is something that we all have the ability to be..even the bad boys!! What is nice for some..isnt nice for others..The expectations put on men by wemon today are really high..it makes me feel sorry for them..to ask a man to pay for dinner and coffee without hesitation is a bit harsh..as some wemon have rather expensive tastes...give me a guy who will split the bill with me..I have a lot of male friends..and they are all good people but few of them would tick all of your boxes..I think we need to clarify what we really want..do you want a guy to pay for your food , pretend to like the same movies you do, only listen to what you have to say because it's the nice thing to do... or...would you prefer someone who..is generally interested in you as a person...has the same sense of humor as you and may not be able to afford to buy you dinner and drinks all the time..so takes the effort to pack a nice picnic or cook you a nice dinner because he thinks your worth the effort! Violet
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RHP User
16 years ago
Really interesting thread :) I want to bring up another aspect of the debate...EGO's. Everyone has an ego and everyone has a super ego. Without going all out Freud on you, and I am so not an expert on this, the ego of a person is their values, their opinion, it is the organised and rational part of the mind....the Nice Guy which is a part of every man (except the psychopaths and those with fake profiles). The super ego is the critical and moralising part of the ego...it drives the fantasies, feelings and actions of the the ego. The Id is the basic instinctual desires of a person (it is not displayed like the ego)...it drives the need for sex among other things. It is amoral and selfish. It requires gratification. It debates fiercely with the super ego, with the ego being the referree. In some ways the Id is the Bad Boy which is a part of every man. More simply for this site: Male Id: "I want to fcuk her" Male ego: "She's interesting I would like to get to know her more" Male super ego: thinking...gotta find a line that will make her take notice of me Bad Boys use their super ego to reel in the chicks...they are often alpha males as mentioned by Ridge, and are very successful in maintaining a string of one night stands rather than a sustained relationship. One guy I have been chatting to for 4 months is an alpha male...he's from another site and beds a different girl 5 days out of 7 every single week. He is driven by his super ego. Why he keeps phoning me I don't know...but maybe because I tap into his ego and dismiss his super ego. Last night he was boasting that he got 8 new phone numbers in one day. And I have no doubt he will bed every single one of those girls. He really is a Bad Boy...because he has in many ways lost himself in his super ego. The trouble happens (from my point of view only) is when the super ego rules the person...I am attracted to confident men and super ego has a lot to do with this. But it's the ego that will keep me interested in the person. Nice guys need to find a super ego that they are happy with if they want to attract attention. Are you still awake???? lol Cheers
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16 years ago
Quoting 'OneBrightStar' Really interesting thread :) I want to bring up another aspect of the debate...EGO's. Everyone has an ego and everyone has a super ego. Without going all out Freud on you, and I am so not an expert on this, the ego of a person is their values, their opinion, it is the organised and rational part of the mind....the Nice Guy which is a part of every man (except the psychopaths and those with fake profiles). The super ego is the critical and moralising part of the ego...it drives the fantasies, feelings and actions of the the ego. The Id is the basic instinctual desires of a person (it is not displayed like the ego)...it drives the need for sex among other things. It is amoral and selfish. It requires gratification. It debates fiercely with the super ego, with the ego being the referree. In some ways the Id is the Bad Boy which is a part of every man. More simply for this site: Male Id: "I want to fcuk her" Male ego: "She's interesting I would like to get to know her more" Male super ego: thinking...gotta find a line that will make her take notice of me Bad Boys use their super ego to reel in the chicks...they are often alpha males as mentioned by Ridge, and are very successful in maintaining a string of one night stands rather than a sustained relationship. One guy I have been chatting to for 4 months is an alpha male...he's from another site and beds a different girl 5 days out of 7 every single week. He is driven by his super ego. Why he keeps phoning me I don't know...but maybe because I tap into his ego and dismiss his super ego. Last night he was boasting that he got 8 new phone numbers in one day. And I have no doubt he will bed every single one of those girls. He really is a Bad Boy...because he has in many ways lost himself in his super ego. The trouble happens (from my point of view only) is when the super ego rules the person...I am attracted to confident men and super ego has a lot to do with this. But it's the ego that will keep me interested in the person. Nice guys need to find a super ego that they are happy with if they want to attract attention. Are you still awake???? lol Cheers I'm still awake... but to be honest, only read the whole post because I thought you'd give away some of the lines your Alpha uses.. :-) I should just ask Ridge
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nice post Mooka.I agree with OneBrightStar in a sense that a Nicer Guy knows a balance between being considerate (to the opposite sex or others) as well as know when to fire up the male ego whilst staying honest to himself. Oh yeah, a Nicer Guy would not only finish last but could do it again and again and again.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I did experiance nice inocent ladys turn in to , hornbag , wild cat ,roaring through bed all night , and thats fine . Never heard of nice guy turning in to useable beast ...so I have to agree with few posts above , nice guys are just softcoks..even more they bendable each way ...to please someone they dont even know???And the lady is probably thinking WTF ...I am not gona screw that.....talking about him (laughing) all afternoon ..and guess what ..he send message next day ..thanks for lovely whatfck ever.There is a time and place to show your gentelman stile and kindness to sertain woman , but on the first date (RHP) ..I always prefeire ...."quet frankly my dear ...I dont give a dam...
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16 years ago
WOW.. What a list....I feel sorry for any guy how has to tick all of these boxes before being able to be considered as a nice guy..We all have the ability to be nice..even the bad boys!! and what is nice for some..isnt always nice for others.. The expectations that are put on men today are so high! I feel sorry for them.. I think to ask a guy to pay for dinner and drinks without hesitation is very harsh...as some girls have quiet expensive tastes...give me a guy who will split the bill with me!! We need to consider what it is that we are chasing..do you want a guy who will buy you dinner and drinks just because he can..and pretend to enjoy the same movies you do..and listen to you only because it's the polite thing to do?? or would you rather a guy who genterally enjoys what you have to say because he likes you as a person..who likes your sense of humor..who may not be able to afford to pay for dinner and drinks all the time..but will pack a picnic for two or cook u dinner because he thought you were worth the effort!
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16 years ago
You really are the enlightened one.....How does one so young have such insight! Cheers Nev
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16 years ago
Glad you could stay awake...it was a loooong post, even for me :) My alpha-male aquaintance has a very bland one line profile and a pic of him standing legs apart, arms outstretched in a waterfall...yes, he is buff which is eye catching. His intention is to f**k and leave. He phones only...rarely uses IM or sms. His lines to pick up chicks: "Do you think you would like to suck my cock?" "What are you doing now...would you like my cock in you?" "I'm gonna come around and pump you...would you like that?" I truly scratch my head as to how many women actually say YES to this! And it's women of all ages. I don't know how many rejections he gets...he wouldn't tell me anyway. I've heard him on the speakerphone taking other calls while chatting to me, making times, places and dates. He's not my scene at all (no, nope, never)...but I find him facinating in that he is making the numbers game work for him.
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16 years ago
I feel like I'm being given a physics lesson... I remember always leaving those lectures thinking "how the fuck is this going to help ?" Hence... I'm not a physicist ! Since I ASSUME (please no one give me that tacky joke about making an assumption) that all guys on rhp want sex and preferably ASAP, I find it blurs my capacity to decipher genuinely nice from just saying what's necessary to get in my pants ! So now I'm thinking I should just skip the small talk, the getting to know you, the online chats, the phone calls and fuck them straight away THEN IF they are genuinely NICE they will send me a txt message saying "thanx awesome fuk, BTW wots ur name?". They will then try and get to know me. Those who aren't nice and just wanted to fuk, got what they wanted and I wouldn't hear from them again. AND... I didn't waste all my emotional energy getting to know someone who was full of shit ! Is this a good strategy??? Alone again on a Saturday night... Ms Saturn
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16 years ago
Quoting 'OneBrightStar' Glad you could stay awake...it was a loooong post, even for me :) His lines to pick up chicks: "Do you think you would like to suck my cock?" "What are you doing now...would you like my cock in you?" "I'm gonna come around and pump you...would you like that?" I guess those lines would work if the positions were reversed. (Although would obviously need tweaking to reflect the differences in anatomy M vs F - eg. I'd freak out a little if a girl asked if I wanted her cock in me, I mean what if it's bigger than mine?).
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16 years ago
It is possible to swing between the two.
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16 years ago
Hmm... A chameleon hey? I think he changes his niceness level to get what he wants... He's a wolf ;)
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16 years ago
LOVED reading this post!Special mention to au46305 for the great laugh and interesting take on The Guy ... shame I can't view your profile!!!!I reckon OneBrightStar was spot on with the Ego angle! Well put!
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16 years ago
Quoting 'saturn86' AND... I didn't waste all my emotional energy getting to know someone who was full of shit ! Is this a good strategy??? It's an effective strategy. The issue is whether you feel comfortable and willing to execute this strategy. Another idea is to say something like this: "I'm open to considering both a fuck-buddies arrangement and a friends-with-benefits arrangement, but I'm a bit confused about which is your preference?" Or if you want to kick it up a notch, you could say something like: "For fuck-buddy arrangements, I reckon it's OK to fuck straight away, but for friends-with-benefits arrangements, I reckon it's better to wait a couple of days..." And then see which option he indicates he wants. If he indicates fuck-buddies, then you decide whether you feel like having a fuck with him and then moving on. If he indicates friends-with-benefits, then obviously you decide whether that's what you want from him. But don't make the friends-with-benefits option sound too unappealing! If he chooses the friends-with-benefits option, it's a good sign but you still don't know for sure until after you've done the fucking. It's possible some dickhead will say he wants friends-with-benefits even after you've offered what he really wants, but hopefully you won't encounter any of those. You've tapped into a good point though -- it's true that men are more likely to be honest after sex than before, and therefore you might consider getting past that point quickly, if it doesn't bother you too much.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Treat em mean keep em keen is only a short term fix based on misguided ego. Nice guys come last is a baseless statement, come last to where...old age, kids. Girls in the end the nice guy will be the more rewarding life partner, using manners and ettiquite was once simply habit, now its meant to be a sign of weakness....i dont think so. A man shouldnt have to be nice all the time and coming last is sometimes a blessing in disguise.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Your post made my day! C'mon ladies, did we really join RHP to find a pastry chef? or did we come for the offer of custard horn?? This Jam tart will take a bad boy please and a side order of Sponge to go (*winks at the ladies)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well said mook although Im not disagreeing with you , I just dont think there is a list of things you need to abide by to be a nice guy, but all your listings are best summed up by the word consideration, We all could be more considerate to how others are feeling and act. I belive the term chivalry is dead and there are no nice men out there to be offensive, and all to often said, A person should be judged on how they treat others this does not mean watching a chcik flick or picking up the bill, truth be told its not thats there is not enough good guys out ther because the same could be said about woman, If you go looking for a so called nice person By a bunch of rules Im sure your path to any sort of happines will be a long one, If you want to find out if someone is a good person unfortuantley you just have to take the time, because we all stuff up and make mistakes evan nice guys.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Guided said. Who's here lookin for the nice ones. And finishing last isn't a bad thing, apparently. I've often been in trouble and sent on my way for finishing first.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'missguided74' C'mon ladies, did we really join RHP to find a pastry chef? or did we come for the offer of custard horn?? This Jam tart will take a bad boy please and a side order of Sponge to go (*winks at the ladies) Obviously the "ladies" came for all different reasons... missguided, by the looks of it, you're going to need more than just a bad boy to satiate that hunger. I'm not even sure that several bad boys would be enough.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Perhaps you're right Ajaccio, I'll trade you 2 bad boys for one real man.
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XtremGuy
16 years ago
I am pretty sure I match everything on that list and so i guess I am a nice guy. Unfortunately however nice guys get mistaken for being boring, non-adventurous guys which isn't true. The amount of women here who say they would love a nice guy but keep meeting guys who screw them over is a joke. Is there really any fun & adventurous women in Melbourne looking for a nice guy? I seem to only have luck with women from interstate and as fun as it is I'd love to meet a women in melb. Oh and in regards to the old nice guys finish last, it's true in my case because I'll make sure you come first ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
You fight fair, you fight for second place
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'mr_e_bunny81'You fight fair, you fight for second place Hmm so Mr Bunny are you saying you always cum first? Might want to take a lesson from Mr Tortoise..you know slow and steady and all that before you get someone's back up.
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RHP User
16 years ago
im a nice guy, how come i finish last all the time, no girl on this site has hit me up yet? spose only ben on here for a lil while, maybe this wll get you attention
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RHP User
16 years ago
It's F...... G......
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RHP User
16 years ago
As one famous rock musician said " the most macho thing a man can do is to be nice" I like to think I am a nice guy, but I am also a deviant too. Being nice, doesn't mean being boring too.
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RHP User
16 years ago
i totally agree with stalky, that SOME men can multi-task, and switch roles as the situation dictates. to be a thoughtful, attentive, considerate good listener(as opposed to a an egotistical, self absorbed, inconsiderate prat) are definitely qualities that would stand you in good stead with a lot of women. however, if you cant read the plays, and you dont know when to switch your persona to the testosterone fuelled horny lion(thanks for the analogy ridge), then you my friend are a softcock. and only nuns and mothers like softcocks. so in conclusion, my contention is, be a nice guy. but know when to turn on that slightly dominant, slightly nasty, horny side of yourself. and if you are that attentive listener(nice guy), chances you will read the plays better than someone who is too into himself, and you will instinctively know when to switch to mr nasty, to give yourself and your companion that animalistic, lusty sex that you both want... christopher
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nice guys finish last..... of that I am living proof. So many of you girls dont seem to want a guy that will be a "nice guy"... you seem to want the "bad boys" so much more... despite the fact that so many of you seem to claim to have been hurt and let down by the bad boys. I am, and always will be, a "nice guy".... even though it gets me no where.
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RHP User
16 years ago
So... errrr. Gottadoit... .you seem to have used your female profile to answer as yourself.. i.e.... as a man.... ooops.... I think your balls are showing through your nickers mate. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'customer69' Nice guys, don't have to think about it...they just are...Nice girls, don't have to think about it...they just are...... just be yourself and treat others, the way you want to be treated...friendship often develops first, good relationships develop naturally, they are not hard work...they flow along quite seamlesslyTrish Yes, you're absolutely right .. nice guys just *are* .. and that's what I consider myself ... but what if all you see is the bad guys scoring all the dates .. even when the nice guy has been chatting with the woman for ages ... and it's not just a matter of "selling yourself" (I'm rather good at that, or so I thought ...)?
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RHP User
16 years ago
some are as boring as watching paint dry, hey, and comeandpissmeoff, how come you don't reply to my flirt?, now give me a bad boy anyday. And the pansys who send me stupid emails telling me how good in the sack they are, yeah, rrrright, got that boyos, now if only they had just read my profile, so at the moment, grrrrr
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'saturn86' Since I ASSUME (please no one give me that tacky joke about making an assumption) that all guys on rhp want sex and preferably ASAP, I find it blurs my capacity to decipher genuinely nice from just saying what's necessary to get in my pants ! Hang on Saturn...i think most guys are happy to wait 10...no, wait...make that 5 minutes...before sex...grins So now I'm thinking I should just skip the small talk, the getting to know you, the online chats, the phone calls and fuck them straight away THEN IF they are genuinely NICE they will send me a txt message saying "thanx awesome fuk, BTW wots ur name?". They will then try and get to know me. Those who aren't nice and just wanted to fuk, got what they wanted and I wouldn't hear from them again. AND... I didn't waste all my emotional energy getting to know someone who was full of shit ! Is this a good strategy???No, I don't think it is...it may satisfy a guy, but surely it's all about what satisfies you the most!...isn't it? stick it in....err...i mean stick it out... Alone again on a Saturday night... Ms Saturn cheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'NullProfile' Nice guys finish last..... of that I am living proof. So many of you girls dont seem to want a guy that will be a "nice guy"... you seem to want the "bad boys" so much more... despite the fact that so many of you seem to claim to have been hurt and let down by the bad boys. I am, and always will be, a "nice guy".... even though it gets me no where. Mate - this has got to be post of the year (I know it's early days), but if you're too stupid to remember to switch profiles back to the 'nice guy' one you deserve a caning that I can't even put into words. Now cut and paste that back into your 'nice guy' profile and fix things up, or is that too embarrasing?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'customer69' Yes Ms Saturn, it is all very confusing and time consuming...I figure that a large proportion of people will just say, what they think you want to hear...that happens in the real world, tooI don't have the time to play games with people, and I don't want to hurt the genuine funsters because I can't identify them, from the murky bottom feedersThat's why nice guys come last as they're genuinely being themselves and not asking you if you want to fuck straightaway. They would actually like to meet you and take it from there.Two guys actually phoned and spoke to me, to confirm, that I was a real person...they are very genuine souls, who care about other people, adore women and were quite prepared to be friends, if nothing further developed! I have met one of them in person and the connection is lovely, so much better, in real life! They will always have a friend in Trish, wherever they are...Trish
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'saturn86' I feel like I'm being given a physics lesson... I remember always leaving those lectures thinking "how the fuck is this going to help ?" Hence... I'm not a physicist ! Since I ASSUME (please no one give me that tacky joke about making an assumption) that all guys on rhp want sex and preferably ASAP, I find it blurs my capacity to decipher genuinely nice from just saying what's necessary to get in my pants ! So now I'm thinking I should just skip the small talk, the getting to know you, the online chats, the phone calls and fuck them straight away THEN IF they are genuinely NICE they will send me a txt message saying "thanx awesome fuk, BTW wots ur name?". They will then try and get to know me. Those who aren't nice and just wanted to fuk, got what they wanted and I wouldn't hear from them again. AND... I didn't waste all my emotional energy getting to know someone who was full of shit ! Is this a good strategy??? Has it worked for you? Maybe nice guys won't go for it Alone again on a Saturday night... Ms Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
At the risk of being flamed, you forgot one thing mooka, flowers. Nice guys will bring flowers because they want to, not because the think it'll impress.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah... immediately after I posted the sensor pulled his profile ... the strangest thing is that his posts (or is it hers) stayed in the forum with a new name.... "Nullprofile".... so nullprofile must be like some kind of super profile! Whoa. That's spooky! Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'rmpiston'At the risk of being flamed, you forgot one thing mooka, flowers. Nice guys will bring flowers because they want to, not because the think it'll impress. I hope no-one flames you... just that someone asks "why does a guy WANT to bring flowers."
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'nicemenonly' some are as boring as watching paint dry, hey, and comeandpissmeoff, how come you don't reply to my flirt?, now give me a bad boy anyday. And the pansys who send me stupid emails telling me how good in the sack they are, yeah, rrrright, got that boyos, now if only they had just read my profile, so at the moment, grrrrr comeandpissmeoff, huh?...oh, how droll...i have replied to your flirt....i think it went something along the lines of...No, No, No, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.....uhm...hope ya got it....cheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
it's the sort of word you use when you are telling grandma what you think about her new wall paper and you don't wont to offend her (but still be basically honest). it's also very subjective. ~winks~
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RHP User
16 years ago
well said mooka i know heaps a nice guys, theres nice guys and theres nice girls..... theres complete douchebag girls and complete douchebag guys... its a matter of if your a nice girl you gotta find that nice guy and vice verser..... unfortunately alot of the time nice girls get caught up with douchebag guys and wonder why they get hurt. i like to think of myself as a nice guy and il say it, im honest upfront and expect the same from partners, if i was to be a wolf in sheeps clothing then id just be another one of those douchebags you see wearing a pink shirt (hope that dont offend anybody) im nice but also got my bad side but my bad side is respectful to others, im aloud to be bad if it effects me and me only not my friends or partners, thats what makes me nice :-) its about having your eyes wide open and respecting people for who they are. i meet more nice people than i do douches, thats because i want to and like to meet nice people. mooka i like your style, your spot on couldn't agree with you more
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'freeflyer'i meet more nice people than i do douches, thats because i want to and like to meet nice people. I suspect you must be one of these fake overseas profiles, because you must be living in a different country to me. I can't turn a corner without bumping into a tool, and it sure ain't because I want to.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'freeflyer'i meet more nice people than i do douches, thats because i want to and like to meet nice people. I suspect you must be one of these fake overseas profiles, because you must be living in a different country to me. I can't turn a corner without bumping into a tool, and it sure ain't because I'm actively seeking them out. Then again, I have a pretty low tool tolerance - so maybe it's me.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think we're all on the wrong track. It's nothing to do with nice guy or bad boy. It all revolves around confidence. You can be a confident nice guy and recieve as much attention from the ladies as a confident bad boy. Having the self belief in what you say and do is the all important ingredient. It's developing the belief in your risk taking self that will in the end lead to the greatest rewards. Just as in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, it's taking that leap of faith and hoping there's something there to step onto that is the hardest step. One day I'll have the confidence to take that step. And as for good girls/boys and tools/tarts, thay do say that opposites attract. I'm sure that it's more truth than saying cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
...so are there any balanced guys?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard'I hope no-one flames you... just that someone asks "why does a guy WANT to bring flowers." Jean, have you SEEN the looks you get when you walk about with a bunch of flowers and it isn't Valentines Day? the "OMG isn't he wonderful" gazes from women, the "bastard, now I'm in trouble for no reason" look from guys with a wife pointedly noting "SHE gets flowers", its brilliant. :pXS: balanced? on here? ;) we all are... except those other guys.. I'm the only nice one with just the right amount of bad.. honest injun :p
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nice guys always comes last.. cos they are the winner of "get into the pants" race.. as the ones comes before him, gets rejected! lmao
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey I'm a ***NICE GUY***...Now go BUY your OWN Coffee!!!...lol ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'sydneyboy3au' Jean, have you SEEN the looks you get when you walk about with a bunch of flowers and it isn't Valentines Day? the "OMG isn't he wonderful" gazes from women, the "bastard, now I'm in trouble for no reason" look from guys with a wife pointedly noting "SHE gets flowers", its brilliant. :p I have seen those looks... but a nice guy doesn't deliver flowers to get those looks. They do it because they want to give flowers don't they? PS - Looks like you're in charge of romancin' on the road trip.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nope XS, were all seriously unhinged and mad as meat axes...lol Cheers Nev.....playin with fire!
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RHP User
16 years ago
ya can tell if a bad boy is rooly bad by how much he loves him mum.............hehehehehe and if a GOOD girl buys a BAD BOY dinner.........what does his mind say to him ????? feelin just a little bit cheeky miss b
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RHP User
16 years ago
i agree totally nice guys do finish last ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
A woman of substance would adore a nice guy...but have become more suss about guys..after their experienceso it will take time for a nice girl's and nice guy's to meet.
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