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Men who have emotional intelligence,
February 14 2013
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madotara69
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'How_Far' I was brought up with three sisters in a very quiet, small town. I was raised on the principles of considering others and communicating on an emotional level. If I ask you how your day was, I don't actually want to know what you did. I want to know how it made you feel. I feel everything, we all do. A slow burn is wonderful .... I also sense your passion, and if i see it in your eyes, i will through you up against a wall as soon as you walk throught the door and give you what you long for... There is comfort in both. I ask you to bite ... will you? so, I guess biting you on the arse, is do able, I just couldn't trust myself to stop there, nipples, or straight for the neck. I reckon keeping you on the edge of the seat, clit between the teeth, and a grin for your thoughts, while seeing the nipples swell to erect. Then maybe a finger in your bum, to see if you can sit still. we stay there for a while, and negotiate the beginning twitches for the involuntary body orgasm, for a test to your poker face look for the control to hold position and focus, to the bite hold on flushing sensations, flowing to the clitoral stand off. I think you would buckle under the pressure. And submit to the dominance for mercy, well before you finish cumming.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Now I know what happy and sad mean. Does that elevate my EI?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Nathan41' Was brought up as an old fashioned guy. My dad taught me to treat laddies with respect, never harm them, Proper manners like opening up door and pulling out chairs for them. Some guys think i'm too caring and nice. Some laddies think i'm too nice and i'm a soft. I can be dominate if the occasion arise ;). What do you laddies think? Sorry, I know you're coming from a good place but the stuff like opening doors and pulling out chairs for women is too old fashioned for my tastes, belonging to an era when women were treated like delicate flowers who needed a man to make all the decisions for them, and do everything for them. I don't need to have doors opened for me, I'm perfectly capable of doing it for myself. Rather than thinking of women as needing special treatment, maybe think more in terms of respect for fellow people in general. We all deserve that respect, regardless of gender.P.s. 'ladies' only has one 'd'. If you spell it with 2 of them you're talking about an entirely different group of people
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RHP User
13 years ago
This makes me laugh,Because being women you want it all in the one package! Well if you are just friends with benefits there is a good chance the guy will contain anything deeply emotional if he feels it. That being said I could be wrong I'm a man I don't know how other men act because just like a woman every man is unique. But emotions only get shared with those closest to me,I have heard of women discounting men for showing emotions.Maybe those who appear emotionless are in fact emotional. Yes that is a run around statement but there you go.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'How_Far' I was brought up with three sisters in a very quiet, small town. I was raised on the principles of considering others and communicating on an emotional level. If I ask you how your day was, I don't actually want to know what you did. I want to know how it made you feel. I feel everything, we all do. A slow burn is wonderful .... I also sense your passion, and if i see it in your eyes, i will through you up against a wall as soon as you walk throught the door and give you what you long for... There is comfort in both. I ask you to bite ... will you? so, I guess biting you on the arse, is do able, I just couldn't trust myself to stop there, nipples, or straight for the neck. I reckon keeping you on the edge of the seat, clit between the teeth, and a grin for your thoughts, while seeing the nipples swell to erect. Then maybe a finger in your bum, to see if you can sit still. we stay there for a while, and negotiate the beginning twitches for the involuntary body orgasm, for a test to your poker face look for the control to hold position and focus, to the bite hold on flushing sensations, flowing to the clitoral stand off. I think you would buckle under the pressure. And submit to the dominance for mercy, well before you finish cumming. have we met.....?!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Primal_InstinXXX' This makes me laugh,Because being women you want it all in the one package! Well if you are just friends with benefits there is a good chance the guy will contain anything deeply emotional if he feels it. That being said I could be wrong I'm a man I don't know how other men act because just like a woman every man is unique. But emotions only get shared with those closest to me,I have heard of women discounting men for showing emotions.Maybe those who appear emotionless are in fact emotional. Yes that is a run around statement but there you go.- Posted from rhpmobile Do you still have that apron??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Very interested in what will be said here
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '7andahalf4u'I'm sure someone has said something similar but the truth of the matter is that women say they want a sensitive guy who will care about them and be able to hold a conversation with them and not just be after one thing but those exact same girls keep going for guys who treat them badly and are, to put it bluntly, just assholes. Why? Because they don't want a guy who is already nice, they want a guy they can try and change to be nice. Change to be the guy they want rather than actually go for the guy who is already like that. For many years i was that nice guy, that guy you could talk to and cared about you, the guy who was sensitive and had emotions and all i ever got was "i just want to be friends with you" or "you're not my type" or the worst one of all, "why can't i find a guy like you?" Easiest example is one of my close friends, for years i have been in love with her and every time i say something about me and her being together or something similar, she passes it off like i'm joking and says to me "but you're just my friend" and yet when you ask her what she wants in a guy she describes me, my personality, my beliefs, my feelings, my thoughts, everything. So girls, do us guys a favour. Actually say what you want, don't beat around the bush, don't hint and don't say what you don't mean. Believe it or not, guys actually love a girl who can be straight forward. The whole "maybe i like you maybe i don't" things isn't as cute as you may think. Yeah its fun at first, but most girls do it for way too long and we lose interest. So if you want a nice guy, go for a nice guy. Don't try to change a bad boy cause the chance of you being in a loving relationship where he'll be what you want him to become is pretty damn slim. In to a kiss dont ask a woman how she feels about you,mr nice guy just tug the back of her hair, just put the other hand in the smallof her back and kiss your answer is right there
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Lilmisschuckles'I'm moving to WA. we need to build a fence, cause all the hot girls from the east will be over soon its man land in the west girls, come get em
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RHP User
13 years ago
Freya Babie. let me enlighten you. A good dom is by defination highly emitional intelligent. Like me :) It takes quite something to develop into a dom and great responsibuility to the sub. I have a very incisive mind but m very emotionally honest and take the interest and care of the sub as a priority. A dom does not abuse any woman ever. For a start it is generally restricted to a sexual relationship not public. As are subs. Subs just love to get used and attain enrmous sexual satisfaction from that n so does the dom who is responsible to make that happen. Without highly evolved emotional intelligence n care one can never be a proper dom, there are plenty of dangerous fakes out there btw. Hope you can adjust your opinion and thx for the opportunity to publish this.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sigh And you only live just down the road from my work.....sigh :) beautiful post Shinas does happy dance about MissChuckles imminent move to WA ....yay I on the other hand am contemplating a move over East ....go figure !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' I think we have so much wrong in our belief how men should be, the pressure on men is so big. I think sometimes women forget what a man is all about. Shouldn’t we be like yang and ying, compliment each other instead of fight each other? Aren’t the differences between us what drive us to be together, what gives us the edge to be sexually attracted? Maybe I miss the point here, but I have not come across many mean men. Could be I am blind to them, could be I am not attracting the mean once into my life. Who knows? I like a man who can cry, my late husband cried as our children where born, he cried because I was in pain. Was he in my eyes weak, lol no he was caring, beautiful and manly. My sons cry and need a good talk when unhappily in love or some other things are heavy on their heart. Are they weak? I don’t believe so. Both are true males, males in showing emotions, males who can talk to women but also males who embrace their maleness and are proud to be male. When I look around what we want from men I have the view we are putting them in a box and punishing them for……what??? Or unhappiness……and most of all we don’t even know why we unhappy. Fuck I am getting of track. Ok I stop Hey all you men out there be a male in your own way, what ever this means for you. Thankyou xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's funny to see how the majority of women express themselves as if there is no such thing as men with the description above. You clearly have been surrounding yourself in the wrong environments as well as exposing yourself to the wrong men.
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madotara69
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Quoting 'How_Far' I was brought up with three sisters in a very quiet, small town. I was raised on the principles of considering others and communicating on an emotional level. If I ask you how your day was, I don't actually want to know what you did. I want to know how it made you feel. I feel everything, we all do. A slow burn is wonderful .... I also sense your passion, and if i see it in your eyes, i will through you up against a wall as soon as you walk throught the door and give you what you long for... There is comfort in both. I ask you to bite ... will you? so, I guess biting you on the arse, is do able, I just couldn't trust myself to stop there, nipples, or straight for the neck. I reckon keeping you on the edge of the seat, clit between the teeth, and a grin for your thoughts, while seeing the nipples swell to erect. Then maybe a finger in your bum, to see if you can sit still. we stay there for a while, and negotiate the beginning twitches for the involuntary body orgasm, for a test to your poker face look for the control to hold position and focus, to the bite hold on flushing sensations, flowing to the clitoral stand off. I think you would buckle under the pressure. And submit to the dominance for mercy, well before you finish cumming. have we met.....?! We have now !! Just, what is Freya up to, and where would she place herself, in this web she has woven?
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RHP User
13 years ago
is Ariachne Mado. I didn't say men who are dominant don't have EQ.I can't say I am attracted to dominant men,not a turn on for me.I am interested in mutuality not submissiveness,although I understand submissive is the new gray. But Tall_Isman thanks for enlightening 50 kinds of vanilla me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Being dominant and being a Dominant are 2 different things, yes?
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madotara69
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' is Ariachne Mado. I didn't say men who are dominant don't have EQ.I can't say I am attracted to dominant men,not a turn on for me.I am interested in mutuality not submissiveness,although I understand submissive is the new gray. But Tall_Isman thanks for enlightening 50 kinds of vanilla me.I just thought you were going to give me a clip, for being cheeky. I don't even understand all the dominant play, but if it's about a bit of imagination to rustle up some pent up emotions, exciting and released passionately , for the sense that there will only be compliment, for the up most release. I feel it's all about playing up to the dynamics, that the submissive wants most. For that to become euphoria, then more the lady is enjoying the comfort with trust, in the man, but the trust would be not feeling humiliated to let it all out as the fantasy needs to be. I haven't got any clue really what it is all about, Surely We will soon find where i am mistaken
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RHP User
13 years ago
Tal_Isman describes himself as a Dom and a dom.He says in his profile, ''there are too many pussies and not enough dirty cunts on here that need a good thrashing''...I considered that statement,enlightening.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' Tal_Isman describes himself as a Dom and a dom.He says in his profile, ''there are too many pussies and not enough dirty cunts on here that need a good thrashing''...I considered that statement,enlightening. Lions and tigers you sure he did not mean a good washing? could be a typo ya know
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RHP User
13 years ago
Im glad you pointed that out ... Scary! ... *running out the door to find my rock ...*
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_Isman' Freya Babie. let me enlighten you. A good dom is by defination highly emitional intelligent. Like me :) It takes quite something to develop into a dom and great responsibuility to the sub. I have a very incisive mind but m very emotionally honest and take the interest and care of the sub as a priority. A dom does not abuse any woman ever. For a start it is generally restricted to a sexual relationship not public. As are subs. Subs just love to get used and attain enrmous sexual satisfaction from that n so does the dom who is responsible to make that happen. Without highly evolved emotional intelligence n care one can never be a proper dom, there are plenty of dangerous fakes out there btw. Hope you can adjust your opinion and thx for the opportunity to publish this. I think basic intelligence, is missing here
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RHP User
13 years ago
Lots to learn in here... perhaps those Sydney Uni types should be using it for a dissertation... oh, wait...Am I keeping up so far?Dominant = a hat someone wears in a very involved role play.Dominance = an unattractive personality characteristic (see also domineering, aggressive and controlling).Confidence = the personality trait of trusting your own judgement. EQ = the ability to read a situation and people, that allows influence to be exerted and actions taken.There is a Venn Diagram in my head... but I might need to apply set theory to work out if I'm a baddie or a goodie. I do know that, sometimes, its the right time to say "I'm making that decision and we're doing this", and other times its the right time to say "tell me what you really want". Too much of either tends to be boring.
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RHP User
13 years ago
sometimes it's good to be bad and sometimes its bad to be good ,depends what ya good at and how bad you can be
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Messolonghi' Lots to learn in here... perhaps those Sydney Uni types should be using it for a dissertation... oh, wait...Am I keeping up so far?Dominant = a hat someone wears in a very involved role play.Dominance = an unattractive personality characteristic (see also domineering, aggressive and controlling).Confidence = the personality trait of trusting your own judgement. EQ = the ability to read a situation and people, that allows influence to be exerted and actions taken.There is a Venn Diagram in my head... but I might need to apply set theory to work out if I'm a baddie or a goodie. I do know that, sometimes, its the right time to say "I'm making that decision and we're doing this", and other times its the right time to say "tell me what you really want". Too much of either tends to be boring. 'I'm making that decision and we're doing this'
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RHP User
13 years ago
our emotions lets us know when our thoughts are 'on or off track'..there's a lot to learn about ourselves if we're willing to listen to what causes our pain, fear, anger and anxiety. Master these emotions and we'll make better decisions for our future. Mr S
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RHP User
13 years ago
I told people I listen to Elton John and I was asked whether I was gay!So F*** uneducated
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't you's want the gentleness coupled with strength?? Ie A gentleMAN- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just a Q to the OP.Why does dominant men also mean not caring?I will confess to not being the most intimidating of lads :) I do have a cute smile and I'll make you laugh though!But I would consider myself a dominant lover (I would describe me as an Erotic Dom), my goal is still my partners pleasure but I tend to control the encounter...
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RHP User
13 years ago
men who are dominant are not caring.I was simply asking about men who are gentle ,caring and not dominant.....I didn't intend to imply that dominant men are not gentle and caring in their own particular way.
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madotara69
13 years ago
Freya, it seems quite a thing, is Messolonghi singing for you, in cheerful spirit. He has me singing along to you as well
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RHP User
13 years ago
A caring dom brings a pack of band-aids? LOL I think Freyas question is in relation to if it is or isnt a turn on if a man is gentle, caring and who are not dominant is more angled towards in a social sense rather than in the bedroom. (I could be wrong here?) I have known women who are caring gentle and not dominant become absolute mistresses of the bedroom, trouble is when I start laughing they just spank me harder, whimper......... sorry madam lash, I promise not to laugh again ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
both in social situations and in the bedroom,I am not talking about in the BDSM sense either.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Right, I'll back out now, go put my late dinner on and see what the ladies think of it now (sexy wise), I personally don't think any of the qualities are wussy from a male perspective at all.I think that any man who condemns these traits as "wussy" would probably regret backing them into a corner where they would have to show the strength they have.
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RHP User
13 years ago
an intelligent man with emotional intelligence doesnt nessarily go together but for thoses of us that are equiped with both its not difficult to connect at an intimate depth whilst maintaining a primal sexual desire and in most cases we are switches, dominant or submissive, able to channel our energy to meet the desires of all concerned.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is one with the right balance of maleness, emotional intelligence is makes a man complete in my estimation and so much more attractive and tuned into a woman's needs. They are comfortable being themselves and not afraid to show emotion, this doesn't mean they are cry babies, but if they need to express their feelings at the appropriate times it makes them more human, showing compassion, empathy and understanding instead of the always macho don't give a continental about others attitude
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RHP User
13 years ago
The guy you speak of every female has already met him and he has usually been in their lives for a while. I'll put it real simple and easy for you all, you are most likely not attracted to this guy though may say he's good looking if he's one of the few lucky ones but you still wouldn't go there. This mythological man you speak of is your male bestie. The guy that is always there to pick you up when you fall. Depending on the guy may very well be more I time with the things you want but can still stamp his masculinity out for everyone else to see who is not you. The main issue you really have is that when you meet a guy who has those qualities you desire so . automatically from the moment you say you're so lovely and nice for a guy, you have friend zoned the poor nice guy. Though this is not so bad it's the bestie that's been there for years is the one who suffers because that little bit of hope holds him there for longer than he should wait for. I apologise for my slight rant above. After reading a few of the comments I thought I would make the ladies aware of what the want is usually right in front of them. So you want that guy look a bit closer to home or your close circle of friends and if you know a guy like that do him a favour and don't leave him hanging on for nothing over the years. Blokes can't tell their mate to move on because he won't listen to his mates, only the female can make that happen. So now I'm curious as to this revelation I have just stated do you think that "perfect guy" subject referenced in this post would now still be attractive?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think a lot of us are missing what Emotional Intelligence really is.............it's not about weakness or being soft. You can be dominant in the bedroom and still possess many of the qualities of an Emotionally Intelligent man. It's about being unselfish, being self-aware..............recognising and responding to your own emotions...........but, most importantly, connecting with how you make your partner feel. It's about empathy, understanding, FEELING. So..........if your partner wants you to be dominant...........that's perfect cos it's what he or she wants...........as opposed to thrusting your own needs on an unwilling partner just so that you get the outcome that only YOU want. I have to say, nobody has really spoken about Emotional Intelligence since Daniel Goleman's book was a best seller about ten years ago. It became vogue in the workplace for a while. Ahh............memories.
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RHP User
13 years ago
can you fix a sky blue datsun while St George has you in a choker hold?
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RHP User
13 years ago
... they early defense /survival tools formed in infancy and modified (hopefully appropriately) as nature. Have a look at PTSD and personality disorders for a picture what undeveloped or damaged emotional responses can do.They are formed in the limbic system (lizard brain) and occur faster than we can think. They are mostly about defense/survival/procreation of the individual, family and group. (ie. fight / flight response to a perceived threat). EI is about recognising this and assessing our emotional state when the cognitive (actual thinking) process and adjusting our response accordingly. Simple test, falsely accuse someone of a wrong. They will know that accusation is false, so do you ... we all know the range of responses we could expect because the accusation alone triggers a defensive emotional reaction. If we'd paused instead, assessed the accusation as unfounded, and non-threatening would could shut down the defense system, see the whole and respond more appropriately ... rather than thumping the accuser or with a retort accusation of our own.Way, way simplified. So EI is about understanding our own emotional responses and those of others and being able to modify or discount inappropriate feelings.Way easier said than done.It has bugger all to being with being gentle or caring or even 'in touch' with our emotions. It more about being really 'in the moment' both emotionally and cognitively - thinking and feeling in sync.RHP types who have some tantric experience will get the picture.That should get you going if your really interested.Enjoy
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm definitely a girl who likes to have her cake and eat it... Was only telling a wonderful friend the other day that he was a "Soft alpha male". Definitely dominant and strong, intelligent and driven, but has a beautiful heart too. *sigh* Minxy xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' men who are dominant are not caring.I was simply asking about men who are gentle ,caring and not dominant.....I didn't intend to imply that dominant men are not gentle and caring in their own particular way. Ah yeah I understand now. do you mean caring in the sense they lock eyes with you as they plesaure you... they genuinely care about your pleasure, they listen when you speak and they respond with more than one word answers do any thing your talking about? I misinterpreted it was just in bed so a submissive lover would do what in an encounter? I ask this as I have never realy been submissive but it interests me what it would be like to be totally dominated, not in a BDSM sense but just in an emotionaly submit to your partner for the encounter and seeing how totally leaving yourself vulnerable will turn out.anyone tried it? How did it turn out?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think in most of my sexual encounters there has been mutuality.The one encounter that I remember where someone was very ''bossy'' ordered me about was such a turn off,but I have never entered a relationship knowingly with a man who is dominant.....and I think that is completely different to what you are asking 2guys. I am not a submissive woman , nor am I a dominant woman but in role play I could be both,I just haven't met anyone to do either with yet. I have had a lover who gave me instructions before he arrived,how he wanted to find me when he came into my room etc,and I have to say, that encounter was incredibly erotic as I didn't quite know what to expect and in some ways I was vulnerable to him as I was blindfolded.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me.. arrgh, grunt and smash stuff. In the end there are many pillars to climb, find one. Does it matter if one lady finds you the best ever and another does not even know you. Age is a lovely thing and lets one diverge. So OP is this not about like minds rather then veiled denigration.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me.. arrgh, grunt and smash stuff. In the end there are many pillars to climb, find one. Does it matter if one lady finds you the best ever and another does not even know you. Age is a lovely thing and lets one diverge. So OP is this not about like minds rather then veiled denigration.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me.. arrgh, grunt and smash stuff. In the end there are many pillars to climb, find one. Does it matter if one lady finds you the best ever and another does not even know you. Age is a lovely thing and lets one diverge. So OP is this not about like minds rather then veiled denigration.
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2cruizing
13 years ago
Super foxy you some it up so well.i love a guy who will open up and talk who is gentle,thoughtful there are guys like that..Mr 2cruizing is. Mrs 2cruizing
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was under the impression single woman want bad boys and married want good boys with emotional intelligence. But as i am single with emotional intelligence looks like im up shit creek. :)
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