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Guys in an open relationship "attached"?
March 19 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree. I find married men are often prepared to fully commit to their girlfriends. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It seems that way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' I agree. I find married men are often prepared to fully commit to their girlfriends. :) I am most grateful to my girl friends for being my girl friends. I like to think they are happy to have me in their lives too...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Reedgee' I just think that if people were honest, not just here but also generally in life, things would be so much easier for everyone...Thanks forumists Wonder if you'll be so honest with your new profile, interesting move and interesting insight into how 'honest' people should be in their life. Good of you to thank us for taking our time to respond, after you whinged no-one had responded, before you scarpered
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think you got your answer.
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SexyHedonist
10 years ago
When I was married but in an open relationship I mainly looked for men who were in the same. Loved that they were available but not interested in anything more. I found often single guys wanted more, or were too busy. There are women out there looking for what you have to offer, but no... you are not single. When I finally split with my hubby and I was single I found I changed my preference and no longer wanted the open relationship man because I did have the hope that if we clicked it could turn into more. I wanted to spend the night. I didn't want to just meet during business hours. I wanted spontaneous drinks and dinners and whatever. Men even in open relationships often have restrictions (which is not a bad thing, but not what all women are after). I did have a few guys who lied about their status and I found it bloody annoying. Hopefully there are enough women looking for what you have to offer. Regular, no strings sex is a hot commodity to your niche market! Good luck
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm in a open realtionship we have a couples profile he has he's own .... What he does with his profile is his business Does it work who knows let time take its course
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Guess it didnt work.........
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RHP User
10 years ago
I instigated mine long before I got married. I also happen to be female. Why is that so befuddling to you? Stable, happy, multipartner, blessed with children, communicative relationship. I've known my husband a third of my life, I will love him forever, whatever. Would close the doors on this tomorrow for him if that's what he needed. I would hope he'd do the same for me if I was suffering. I asked to shag around, we both found more than that. Got married after the fact. If you want to throw vows around, what about: To the exclusion of all others? Why are you here? All relationships are sacred on their own right with or without marriage. Marriage is a qualifier, a commitment, a contract and it's what you shape it to be. Long after a few words were spoken to your loved one. You sound eerily like Bible bashers picking and choosing the lines that work for you and ommitting the ones that don't. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have watched this forum as I also fall in this category. Firstly a big shout out to all the lying married men that have struck and sent some of the ladies on an irreversible path. Well done on your lack of integrity. Unfortunately it is a tough slog. When you put yourself into the equation against the other single men on this site, your married tag will only appeal to a small percentage of the ladies here. Then you have to look at yourself and your attributes. These ladies are searching for qualities that appeal to them before your personality will even come into play. Physical appearance, height, hair colour, hair length, eye colour and more. There is no discriminating between you and the singles for this either. I try to keep myself physically fit, have tasteful recent pictures, put effort into my profile and always to turn up to any arranged meets. Other than that you have to stay positive and wait for the stars to align. See you in the trenches.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Longestdream, relationships are different to everyone, and whilst some want sacredness and vows of exclusion, others want honesty and openness. I don't think, personally, and open marriage or relationship precludes it from being sacred. That hasn't been my experience, nor is it the experience of some wonderful people I know in this situation. As for me in regards to the "married/single" debate, I don't preclude married people from my field of interest. I do discount those who are married and playing without their partner's knowledge. I'm primarily interested in finding people I can form a connection with, and enjoy spending time together, not someone that requires me to finetune my covert operation skills. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thats a great phrase "The sacredness of relationships" We can never tell how our lives will pan out. Who we will meet, whats around the next corner. Open relationships may sound ideal but what about the chance of meeting a playmate and falling for them? It does happen. And I can tell you this, Ive had one guy in a seemingly open relationship who wanted to meet up but "lets keep it quiet from the Mrs". I know someone who played with an attached guy and he is now besotted with her. So its not all cut and dried. We play with others outside a relationship knowing of the risks involved, right? This...."attached guys make better boyfriends" just doesnt wash. We are all human and we can all fail.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I understand and respect what you are saying. But we dont know what will happen. Ive known couples madly in love and after a long and happy relationship, one of them falls for someone else and its all over. A friend of mine had a happy family life. and loved her hubby ( I was always a bit jealous of their happiness together). She got a new job in a restaurant got friendly with one of the chefs and fell deeply in love. She left her husband and sons because she could not live without this new man. It would be great if we all lived happily ever after, but it doesnt work that way for everyone. xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
in my opinion, there's less chance of one partner leaving an open relationship, than a conventional one. Particularly when one or both are turned on by each other having sex with other people, either clean up or fuck you again when you get home, or bring in others to play with you, but the boredom isn't there sexually, the arousal is always there. Sex and desire fuel the relationship, so to speak. It becomes a fetish. That's the way it would work for me. That combined with not wanting to own a guy, the door would be open, but I doubt he'd be goin anywhere lol Not for everyone but it's a nice place to find myself in, that freedom and understanding the whole sharing is caring thing, it's life changing for me
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I understand and respect what you are saying. But we dont know what will happen. Ive known couples madly in love and after a long and happy relationship, one of them falls for someone else and its all over. A friend of mine had a happy family life. and loved her hubby ( I was always a bit jealous of their happiness together). She got a new job in a restaurant got friendly with one of the chefs and fell deeply in love. She left her husband and sons because she could not live without this new man. It would be great if we all lived happily ever after, but it doesnt work that way for everyone. xx I don't understand what this has to do with open relationships as opposed to any relationship? Your friend with benefits could fall in love tomorrow, as could your fuckbuddy. As could the neighbour or the hairdresser you visit. And that could be the end of your relationship with him full stop, sexual and platonic if the woman he falls for doesn't want him associating with past lovers/friends. You could fall for your fwb in the same manner and face rejection on that front. An open relationship is still a relationship like any other and not every relationship survives the perils of time. I don't undertsand the argument there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I understand and respect what you are saying. But we dont know what will happen. Ive known couples madly in love and after a long and happy relationship, one of them falls for someone else and its all over. A friend of mine had a happy family life. and loved her hubby ( I was always a bit jealous of their happiness together). She got a new job in a restaurant got friendly with one of the chefs and fell deeply in love. She left her husband and sons because she could not live without this new man. It would be great if we all lived happily ever after, but it doesnt work that way for everyone. xx Your argument against open marriage is that you know couples who weren't in open marriages who met someone else and split up?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im talking about ALL relationships, whether conventional, open or whatever. People here have stated that they think open relationships are more successful. All Im saying is, never assume. We all have hearts and those hearts can be stolen away unexpectedly. No matter what type of relationship you are in?
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RHP User
10 years ago
My FWBs are bi, so the chances of them falling for someone else are extremely high. but as its not serious Im not overly concerned right now?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not much else is certain. On a recent trip back to NZ I had a YOLO attitude and I'm glad I did because a couple of days after I saw a hot young working girl I had to be resuscitated, so live it now and live to the max...we're a long time dead.
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RHP User
10 years ago
i meet a couple once he said open relationship,i met them both.. and after.. call it esp .. but hid dvan rs always seem secretive,, if it open you shouldnt have a problem with us checking....lthe last thing i want to do is that was done to me.. my opinion..
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