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Guys in an open relationship "attached"?
March 19 2016
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Thank you for being completely honest about your marital status. I for one appreciate your honesty even though I rather not meet men who are attached or married. But that is a whole new topic for another Forum thread :-) Yes, you do fit into the category of "no attached or married men" if that phrase is clearly stated in a woman's profile and we all have our own reasons for saying no because of our past experiences, even though not all are necessarily bad and scary experiences. As for whether or not should you arrange for the woman of your interest to speak to your wife for clarification, it depends on the woman individually as some don't care whether their sex partner is taken or not. But for those who might feel at ease to know that they have permission from your Mrs to be your sexual partner, I think it is a fair call for them and not at all over the top with the request because, as a woman, we can never be too careful when it comes to meeting someone else's husband! And as you might have read in the Forums on the past topics, some men do cheat behind their partners' back but claimed to be either single or had their partners' consent to be on here, etc. As a result of that lie, some women had been threatened for their safety, if not their lives, from the angry wives/partners! Therefore, IMO, it is not over the top that a woman of your interest would want to speak to your wife to verify your relationship status, and you shouldn't be feeling it's a degrading of your trust just because she is looking out for her own safety :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is great, but we all have different reasons for not wanting to play with married guys. Mine is this.....I like having a FWB. Married men are therefore not for me. I dont want someone who has limits on the time we spend together. Or rules and regulations set by wifey. Im sure there are women who prefer to meet married guys for their own reasons though
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am in an open relationship. I have been on here for a while, but hubby only created his profile on another site on Friday. He's lucky that at this stage he's just looking at talking to other married women who are like me to get more of an idea as to why they opened their relationships and how it works for their husbands. But he will be looking at meeting people and having a fwb at some point. A lot of ladies won't meet with attached men for the reasons Koko and Sweetgem explained. For us we only have one single rule and that's protection must be used. But a lot of people in open relationships have a rules list a mile long. And a lot of single ladies would rather not deal with the hassle. I think as much as it feels like a judgment of trust asking for your wife's verification - you need to realise at the end of the day, these women don't know you at all. I wouldn't want hubby to have to verify but if I liked the person I would do it. The only reason is it's a little uncomfortable for hubby. So you need to make a choice - is the lady asking for verification worth pursuing and if the answer is yes, then I would see how your wife feels about it. Unfortunately there's a stigma about attached men - and one of the reasons is so many women have met and played with guys who state their wife knows when in fact she doesn't. I wish you the best of luck finding women, even though the odds are stacked against you. Soft x
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RHP User
10 years ago
It will be difficult for you to find single women for the reasons stated by the other posters. At first I was open to married men but a few negative experiences made me very wary. A few times I was made to feel like a free hooker...the Dr.Jeckyl Mr.Hyde thing ..😳 I do think it depends on your relationship dynamics,how open is your relationship ? Are you waning a FWB or FB? .Some women have posted here that they actually prefer an attached man because they don't want a primary relationship for themselves.so emotional unavailability suits them..xx Freya
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RHP User
10 years ago
To be honest (and I'll probably offend people here) it is men who are in open relationships that are far more available to me than most single men! They are genuine in meeting and I've not had restrictions from their partners or they from mine! It's a discussion I'm having with my hubby at the moment and he is stumped as to why I can't find a regular (every week/couple of weeks) friends with benefits! I'm at a stage in my life where I do have a lot of spare time and I can stay away overnight, the weekend and my hubby is a fantastic support. Me being married shouldn't be an issue but it is. I consider myself the perfect NSA but I wonder are genuinely single guys 'spoilt for choice?' Or are they unable to be in a 'relationship' for want of a better word, with a married women? Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
May I commend you on owning your relationship status. My story is simple but I'm sure a few women could relate A few years ago I was a member here. I started chatting with a lovely guy and we agreed to meet up for a drink, all went well, so well, that in fact 2 years later, we were married. So I always smile when people state that you cant meet someone from here, you can, usually when you're not looking and it was all unexpectant. And its for this reason that I don't want to meet with married/attached men. No, I'm not seeking another husband nor any other permanent relationship at present, but I like the fact that anyone I do meet, has the potential to grow into something else, if both persons wanted it and that is certainly not going to happened if one of us is attached. And for me personally, I'm not comfortable playing with a guy where his partner is not involved, as Summer stated, packaged deal or a no go. Even with his partners permission, it doesn't sit well with me and I'm not prepared to open myself up to any grief or hassles that could arise between the husband/wife and my involvement with him. Horses for courses. I salute anyone that can manage a open relationship, but I know, its not for me. To get the result you seek, respectfully only contact those ladies whose criteria you meet but as already stated, they will be few and far between.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have seen several profiles where the person states they are in an open relationship. Each partner has the others single profile in their friend list. They make mention of each other in their own profiles. That seems to work for them. Everything is above board and plainly open. I did meet a man for a coffee date at one time. His profile didn't mention being in an open relationship but he talk about it at length during our meeting. He also phoned his wife and they discussed what time he'd be home and what area he was in. I could clearly hear her on the other end of the phone call without having to actually talk to her in person. Even though everything was open I decided the situation was not for me but appreciated hearing her voice. I would have appreciated being told before the meeting about their arrangement. Hope this helps. Cheers LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
from women who presume all men must be pathological liars and not worth jack shit. Ladies , there are genuine men out there who are not all liars , but you will never know looking down from your ivory towers..
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jenniecruising
10 years ago
We are in an open relationship, both of us have single profiles although Cruising doesn't use his that much and I'm only on occasionally. Most of our dates have been with other couples we have met and have then decided to play with alone or with a single that both of us have also met. For me if I was to meet a guy who was attached I would prefer the partner to know as I would not like any door knock surprises lol (unless she is hot and wants to join in). Jennie xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
you do fit into the married criteria because well you're married. there are some single women who will play within open relationships. I sometimes do , its sometimes what i want.. the fun without the chance of any feelings developing because the other person is taken. However, you have to keep in mind that for a single woman its way way easier to go find a single guy who doesn't have all the restrictions on them that come with a open relationship even if you guys dont have 'rules' around what is an isnt allowed you still aren't going to have as much time to spend with her, you will have to check with your wife every time you want to meet up to make sure you don't already have plans that evening, you likely wont be able to host, and she's always going to be a lower priority especially when you're already getting laid by your wife. So basically your fighting an uphill battle against single guys but there are some girls that are happy with what an open relationship can offer them in terms of hooking up. Some may even find it quite attractive that you are allowed to play within a marriage . Your best bet would likely be finding other ladies in open relationships though as they would truly understand your dynamic.
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RHP User
10 years ago
for me to talk to the wife, i personally never have and would find it to be a very uncomfortable discussion - does that mean that maybe i am sometimes tricked into thinking a person is in an open relationship when they aren't? perhaps. but I can only go on what i've been told . besides whats to stop any guy getting a random female friend on the phone line to say that she is his wife? I don't find it to be a good way to verify at all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I went through this thread and I don't see a lot of the lying cheating scumbag posts at all...women re just speaking from personal experience of attached men and why they prefer single guys..more available less complicated. Your profile says ask me so I assume you are attached and not in an open relationship ,hence your comments.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' Is great, but we all have different reasons for not wanting to play with married guys. Mine is this.....I like having a FWB. Married men are therefore not for me. I dont want someone who has limits on the time we spend together. Or rules and regulations set by wifey. Im sure there are women who prefer to meet married guys for their own reasons though all these footloose, fancy-free fellows who don't come with an angsty-wife-at-home-load of time restrictions... I have team training twice a week, and competing three times during the week - "lack of restrictions"? yeah sure, except on the 5 days I'm restricted ;) (this post uses koko's quote, but it isn't really just a reply to her, her post just neatly summarised a lot of others) It sounds like the expectation is all these people don't have any restrictions and can go do something at the drop of a hat (which in some ways that comes rather close to bordering on the "we're not free hookers" cry which is levelled at the fellows who are a bit cruder in their pursuit of online sex...). Or that "single guys" won't have rules of their own, like some guys won't sleep over, or other things. I think in a previous thread Koko, you said that you wanted to be able to go away for weekends - and the perception is that attached folks are home with each other at those times, while singles are free on weekends. But while the two things might generally go hand-in-hand (pardon the pun) they aren't directly - for example Mary is attached but happy to spend weekends away. What is the difference between a single fellow and an attached one who has exactly the same interactions with you? I thought ChiChi's response just put out there what seems to be unconscious in a lot of reasoning behind the "no attached" - she likes to know the possibility is there for something additional (even though it probably - as most profiles on here do - says something about looking for more casual and less formalised and exclusive relationships).
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why do women feel uncomfortable in talking to the wife if the relationship is an honest open one? If there are no jealousy issues why stress in talking to her? Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
From talking to some married guys on here, Ive had some insight into what they can and cant do....no sleepovers, no smelling of FWBs perfume, ( I love wearing perfume) no going out for dinner, absolutely no contact made by the FWB...the list goes on. Not saying all open relationships have those stipulations but its something I could not be arsed with if I had a FWB. I know single people are not all foot loose and fancy free, myself included, but for ME personally, Id like to enjoy someones company without the thought of the significant other hovering in the background. I prefer the no complications of seeing someone who is single, thats my preference and what I am looking for on here. No reasoning in the world will ever have me in a FWB situation with someone married or attached. Open relationship or not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It just seems a lot easier to go to a venue or private party and if you are mutually attracted to one or more, just have a good bonk session and not worry about their circumstances or restrictions. And thanks, maybe run into you again sometimes. Bye😎
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just suck it up and realise yes....you are attached. And no....not many women here will give you much of a look-in. They all have there reasons, imagined or not, so best just to take it as reality and try not to fight it. Best bet would be to look for married women playing solo. They seem to get the idea of an open relationship a bit more, and realise it doesn't come with a list of rules and time restrictions, and can actually be easier when someone is able to hold down the household while the other goes off on a date. Best bet is just to meet fellow swingers I suggest, and leave the single women to play with their single men. It will save you a WHOLE lot of wasted time and you'll probably find others more open to the idea.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Livingandloving2' Why do women feel uncomfortable in talking to the wife if the relationship is an honest open one? If there are no jealousy issues why stress in talking to her? Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile I"m a really shy person for me its hard enough to speak to the guy i want to see let alone his wife too.. and like i said in my previous post whats to say its not some random woman on the phone claiming to be his wife anyway? It just seems a little pointless to me either I'm going to believe he is in an open relationship or I'm not , a phone call with the "wife' (who may or may not be the wife) isn't going to sway my decision either way and its just an uncomfortable situation all around example : Me - Hi her -hi me - so um you're cool with me banging your husband? her - yep me - alright then, thanks. screams awkward to me. But maybe that's just me... I dont mind the offer of a phone call with the wife but I wont play if the phone call is REQUIRED by the couple - a single guy would not have those requirements so I'd be better off just going with that if it were required that i speak with or meet the wife. just my two cents ...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes , you presume..
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RHP User
10 years ago
What part of ivory tower didn't you like ? Back track ? Waits over, I don't back track.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you everyone for all your valued comments and points of view (although seems I have opened a Pandora's box and I wasn't expecting the Spanish Inquisition...lol) I take on board all that has been said about single women vs married men, however everyone is different (that's what makes us all unique on this earth). Of the 4 women I have had FWB relationships with in the 2 years since open relationship status, ALL HAVE BEEN SINGLE WOMEN (just none in Perth - 3 interstate and 1 in country WA). Doesn't help when the Wife has one of her FWB in the next street "on tap".... Lol. Have been with couples but that doesn't work...too many rules. We have met up with single women as a couple. 1 woman was happy to play with us as a couple and my Wife on her own but not with me on my own because I was married. Isn't my Wife married too? Now that's just double standards!!! Many Guys don't care when meeting a woman in an open relationship...they just want to get their rocks off (although There is 1 guy who meets with my Wife who is considerate of me). That being said I am not your stereotypical male looking to get his rocks off. Giving pleasure to others rocks my world!!! How open is our relationship? Very. Only 2 rules...safe sex and informing the other what you are up to. Sleepovers, dinners, swingers parties, etc. all allowed. A true open relationship. But we are both fully able to draw the line as to what is purely fun and what is a committed, loving relationship. There are only so many married women out there in open relationships & it seems none in Perth. Looks like another trip on a plane coming up...lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my experience, I've been hit on by the male half of couples profiles a lot in the past, and in just about every case, they make out the partner knows, not always, their couples profile states 'we only play together', some say it's the male half but no mention of whether the partner knows, so when I ask them if she knows, the response is quite often, 'not yet but she will' blah blah or yes she does bs. I do play with attached people, I don't usually care, but I do care about being lied to AND I don't like to shit in my own nest, if that makes sense. If I can see a couple on here, then I think it's off for the male to be hitting on women when they state they only play together. I've never hooked up with the male from a couples profile, she's under the illusion they're only playing together, but he has other ideas. You, however, are doing it the correct way, so it's just a matter of finding women who are attracted to you and comfortable with your personal situation
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RHP User
10 years ago
I get heaps of guys willing to get to know me better even though married, but hubby has never had one female from this site interested....not because of lack of attraction, but due to their rules of no attached guys. Are females really THAT possesive or uptight that they'd rather have a FWB with a single guy (who fucks around at will) rather than an honest guy in an open relationship? Its a weird world... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
What a great attitude. You nailed it in one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To answer one of your questions, yes, you do fit into this category and from my experience most women with this in their profile will not meet you. There are a few exceptions to the rule (aren't there always), but on the whole you'd probably be wasting your time contacting them. If your wife is happy to be contacted by potential partners, it may increase your chances slightly, but if you're not happy taking that step, then it could limit your options further. Try a meet and greet too, women may be more willing to meet privately once they've met you in person, especially if your wife was at the meet and greet. At the end of the day though, some women will be looking for more than you can offer them, whether you think you can or not and others will just think you can't offer them what they're after, even if you can (and you won't be able to change their minds). You're left with the ones who are happy with your situation, which doesn't always leave that much choice. Despite all I've said though, good luck, there are some great women out there who are happy meeting a guy in an open marriage - you know who you are ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'respect_for_all' Thank you everyone for all your valued comments and points of view (although seems I have opened a Pandora's box and I wasn't expecting the Spanish Inquisition...lol) nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nice to hear I am not alone in this situation!!! You hit the nail on the head!!! Double standards at work. Even my Wife agrees.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'amos444' from women who presume all men must be pathological liars and not worth jack shit. Ladies , there are genuine men out there who are not all liars , but you will never know looking down from your ivory towers.. Amos ... most women have experienced the lies many men use to get into their pants. Why blame women for being skeptical when it is other men you have to thank for ruining it for the truly genuine guys? LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mrs Fr, you make a good point from an attached point of view regarding single v's open/attached that perhaps the attached male will be content with one fb compared to a single guy who may be trying for knotches on the belt. Possibly, for a single woman who is looking for just one fb who is happy with the same... Its a good match
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sweetgem
10 years ago
My sexual needs change with my circumstances. The majority of my time on RHP, I didn't want to meet any attached/married men for some critical reasons. But at one point, I was interested only in meeting those FIFO businessmen who are in a complete open relationship/marriage, as it was a stress free arrangement. However, now that my home situation is a lot more challenging and demands 98% of my time, I am unable to meet anyone at all (single and not single)! Therefore, as much as I would like to update my profile to reflect my change of needs, I am reluctant to do so as I am unable to deliver any promises. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'The_3somes' They seem to get the idea of an open relationship a bit more, and realise it doesn't come with a list of rules and time restrictions, We've been given many examples of open relationships that do come with a list of rules and restrictions. Every time this topic comes up, out come the same bitter attached men attacking and belilttling the single women for their choices. It's getting real old.
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wombat13at
10 years ago
We have an open relationship but I the Man only plays alone as She has no wish to on a rare occasion she has play 1on1 and stayed away with a GF play mate but not often she is aware and supportive of me playing alone as she is not into sex much these days and knows I have needs and wishes so allows me to play away even stay over night as long as she knows she is also willing to verify this with others doughting it.I know there will be Guys on here that state they in open relation ship but are not just playing on the side
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fr33Spirits' I get heaps of guys willing to get to know me better even though married, but hubby has never had one female from this site interested....not because of lack of attraction, but due to their rules of no attached guys. Are females really THAT possesive or uptight that they'd rather have a FWB with a single guy (who fucks around at will) rather than an honest guy in an open relationship? Its a weird world... - Posted from rhpmobile Funny, I've never regarded myself as being possessive or uptight. Just a female that knows exactly what works best for me in any given situation. As a person who does not feel the need to criticize others relationships, rules, non negotiable arrangements, out of respect, because I'm assuming people know exactly what works for them, why does one feel the need to criticise or question my or other females choices because it does not suit them ? Respect is a two way street.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im not possesive. Ive outlined my reasons for preferring single guys. There isnt any difference with a single FWB fucking someone else and an "honest husband" going home and fucking his wife.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Reading posts is what prompted me to post what I did. Which , by the way was not all that bad . May I suggest we reverse rolls and you put yourself in the shoes of the many innocent men some like to bash ? Notice I said some ? That's because the barbs seem to come from the same people with the same complaint. Just my observation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had coffee with my boyfriend's wife yesterday. However, I'm in this situation because it suits me, my lifestyle and what I'm looking for. It doesn't suit everyone. Whether it's because they want the possibility of more, have the (possibly erroneous) idea that a single man is more available for spontaneous meetings, sleep-overs, dinners, etc., have a previous bad experience or some other reason of their own... The women on here are entitled to want what they want without having to provide an explanation to anyone. It's hard enough for men who are single and 'available' to meet women on this site, your situation makes it exponentially more difficult. There's little point in complaining about the fact that men will shag married women happily enough... when it comes to sexual politics, the playing field is not even. You've heard the term 'homewrecker' right? Ever heard it applied to a man?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
With the choice of so many single men, why question why women dont go down the other path? I only finished year 9 and i can even work that out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'respect_for_all' Nice to hear I am not alone in this situation!!! You hit the nail on the head!!! Double standards at work. Even my Wife agrees. Who cares if its double standards, every individual has their own mind and can choose what they like.Does not matter what website you are on they all have around the same ratio of men to women and 80% of the time the same people with different pictures and funny enough the same attitude. Face it women are in high demand that's the way that is and nothing is going to change that, so therefore they can pick and choose as they like and fair play to them as well we say. The males (single & married) that are successful on these sites understand this and target their profiles to what the intended targets are. Profiles that are truthful, filled out correctly and in full with nice pictures (sorry but a mankini just does not appeal to anyone but drunken 20 somethings pissed at the end of year footy trip) are the ones who are getting lucky with your wife while you are here chatting/jumping on a bandwagon that has no wheels about something you can never change.
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RHP User
10 years ago
we seek single men, guys in open 'relationships'...are not single
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RHP User
10 years ago
I respectfully say this I found your initial comment last night about another kick in the guts, offensive The OP asked about why single women won't play with men in open relationships and a few ladies stated why, including myself. At no time did any of these women, attack or criticise the OP for his lifestyle, we stated our reasons and the OP took that on board. Yet you feel the need to come in and troll. Why I ask ? It would be fair to say that many women on here including myself have been lied to by partners/playmates ( what ever name you want to call your sex partner) who claim to be single and one has found out that is far from the case. We may have shared our experiences and yes at time we may sound hurt and bitter but guess what ? its not sexist. Men have been dealt the same blows as well. Its not gender specific, it is people interacting with others and sadly some interactions do not work out. People hurt You're a articulate poster when it suits you. I have liked some of your postings in the past but your constant sniping at Summer and grandstanding about men being bashed (verbally) makes me question , what in the hell are you doing here then? You do realize that all your postings are linked to your profile so any potential meet you have can read your forum postings ( in the hope of getting a feel for you) but I'm not real sure with your constant negative attitude , who you're going to attract, especially when you advertise on your profile that you like happy and vibrant people but that is not a image that you're projecting. Like attracts like. I can only assume that as a guest, and with no pics and "Ask me" as your relationship status that you are attached and contemplating infidelity, or perhaps your are just a bored businessman having a mid life crisis. I can only presume. But please give it up, is this really the image you wish to portray ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'The_3somes' They seem to get the idea of an open relationship a bit more, and realise it doesn't come with a list of rules and time restrictions, We've been given many examples of open relationships that do come with a list of rules and restrictions. Every time this topic comes up, out come the same bitter attached men attacking and belilttling the single women for their choices. It's getting real old. I was merely telling him to suck it up and deal with the fact most single women on here aren't interested. And to instead look for married women who like to play solo as they seem to have a better understanding of the dynamics involved. The instances of open relationships with lists of rules and ettiquette would probably be the same as many fwb arrangements, swinging couples rules etc. I'm far from bitter. Hence me telling him to try other avenues such as clubs etc rather than here. I know RHP isn't the place for a man in an open relationship to establish relationships. I wasn't criticizing the single womens choices at all. So stop looking for drama. You ain't gonna find it here. I have a life outside the forums which I'm quite happy with.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Get a room. You two you have more in common than you realise.It's an art turning attack into defense, imagine what tricks you could share as pillow talk.
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RHP User
10 years ago
First and foremost you are married and attached so you should respect that you are NOT what some women are looking, end of story.You and your wife appear to be quite worldly wise and as such you'll know how the demographics here work. As I write this there 3,725 users online and the ratio of women seeking men to men seeking women is 312 : 1,803 at approximately 6 : 1 that's quite a stack up and a reality check about life on RHP. Of those one woman to every six men, most are going to want to seek unattached men so the odds are even further stretched out of your favour, exponentially stretched at that and that's another RHP reality check.Whether you encourage women to "check" with your wife is a call only you and her can make. Some how I don't think it's going to make any difference. My wife has also made it abundantly clear that she doesn't want to know about any liaisons I may have. She will NOT consider telling another woman it's OK to jump my bones.In short yes I do think you are limited to the very few women willing to meet a married guy and of those few only a few will want to meet you, me or the next married guy. It's a numbers game but they are out there so look where you are likely to find these women, because some of them are finding it difficult to get past the predatory types too and will be quite happy to meet someone who will be there for them in the way that a man to be there. Yes there are a lot of variables but search the hay stack and you may well find that golden needle.Getting out and about and meeting RHPer's face to face is a great way to go and Perth provides plenty of opportunities to do so.Good luck, I hope this sheds some light on the subject for you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am an example of a guy who is attached, my wife is aware that I am on Rhp and my wife is doing her own thing with guys elsewhere in her own way (and obviously I am aware of what she is doing - most of the time) but neither her nor I consider our relationship to be truly 'open'. She coined the phrase and we have explicitly agreed on a "don't ask don't tell" arrangement. This makes us both feel comfortable even though we both have extramarital sex. Occasionally she tells me after an event or I tell her but mostly we don't. However, often our sex together is at its best when she gets home and tells me she has just done it with some random datr that she met (then it is straight to the bedroom for us). Our only stipulation (promise to each other) is that we do not play with people that we both know or either of us work with. The problem I encounter sometimes is that because I am always honest with women and tell them that I am attached, some women presume that I am cheating. Mostly this problem does not present itself but does from time to time. I think that we need to take some things on trust when dating through rhp - albeit as long as we feel comfortable. For me married people are by far the best candidates for NSA fwb because, by definition, they already have strings attached elsewhere. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Please don't speak for all married women. I have stated that we have one rule - protection, and that I am not restricted by my husband nor he by me. So I understand how OUR open relationship works. However - your statement is giving the OP the impression that married women understand because open relationships don't have rules? I can tell you now the amount of married/attached me who have contacted me in an open relationship with no rules = zero. In my experience there are a list of rules. Don't assume everyone has the same arrangement or that married women are more understanding. I'm married and would prefer to play with single guys for reasons similar to the single ladies. If a married guy who was in an open relationship contacted me and was in the same position with no rules - then bring it on. But I don't want to deal with someone's drama - married or not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My experience on RHP has been frustrating due to this issue. I have a beautiful wife who receives a lot of attention and when she wanted to explore her options we both set up my RHP profile so that I might have the opportunities to experience those same options. In my messages I mention that I'm married and that my wife has her friend and that I'm looking for someone for myself. Absolutely nothing! Isn't RHP supposed to be a swingers site?? I can't go on a "dating" site because I'm married! So what do I do - lie or just give up on swinging as a bad joke??
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RHP User
10 years ago
Recently lied to by a guy who forgot he was married until our third meet up...so I am now seeing a man in a open relationship and love that there is no lying, find their open relationship very sexy and refreshing. Liars give decent guys on here a bad name.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's against my own moral compass but I would be curious to know women's take on what makes the honesty of a guy saying he is up front and open about an open relationship and it being a less attractive option than compared to a sifting through the fairly high amount of guys who are married and know the odds are against him on this site and chooses to lie and tell someone what they want to hear ie yeah sure I'm single. Just curious ? Cheers W
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10 years ago
Perhaps just call him Jack 😁xxFreya
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10 years ago
It not about the honesty for me...I just dont see married guys full stop. Doesnt matter if he is in an open relationship or lying through his teeth, the fact that he is attached just doesnt attract me. I prefer someone who is single like myself, has no worries about whats going on at home when we are out, and gives me 100% attention when we are together without checking the phone or his watch. And yes, there are a lot of respectful and lovely single guys on here, so why should we choose someone who is attached.In the same way, your profile says no single guys. I could ask why not, go on, give them a chance??? So its our own preference in the end.
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10 years ago
You start your comments with "every individual has their own mind and can choose what they like", then proceed at the end to criticise and attack my choice of attire on my profile pic!!!! (MY choice). I rest my case. At least I don't have a picture of a raging hard on like a lot of guys!!! Target profiles to their intended targets? You make it sound like a job interview or a marketing promotion!!!!! It's a swinging site!!! My experience tells me many people don't read profiles anyway...just troll for pictures. Obviously you are not representative of the 3 lovely SINGLE ladies I visit in Adelaide.
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10 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Not-the-real-Annie, how shall we refer to you? You know the drill...
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10 years ago
As a relatively new member, and in a similar situation as the OP, I’ve been following this thread very attentively and learned quite a bit. I agree with everyone who said that this is a game where women have an upper hand and can be picky and choosy as much as they like. We guys can only go to Bunnings and grab a bag of cement. I try to play by the rules and mainly approach women that have not ruled out unattached men. However, I’ve approached a few women here that have Unattached in their profile but only when I thought that they may be willing considering an alternative arrangement that they have not thought of when they listed their preferences originally. I always describe my situation at the start of the message and would never think that I have been treated unfairly when rejected. My question for those who have been around far longer than I have is – with couples here, is it expected that both partners will play? Are there couples where F or M plays and the other doesn’t? Because, this is exactly what my situation is – I am here for broader experiences while my wife is not interested in physical contacts with other people (she is ok with potential friends-only arrangements…). So, should I convert my profile into Couple and play it that way? Would this be seen more acceptable when approaching women than being the ‘solo’ married guy on RHP?
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10 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' Please don't speak for all married women. I have stated that we have one rule - protection, and that I am not restricted by my husband nor he by me. So I understand how OUR open relationship works. However - your statement is giving the OP the impression that married women understand because open relationships don't have rules? I can tell you now the amount of married/attached me who have contacted me in an open relationship with no rules = zero. In my experience there are a list of rules. Don't assume everyone has the same arrangement or that married women are more understanding. I'm married and would prefer to play with single guys for reasons similar to the single ladies. If a married guy who was in an open relationship contacted me and was in the same position with no rules - then bring it on. But I don't want to deal with someone's drama - married or not. I'm not speaking for married women. I'm telling the OP that married women who play solo are probably his best option. In MY experience they're a lot more accepting of the situation and more understanding. Not all married women who play solo are going to take him up on the offer but they are his best target audience which is what he should be trying to attract on here if he wishes to have success is it not? I seriously didn't realise all these open relationships came with so many rules and regulations you all talk of. Guess we've just been lucky in that the people we've made friends with have been accepting of us as a couple and don't judge. Some are happy to play with either or both of us. I thought the whole point of opening up a relationship was so you were free to explore and have fun, with and without your partner. Never knew it was like writing up a bill of legislation. Guess we're a special little snowflake lol.
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10 years ago
You bemoan the lack of interest yet have 3 women in Adelaide and one in WA? Four not enough?
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10 years ago
I haven't been to Adelaide for over a year. Used to travel there a lot for work but not any more. The lady in WA is 600km from home. Lucky if I see her 3 - 4 times a year.. In this circumstance no I would say it's not enough. Simply clarifying a point about single ladies vs married guys. At least I am getting closer to finding someone in Perth....lol.
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10 years ago
hey, great question and I do believe it's hard. I'm in a polyamorous and recently married relationship. My husband has found it hard (for the last 3 years we've done this) to find guenuine female partners. Hope at the end of the tunnel is, they do exist! It is rewarding with effort. Generally we attend parties to network and meet female partners for him. The wording there may sound funny to most but as you've mentioned OP ladies want to meet the wife. It's a running joke (for me) that at a party I spend half my time explaining to lovely ladies that, yes, you can have sex with that man. I can't say I enjoy the role much (I prefer to enjoy him and other men there) but it supports my loved one. There are fruitful matches and friendships to be made this way for both of you. It's worth a shot. Anything that is outside an expected structure will be a harder path, if you are like me and believe it's worth it- you will get moments of pure joy. Sometimes you will need to judge what is useful information and what is not. I'm full disclosure on my relationship but not my two kids on my profile. Ask the right question and I wouldn't lie. I believe the HotWives had a point in that open marriages can be a far better option for ongoing fun and I would argue that most of the limitations mentioned in the comments are perception based, rather than fact. Partnered people are far more reliable and comitted to meetings than free agents in my humble expirience. They are often more loving, communicative and enjoy dating as much as rumpy pumpy. They're a bit less dumpy, dumpy too. I prefer singles as I want a young age bracket (young relationships are doubtless harder to navigate). That's my preference, based my own predijuce when it comes to stamina and a youthful face. If I wanted a lover further than 7 years my senior then, yes, I'd be chasing the married open guys for sure. I hope the forum does help. I think this is a great thing to talk about OP. I would love to remove/distance myself from my husbands girlfriends in the future. They are not dating me (currently) as well. I have Juicier finish to fry. I wish more women would trust it is ok and take the leap. It's a bit draining. Annnnnd I'm out! L_D. X - Posted from rhpmobile
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10 years ago
I think you guys are awesome. You're very lucky to have each other and it's great you're both so open. This concept is a little hard for some to grasp and to give some balance to this discussion, I have no problem with attached people, actually find them more available, ones I've been lucky enough to spend time with are, for the best part, only spending time with their significant other, and me that's all they can squeeze in after work and life commitments factor in as well. They're also like me, horny and very grateful for the action, which adds to the heat of the encounters. Where I've found single guys chase around after other women and are quite often elusive, the attached guy usually (not always), doesn't have time for any more than one fuck buddy. The attached fb works best with me though, when they're honest and I can then make a judegement call on the situation, I do sometimes leave them well alone, for various reasons that I won't go into. I still filter them the same as any others though and don't discriminate
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10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' In the same way, your profile says no single guys. I could ask why not, go on, give them a chance??? So its our own preference in the end. Yes, this really grinds my gears. They're allowed to have preferences and say no to certain groups of people, but attack single women for doing the same thing. THAT is the definition of a double standards guys. Also the comments ''isn't this a swinger's site??'' - again that idea that because of the type of site it is, women shouldn't have preferences and should be willing to fuck anyone.
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10 years ago
to your profile and pic. Best of luck. LG
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10 years ago
Quoting 'respect_for_all' You start your comments with "every individual has their own mind and can choose what they like", then proceed at the end to criticise and attack my choice of attire on my profile pic!!!! (MY choice). I rest my case. At least I don't have a picture of a raging hard on like a lot of guys!!! Target profiles to their intended targets? You make it sound like a job interview or a marketing promotion!!!!! It's a swinging site!!! My experience tells me many people don't read profiles anyway...just troll for pictures. Obviously you are not representative of the 3 lovely SINGLE ladies I visit in Adelaide. Hey obviously with 3 imaginary lovely ladies in Adelaide you need no advice.I see you changed your picture though ;)
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10 years ago
We're obviously coming from different directions. You from your experiences and me from mine. Difference is , unlike you , I'm not about to go on a rant and find a reason to criticise you for what you experienced. But lumping all males into one category as far as I'm concerned is a kick in the guts . If that offends you I'm sorry. But it's the truth.
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10 years ago
Quoting 'minxycouple' I haven't been to Adelaide for over a year. Used to travel there a lot for work but not any more. The lady in WA is 600km from home. Lucky if I see her 3 - 4 times a year.. In this circumstance no I would say it's not enough. Simply clarifying a point about single ladies vs married guys. At least I am getting closer to finding someone in Perth....lol.
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10 years ago
Ah ok... Was beginning to think you were Mr Greedy
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10 years ago
Ah ok... Was beginning to think you were Mr Greedy
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10 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' In the same way, your profile says no single guys. I could ask why not, go on, give them a chance??? So its our own preference in the end. Yes, this really grinds my gears. They're allowed to have preferences and say no to certain groups of people, but attack single women for doing the same thing. THAT is the definition of a double standards guys. Also the comments ''isn't this a swinger's site??'' - again that idea that because of the type of site it is, women shouldn't have preferences and should be willing to fuck anyone. swingers don't just fuck anything, but they do fuck
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10 years ago
My married friend only lives 400Ks from me.
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10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'minxycouple' I haven't been to Adelaide for over a year. Used to travel there a lot for work but not any more. The lady in WA is 600km from home. Lucky if I see her 3 - 4 times a year.. In this circumstance no I would say it's not enough. Simply clarifying a point about single ladies vs married guys. At least I am getting closer to finding someone in Perth....lol. On page 2 ... I actually suggested cross referencing to give those ladies questioning his status, something to go by when deciding how to respond to his approaches. I don't think its fair to criticize someone who is genuinely trying to do the right thing. LG
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10 years ago
the above refers to your heading of "Cross Advertising now?" which for some reason didn't copy over. LG
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10 years ago
Not questioning his honesty....I know his lovely wife. Its the fact that I DO NOT have an interest in attached guys and why should I change my mind because it doesn't sit well with some people? Im sure you have your preferences and would not like people questioning them? If attached people are such a good deal why dont they stick to other attached men and women?
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10 years ago
In relation to your topic. Im married quite happily and for a period I had a full time gf as well. My wife and her would plan who was having me what night....sleepovers we're had. But like all good things it eventually came to end. She got a little single white female on me and tried assuming the position of my wife. So I had to cut ties. It was great while it lasted, but when you end up being treated like a piece of stud meat....its time too move on. I can completely understand all sides to this argument...however I'm comfortable in the fact I know what my wife and I agree on. And even people who aren't in the scene are often privy to the fact that we are swingers. Its just how we roll.
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10 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' the above refers to your heading of "Cross Advertising now?" which for some reason didn't copy over. LG I just wondered why he responded to Koko's comment with the other profile, but fair enough
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10 years ago
At what point was anyone lumping anyone into any one category ? Please indicate the post or poster that did this Or perhaps you need to go back and reread all the posts made prior to your initial posting to clarify as you will find no ranting or lumping there, just persons sharing their preferences and their reasons why Nothing can offend me if it doesn't exist However and irrespective, one can only hope that you stay on topic and stop with the constant sniping. It becomes no one.
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10 years ago
Koko....i think you have directed your response to the wrong person or misunderstood something I have said. My previous comment was meant to be directed to I Touch regarding the sarcastic Cross Referencing title to her last comment .... I have no problem with whatever people choose to have as their preference so long as there is no deception. For the record I too prefer singles so we are on the same page there. I am not going to argue the point on anyone else's behalf as to why they should or shouldn't have certain preferences. We all have different different experiences and situations which shape our preferences. Each to their own is my motto and good luck to them if it works for them so long as honesty is involved. OP has made changes to his profile which I feel will help clear the air regarding his situation and support from his wife. Kudos for making the effort and hopefully it will work in his favour. LG
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10 years ago
But in fairness we have tried single guys...and girls...and attached men and girls. We don't really have any preference, the only reason we have no single guys on our profile is simply because for now mrs3 isn't interested in mfm threesomes. And because like most women on here, she doesn't have much trouble finding one to fit the bill if the need does arise. If a single guy has a playmate and approaches us and we like the offer, well the more the merrier lol. We'd rather just not waste their time or ours with messages that arent going to lead anywhere. If someone says they aren't searching for couples or attached men/women we don't contact them unless we're advertising a party or social event.
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10 years ago
RHP really should priovide a No Guys option so the sinlge men don't feel so set upon all the time.
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10 years ago
For your information, I wasn't being sarcastic. Sarcasm is when the intent of the comment is questionable or has a hidden agenda/third person. It was obvious what I was questioning, and regardless of what advice you gave the op, it was a normal response to the op starting a topic with one profile and then responding with another further into the topic. Rarely does this ever happen, by personal message yes. Nothing wrong with it as such but without explanation, confusion can follow. Sarcasm wasn't my intention when I wrote the comment, thank you for your thoughts anyway 😃
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10 years ago
Quoting 'The_3somes' RHP really should priovide a No Guys option so the sinlge men don't feel so set upon all the time. The problem with that is everyone clicks the option and all of a sudden a excellent revenue stream stops.
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10 years ago
"I FUCK MARRIED MEN " See me...
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10 years ago
To tell the truth , I didn't bother reading all your rant because of its predictable nature. Why didn't you bother reading what I said. To repeat , I said we are both coming from different directions because of our different experiences. Seems the only opinions that count is yours and anyone else with the same beef. Then you ask me to read every post ? Why ? it's the same complaint just worded differently ? I believe this is a open forum yes ? You will always find difference of opinions. Best we just agree to disagree.
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10 years ago
Thank you for your reply I read all of your postings as how could I comment on what you say accurately if I didn't ? I prefer knowledge over assuming A shame you didn't read all of mine, and chose the path of ignorance, but I doubt that is the case as I'm sure you couldn't help yourself but I guess you write what you write to empower yourself. No, my opinion is irrelevant to you and to others, it matters not, but I can see you are beyond redemption. You have today continued with your sniping, bitching and your aggressive posting on other threads which only confirms to myself and no doubt to others including readers , of your misogynistic nature Yes this is a open forum but you are also a guest of RHP on these forums and you do not have freedom of speech to be nasty and bully that you think you do, your posts are put up at RHP discretion. Talking of being open how's that relationship status of "ask me" working out for you ? It took me awhile to figure it out. I thought Sydney was a large city, but it is indeed quite small Anyway, good luck with it all. :-)
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10 years ago
Why be married. Open relation is simply wrong. When u took ur vows abciously u didn't hear the bit when it says for better or for worse and by the way , go off and meet other people then come home to each other and tell each other or not how was ur nite. Sorry people but this is a male driven I want a taste of different pussy but still carry all the marital benefits. Why can't u both experience together , hence the word together when u first met and took those sacret vows ! Luv to.hear from women that suggest to their husband , hunny is it ok if I look for different cock while u go to work. U can do the same if u want. HELLO !!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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10 years ago
Quoting 'agedtoperfection' Why be married. Open r way , go off and meet other people then come home to each other and tell each other or not how was ur nite. Sorry people but this is a male driven I want a taste of different pussy but still carry all the marital benefits. Why can't u both experience together , hence the word together when u first met and took those sacret vows ! Luv to.hear from women that suggest to their husband , hunny is it ok if I look for different cock while u go to work. U can do the same if u want. HELLO !!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile I have an extremely high sex drive. To explain what that feels like from the inside out, I couldn't fit that into a forum post, but it's heightened arousal, orgasmic, sensitive to touch, even a breath of air, I feel it all. Even as I'm typing this, my pussy is aching, so your idea that it's male driven, not in my world it's not. If you yourself don't need sex to be a major player, fine, but for those who do, I don't believe it's gender driven
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10 years ago
Maybe "no married or attached men" is in other words saying " I really want a young guy with abs about 10-15 years younger than me" - Posted from rhpmobile
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10 years ago
What makes you think it's a "male" thing? My wife is the one that initiated our open marriage, not because she's missing anything but because she feels safe with me to explore her fantasies. She has her FWB from the real world but it's hard for a married guy on here even when you're honest about your situation but I'm in no hurry and happy to wait for the right woman to come along. We tried swinging as a couple but could never find the 4-way compatiablilty so this is working a bit better for us. So drop the stereotypes as we all have our own individual motivations to be here on RHP. - Posted from rhpmobile
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10 years ago
Aww. FFS.. The rant continues. Because I don't care to waste time on negative comments doesn't mean I'm arrogant . To the contrary. Simply means I don't care to read the same things over and over again. Try posting something positive, then watch the positive reaction. Please note '. I'm not into War and Peace replies because I don't need to , nor do I need to search every other post looking for barbs. Best you ignore my posts and just move on..
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10 years ago
You got that right.. Playing together is the right thing to do when you're both on the same page. Sadly ' some can't have it that way , that's when the heart ache begins..
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10 years ago
Quoting 'agedtoperfection' Why be married. Open relation is simply wrong. When u took ur vows abciously u didn't hear the bit when it says for better or for worse and by the way , go off and meet other people then come home to each other and tell each other or not how was ur nite. Sorry people but this is a male driven I want a taste of different pussy but still carry all the marital benefits. Why can't u both experience together , hence the word together when u first met and took those sacret vows ! Luv to.hear from women that suggest to their husband , hunny is it ok if I look for different cock while u go to work. U can do the same if u want. HELLO !!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile Why do you assume there's something wrong with a marriage for it to be open? We evolved TOGETHER from a happy little twosome into an open relationship at our own pace...the key word being together. It was far from driven by me, if anything Mrs3 had more of a role in it to be perfectly honest, just through the fact she has a lot more opportunity for play being a female. We still play on our own, with others TOGETHER, and with others apart. Thats the beauty of an open relationship. You might think it morally wrong, but if you're going to bring marriage vows into it I think you're barking up the wrong tree if you're swinging with your husband lol. Don't know what world you live in, but in the one I come from women have just as much say in a marriage as the man and aren't told what to do. If I tried to force this lifestyle on Mrs3 I think I'd be living in a homeless shelter.
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10 years ago
You could always try again. lol..
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10 years ago
of how a genuine post gets lost amongst a tirade that has not much to do with the original topic... I will try CAPS next time - Posted from rhpmobile
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10 years ago
Don't choke! lol Rad Dad right here... "Was" a husband, not going to be again and 5 years difference 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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10 years ago
I just wondered why he responded to Koko's comment with the other profile, but fair enough In response to your comment above, the reason I replied from our couples profile was twofold. To involve my Wife on the conversation and to prove my situation is genuine. Unlike some people on here, male or female, single, attached or married I am not a liar. I also have manners and respectful of others....2 things that aren't always returned. If I message someone on RHP I always ask for a "thanks but no thanks" response if they are not interested. Just common courtesy given I have made the effort, not just trolled through looking at pics or sent endless winks. Lucky if I get around 20% that do. And just to clarify, I HAVE NEVER contacted anyone who has "unattached" or "no married men" on their profile.
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10 years ago
Quoting 'respect_for_all' I just wondered why he responded to Koko's comment with the other profile, but fair enough In response to your comment above, the reason I replied from our couples profile was twofold. To involve my Wife on the conversation and to prove my situation is genuine. Unlike some people on here, male or female, single, attached or married I am not a liar. I also have manners and respectful of others....2 things that aren't always returned. If I message someone on RHP I always ask for a "thanks but no thanks" response if they are not interested. Just common courtesy given I have made the effort, not just trolled through looking at pics or sent endless winks. Lucky if I get around 20% that do. And just to clarify, I HAVE NEVER contacted anyone who has "unattached" or "no married men" on their profile. No problem. I never doubted you were genuine anyway. I had no reason to. I'm just a bit different in that I rarely go into profiles of forumites, I consider it an instrusion for some reason, don't ask me why, but just talk to people without being influenced by what I see in their profile, I prefer it that way. Occasionally I do but not often. We're all here for a reason, that's fine, you don't have to explain yourself, all good
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10 years ago
Quoting 'Reedgee' As a relatively new member, and in a similar situation as the OP, I’ve been following this thread very attentively and learned quite a bit. I agree with everyone who said that this is a game where women have an upper hand and can be picky and choosy as much as they like. We guys can only go to Bunnings and grab a bag of cement. I try to play by the rules and mainly approach women that have not ruled out unattached men. However, I’ve approached a few women here that have Unattached in their profile but only when I thought that they may be willing considering an alternative arrangement that they have not thought of when they listed their preferences originally. I always describe my situation at the start of the message and would never think that I have been treated unfairly when rejected. My question for those who have been around far longer than I have is – with couples here, is it expected that both partners will play? Are there couples where F or M plays and the other doesn’t? Because, this is exactly what my situation is – I am here for broader experiences while my wife is not interested in physical contacts with other people (she is ok with potential friends-only arrangements…). So, should I convert my profile into Couple and play it that way? Would this be seen more acceptable when approaching women than being the ‘solo’ married guy on RHP? Yes your post did get lost in the back and forth world of the forum as we know it lol But I found it again and IMHO you should remain as a single. You should only have a couples profile if both are here to play or watch or whatever, be involved in some way. Otherwise it's deceptive or will appear that way, and not appreciated by women. What I will say is that I visited your profile (not something I do often in the forum lol) and was really impressed. The written part is amazing. You've put so much thought into that and it's all there, no surprises and some beautiful words. I enjoyed reading it. The only thing I think might work against you, being that you're already limited to the small number of women who will meet attached men, is it seems a bit fussy, and a bit judgemental. This is not a criticism as it may appear, I just think you have a lot of requirements for example, is it really necessary to say you don't want a woman to talk about what she saw on tv, that kind of thing. (for the record, I don't own a tv but better to stick to things that matter more) And you assume that women who go 'straight for your dick' and that would be me lol aren't capable of any other sort of interaction, conversation, drinks, dinner, that we don't have a brain, that's the implication. Being interested in sexual pleasure or having that play out quickly doesn't mean the individual can't be everything else you want but if you limit yourself any further, you reduce the already small pool of candidates, even further. Just my opinion of course but well done for your profile, one of the best I've seen in quite some time
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10 years ago
Youve "modified" your profile. A tad misleading, perhaps?
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10 years ago
I said remain as a single profile, what I meant of course was remain as it is as an individual profile stating married, the way you currently have it set up
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10 years ago
Yeah, what's the deal there? You're now single?
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10 years ago
taken on board. I just think that if people were honest, not just here but also generally in life, things would be so much easier for everyone... Thanks forumists
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10 years ago
Quoting 'agedtoperfection' Why be married. Open r way , go off and meet other people then come home to each other and tell each other or not how was ur nite. Sorry people but this is a male driven I want a taste of different pussy but still carry all the marital benefits. Why can't u both experience together , hence the word together when u first met and took those sacret vows ! Luv to.hear from women that suggest to their husband , hunny is it ok if I look for different cock while u go to work. U can do the same if u want. HELLO !!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile In response to your post, we are all individuals. What works for some people doesn't work for others. I don't pretend that I know your personal situation, nor you know ours. So let me fill you in on why we have an open relationship: 1. KIDS. We were swinging together long before we had children. Then we had a break from it for a while to have our children. Now that they are old enough going to school & to leave with a babysitter, we have started back swinging again. Problem is if we arrange to meet up with someone together, I can't tell you how many times the other party has cancelled, or we cannot find a babysitter, making it very frustrating and time consuming trying to get the planets to align when we can both be available. 2. WORK: I work away FIFO and my Wife is a stay home Mother. I would rather she has her needs met when I am not here and we are honest about it than she going behind my back which is what happens with many other FIFO families. 3. LOVE: Regardless of the arrangements we enter into, we still love each other very much and support each other. We are always able to draw the line at what is fun and what is love. 4. ATTRACTION EXCLUSIVITY: Our experience with couples is that there needs to be a 4 way connection (or a 3 way connection if having a threesome). In many cases, if 1 person of the group is not attracted to the others or by the others, then it doesn't work. 1 on 1 is a lot less complicated. We still do play together but only if we go to swingers parties or clubs together. Being married for us doesn't mean you are chained together at the wrists & ankles 24 hours a day. Quoting 'agedtoperfection' Why be married. Open relation is simply wrong. When u took ur vows abciously u didn't hear the bit when it says for better or for worse and by the way , go off and meet other people then come home to each other and tell each other or not how was ur nite. Sorry people but this is a male driven I want a taste of different pussy but still carry all the marital benefits. Why can't u both experience together , hence the word together when u first met and took those sacret vows ! Luv to.hear from women that suggest to their husband , hunny is it ok if I look for different cock while u go to work. U can do the same if u want. HELLO !!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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10 years ago
Quoting 'Hotwives_Inc' To be honest (and I'll probably offend people here) it is men who are in open relationships that are far more available to me than most single men! They are genuine in meeting and I've not had restrictions from their partners or they from mine! It's a discussion I'm having with my hubby at the moment and he is stumped as to why I can't find a regular (every week/couple of weeks) friends with benefits! I'm at a stage in my life where I do have a lot of spare time and I can stay away overnight, the weekend and my hubby is a fantastic support. Me being married shouldn't be an issue but it is. I consider myself the perfect NSA but I wonder are genuinely single guys 'spoilt for choice?' Or are they unable to be in a 'relationship' for want of a better word, with a married women? Mary xx Quoting 'Hotwives_Inc' To be honest (and I'll probably offend people here) it is men who are in open relationships that are far more available to me than most single men! They are genuine in meeting and I've not had restrictions from their partners or they from mine! It's a discussion I'm having with my hubby at the moment and he is stumped as to why I can't find a regular (every week/couple of weeks) friends with benefits! I'm at a stage in my life where I do have a lot of spare time and I can stay away overnight, the weekend and my hubby is a fantastic support. Me being married shouldn't be an issue but it is. I consider myself the perfect NSA but I wonder are genuinely single guys 'spoilt for choice?' Or are they unable to be in a 'relationship' for want of a better word, with a married women? Mary xx I think the problem here is that single guys have a problem with committing to a regular 'relationship' for want of a better word, with any woman. If you start to get something regular happening with them, they tend to see it as a 'relationship' and can't cope with the commitment. imo
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