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For ur info guys (and some girls) - STOP WASTING MY TIME
December 27 2010
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SexyArse
15 years ago
U beat me to it. I realised I had spelt it wrong as I was sending it. Was going to correct myself with another comment but u beat me to it. (How annoying though as I also hate how people publish forums that are spelt incorrectly or grammatically incorrect)How about commenting on the topic at hand though rather than my shocking spelling - lmaoMrs SAOT
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yet we haven't experienced it yet. We don't often set up dates with new couples, but the ones that we have, have been there on time (or texted to say they would be a little late). Maybe couples are more reliable... I don't know? Mrs W xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
HI Mrs SAOT, A year ago when I was first meeting guys from here I had several experiences of being stood up including one where I waited in the rain at the beach for the SOB to arrive. I don't give second chances when they can't even have the courtesy to txt. I have also had a few experiences of guys changing their mind on the day but at least they let me know so I can go to my "reserve" option ! I just figure that some guys get off on the talk and then are afraid of meeting. The fantasy is more powerful than the reality !! I have also been guilty of backing out of a meeting but I ALWAYS txt or usually phone the guy and explain why I can't meet. It's usually due to work or family issues and I have only once done it at the last minute (I still feel like a bitch for cancelling on such a lovely guy although I've since made it up to him !). I don't know what the approach should be.... I value my time and my body. IF I'm not important to treat with respect then that's not the guy I want to meet (or play with). Regards, Miss Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
Totally agree with you on that one Sexyarseontap
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' HI Mrs SAOT, I waited in the rain at the beach for the SOB to arrive. MMM what picture this comment paints. Sad and beautiful at the same time. Thanks, i see the glow of saturn from here. I can hear the waves and smell the rain and feel the cool wind on my face.A distant figure alone on the beach,its a beautiful silent veiw, against the noise of wind n waves,this is your time to listen to the secrets in the wind,and know its song. Detonator mmm see ya Love the rain!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I find it easier to get straight to a phone call, don't do msn and arrange a meeting sooner rather than later. Hope this helps
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RHP User
15 years ago
seems to me that a guy would have to be a total moron to stand you up Mrs SAOT... shame your W.A. Ive never cancelled without telling the other party and expect the same in return also
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RHP User
15 years ago
Seems to me that a guy would have to be a complete moron to stand you up Mrs SAOT....shame your in W.A ;-). Inever cancel without reason and i always inform the other party, and I expect the same in return.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah...it's the sucks when that happens :( Like Miss_Saturn says, if the guy/girl stands you up and doesn't even have the common courtesy to text or call then they are not worth spending time with anyway. Unfortunately I have been messed around a bit, even though I have only been on RHP but a short while. Thankfully it was nothing drastic, just felt like it was alot of winding up then the guy doesn't want to know you. Perhaps they chickened out? Or maybe the lead up was just sport to them?? Either way I dodged a bullet there!! At least I didn't sleep with them and then they refused to speak to me etc!!! I just try not to take their negativity on but it gets tiresome when it happens a few times in a row! Have faith, keep smiling, don't let that crap get you down xxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes sexyarse...couldnt agree more.How hard is it to keep a time after you have said you would be there.I have heard them all ...wife sick,called to work ,car broke down and of course trafficWell they can all get fucked as far as i'm concerned.Buy a magazine and use your hand and stop wasting other peoples time.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yep Sexyarseontap....we have heard them all as well.How about some of these;Called into workPartner has fluCar broke downPatrner won't let me goCouldn't find your placeAnd the latest...too much traffic
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SexyArse
15 years ago
bayside7 - love ur comment about buying a magazine - what a crack upLuxe_laces ur a sweetie - I am not so much down I just get annoyed at timewastersnot_lookingnomor - ur a sweetie, thank u
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RHP User
15 years ago
I love the ones who have a car accident on their way to meet you and the police confiscate the car for a couple of days and they can not access their phone!! Amazing how many people that happens to
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SexyArse
15 years ago
very true
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Ringleader
15 years ago
And its not just guest profiles. Even the people who pay to be here do it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Time wasters had a few of them over time tyre kickers see if ur serious you arrange to meet up for a meet and greet say meet you at a prearranged place never show up I agree ,or if they put preasure on you to prove who you say who you are meet at certain place, or send txt message with an unknown number(so no reply return of message)timewasters or singe men posing as a couple not quite into this meetting thing,have had the occasion where we went to meet a suppsed meetting place but no show (we thought maybe they wanted to check us out at a distant then opologiesvia txt that they couldn't make it.me thinks the best was the one where we and the other party had been corresponding for the last year,tho we hadn't met thought this was the real dealonly to get the txt about she broke her leg is off for the next 6 weeks,but through contacts of ours found very different (Iguess truth must hurt us if they didn't wanna meet us call and save face,oh well thats life
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am so glad this happens to everyone else as well. So many guys...(and I only say guys because that is all I am looking for, I am sure women and couples are guilty of this as well I have just not come across them)........do this! you swap pis, they are all keen....message back and forth then when you send a message with a date....no response...or you txt them.....no response.....then weeks later they message you like they didnt get the message. Maybe some are new enough to this site not to know that I can see that they have read the message I have sent?? I have had that excuse before too...."oh, I only got you message today...sorry", when I know for a fact that they read it the same day I sent it...... Some are legitimate excuses I am sure...I just find it hard to believe in soooo many coincidences of not getting messages or txts...or being soooo busy they can't reply! I don't mind if I send gallery access and I am not what they are after and I never hear from them again...I don't even need a no thanks....but don't view the pics....say you love them and are keen and then back out at the last minuit!! It is very frustrating!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
It happens to all of us.I personally have only ever cancelled for genuine reasons, and that only been twice, and usually with plenty of notice. People sometimes get cold feet, or a better offer comes along, or they might not be feeling like it. But it is frustrating. I remember once getting a cancellation text about 20 mins before i got to the scheduled meeting. It was annoying, but i got to now the girl well and understood her reasons.I am glad i gave her the second chance, or i would have missed out on someone very special. On another occasion we had organized a dinner, after catching up for coffee, we were chatting all week, all was going good. On the day of the dinner i texted here about 3pm, and she replied yep, looking forward to it..see you at 8. Anyway i got ther a few minutes before, got my table and waited..at 8.15 i texted her to see where she was..no answer..rang at 8.30..no answer...ebede up leaving at 9pm...and to this day no answer..go figure that one??
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RHP User
15 years ago
We are new to this but it seem strange that people would spend all the time to get to know someone and organise to meet and then not turn up at all. I know for us that we would turn up no matter what as its the right thing to do and we want to meet / play with this person/persons. Seems strange people do this and very wrong
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have never stood anyone up without a real explanation, that's just rude. I have been guilty of backing out at the last moment, but this was with someone who was just too pushy on the phone - she was all questions and no answers, and the interaction made all my alarm bells ring. It felt like a job interview, and I was just one of several anonymous applicants. I didn't stand her up, just said that I was pulling out (early). She reminded me far too much of someone I met on here years ago with whom I had a very weird encounter, I suspect it was the same person. Sorry that there are so many rude blokes out there.
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Well thank u all for your input. Wow there really are some jerks out there. I am surprised not many people have commented though as I would have thought this would have happened to most people at one time or another.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We are in the tourism industry and do often have last minute roster changes or my husband gets called in on a day off, so we have had to cancel plans.... All the time wasters make the genuine people that just have last minute genuine changes look bad!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Damn Right!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have been stood up twice, not cancelled, just completely "i'll be there at X time" and then nothing and (admittedly i was new to internet-arranged liaisons) was nice/dumb/bored enough to arrange another time months later with one of them after he contacted me and apologised and admitted that he had just plain chickened out. He showed up for the next meeting and about 30mins into the lamest most unsatisfying experience i've ever had I eventually gave up, said it was obviously not working for either of us so we should probably just give it a miss and suggested he get dressed and leave. Lesson learned! :D
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SexyArse
15 years ago
I have had a few experiences where the guy is absolutely useless (didn't know what they were doing) and I didn't have the guts to tell them to "get off and go home" - lmao. I need to build up my courage and realise there is no point to being dishonest!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thats rude and not right, if you can't make a hook up, they should at least call or text not just not reply. If you can't satify a woman with just fingers and a tongue, there's something wrong, and a bloke who doesn't go down on a woman, is not right.... got to luv foreplay
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would say that so far...one on one meets..i have not been stood up...touch wood. Nor have I stood anyone up...although I have had to cancel.I have had lots of meet and greets thoughthat people say they are coming to...then dont...but meh...life gets in the way...testicles mysteriously disappear...or they hide around the corner...watch you...then decided if you're good enough for their company.Either way...their loss.Take it all with a grain of salt...and think...phew! bullet dodged!If they are meant to be part of your life..they will be.JMO...BJxxx
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SexyArse
15 years ago
I think most of us that have been stood up are just toooooooooooo nice!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes i agree with what people are saying..............oooops got to go ummmmmmmm left the oven on at nanna's who is sick!!
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SexyArse
15 years ago
with regards to the men who stand women up all I have to say to u is "MAN UP AND ACT LIKE AN ADULT NOT A CHILD!". Avoiding things/people is something that we tend to do as children. As adults we should do the right thing. If u chicken out we will understand but give us the courtesy of letting us know!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have to agree there totally. I remember our first time we were scared shitless but we still we and had a blast and we are now more than happy we did. The thought of not going did go thru our head as we were scared but we went lets go have fun n enjoy
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Well I applaud u for going through with it and I am sure that now u are free to enjoy yourselves. But at the end of the day if you didn't go I am sure you would have contacted the persons concerned. I guess that is what I am getting at. Just common courtesy.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yep for sure we would have aswe are normal people and would expect the same in return. But maybe that is just a over expectation. Well i must admit good discussion about it and opens our eyes a bit more. Thanks
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have experienced far to many. I now have a nose for them and it rarely happens. I know how it happens. Someone contacts you, you exchange messages for a while to try and get a feel of what their like. At some point the question "Would you like to meet up?" comes up. For me this is not always a clear cut answer. Some will just say yes, in the spur of the moment, not a good thing to do. If im not sure, I will say that I need to think about it and get back to them. Or I need a to know a little more about you. When I do commit to a meeting I will be there on time. I hate it when, after some message exchange and the question comes up and I say sorry no, I get accused of being a time waster. "Why all the messages if your not interested?" WTF the messaging is to get to know you, find out what your into and not. Their expectation is that a message/flirt replied is a meeting. Does not work for me like that.
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Totally agree with what ur saying. However, if people think that a reply to a wink or a message is a meeting they are just being ridiculous. As for talking a bit to someone and then deciding it is not going ahead, definitely not time wasting. As you said, it is getting to know them. You have to know if there is a spark or not.Mrs SAOT xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Markusss67'I have experienced far to many. I now have a nose for them and it rarely happens. I know how it happens. Someone contacts you, you exchange messages for a while to try and get a feel of what their like. At some point the question "Would you like to meet up?" comes up. For me this is not always a clear cut answer. Some will just say yes, in the spur of the moment, not a good thing to do. If im not sure, I will say that I need to think about it and get back to them. Or I need a to know a little more about you. When I do commit to a meeting I will be there on time. I hate it when, after some message exchange and the question comes up and I say sorry no, I get accused of being a time waster. "Why all the messages if your not interested?" WTF the messaging is to get to know you, find out what your into and not. Their expectation is that a message/flirt replied is a meeting. Does not work for me like that. So i should start the groundwork now even if i'm not going to be in Perth til May? lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'SexyArseOnTap'I think most of us that have been stood up are just toooooooooooo nice! I love your new profile pic ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
curiousnewgirl78: LOL. May would be good and gives us time know every mole and bump... When we meet, we will just sit and watch TV as there will be nothing left to say.. :) Im not into endless chat, well except for a few pen friends I have here. When I was first here my first response was "When and Where?" but that lead to some not so good encounters. I need to at least know a little more about the mind on the other end, as many profiles are so brief. Ill also try out their sense of humor. Five to ten messages is not to much, i do think.
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Groundwork is good - I put in a good few months so that I could meet guys as soon as I arrived - heheheheheheheh Mrs SAOT xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Conpletely agree, and knowing your a genuine lady is more annoying. We were chuffed to bits to find a genuine lady who wanted fun and actually miffed people are doing their normal and messing folk around on rhp. We are with you, if they want pictures, but a magazine, if they want txt sex or chat, call 1800. We hope it works out for you hun.
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RHP User
15 years ago
What about the men who do turn up and are barely there five or ten minutes and have to leave due to a phone call. I just wish they would be honest with you, that you are not there cup of tea. I can at least respect them for that. Lizzie69
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RHP User
15 years ago
As a relative newbie to RHP I must say first that I haven't experienced this at all. In 3 months I have met a few wonderful ladies and 2 amazing married couples ( both couples together one night...insane night!!). Maybe I have been lucky, and obviously finding and meeting the REAL & GENUINE people is the hard part. Call me cynical, but at 45 and after a 19 year relationship, I am allowed to be. I would be willing to bet that 80% of the "couples" on this site aren't couples at all, but merely a single person (probably male) wanting to meet couples, because that is what so many people are after. Better to be honest from the start. And I realise that for single males (like me) it can be tough. Stick to your guns, be honest from the outset, the real people are out there, and you will find them. As for "no shows" and excuses, well obviously it happens judging by all the comments...I say....NO EXCUSES....show some RESPECT for the time and trouble people take to actually organise a meeting...SHOW UP....and experience all the fun that all of us on this site are seeking. All the best everyone Taz x
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have known quite a few girls to do the same thing........you almost get the impression that it is a game to some people to agree to a meeting knowing they will never turn up.......
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Hun u are dead right. Happened to me the other day. He reckons he was going to organise another day with me but we will see. This is why I prefer cam chat first - get to know one another a little and make up ur mind from there first. But people don't always have cams - BUT A CAM PEOPLE, IT'S NOT GONNA BREAK THE BANK!
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SexyArse
15 years ago
I am guessing that most of the people on this forum are the genuine ones. Have met people out of this forum that are genuine too. Guess it all just puts a bad taste in your mouth when u have been stood up so many times! I hope for ur sake that you continue on a good run hun xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I only send messages to ladies/couples (straight male like me) that I am interested in. Always polite and respectful, introduce myself and invite them to check my profile, only message people that may be interested in meeting for real, a person like me, after checking their profile. So many people don't even have the decency to respond with "sorry you are not what I am looking for" or whatever....it only takes a minute to respond...and guests can reply without taking out a paid membership. I have responded to every message and met at the time and place every time. Surely it's not that hard to do. Still loving life lol Taz x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah, we've been stood up a few times and it's really annoying. We've booked a nice room etc and just ended up sitting around waiting. While I'm on a rant another thing that pisses me off are the cheapskates that set up a fem profile when they are a couple and that RHP keep sending us Match reports that are couples when our "looking for" is quite clearly set for Females and Female Couples. Ahhh that feels better.
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RHP User
15 years ago
As a Tgirl I get a lot of people who are curious about me but that's o.k.But I really get peeved off at "No Shows".It takes a lot of effort for someone like me to get ready. As other people have said all it takes is a quick phone call or text out of politeness.And I can tell you if I get stood up they are never getting another chance.There loss
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RHP User
15 years ago
curiousnew girl78 Can't believe anyone standing you up.........lol honestly! A nd sexyarseontap, all i can say is, hope does time wadters that stand you up, make you appreciate real men a bit mor....:-) And have fun!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
hows this one "we cant find you - so we left" after a planned meet @ a bar that wasn't exactly FULL !! hahahaha
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RHP User
15 years ago
OH dont even get me started on this topic id be here all day I loath them
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Nick_Wilde' Is how you spell it. I know, phonics are a bitch aren't they? Quoting 'Nick_Wilde' Is how you spell it. I know, phonics are a bitch aren't they?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Time wasters suck. Its happens to everyone. I have meet a few good people from here and are friends with now. But recently I had one guy who stuffed me around last week said he was coming and never showed up but did a few nights later which annoyed me. Since that he deleted me as friends etc... Total loser. His loss
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Taz45I feel the same way about the lack of response to messages or flirts. All anyone has to do is set up a template to say "sorry but ur not what I am looking for". For the most part I don't think we get offended. I mean everyone has different tastes, it's what makes the world go round after all! However I think the reason people don't respond is perhaps they feel they will hurt our feelings or perhaps even get abusive responses (as I have had once before). But ur right, we deserve a response and shouldn't be ignored.MrnMrsVIbeing stood up after you have booked and paid for a room! That is truly disguisting! How dare they. I would have emailed them a mass of abuse!ToniParrI appreciate how long it may take you to get ready but I think in these situations we all make an effort. Any effort made should be taken seriously and in that we should not be stood up and/or given a courtesy call if they cannot make it.
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SexyArse
15 years ago
It is their loss. All listed above (perhaps inc me) could have been the fucks of a lifetime!Mrs SAOT xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok I must say I agree with alot of the comments made. I have only ever cancelled two or three times, and - mush to some peoples disgust and disbelief - it was because I was called into work. Yes, this can be a legitimate excuse - however, even when the person I plan to meet is warned this could happen, they still do not believe me. Some people's lives revolve around thier job - or at least thier job relies on them being available to go in at the drop of a hat. It all comes down to give and take - and being honest. Unofrtunately some people will take all the time in the world to get to know someone if they know they are going to get action at the end of it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
In the earlier days on RHP I was stood up twice by guys. After the second guy I asked more questions before arranging to meet. I do think there are guys on here who just like the talk - mostly married but posing as single. There are also guys who really don't match there profile description - maybe another reason they stand us up. Either way, once I started being more selective it has not been a problem anymore. For the record I have never stood anyone up myself but have once cancelled a "catch up" after initially agreeing to it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
markusssss.....im hearin u mate......so true,......ive always gone thru with meets.....and i cant understand why some peeps dont have cams and arent prepared to chat via cam during the "get to know u phase"..... recently , the particular day a woman wanted to meet did not suit me so i said that day was no good..... i got accused of being a time waster etc etc......even after previously calling her!!.....why would i call from my "unbarred" mobile if i was "window shopping" or wasting her time......bullet dodged as you all seem to say.
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RHP User
15 years ago
in the time i have been on rhp i have met couples and singles guys/gals that i have had lasting friendships with but in contrast with the amount of time wasters sometimes it seems like it isn't worth bothering meeting ppl online the last guy that stood me up i had been conversing with/swapping photos/chatting on cam and it turns out we were both about to attend the same tafe together so it seemed like the perfect oppurtunity to meet seeing as we really hit it off after several months i was excited to finally meet the douchebag one lunch time at tafe i waited half an hour after i gave up and left and was waiting angrilly on a reply to a message asking where he was he proceeded to txt me back saying sorry, he hadn't recieved my messages and had gotten 'caught up' doing something he promised to reschedual for the same time and place the next day and what do you know he didn't show up again! that was all it took to send him a message telling him about what an asshole he was and i hope i never see him around campus because i may not be able to control the urge to kick him in the balls he deleted me from msn, facebook and rhp and i haven't heard from him or run into him yet i'm still rather bitter as we had built up such a nice relationship online and over the phone so i'd just like an explaination like if you weren't going to show up then why don't you be a fucking man and tell me! i wouldn't have had such a problem with it if he hadn't led me on so much
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RHP User
15 years ago
There is never an excuse for bad manners. And I totally agree with responding to a message, even if it's just to say 'thanks, but no thanks'. I can understand the loads of gorgeous women on here being inundated with messsages but, as someone else already mentioned, just set up a template and replying shouldn't take that long. Can't undestand people who make arrangements and then don't have the common decency to let the other party know they can't (or won't) make it. Hasn't happened to me yet although I've only met up with three lovely ladies so far. Btw ladies, would welcome any feedback re my profile that might encourage more responses but I guess that could be another topic. Have fun everyone
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SexyArse
15 years ago
u did the right thing hun. What a moron! The least he could have done the second day was message u to say he got caught up. Ditching him was a good effort!
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N4November
15 years ago
If this has been happening to you constantly - people wasting your time - you need to rethink your approach completely! I have NEVER had a no-show and I think my success has been a result of being able to communicate openly and honestly from the first moment I begun contact with them. I like to make the effort of getting to know them and I definitely have the bullshit radar on at all times!! If it sounds like I'm screening potential lovers - I am!! I am very discerning but always open to new adventures but sometimes you just have to chance it too.... ;) Living up the coast, the reality for me that people often travel 3 hours to meet me and still they do (and as I have done)!! So I must be doing something right!! Of course I've had people I haven't connected with and vice versa, because at the end of the day, you can't get past chemistry and your intuition!! I'd suggest that since you are a couple - if one of you has been vetting new playmates - the other has a go and see how successful they are. If you are both doing it at the same time - try only one of you screening for dates and see how you go individually. But at the end of the day - you need to try something else because its obviously not working with what you are doing now. xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I always turn up as agreed. It's usually taken some time to get familiar with someone, so why stuff about? Beats me? Some people are so.... inauthentic! Or perhaps fearful or over cautious... Or not really who they claim to be in some cases.. Add more reasons if you have any?
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RHP User
15 years ago
There's a flip side this though. Just last night I had to text someone in an attempt to reschedule due to a super urgent appointment that clashed with our date and could not be shifted. It had to do with my work, and as much as I'm keen on having some casual fun with nice people, my career will not be impacted by it. I apologised to this person and suggested another date, but they responded that I should lose their number and that was that. Have some people become so accustomed to time wasters that they automatically assume anyone who has a busy life is one?
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RHP User
15 years ago
hi yes we have had so many time wasters samething they say yea i will ring ya or message u on here n when they do they make up all the exuces under the sun i have heared them all.but my wife gets from cpls is n wait 4 it.U DONT LET UR HUBBY PLAY WITH OTHER WOMAN BUT U PLAY WITH OTHER GUYS.might i add that is not true she has said 4 me to play with other woman as long as she knows bout n she is there..it has came to the point were she not interested any more 4 that reason.we play sep n we play together.. but we have found most of the guys on here dont tell their partners what they r up 2...but u will get alot of time wasters on here..n mind u there is a hell of a lot of them... cheers rednwetpussy...
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SexyArse
15 years ago
I think the person u messaged must have had some bad experiences previously. You did the right thing and told her. That is the main thing. You really can't do much more than that. It appears that in this instance it is her problem and not yours. Mrs SAOT xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Everyone As organisers of regular parties, we get alot of people that don't turn up and actually plan that only about 20% will turn up out of the ones invited that we haven't met previously. We totally recommend mainly focusing on those that have been verified by others. We always try and verify those that we have met so others will know as well that they won't be waisting their time with this person. This was one of the biggest reasons why we decided to parties and meet and greet nights, we got so sick of going to all the trouble of organising a baby sitter, booking a room and getting time off work for people that wouldn't turn up. Very disheartening!! Had almost gave up on it, when we decided to organise parties and use this as a tool to getting a group of genuine people together. We tell people that they don't have to play, but can just use this to meet and play there or later with those they have met. We find this is the best way and your not waisting your time. Please contact us about coming to one of our parties or we would recommend attending other parties in other areas or states for this reason. Thx to those that we have met up with DD xxx
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N4November
15 years ago
A male bi friend and I were stood up on a playdate.... I had gone down to Sydney with high expectations and relayed this to my FWB as this guy could talk the talk.... but he didn't show. Yep - we were pissed off!! C'est la vie. But we found other things to do so there was still lots of fun :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't often add my bit to these threads but this one sparked a bit of a response and I though that I should ad my bit while having a quiet beer at the local. I am sure that everyone has experienced being mucked around i'n one form or another through this web site, the operators perhaps set the writing on the wall visa vie deceptive conduct findings against them no so Long ago. My experiences haven't been that positive either I must admit, although I have met one very good friend that I am sure will turn out to be a life time friend which I am only too happy about. A lot of the problems arise from the anonymity that the web provides and a lack of respect i'n general. Sure people are here for varying reasons, and no ones to judge, but it would be a lot better for all around if there was a higher level of respect shown by people being more honest with not only others but also themselves. Also whilst RHP is a fine medium for honest good intentioned people, it is exactly that , a medium. Why would you behae on here any differently than u would i'n. Public where you might be help more accountable for your behavior I agree with comments that it is best to simply call and meet, it sorts out who is genuine and who is not quickly, but it also avoids false impressions being given and made by all parties involved. I think a greater effort needs to be made by all however to act i'n a better manner toward others. I know from personal experience with posters to these this thread that the courtesy of a response to a well thought out and courtesies message has gone no responded to. Which makes one wonder when you see threads like this and complaints to emails of "how about I at 1245 Tuesday while the wifes at coles" People shoukd ask themselves the question of would I behave i'n this manner offline where I was more personally accountable for my actions and if not then afford people a bit more courtesy and respect Sounding a bit like winded but I'm sure my comments ring a bell with most who will read them. Happy New Year and better experiences to all going forward
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
Do not even think about meeting anyone until you have actually spoken to them on the phone and have a return number. Don't make any arrangements to meet by using email or text. If a person will not talk to you on the phone within a few days of initial RHP contact...then they are not serious!
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usm79
15 years ago
We have experienced more than our fair share of fakes, phonies, & timewasters (one of whom has had the cheek to post on this very thread we might add). Validated and verified seem to be the best way of weeding them out. We also hate the 'single' female profile which turn out to be a couple. It's hard enough finding genuine play mates with out this 'new' fad which appears to have arisen in the past year or so.
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RHP User
15 years ago
This is a very interesting topic. I think I'm the king of being stood up. hehe. I still laugh about it as it is a dating site and everybody does have the right to choose who they want to be with and whom not.Due to my travels for work, I get unfortunately stood up heaps. I had to cancel a last minute play due to a death in the family, and until today, I haven't heard from her. I love the friends I have met on here and that still stay in contact.. Thanks. Looking forward to great chat times and meets too.Being stood up is crap, and it is so un-needed. But on a happier note. Happy new year everybody and hope this will be a great year for you all.Nxxx
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SexyArse
15 years ago
I think from what I am hearing from most people is to chat on cam or to even chat for a while before meeting. Well I feel most of the people that I decide to meet fit this criteria. I feel that I generally build up a rapport before deciding to meet someone. These people say they are dying to meet me and can't wait, are so excited and horny at the thought. BULLSHIT! Strangely enough it can sometimes be the people that I talk to less and decide to meet at very short notice that don't stuff me around. Strangely enough the more excited someone acts towards me the more I think they are full of SHIT or that they have partners or something to that extent. Despite how cautious I am or how much I might build up a rapport with someone they can be just as likely to bullshit me as the next person. But anyway, as people have said previously, their loss!!! I have been told by a few people that I am the best sex they have ever had! So definitely, the people that will stand me up in the future, it will be your loss!Mrs SAOT xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well said Toni, and I so agree with the stand up, doesn't make sense to me, the other that really irks both myself and my hubby Jayson, is we take the time to send someone a message or flirt/wink then this showing that something about your profile has attracted us. What does it take to send a simple : no, thanks if we don't apply to these profiles instead of the endless never hearing anything, happens on the competition site as well My grip for the day ha ha Cheers Debbie and Jayson
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RHP User
15 years ago
Funny how some people are on this site. There are some people who have written in this very thread that they hate being stood up. Yet i can tell you that I/we have been stood up by some of these same people...(i am talking ladies here).....2 of them in fact, that have posted in this thread. Further to this there is another lady in this thread that says she only wants to meet married men on her profile, yet when you send her a message, the first thing she asks is "I will only meet you with your wife there". Now that is decieving........ We will meet with single ladies and couples in Sydney, with or without our partner.... simple as that....and we will be there if we arange something. We only ask the same in return. The Squirrels
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RHP User
15 years ago
i had a woman ask for my mob and she would ring me, i provided the same.....3 dyas passed and she hadn't called, i had in this time contact from a couple....so, i messaged the woman and said along the lines of "sorry, i'm moving on, dont bother calling".....well didnt i cop it!....so as a matter of etiquette how long do u peeps think it is reasonable to expect someone to call when you have given them your number?? after 3 days i assumed i had been "telephonly" stood up.
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SexyArse
15 years ago
I wouldn't have even bothered calling her when she had not bothered calling u as she asked for your number! Some people are really screwed up!Mrs SAOT xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Donna_Brett'Do not even think about meeting anyone until you have actually spoken to them on the phone and have a return number. Don't make any arrangements to meet by using email or text. If a person will not talk to you on the phone within a few days of initial RHP contact...then they are not serious! I'm serious and have met a number of very nice genuine people through arrangements made by email or text. The 2 times i was stood up was when i was very new to the whole concept and still learning how to vett people properly. I'm just not a phone person, I never have been. It's something i've been copping hell from my family about for years and i haven't changed for them, it's very unlikely I'd change for a hook-up. it makes me incompatible with people who put a lot of stock in that phone contact like you do, but it doesn't make me 'not serious'
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've been stood up twice by people on RHP (they don't get a second chance unless they can provide a superlative excuse!) Some of us, out of necessity, are just not 'phone people'. I never give out my phone number and always prefer contact via e-mail - that way everything is private, discreet and secure. I have enjoyed some great experiences through this site but not everyone can afford to be open about their lifestyle choices and activities. If I make the effort to get to know someone via e-mails and then take the risk of moving to a face to face meeting, what would be the point in chickening out? Turn up at least, have a coffee, and if there's no chemistry, be nice enough to say 'thanks but no thanks'.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree totally, everyones time is precious and it is not ethical to not meet after organising a time and place, i get paranoid even if I was to be 5 mins late let alone have to not show up! lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
We recently organised a party in Melbourne for the AFL Grand Final night. We sent messages to about 100 single ladies and couples living in melbourne. Before the night we had about 12 couples and about 4 ladies attending. We rented a room with the knowlege that we we have a pretty good attandance. On the night it was a complete no show. No phone calls no text messages, nothing. After weeks of organising, confirming arrangements with people, a total no show. I would like to ask if anybody have had a worse experience than this? We are not ugly, and we dont smell, and this was the first time we organised a party outside of Sydney. We were totally devistated. We have had small gatherings here at our home with ladies and couples before, so it is not like we have ever had any trouble getting people to cum around. We just cannot understand why this one. I would doubt it, but lets see if there is any other experiences like this.
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SexyArse
15 years ago
We rented a penthouse in Noosa. We had hundreds of people interested but narrowed it down to about 20 people in total. Ended up being 7 people inc ourselves and that inc 3 guys. 1 of which I had been with (he wanted to try with someone else), 1 was my husband and the other which didn't really have any interest in me. So I ended up having a FFM with my husband but it was his first time in that situation so it was kinda awkward. We had to rent the place for a min of 3 nights so it cost us $1800. The party was being organised for my husband returning home from afghanistan. We were up for a huge night. So u can imagine our disappointment.
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RHP User
15 years ago
.. But life being so busy it is hard to find the time to even make the connections happen. We've a few ppl in our list we would like to catch up with this year tho... slowly is fine by us.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We had the same problem about a month ago. We were in sydney over xmas, NY and had told pretty much everyone we had spoken to in the past that lived up there that we were coming and wanted to meet in person weather it be for a cold drink or a hot play most a few were unavailable which is understandable that time of year but 3 said yeah. But as many have said before me on the day to replies to txt no answer when call and on replies to email but what really made us laugh was on msn we changed our (status) to "going home good bye Sydney" and 2 out of the 3 emailed/txt to say sorry did we want to meet tonight..... coincidence or or were they telling the truth? we will never know as numbers been deleted and accounts been blocked
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SexyArse
15 years ago
I am the opposite. At the moment I have too much time on my hand but because of the lack of genuine people that I am attracted to I have not had a meet in over 2 weeks.
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RHP User
15 years ago
SexyArseOnTap We aren't timewasters so if you keen on wanting to meet a couple whom are genuine and honest and definately not timewasters drop us a message we are ready and willing anytime so long as arrangements have been made , we can't contact you by message so please send us one as our name says it hubby loves to lick and wife loves suck we are few years over you age bracket but who knows you may change your mind .
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Sorry guys but as per my profile ur over my age limit xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I used to pick and choose carefully and usually requested we meet for a coffee or a drink before playing. I didn't mind travelling to places of their choosing if they were working or busy. I used to give the no shows a chance to explain but if I got nothing they got nothing. Their loss. There are many more subbie boys than there are Mistresses willing to take them on. The boys I chose from the ones that did show up were the best fun to play with anyway.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am not sure why.... Maybe it is an Adelaide thing but it is difficult enough to strike up a conversation and ultimatly finding someone... Suppose the timewasters bugger it up for the genuine ppl....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hopefully one day soon we can meet as keep missing one another...xx Can't understand why you would get stood up.. xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
It seems to me , that most of what goes on here is not real at all . Am not understanding why but I guess its just that many are so immature, they cannot function like adults. I came here to actually find a friend . So far all ok , but whaaaaa some of these horror stories are just not fair. More and more , I will be careful. Perhaps then for the idiots that cannot do the right thing . Just maybe a list can be made for all to see. Although that may get abused too ??? good grief
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'sabomber69' Hopefully one day soon we can meet as keep missing one another...xx Can't understand why you would get stood up.. xx No, neither can I. I have met several very sweet and lovely men through this site, all of whom, I am sure, would write me a validation - but am still looking for someone who ISN'T married and who wants me for more than the usual 'fb' arrangement. Been there, done that...after something a little more meaningful these days. I'd be quite happy to meet you - am just worried you'd be a bit too tall and I don't want to have to cart my own ladder around! Dee. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I will warm wash and shrink for you...lol Pics are on profile and hope you get my contact details...xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Are these the same ppl who pose as cpls and you never see her or she changes not only hair colour but race lol? Are the the guys who get online in chat and the first words you here are look at my cock Mrs 2 or as happened the other night a guy wanted to do all sorts of things to Mrs2into and when we put him to the test and arranged to meet, suddenly he was kidnapped by aliens. We actually hoped these aliens anally probed him for hours. Get real ppl if you are just a wanker and not a player admit it. Don't waste precious playing time!!
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usm79
15 years ago
We organized a party in the centre of Sydney once. A great apartment with amazing views and loads of places to play. Over ten couples and ten singles confirmed. The only Cpl to turn up were so wasted on some substance or another and were not fit to play. The other who chose not to show did not call or SMS either. Admittedly six of the cpls were part of the 'Beautiful People' club. Those time wasters the real players know only too well. The posers not players group. Let's all go to a club a dance but never actually play. We still say that validation and verification is the best way to chose playmates. Real swingers are confident enough to admit it, confirm it, and recommend it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Donna_Brett'Do not even think about meeting anyone until you have actually spoken to them on the phone and have a return number. Don't make any arrangements to meet by using email or text. If a person will not talk to you on the phone within a few days of initial RHP contact...then they are not serious! I have been known to take weeks of chatting before I agree to meet someone. I very rarely give out my mobile number unless I have intentions of meeting this person anyway and it is usually given around the time of the first meeting. I do prefer to cam so I know this person is for real though and if they dont, I tend to get a little suspicious. My cam does not go on until thiers does.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Donna_Brett'Do not even think about meeting anyone until you have actually spoken to them on the phone and have a return number. Don't make any arrangements to meet by using email or text. If a person will not talk to you on the phone within a few days of initial RHP contact...then they are not serious! I have been known to take weeks of chatting before I agree to meet someone. I very rarely give out my mobile number unless I have intentions of meeting this person anyway and it is usually given around the time of the first meeting. I do prefer to cam so I know this person is for real though and if they dont, I tend to get a little suspicious. My cam does not go on until thiers does.
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RHP User
15 years ago
To cuddlyv your meeting the wrong type of guy call me Tyguy69.oh four one x2 oh five three four oh nine.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree I have experienced the same and others that say they will but never commit to the meeting.If your up for a meet then say so and follow through, if not also say so be up front.I wont say anything that I wont follow through on, be open up front then all parties know where it may or may not be going.Oh well I'll sit down now lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Surely you have both invested so much time and effort in getting to know eachother as you MEET! You should be very ready and very comfortable in meeting. "by this time"..........I just call it chicken or nerves...maybe I am being too kind. So I just don't get why they don't turn up.??? got me stumped. Having said that, I don't continue contact and don't want to get into the why and what fors. Although one instance happened to me, a guy I was getting on extremely well with, his father passed....he disappeared for a while and I didn't know why...Hey I don't have the right to know, again that's life. Later he got in touch with me with the heartbreaking news of what he went through. We are great mates to this day. You just never know what's going on in someone's world. I experienced grief over the ny and disappeared for a bit although a good friend I have met (on rhp) still talked to me! I needed that communication, not to whinge and carrying on, ok sorry I cried alot. He didn't disregard me. He just let me be me! Again my point is you never know what's going on in someones life. Although I did not stand anyone up, that is when the old dancecard is full right now comes in! lol And if the other party doesnt respond in such a way, there may be underlying factors. My words here is give eachother some slack...Hell if you get stood up don't be too harsh. Just keep searching! and be true to yourself. I have never ever stood anyone up...I have been stood up 3 times by the one man (not from this site)...one word for me! um Idiot for giving him 2 more chances...I have no regrets! That's life! Learn as you go and everybody has different stuff going on...Again I am trying to be understanding of course... We all also change along the way..I will never stand anyone up although at first meet will be true to him/her/couple and simply indicate either positive or negative...sometimes I have made a fast exit because they have turned up and not been who they really are. Other times, I have been honest enough to say, hey "we are adults" I just don't feel comfortable right now. It's all good....I think honesty within yourself and being able and comfortable to make a decision is kind to both parties. xxx
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