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Cold turkey after PG pics viewed….
September 21 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just had a couple not only go cold turkey after viewing my profile pics.... They BLOCKED me!!! I must look like a psychopath! :p Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
My pg pics not my profile pics 🙈
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RHP User
11 years ago
half your luck.. no one even looks at our pg !
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's happened to us as well. I was traveling to Darwin with work and my miss bought tickets to join me on the back of a couple being very keen. Two days before we arrived they just dropped off, no contact, no explanation. Then had a few more do exactly as you say, get PG and disappear. We cancelled our previous account due to that fact. This time round we are going to be a bit more savvy. We have pics ready for a PG but are waiting for some genuine interest before loading up. Looking at your pics sexy_2014 I would have to say they were pic looters because I can't see how anyone could be discouraged by them!! I might have to organise a dive trip down to JB after seeing them ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
having a look at pictures is the only way of putting a name to a face its social manner to know how you are talking toas in paying attention and wanting to know how you are talking to NOT JUST A PROFILE THAT YOU WANT TO GET INTO BED
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kind of comforting to know others go through the same shit I have... People usually appreciate my body pics and then ignore me once I unlock my face pics.. recently I tried showing face pics first (after exchanging a few messages/banter) and then my body pics yet I had the same result (?!). People just want what they can't have.. or they're just picky.. or you're just not good enough for them. Or all of the above. Who knows, just don't let it get you down - I've met some cool people off this site, sometimes its worth battling through the bullshit to get to the goods.
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playfulpirate
11 years ago
I'm usually pretty up front if I just want to see a pg for spanking purposes. There are some really hot ones on here too ;)
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playfulpirate
11 years ago
I'd love to see yours
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SexyScorpios
11 years ago
We hate to sound blunt but how hard is this process? For those of us who actually want to get laid it means sorting through hundreds of profiles till you stumble across a four way match in attractiveness. We understand that just because people don't want to fuck us doesn't mean we are ugly. We just keep looking until the combination is right and it makes it a shitload easier to streamline this process if peeps reply and say no! Can four grown adults not manage exchanging four pics? Recently we had a couple chide us for sending us a one liner and expecting us to prepare an application to be considered for fucking. News flash people the determining factor for fucking is the face pics. This is why we don't fuck around any more we send our face pics straight up, if you like us open your PG and let's chat on the phone. If you can't handle that how will you react when Sultry tells you to get your gear off and fuck her? Funniest thing off all recently was meeting a couple who knocked us back on the net but decided they wanted to fuck us at the club, hilarious watching Sultry give the thanks but no thanks in person bwah ha ha ha
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RHP User
11 years ago
showing my photos, so there is no misconception what I look like. I am definitely not many men kind of cup of tea. And that's fine with me. And quite honest when some men want to wank over my photos......what???? I don't know it......, its ok, just don't ring me and wank.....but otherwise go ahead and wank, I don't care:) I have one admirer he only looks, when this is what he is after and this is enough why should I be offended, he must have his reasons. He has never spoken with me or message me. SO WHAT??? The only thing what annoys me a tiny bit, men who have no photos at all and then ask for mine. But then maybe he is so under the thump and cant even pay for a membership, has no outlet for his sexual needs and this could be the only way to be sane. I know we say now Come one he must be a weirdo, but aren't we not all weirdos, because even being on here we fall out of the norm of our societies rules.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Guys (& gals) just suck up some manners & say "sorry, I'm not that into you". We all have our own likes & dislikes. I am comfortable with who I am but being a curvy red head I also know I am not everyone's cup of tea. Yes, in my book it's more polite to respond "sorry, no thanks" then just to snob a person. Either way you are sending the same message - there is just no physical attraction for you, replying is too me obviously nicer then just being a coward about replying. Although when it does happen at least to me it's like "oh, good, they self vetted themselves" because personalities like that don't interest me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'playtime_4_me' Guys (& gals) just suck up some manners & say "sorry, I'm not that into you". We all have our own likes & dislikes. I am comfortable with who I am but being a curvy red head I also know I am not everyone's cup of tea. Yes, in my book it's more polite to respond "sorry, no thanks" then just to snob a person. Either way you are sending the same message - there is just no physical attraction for you, replying is too me obviously nicer then just being a coward about replying. Although when it does happen at least to me it's like "oh, good, they self vetted themselves" because personalities like that don't interest me. The lack of a respectful "thanks but attraction is a personal thing and your pic just doesn't connect with me" demonstrates poor emotional intelligence. It is a completely gutless action (or lack of action). I believe there needs to be two things on here 1. a sticky for RHP social etiquette and 2. A feedback system like that rates a person against up to 5 items of social etiquette like they do on EBay about sellers and buyers. It would give us all some heads up about the game players and pic collectors. CheersRob
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RHP User
11 years ago
Happens to us all the time,I know we're not what a lot of ppl are lookin for but just a something is better than sweet fa,all I can say is there loss lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But we actually met a chap after chatting, for a couple of weeks, no expectations, no plans for future meets etc ....and "nek minut"....gone burger, no contact, closed account and all......surely our pics aren't that bad....and we did shower before we met him LOL....oh well, strip jack poker for two LOL!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had it go both ways. People have gone cold on me after I've let them 'peek', and there are some people I've been turned on by physically, but for some reason their features don't keep my fires burning. I always just let them know that's the case. I've been around the scene long enough to realise there are plenty of people who will actually turn you on, and also that I don't do it for lots of people. I'd rather pursue the connections where the feeling is mutual, and just be honest when it's not. No biggie.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When we first started on this site we didnt have face pics on public display because we were concerned about privacy and who might see them after months and months of the same thing, exchange a couple of messages open PG for face pics and then either "sorry you don't match what we are looking for"dead radio silence/ zero reply or blocked we decided what the hell and put face pics on our public gallery,(after all anyone who is seeing them is here for the same thing right?)get it out of the way up front and people either respond to us or they dont. It really is hard not to take it personally after it happens a few times you start to wonder "what is wrong with us?" the truth is that there isn't necessarily anything wrong with you people just make snap judgments on these sites. We have even had people meet us in person at clubs or parties who have' rejected us 'previously based on pics and our profile and then commented that we are better in person (which you could take either way i guess lol) the other thing is your pics are lovely very arty and tasteful but they are all of Mrs so if you PG is the same with no pics of Mr some people (particularly couples) will be turned off by this as if you are a couple they want to see a couple.
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DTE_couple
11 years ago
The main reason people go cold turkey after seeing more pics and face pics. Is that they are not attracted to you to take it any further. Plain and simple. It does save everyone time and stuffing around.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Also, I get a lot of messages from couples with their pg open for me, before I even ask....
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pizzadogs
11 years ago
best one is do you have face pics or can we see face pics and they don't have any
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imupinthesky2
11 years ago
hi Sexy 2014 well if your public pics are anything to go by then your PG's would be HOTI dont know why people are so rude, maybe as most have sugggested, for the wank bank personally, I am a very polite personif someone has spent the time to send me a decent message I will returnif they arent what I am looking for I will be upfront, not rude in my message nor rude by not replying other things that I find is rude, is when you ....send a message - and get a RUDE reply back (must be from an insecure male partner ??)people who block you when all you've deon is say something like sending the wink "I like your profile" I mean seriously people, where has common (or not so common) decency and manners gone ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I have face pics public available my pg are more body shots. So my rejection is due to my body. I try not to let it bother me as I understand not everyone is attracted to larger sizesxxxxxxxxxxxxxlove grant
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think its very easy to get carried away when you first take a look around in here, at first glance it looks like the site is going to deliver exactly what you have been hoping for, and sure I think that in some cases it probably does.ButIn most cases it does not, and one requires rather thick skin and a decent amount of teflon so that the knocks slide right off, particularly the guys, as of course and as with any dating site, we are a dime a dozen in here. Now obviously, we all try to present ourselves here in the perceived ( by us ) best possible way, but theres a problem with this because what we think looks ok, others may find unattractive- and so far, i have found that every woman i have met, their pics are about 10 years old- or the "few extra kilos"was more like 10-15 extra, not 3 or 4.... so we leave ourselves open for disappointment through our own creative descriptions of our appearances. If people just said up front, hey this is me- it may be a little less upsetting and if the Main profile pics and PG pics are similar not 10 kgs different or 10 years or "physically fit ...well i used to be " or smoke lightly/ occasionally, yeah like a pack a day... if your honest with yourself and your profile then at least if there's a problem, well you know that it wasnt your problem, it isnt your doing by misleading anyone... I know we all want to find the things we seek, some of us are willing to pay big money in the hope that it happens, or take big chances with our identities being discovered by peers at work or relatives etc but in reality, finding that special sex partner or perfect person probably aint going to happen....its very much about compromise I think so be prepared and or toughen up cos its a mine field in the online world of dating. Lets face it, if your a sexy attractive person, you possibly wouldnt need to be in here and paying alot for the privilege in the first place huh lol- Thats the way i see it here at least.
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RHP User
11 years ago
pictures just get your attention until you meet face to face and have a conversation and click pics are just an appertiser
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newbiefuncouple
11 years ago
This happened to us as well messages back and forth to another couple then when pg was opened for them,we got a message just stating not feeling the love . Well I know we're not barbi and ken but not ugly either it goes to show the other couple are superficial and not worth our time . And as per previous comment on this issue some of us blokes are aloud out to play solo with the wife's full knowledge and blessings to do so,it comes down to trust and communications in a relationship.
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FunwDJ
11 years ago
Quoting 'SexyliciousGC' 99% of the time we just don't have the same attractions towards some people and we learnt our lesson years ago about taking one for the team. So, in the politest possible way, and with reasonable explanation, we always let them know that one or the other wasn't interested and good luck with the search.Hi SexyliciousGC (K&M), We're new around RHP. Haven't got to the point of deciding what to post (info & pics) or how best to handle interactions with others. Wanted to say thanks for your insights, as it makes a lot of sense to me. I'm all about candor and respect for others (I'm the male half here, btw -- but I know for the most part she's on the same page regarding respect & honesty). Definitely believe in being open (especially with each other) and considerate of others -- which includes honest yet tactful communications, as per your example :) One challenge affecting our search, is that while we are not extraordinary in our appearance, we do find most people around our age actually look a decade or two older that we do. I've taken the time to check your profile and I think you're a cool couple -- both with nice smiles, looking generally friendly & approachable. I'm thinking your upfront presentation is probably the best policy! ... I look the same age as you (male, K?) and my partner looks maybe 10 years older than you (female, M?), therefore showing this upfront maybe best -- yet there is a tendency to hold back a bit, initially maintaining some anonymity. What are your thoughts on this? As a general point, I know my idea of an acceptable female playmate is much broader than my partner's idea of who might warrant a closer look. Part of the challenge for me would be in trying to guess whom she will consider has potential :) ... Maybe best if she builds a hot list (I expect would be much shorter than my version), then I go through and transfer suitable candidates to our short list, resulting in a list we both consider as potentials. How do you handle this area? OK ... I get that I'm asking a couple of off-topic questions there, but after reading your response on this thread and seeing more of what you're like in your profile, I wanted to ask your advice/thoughts on these additional questions (and don't yet have access to ask you directly in messages) ... Feel free to either reply here -- or directly by message. Thanks (and sorry for rambling off topic this much)
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RHP User
11 years ago
hmmm I wonder if they wank over our pics lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sexyjill' hmmm I wonder if they wank over our pics lol i get the same no reply sometimes after showing the private gallery its a pity as at the end of my message I ask for a simple reply yes or no it doesn't bother getting a no its just respectful saying no
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SexyliciousGC' For those who wanted suggestions, this is our general reply Hello there! Thank you so much for your message, you sound very nice!However, one of us was very interested in your profile and the other was unsure and as a rule we only play together so unfortunately we are going to have to decline, much to the diappointment of one of us we might add but sometimes we both don't feel the same attractions, which as frustrating as it is for either of us we do respect each others decisions regardless of how our differences of opinions towards couples are. So, in saying all that, we wish you all the best and hope you have loads of fun in the future. K&M Love this reply. (Expect we'll receive it at some point now lol)
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RHP User
11 years ago
On here,lol, got hit up by a young fella once only to have his pg revoked from me after he viewed mine, rude little jerk! I may not be everyone's cup of tea but there are polite ways of saying so..... Have also experienced a couple of chats with people share your pics an a few hot stories and that's it....... Fickle little flickers! Have learnt since and only share when I think they're genuine( this in itself is a challenge lol ) but in saying that, have revoked rights to many and now try to be super select....
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belladonna888
11 years ago
Yes happens to me too, guess they just like a good wank
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