M57 F52
"Were professionals so discretion is a must"
August 22 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have followed this thread and I can understand some of the comments...but Yes everyone who wants their privacy respected and should not have to use the term I am a professional so I am special? But the fact is that societies judge peoples lifestyle choices and in some professions more than others. The disregard can have serious career, social standing and family impacts. This is a code word for this is serious please do not be flippant with our request for for privacy. For example if I was priest, politician or high court judge this would be a code word for this is serious shit. Oh and yes I am a professional, but I am not priest, politician or high court judge :oP
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol duly noted 😀
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
In today's paper, Sydney University lecturer Tim Anderson publicly backed North Korea. The university won't take take action as he is free to do what he likes in his spare time. Guess if he got caught on a swingers site, it might be the end of him if our "professional members" are correct.......
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
@precious142,i actually choked on a dry biscuit ,when i inhaled to laugh ,best quip i've read for a while ,well done , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
8 years ago
Quoting 'boobs_or_bust' @precious142,i actually choked on a dry biscuit ,when i inhaled to laugh ,best quip i've read for a while ,well done , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile Thanks!
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We were thinking about the whole debate (and furore) on this thread , and another , about the use of the words " we are a professional couple, seeking other professional couples " and how the use of the words "professional" caused such an angry and aggressive reaction from some people. Some people clearly have issues with "professional" which is quite bizarre. We wonder if a doctor, an accountant or even an investment banker, will have an issue with being called a "professional " or referring to himself / herself as a professional? When we say that we are seeking a professional couple, we are looking for a couple with the following attributes ( and perhaps professional is the wrong word to have used ?) : Classy, educated, sophisticated, well travelled, well versed, well groomed, intellectual and in good shape mentally & physically, people who can engage in an intelligent conversation with us. People who have discerning taste and high standards and who strive for excellence in everything that they do. These are the attributes that would attract us to another couple (both for social & play reasons ) and we have grouped them all under the "professional" umbrella as it were. Again, it is just our preference ( and personal taste ) as to what attracts & stimulates us. We prefer champagne & wine over beer. Does this make us "stuck up pretentious snobs"? It probably would to the beer swigging crowd. But who cares. We enjoy what we enjoy. Other people may be looking for different attributes with regards the type, and calibre of people that they prefer to associate with. There is no right or no wrong here. It's simply a matter of personal choice. And of course we are all entitled to have our own personal choice and tastes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
One thing I've been reminded of lately is how different muggles are to people on here. I cruise along, for some reason assuming what we do is widely accepted, largely because everyone is online these days and at some point, they must come across sites like this, curiousity leads to...... But every so often, I'm reminded how very different the rest of society is. So much so, I'm shocked and lol at things I hear them say. They really are a world apart. So yesterday, was buzzing around the house doing stuff, radio playing, think it was 96fm, can't remember, but the 2 presenters interviewed some female celebrity who has apparently started a relationship with a woman. Big deal you might think, most of us here wouldn't bat an eyelid, but to them it was a big deal, little giggly remarks under their breath, I felt quite sorry for them. Earlier in the day, I also heard them talking about hairless down there for men, which came into conversation because they were interviewing the 'Survivor' host I think and they were talking about how one of the guys was given a razor and chose to use it downstairs. Again, perfectly normal, but no to them, not so. The woman host said how much she hated it and the others chimed in and agreed. Some hairy genitals going on still in muggle land apparently 😉 But I never realise the sharp contrast unless I happen to overhear these type of conversations. Just sharing that because it does put a whole new perspective on muggle employers. I'm planning on finding a swinger employer 😀😉 lunchtimes will be fun lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with you, touch, in regard to phrases like "the beer swigging crowd", because to me they display rather old fashioned attitudes.And often now, "old fashioned" is a pseudonym for "out of touch."( No reference to you, touch.. ) "Times change" is what I'm getting at. And if we don't change with them, we get left behind in our memories of how things were( which is everyones prerogative too ).Of course, this applies to everything. People, the workplace, everything. I gave my notice of resignation this week to my employer because I'm adapting to my changing work environment...I'm just going to casual employment with a different employer rather than staying full-time with my current. Casual is not what it once was, and neither was full-time, it seemed. I prefer to drink beer, and I make it too...as a hobby rather than as a economiser...and it's also not what it once was.There is stunningly sophisticated( and expensive because of it ) beer being made around the world now. I was once given a gift of a $300 2yo bottle of beer by an ex partner that I aged for a further 2 years before drinking. I've aged beer for years, but it was quite something.Just as a 4lt cask of Coolabah wine isn't.But the beer doesn't make the man. Or the wine, either. And nor do tags like "professional."
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well travelled too, I think you have that one covered, and very classy, one of the classiest people I've not had the privilege of meeting 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm sure they love to be called professionals compared to the many other less flattering names that can be and are given to them
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Seachange73
8 years ago
I love beer!!! Yum 👍
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Seachange73
8 years ago
You've described the type of person you're attracted to as per your quote above "Classy, educated, sophisticated, well travelled, well versed, well groomed, intellectual and in good shape mentally & physically, people who can engage in an intelligent conversation with us. People who have discerning taste and high standards and who strive for excellence in everything that they do." Nothing wrong with high standards. But they are not necessarily 'Professionals'. I know lots of people like that who prefer beer over wine or cocktails. my ex-bf was pretty much what you described but he is a tradie, a plumber and a very astute successful one. Once out of his work clothes (hibiz) and into a suit, you really can't pick him from a rich banker or lawyer in the room. I've met doctors, company directors and judges who are absolute pigs in their manners and I wouldn't want to have a bar of them. All in saying is that their jobs do not define people so I may have to respectfully disagree with you on that point.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
The point that we were trying to make is that the job description does not define the person. That for us, when we use the word "professional couple " on RHP, we are looking more for the attributes (we listed ) than the job title of the person. We are looking for someone who is respectful & classy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
'WIRED' article dated 29 July 2016 by Madhumita Venkataramanan (titled "Infoporn...") contains an infographic credited to Vladan Joler...
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rupamohan
8 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' We wonder if a doctor, an accountant or even an investment banker, will have an issue with being called a "professional " or referring to himself / herself as a professional? We belong to one of these profession and yes we do have issue with being referred as professional unless it is work related. Classy, educated, sophisticated, well travelled, well versed, well groomed, intellectual and in good shape mentally & physically, people who can engage in an intelligent conversation with us. People who have discerning taste and high standards and who strive for excellence in everything that they do. I wonder if all this is subjective why ask? Unless we meet others, we will never know our meaning is same as others see it. We prefer to judge, not ask for it. If I do feel like saying this in my profile. i will add an objective test to each of these subjective qualities so that I can score them and give a report card.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Has he / she / they left RHP ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
...with other people asking for discretion. Different circumstances may mean that should their boss(es) / colleagues / peers find out about their activities on RHP, they may lose their employment and jeopardise their social acceptance within their own groups and risk becoming an outcast and ostracized amongst their family and peers. That is a very real risk for some folks. Why would their requirement for discretion to protect self interests become so offensive? Just because someone has different circumstances and lives differently doesn't mean that they should be treated with the sheer disdain and intolerance that some folks here have shown. By hating others, some folks are showing the very same pomposity, pretension and superiority complex that they are ironically accusing others of. Not so tolerant, eh? In any case, what is so wrong about someone working hard to attain a certain status career-wise, and then choosing to call themselves "professionals"? I wouldn't call myself that because I don't think I'm good enough to deserve that when I judge myself with my yardstick, but someday, I aspire to be able to reach that status and gain sufficient peer recognition to earn the right to call myself a "professional" and be proud of it. But see how it can be a matter of semantics? It's so apparent that the word "professional" means different things to different folks. Some use it to indicate an employed status; others use it to indicate white collar jobs; and then there are those who use it to indicate seniority in the field, etc etc etc. I'm pretty sure that not everyone who use the words "professional" and "discreet" meant to offend. It isn't about putting others down... it's about pride in self -achievement. What's so wrong about someone aspiring to achieve status and recognition in one's chosen career? The best slut... the best truckie... the best plumber... the best banker... the best swinger... the best CPA... I say good on anyone who has a dream and works hard to achieve it! We don't need to cut anyone down just to make ourselves feel good. The tall poppy syndrome is prolific like weeds in here.
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Seachange73
8 years ago
Seems like we're talking about the same thing then. My apologies for misunderstanding your post. All good. 👍 Again, I'm not fussed whether professional is used in the profile. It's my impression is that the combination of professional and discretion on same sentence, as per the OP s opening line, that is where people take an exception to. Baseline is, we all deserve discretion, respect and privacy regardless of how liberal our thinking is. We don't need people digging up on our private details and make it known to all as we don't know how it will affect them, their lives, their livelihood and the people around them. There are enough creeps and stalkers on here who need to know more than what is necessary and who can cause havoc on our lives. We choose who we let in into our lives. It's our call if and how much information we want to reveal to anyone.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Wise words and well written :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
With respect to you, because I do...it's the "titles"( and what they intimate ) being thrown around on a dating site that I shake my head at. The top 3 definitions of "professional", don't mean "discreet."When one is applying for a job, say, then for sure it's appropriate jargon...but when filtering potential social meets online?After all, I haven't heard of anyone summarising their profile with, "I'm a chef, so discretion is a must.." I remember, a few years ago, a young female chef in the town of Karratha, telling me how she and her friends we're lining up for a local nightclub one weekend....and a few guys walked straight to the head of the line to tell the door person, "we work for Rio( Tinto )..", implying that means privileges. It's name-dropping by another name.
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FredAndGinger2
8 years ago
A swinging couple is breaking social, religious and perhaps commerical/business/employment rules/expectations and so are entitled to list discretion as a requirement without being criticized. - Posted from rhpmobile
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rupamohan
8 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' It's name-dropping by another name. Indeed it is name dropping knowingly or not. No body is questioning people right to write what they like but if it was not names dropping and anybody needs discretion then why we are yet to find "we are nonprofessional so discretion is must" if the logic is anyone professional or nonprofessional may need discretion then where is the need to quote your status. All one has to say we need discretion and that should suffice. For us your profession in a profile is useless but may be correct information. It tells us what kind of person we are dealing with . Here is a better explanation A helicopter was flying around above Seattle when an electrical malfunction disabled all of the aircraft's electronic navigation and communications qquipment. Due to the clouds and haze, the pilot could not determine the helicopter's position and course to fly to the airport. The pilot saw a tall building, flew toward it, circled, drew a handwritten sign, and held it in the helicopter's window. The pilot's sign said "WHERE AM I?" in large letters. People in the tall building quickly responded to the aircraft, drew a large sign and held it in a building window. Their sign read: "YOU ARE IN A HELICOPTER." The pilot smiled, waved, looked at her map, determined the course to steer to SEATAC airport, and landed safely. After they were on the ground, the co-pilot asked the pilot how the "YOU ARE IN A HELICOPTER" sign helped determine their position. The pilot responded "I knew that had to be the Microsoft building because, like their technical support, online help and product documentation, the response they gave me was technically correct, but completely useless."
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twowithnolimits
8 years ago
Wow such vitriol.... and yes i think a touch of the tall poppy.... Whilst we would agree that discretion is the right of all, perhaps what is being inferred is "the nature of our jobs is such that our careers may be over if our lifestyle were to become public and we are a little afraid of that..." there are a number of professions where this is true....perhaps it is merely a presumptive apology for a less than glaringly public approach to this site...... i doubt that any of the people decrying this dreadful deed are in a profession where a code of ethics, a theological oath or a public profile make every tryst a risky venture with potentially catastrophic consequence. Disappointing to see such animosity on a sight which you might naively expect to be populated by non-judgmental andtolerant types...
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RHP User
8 years ago
On point.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I use words like the ones you're all getting worked up about. I don't understand why it bothers you so much? Do you not say what you are looking for on your profile? Just because its not what you would write or think it shouldn't stop others from being free to write what they want. Those who have an issue with it are clearly not the people they are choosing to look for.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quiet
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have you been waiting 2 weeks for an answer..? 😏 This Thread died from lack of interest. As they do.
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RHP User
8 years ago
No I think they're all looking at your picture 😉 I am 😎
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