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pet peeves 😕 re online hookups and dating
April 16 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
This is more weird then a peeve, but I seem to be getting multiple (different) male views most days lately, yet settings still don't have that as a looking for. Doesn't bother me, but no idea why suddenly it's happening the last week or so a lot more. Getting more males then females. 😳 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Quoting 'usrightnow' Quoting 'Eiliethiya' What does a gnome penis look like?!? Surely not 12" !!! - Posted from rhpmobile Perhaps that's why there are so many of them, that's their secret. Of course they could be thinking with it and that's why they wear those hats. .Oh, and touch., peeves, I'll have to pop back in later, it's too bloody early.Mr. urn. . Didn't even realise it was you two who've messaged me about the Meet & Greet!!! Please respond to my message and say I haven't lost you! ~ Indy
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Quoting 'Fit_Geek' This is more weird then a peeve, but I seem to be getting multiple (different) male views most days lately, yet settings still don't have that as a looking for. Doesn't bother me, but no idea why suddenly it's happening the last week or so a lot more. Getting more males then females. 😳 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Even when some said it was the bears, I knew it was you! Now for a real peeve, get a rare flirt and then trying to message back her inbox is locked (profile is fine to view, not blocked). Now that's a tease! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'ChasinMidnight' ...in the forums that could be inexorably economized ... Oh yeah and using a propensity of exorbitant verbiage!Whilst many will declare they value “communication”, frequently they neglect to state their preference for 140 characters at a time (in combinations of small words).
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not your 'dirty slut, whore, bitch etc ' when we haven't even met, are not likely to and we definitely won't be fucking. Did I give you explicit permission at any stage to speak to me that way? Unless you're dominant to me only then you can call me any of those names and there's only one man who fits that bill 💕💕 Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Fudging location. Yes it matters, keep it real
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Bodhi8
9 years ago
This post should have been called "Let's just whinge, moan, and be negative". There's a positive and negative side to everything, how about you focus on the positives. What a drainer of a topic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Jons9988' This post should have been called "Let's just whinge, moan, and be negative". There's a positive and negative side to everything, how about you focus on the positives. What a drainer of a topic. - Posted from rhpmobile There are many positive threads. There have also been several threads offering opportunity to vent frustrations. This is one such thread... (The clue is in the title). peeved unhappy 825 adj. angry 891 adj. peevish discontented 829 adj. irascible 892 adj. sullen 893 adj. I think too much positive, or too much negative would represent an imbalance. Do you really think it not interesting and worthwhile to gain a more rounded view of potential matches? If your aim is to simply "hit it and run", so be it. Your approach is your choice of course. You'd be aware though, once you meet and interact with people IRL (and contrary to the old nursery rhyme), it's all neither "sugar and spice", nor all "slugs and snails and puppy dogs tails" !
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for your comment. I'd be happy to discuss it at length with you 😛😜 damn 😍 God even when I'm being insulted, slip in a flirt lol 😇
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha I love that re hoping you were the other one lmao can I borrow that? 😇
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just saw a profile with picture of this guy, fairly close up, chick with him, picture cropped so you can only just see the side of her face, but I swear to God it looks like Brittany Spears 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
In my first post on this thread, I mentioned that my biggest peeve is people who message me without reading my profile first. Well, I got a cracker of an example of this today... I'm still giggling. I got a message this morning from a guy with a particularly attractive profile pic. It was a pretty simple and respectful message, and demonstrated that he'd at least read my profile 'headline'. A promising start, especially with such a hot profile pic 🙂 So I had a look at his profile, and honestly thought that I'd opened my own by mistake. He had literally (and I use the word literally here in its true sense) cut whole sections of my profile word for word, and pasted them into his profile. The only original parts of his profile were the Red Hot Fantasy, and his headline. Lololol. I think it must have been done a while ago, because some of it is from my previous profile, although I do use chunks of that profile in my current one. Pretty obvious that he hadn't read my profile at all. Or maybe he'd just forgotten what's in his profile? Either way, I hope it's working for him... I put a lot of effort into coming up with those words back in the day 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
Omg that's plagiarism 😀😉 actually quite shocking though that he would do that, and why the need to?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am always very polite and respectful with messages I send, but I find that most people don't bother responding. To the few people who have, I thank you for your courtesy in replying. I did manage to hook up with a gorgeous woman recently after communicating for a week and when we parted she pretty much said she would like to meet again then she just cut communication. Left me feeling a bit used. I am always polite and respectful when chatting with someone but it seems to be something of a common thing. If you want a one off, say so. If you change your mind and don't want something to be on-going, give the other person a bit of respect and tell them. Unless they a complete arse hole and possibly deserve it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Was the guy with a female pic me dressed as Frankfurter? I'll put it back up if you wish.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Was meeting up with a lady, after explicitly saying that I don't kiss on first dates, and feeling like I've let them down because I didn't try to get them into bed. I can't help that I'm irritating. I meant irresistible.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My biggest pet peeve is making a date with a woman and she is a no show!!! And then to add insult to injury, she fails to reply to messages or answer my call when I try to find out if she's MIA, running late, forgotten about the date, or just decided to stand me up because she got a better offer at the last minute. Grrrrrrrrr.
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RHP User
9 years ago
😀 I'm sure I've seen another profile where the chick looked like Brittany Spears. Does everyone look like her, do I look like her 😂😂 Please say no 😃 I was told I look Swedish today, and the lady was European, from Ukraine I think? I said yes, I am Olga from Sveden 😉 Okay so what was the topic again, oh yeah it's my topic 😊 I don't have a peeve today. Shit, how about that 😛
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do you really not kiss on first dates? I kiss guys in RL before the first date lol I just have to. Today was interesting 😉 can't say on here but a very good day 😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, I don't think there's any excuse for no shows, short of a medical or family emergency, but if they have the opportunity to make contact, how hard is it? It's poor form, wastes our time and is just rude in my opinion. I haven't had many no shows but the last two were both guys I'd been seeing for a few years. All they needed to do was send a text saying they either couldn't make it or didn't want to. They know me well enough to know I'd be fine with that, there's never any pressure. But to go through preparing to meet them, juggle all your commitments around, shower etc., all the while getting excited about the meet, and then to drop off the radar, I agree, poor form 👎
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seriously, you've been stood up ... fuck me ;) Gorgeous profile :) Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Arousing....
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RHP User
9 years ago
For the first time recently, I had someone express an interest in meeting up, only to "disappear" on the day itself when we were supposed to finalise the time, venue, etc. Lamer... and a true waste of time. Not to mention terribly rude and inconsiderate. Couldn't block him fast enough. Thankfully, I don't experience many incidents of poor etiquette here. That man had the dubious honor of being the first unevolved chimpanzee I've accidentally let past the checkpoint. :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
Obviously he was definitely chaff. His loss. Awesome profile btw
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know I whine about lack of pictures a lot, but it shits me when they look okay in one picture, enough to spark some interest, give them a chance by asking for more pictures (I really should know better) and get a reply 'what would you like to see'. You, I'd like to see you. I don't say that, I just don't reply. Their loss but so many men get no action on here and wonder why. How about putting some effort in. You won't get any more than you're prepared to put in. I look at those profiles a month or two later and guess what? Still the one picture
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hehe! Wrong season for that Christmas song! Thanks, snowman! Just when there's a compliments drought, yours has saved the day! =D
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Seachange73
9 years ago
I really don't mind if they can't make it on the day. A simple message to say 'i can't make it tonight ' would suffice and stand their claim to be a courteous human being. but that's the thing with online dating. Some also get the attack of nerves or their wives /gf found outnand hell has gotten loose. Lol I have not have the misfortune yet of being stood up last minute. Knock wood. I always confirm or notify the other party of a no show as early as I can. Just being respectful of each other. Best luck next time Missy. And yes cute pic. 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
He's in Newcastle if you are ever up this way or in Sydney. I would be honoured to take you out for dinner. And you are most welcome.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've posted before re no shows from guys I've been seeing ongoing over a long period of time. Having always been easy to hook up with, then one meet they just don't show up. I suspect it might be because of the history with us and have trouble telling me, can't lie to me maybe? So one such individual, who is one of my best I have to add, or was, was a no show a month or so back, can't remember exactly but not that long ago. I sent a short message saying 'thanks a lot' following no reply to other messages, but never heard back from him. Until yesterday that is. Saw his name flash up, went in to see what he had to say and found sexy pics and a short message, with no apology or explanation 👎 Here's the thing dude. I have always treated you with respect. Why would you do that. Over 2 years since we met and that's how it ends? I don't imagine it will matter to you and in the scheme of things, I'm not crying into my drink either, but common courtesy and respect? You're now part of my past and you can stop calling me, I won't answer. Have a nice life 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't do the Rapunzel thing by throwing rocks at my window like you did once before lol 😀 being cute won't work either 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think he chickened out because I asked him, "Are you sure you aren't married?" because for some strange reason, my sixth sense went on high alert and the alarm bells were ringing non-stop. He insisted he was single, let's meet tomorrow, and then did the ghosting thang. We hadn't really finalised any meeting time nor venue yet but because of the sudden ghosting, I wouldn't have liked to meet him anyway, so uncouth and ungentlemanly!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for the offer! ;) I once had FIFO assignments to Sydney, and was there to attend an awesome Christmas party a few years ago. No plans for travelling there again anytime soon, I'm afraid. :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't get it - if I have stated in my profile that I'm not into NSA / casual sex, why do I continue to get msgs from blokes seeking just that?! Now, if I were to initiate a flirt, it might mean I'll make an exception. Otherwise, it just stumps me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think most have been mentioned. For me its mainly pictures that arent the members or old out dated pics...in any event, it makes the person unrecognisable when you meet and very misleading to say the least. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Here's an interesting real-life account for you! I used to be on a vanilla dating site years ago. I've had one guy turn up and look shocked. He said, "You look different in your photos!" Surely not, because I used recent photos! When pressed for details, he said, "Your hair appeared... curlier in the photo." Erm... I have temporary waves immediately after a visit to the hair salon? Or I have just blow dried temporary waves in my hair? DOH!!! Most guys have told me that I looked exactly like my photos. My ex bf, whom I met on a vanilla dating site, used to always tell me, "You have different looks all the time!" He told me that I looked "different" in all my photos and after he's been with me for a while, he realised that I can look different everyday depending on my mood, the activity I'm doing (hair up / hair down), that time of month (yes, unfortunately, I suffer from awful bloating as my observant neighbours and colleagues have observed), makeup and dressing, etc. I have had two new colleagues and a few not-so-new ones remark with surprise that I looked "different" because my hair was worn up or down, and/or my mood / demeanour had changed from professional at work to relaxed after work. Or watchful and guarded when bitchy tell-tale Tess colleagues are around to totally relaxed and cheeky and laughing like a hyena when they aren't around. Or grinning like a Cheshire cat when a tall, fit and handsome guy walks through the door! All very different "looks", the same person. So, see... we can look "different" from our photos! I'm usually not relaxed at the first meeting... or two... or three, depending on the chemistry, and that will make me look "different" from the photos I've taken when I'm relaxed and happy, which are coincidentally, my best shots.
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RHP User
9 years ago
''You must have driven all your teachers insane once you hit puberty.'' Guys that say things associating anything sexual with children send my creep meter through the roof
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RHP User
9 years ago
When you get a run of flirts from a 'couple' 😉 similar but slight variations. Go in for a read, and reads like it has been created just for me 😊 But the high point is stamina, 'we have lots of stamina' haha I seriously doubt it but anyway, don't believe the profile is a couple anyway so makes no difference. I believe the man is part of a couple, yes, but not that the wife/partner knows about the profile Another similar age/s ? 😉 with status for both being divorced? Is this a divorced couple who are back together lol
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NawtyNNice777
9 years ago
Continuing to message me after I've politely refused. Getting verbally abused is a big one! Context: I sent a flirt as I liked the profile, received a message response which left me wanting to run for the hills, so I said thank you I'm not interested, and then the verbal abuse started, how dare i say no seeing I was the one who sent the flirt kinda thing. Ended up having to block the person but they hadn't signed off and logged in again so the block wasn't active immediately and I received some more abusive messages at which point I decided to be the bigger person and ignore them rather than get involved any further. Typos and poor grammar. But I've been called pedantic in that regard so that's just my quirk 😜 Boring standard profiles that show no creativity and tell me nothing about the person. Hey if you can't spend 10 minutes writing something creative I expect you're quite boring in person too... Ignoring anything I've stated in my profile and just going for it. Guess what, if I've taken the time to say I'm not interested in A, B or C, and you are, then we clearly don't match so let's just not waste each other's time. Argh and hygiene! Having a shower and applying some deodorant us seriously not rocket science! If I can smell you from a mile away I do not even want a hint of knowing what's going on downstairs 😣 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
😀 love the last bit, hygiene yes, that box needs to be ticked. Can I ask why you run for the hills when they message after you've flirted? 😂😂
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