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July 02 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
its a very dangerous path to tread..he has been in that situation before and it can end up seriously messy for all parties..only advice i have is dont do it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
always wondered what this sort of thing would be like. Maybe if I'm overseas I'd want something like that!
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RHP User
14 years ago
But one question: is she (or he) paying rent? For me personally, I would feel very uncomfortable being either party if there wasn't at least a token amount of rent. The arrangement could be made with the best of intentions and mutually agreeable, but unless there was some other deal in place to cover board and the sex was an added bonus, I just couldn't shake the feeling that it was a bit prostitution-y (ie. you're staying here for free BECAUSE you're giving us sex.)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift'But one question: is she (or he) paying rent? For me personally, I would feel very uncomfortable being either party if there wasn't at least a token amount of rent. The arrangement could be made with the best of intentions and mutually agreeable, but unless there was some other deal in place to cover board and the sex was an added bonus, I just couldn't shake the feeling that it was a bit prostitution-y (ie. you're staying here for free BECAUSE you're giving us sex.) Bah! Turn off your morals and look at it as an added bonus. Every time there's a story on the news about 'housing affordability', 'increasing rents', 'difficulty finding rentals' or even cpi, you can discuss a rental increase. . Although seriously, this assumes that she is 'giving' them sex, I'd prefer to think that she is not only copping free rent, but getting most of her sexual needs met too! She better enjoy it while she can, because life is only going to be a bitter disappointment from here on in.
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RHP User
14 years ago
WOW, would never have suspected a story like this, would have got such negativity from the folk on here.Jealousy maybe.Personally, while I have never found myself in a situation like you describe, I think it is fantastic that you have someone so close, that you both can enjoy playing with. Yes there are risks, but those risks are always there when one extends one's sexlife to include others outside your relationship.I say, Congratulations, continue to enjoy her and also, assist her in finding that special someone. Maybe they can even get in on the fun too, making for a very fun and hot 4some experience for you all. Enjoy enjoy enjoy
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RHP User
14 years ago
This arrangement OP could be an amazing experience for all of you or a total disaster.It will mostly depend on what expectactions are placed on your young friend by you and your husband and how comfortable she feels.Because, basically you are the ones with most of the power in this situation. If you both approach this with intelligence and sensitivity it could be a wonderful arrangement.I am sure you have thought of most of the potential pitfalls such as emotional attachment,sexual jealousy,economic inbalance. I am assuming that your friend is no older than very early twenties but if she is emotionally mature and confident there is no reason why this couldn't work . xHugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
It teaches you always something, for me living with another culture I am sharing my home with a 33 year old Nigerian Man, I had two in my home at one stage, one found a great job and moved away. This one studies in Australia. No, no sex, I treat it as a business, he pays rent ,cookes his own meals and cleans his own room and bathroom, it helps me financialy and him to see what men can do without the help of women and see a different way of life, a very different one hahahah. Very big mental challenge one for him. Many people ask me why I have no sex with him. I say, would you fuck your business???? I say no way, it would also change the dynamic on who is boss. And I am the boss of this home, my rules, sex would change this in an instant. I like sharing with males, its great we get along very well, we both respect each others privacy.Ok the only downsite is I cant have sex in all rooms, I need to go to my bedroom when he is home, and so he too. Cheers Ellen
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RHP User
14 years ago
What the fuck is wrong with some of you? Far out! Rent FFS?? Erzulie, don't listen to the "Piss on any parade brigade". Good for you, you only live once so you may as well enjoy it! Sure it could get messy but then lots of things get messy that is not a reason not to do it. All you can do is be totally open and honest and discuss the expectations everyone has in this situation. Otherwise. WHOO HOO!! You go girl have fun!!! Meeka xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Totally agree with JG.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It could all end horribly but who could tell? Enjoy while you can. Our FWB never actually lived with us but we spent all our spare time together. The physical sie ended when she found the love of her life but she is still our very best friend. We live in the now. Make the most of it while you can and try to prepare yourselves to part amicably when the time comes.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Meeka, I don't think anyone's pissing on the parade, I think they're throwing caution to the wind, playing Devils Advocate, pointing out the pitfalls. We oftentimes choose not to see the negatives when something seems/feels wonderful. Im going to piss on the parade too. The potential issues far outweigh the warm-fuzziness an orgasm leaves. Who was it recently said prostitution comes in many forms?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Good for you guys, it takes a great deal of security in yourself and your relationship to be able to enjoy such an arrangement. I did the same thing for a couple of years and for the most part it worked well. Just be mindful that humans are flawed and subject to temptation so enjoy it with both eyes open. Life is about being happy so indulge would be my advice.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Had several offers from boarders. One in particular offered me his services once a week in exchange for free rent when he fell on difficult financial times. He was so damn hot I was so tempted to take him up on the offer. I could just see it going all pear shaped so declined. Besides my daughter and all her friends had major crushes on him. My number one house share rule was never play with your boarders. So glad I kept to that. Hope it all works out well and enjoy the ride while it lasts. SFxx
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14 years ago
I think you'll find quite deliberately I wrote "personally" and "I think". There wasn't even a measly "you should", which, considering my usual sanctimonious sense of moral-superiority, I think I should be commended for!As I said, the arrangement is a bit of a fantasy of mine. However, I think it would be naive in the extreme to rush blindly into this with the attitude of "yayayayay threesomes every night, how could this possibly go wrong?!"Again, for me personally, if I was in this situation, personally, I wouldn't PERSONALLY want the feeling that sex was 'owed', even if it was symbolic, rather than literal. I would want, as you say JG, to think of it as her sexual needs being met too, but I couldn't if it gave me the impression it was just sex-for-rent, and I wouldn't enjoy it nearly as much as I'd like to.As a side note, I have no problem with prostitution existing, but it's not for me at all. For others, I have varying opinions on it, but no fundamental objections*. If you want a live in prostitute or it doesn't feel that way at all to you go for it, but I THINK you shouldn't be surprised if/when it goes horribly wrong. As Meeka says in her tactful and charming way, being open and honest about your expectations are paramount.*I couldn't help but be disappointed if I had a daughter who became a prostitute though, but then I don't think that double-standard is unusual!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift'As a side note, I have no problem with prostitution existing, but it's not for me at all. For others, I have varying opinions on it, but no fundamental objections*. If you want a live in prostitute or it doesn't feel that way at all to you go for it, but I THINK you shouldn't be surprised if/when it goes horribly wrong. As Meeka says in her tactful and charming way, being open and honest about your expectations are paramount. I realise that may read as me not thinking it could work. I totally think it could work! I totally hope it would work! It's unbelievably hot! But as Hesione said there are power dynamics that you have to consider, and you have to make sure everybody's on the same page is 100% crucial. (Please note the differences between my statements of fact/normative recommendations, and statements of opinion.)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well surprise surprise The Moral Police have been talking to the Fun Police and now they want to apply the Handbrake Fuckem... bunch of self-righteous Tossers .. Go for it have as much fun as you can and Gloat About it ....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow11' Well surprise surprise The Moral Police have been talking to the Fun Police and now they want to apply the Handbrake Fuckem... bunch of self-righteous Tossers .. Go for it have as much fun as you can and Gloat About it .... You REALLY don't like public servants, do you!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' Who was it recently said prostitution comes in many forms? Well, well no judgements you say? You are joking aren't you Apollo? Tell me do you ever get dizzy up there on your very high horse? You are one of the most judgemental people on the forum at the moment. In fact, and absolute kill joy.Why you would even make that comment is beyond me. You don't know their situation at all, yet you have to bring it down to the sleaziest level. Congratulations. It's a massive thumbs down from me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
neptune_drift what are you even talking about? Why would you feel like it is owed? Why can't people do something from the goodness of their heart or just to have some fun without having to bring it down to some sort of bargain or negotiation. Do you really believe that sex is about that?
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RHP User
14 years ago
.. be in your position. Would imagine everybody is secure enough within themself to just go with the flow and enjoy the moment.. Just now' it seems a good tonic for both you and the girl.. She already told you her intentions regarding finding her own partner, so to have some fun while she's waiting cant be such a bad thing... You all know what's working for you, I cant understand why so many are getting their knickers in a knot unless of course they have jealousy's or insecurities. Yes' things could go pearshape ' so watch for the warning signs, but dont stop enjoying yourselves til then...Enjoy.. Mr & Mrs JJ
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RHP User
14 years ago
As with any relationship, communication is the key.And sure as the naysayers say. it might all end in tears (true of any relationship) but the smiles in the meantime far outway the possibility of tears.Don't cry because it's over,smile because it happened - Dr Seuss(although I'm not sure he had threeways in mind. ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'triunity' Don't cry because it's over,smile because it happened - Dr Seuss Love that quote!! You guys are on fire today. :D
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lived with 2 sisters quite happily I believe....ended up marrying one of them.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Actually Meeks, the air up here is terribly thin but that makes me incredibly fit and able to go for ever when I visit the lower atmosphere! After all, tis why elite athletes train at high altitude! Since the OP asked for "ANY advice" that's right hun, ANY - this often includes advice and comments that may not be supportive of their post.... I know- right!!!! Go figure! Heh-heh.... Geez you fire!
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RHP User
14 years ago
As long as you gave the purchaser full disclosure so they knew exactly what type of DNA they were getting, then - sweet! And congrats for making a profit in the current market for dirty underwear!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'triunity'Don't cry because it's over,smile because it happened - Dr Seuss(although I'm not sure he had threeways in mind. ;) I dunno. There's a lot of subtext to Fox in Socks. "You can make a quick trick chick stack"?! I think I saw that in a movie once!As for why I would feel like sex was owed: well, a couple of reasons.If I was staying at a friend's house for more than a couple of weeks, I would feel compelled to chip in some money for food and electricity, or help around the house, or that sort of thing (even if it was just a couple of weeks there'd probably be a nice bottle of wine and some meals cooked thrown in). It's just polite. Even though my friends would insist it was unnecessary, and I would feel it was unnecessary if the situation was reversed, as a guest I would not want to take advantage of my friendship, nor would I want to be seen to be taking advantage of my friendship. That's just how I'd feel. So while I'm staying there out of friendship and it's fun for both of us, I'm still being polite and recognising that living with someone has expenses. Sure people don't mind covering for you because they're friends and that's what friends do, but would they make this arrangement if there was no sex involved?I'm finding it difficult to articulate my point actually and it's getting a bit waffly, so I'll just close it up. If I felt like someone was having sex with me because they were getting free board, I'd always questioned whether they were having sex with me because they actually liked me, and would they still if they weren't getting that free board? That's the crux of the matter. Wouldn't be an issue for some, but it is for me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I reckon if that's what works for you...go for it! Just enjoy it for what it is.I used to be interested in this lifestyle, but now only on a morecerebral level than actually doing it.These days if I was to do it, I think I would go the two blokes one woman option.I mean good god...could you imagine having to keep up with a Meek's and a Krissy on your own....lolIt could be a case of,FeloniusExtinctFossil
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RHP User
14 years ago
I thought that was very polite. Wow... people talking back to you. Go figure who would have thought it. And making a comment like that to someone because of your negative outlook is very rude and quite frankly, you get off your high horse and learn some manners.
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RHP User
14 years ago
....work out the "house rules" as you would in any share house situation. And enjoy it for as long as it lasts.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'feloniusfossil' I mean good god...could you imagine having to keep up with a Meek's and a Krissy on your own....lolIt could be a case of,FeloniusExtinctFossil That's why you need more in the mix.... share the love. :))
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ahhhh....the classic line that Tom Cruise said to Aussie reporter Peter Overton (old friend of Nicoles)....and we all know the public backlash Tom received on that comment.....lol.Felonious......what a share house that would be!Meeka and Krissy....what a hoot!Strap ons at 10 paces, knickers flying out the door in padded post bags....lolCould turn a man to drink.
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playful4u
14 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum'Ahhhh....the classic line that Tom Cruise said to Aussie reporter Peter Overton (old friend of Nicoles)....and we all know the public backlash Tom received on that comment.....lol.Felonious......what a share house that would be!Meeka and Krissy....what a hoot!Strap ons at 10 paces, knickers flying out the door in padded post bags....lolCould turn a man to drink. Don't forget that we can auction off their knickers from the outcome of "Strap-on's at 10 paces"
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14 years ago
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14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You guys are on fire today. :D Must try some ointment. :P
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have a few stained pair of undies you could sell Krissy....... Fark that would be funny some little midget tossing himself over a pair a my shit stained Reg Grundies thinking they were yours hahahaha
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ruby blossom - exactly why i used it... Heard it in an ad in the radio right before posting. Made me giggle too. Sorry Meeka, let me get this right..., any opinion that doesn't agree with yours is Judgemental and rude. Hmmmmm. I'll try to remember that! Methinks Meeka has been able to say what she wants about whatever she wants for so long without anyone disagreeing she's now having a little tanty! Let me know when you're off the floor and have stopped beating your fists and screaming like a brat and we can actually have some quality, informed debate on this topic - as we have in a civilised manner in other threads. We don't all have to agree poppet!
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playful4u
14 years ago
It would seem that ApolloThirteen is accused of high altitude orbiting and is attempting re-entry into earth's atmosphere for a safe landing after her oxygen started to thin out, but she is in danger of being shot down by Krissy_G's Scud (missile) marked underwear and Meeka's S.A.M. Normally S.A.M. would mean 'Surface-to- air missile' but in this case it could mean: Surface-to-air manners or Suffering arrogant manners If ApolloThirteen was to make an ocean splashdown, could she be in danger of getting caught in Neptunes_drift. Honestly people, this is the best read I have ever had in this forum, thankyou for a facsinating read and topic. I can appreciate all POV's and the moral values. I know of a couple who tried this and it worked for a while until boundaries were tested or the welcome wore out. I would imagine your relationship would be rock solid for this to work. As you mentioned, it is not a permanent arragement and I wish you happiness with your choice. Curious to know erzulie101 if you just all have sex together or pair off sometimes?
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14 years ago
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14 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' Quoting 'ApolloThirteen'Same as yours Sweetie Because there is very little of your own DNA in faeces. It's mostly just bacteria, or even DNA from the leftovers of organic matter you ate. Maybe a few cells from the intestinal lining, or small traces of blood. I wouldn't try to Jurassic Park it though, or things might get freaky(er). This is just in the interests of full disclosure...I guess this means you've established your own Emissions Trading Scheme?...Wait, deja vu! Have we had this discussion before? If not, weird. If so, weirder!...As to the OP, I think we'd all generally like a few more details, to feed our own curiosities and fantasy scenarios. How did this mythical arrangement originate?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' Who was it recently said prostitution comes in many forms? Well, well no judgements you say? You are joking aren't you Apollo? Tell me do you ever get dizzy up there on your very high horse? You are one of the most judgemental people on the forum at the moment. In fact, and absolute kill joy.Why you would even make that comment is beyond me. You don't know their situation at all, yet you have to bring it down to the sleaziest level. Congratulations. It's a massive thumbs down from me. I thought I was the front runner in the Killjoy stakes. Oh well.erzulie, my golden rule of share housing is "Don't fuck the flatmates !"Always seems to end in tears ! But you know your situation best so enjoy it while you have her I guess !
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RHP User
14 years ago
We have spoken about it at length and would LOVE to have a live in situation like you are having right now..... if only we could find the right girl.....
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cbdlivin
14 years ago
I had a similar situation for a while and my partner and I and the lovely friend had a good time, no dramas when she moved on just great memories of the time we had.B
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kinkster73
14 years ago
If the sex is hot and dirty.... JUST DO IT... Lol Who gives a flying fuck what anyone thinks
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RHP User
14 years ago
um....how do I put this Apollo....I wasnt laughing with you..Now the thought of Meeka rolling around on the floor throwing a tantrum is worth a laugh!Anyone who has truely followed the forums for any length of time knows if Meeka is on the floor itsbecause she slipped of her step stool....not because she is throwing a tanty....lol......... I have seen her pout though and she is really cute when she does that.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oooh doesn't she get narky over nothing. Sorry Nana, I don't believe I made a comment on your opinion or on whether I agreed with it or not. WOW seems like you are beating your fists and getting all upset, poor pet. And yes, I think your prostitution comment was very rude, and shows a complete lack of understanding and acceptance of others and their situation.Erzulie, if you are really interested in these sorts of polygamous arrangements you should read the "Ethical Slut" it is very informative and discusses all sorts of issues around primary and secondary relationships, etc. I think the main thing is that you and your partner agree to some rules around the play and establish what you are both comfortable with. Always put your primary relationship first, although I am sure you knew that already. Good luck. Meeka xx
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abcplus1
14 years ago
Had a girl friend live with us for around six months when she moved to the city from the small town we were from. Plenty of fun and teasing but nothing further. It wasn't until many years later we found out she was that way inclined when we hooked up by random chance meeting at a friends place. Oh what we missed out on lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other AdventuresBy Dossie Easton & Janet W. HardySome of the scenarios are very wild! But they discuss group living situations, people that have 2 or 3 main relationships, people living together as families, etc, Again, some of what they say seems pretty out of this world but it really is a good read and really opens your mind to all sorts of possibilities. Good friend of mine has done it. He has a wife and boyfriend however they don't all live together though but they are all good friends. I like that. I like it alot. Meeka xx
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playful4u
14 years ago
My attempt at levity seems to have failed. Let's keep things light please and let's not get personal, it spoils the read. Erzulie, can we have some more information please on how this works in your home. You seem to have minds ticking and it would seem that we would all like to know more.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Heya, if you are all comfortable with the stuation and can be jealous free, then good times should be the only outcome. Oh, and if ur havin that much fun, i'll take 2 live ins thanks Funtimes x
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Paradisepair
14 years ago
(not that the flying sparks don't make for interesting reading material but...) I agree that if it's going to be anything longer than a few weeks then work out the financials, you know all those everyday things like bills, food shares etc. Just as you would with any flatmate or live in lover.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' I hope you three have the most joyful of times to build lasting memories on. Nothing else for you. Have fun hugs. Mrs P ;-D Half his luck, we can't even get a woman to meet us let alone move in. Thank god for the dynamics of vibrant couples, thank you also for being real !!!
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14 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' I hope you three have the most joyful of times to build lasting memories on. Nothing else for you. Have fun hugs. Mrs P ;-D erzulie101, When you guys are done with the young woman, send her around here. Can think of a few chores for her to do around the house to "pay her way" hehe
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RHP User
14 years ago
Maybe everyone here is right - it's going to end badly and you should move her out as soon as I get all those boxes out of the spare room.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift'But one question: is she (or he) paying rent? For me personally, I would feel very uncomfortable being either party if there wasn't at least a token amount of rent. The arrangement could be made with the best of intentions and mutually agreeable, but unless there was some other deal in place to cover board and the sex was an added bonus, I just couldn't shake the feeling that it was a bit prostitution-y (ie. you're staying here for free BECAUSE you're giving us sex.)I'm not saying I agree or disagree with you on this one, I don't actually have an opinion on the OP's situation (rare for me, I know :)). I did want to say though, that despite comments from others about negativity and morals, I don't see any negativity in what you've said. I read it as balanced, and clearly about how you would feel in that situation, rather than you telling the OP what they should or should not do. Just felt the need to offer a bit of support.
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RHP User
14 years ago
We have heard about it ! fantastic.
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RHP User
14 years ago
LOL... decibels good for you! So what I can't disagree with anyone. I have to bow down to you? Hmmm nah. Don't think so.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sorry people, I know you don't give a rat's arse about this but I would just like to say. I disagree with someone and you girls have to turn around and say that I am queen of the forums or some crap. Ooohhh Meeka owns the forum. Really? Grow up.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well that got a few knickers in a knot! What is this pecking order? I say what I like anyway and if others disagree....its all good. They dont have to agree with me at all, all they need to do is back thier empassioned outbursts with facts. As there are none ...in this case....an opinion was asked for and they are like arseholes..... we all have one! . I know it is all very well saying that it is fun...go for it...why not....blah, blah, blah. . BUT . I do tend to agree with super5656 just a little here. I can see the pitfalls looming. Not trying to piss on anyone parade at all and this is obviously something that you have just fallen into and not exactly planned, discussed and come up with any and all obstacles that could happen. . Does this younger woman pay any board at all? If the answer is "no" then I do tend to agree with the theory about obligations and prostitution. It may not be spoken but the implication would be there all the same. Nothing is ever as clear cut as we would like and someone always ends up paying the price. . Meeka the friend that you speak of is a minority, a rarity and like you said...not both in the same house. . What happens when Mr Eurzulie starts thinking he can fuck this other woman whenever, however he likes and so starts taking liberties? Like when Mrs Eurzulie is not present. This is a live in relationship so on a day to day basis with sex involved...emotions will also get involved, people naturaly start feeling more for each other as they are living together. . Your profile says that "He" is straight and "she" is experimental. Mrs Eurzulie...what are you getting out of this relationship? ....or are all the benefits for your husband and his live in lover?
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RHP User
14 years ago
a wintery aspect of late.As far as I can tell you have nothing to apologize for Meeks. You are very much a fun part of this place and have beenresponsible for tonnes of great threads, bumped things alongwhen nothing much is happening.You have a sense of humour and brashness & openess that I'm sure lotsof people enjoy, I know I do, and wouldn't have you any other way.Keep up the good work girl!Cheers Felonius
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14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Sorry people, I know you don't give a rat's arse about this but I would just like to say. I disagree with someone and you girls have to turn around and say that I am queen of the forums or some crap. Ooohhh Meeka owns the forum. Really? Grow up. Apparently we all have to be robots and share the same opinion, how dare someone disagree with the rest, quick, where's the rope....... "Sounds rather like another "Doctrine" so heavily ingrained in our society which has caused so many a war to be fought..........bugger that. Opinions are just like ass holes, everyone has one and each is entitled to a voice.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would be your housemate any time(not that you would probably want an old ani around....lol).I think it is a touch of envy or jealousy, your way with words, your candidness, your fun flirty manner, your ablity mix amongst the masses in the sandpit......some folk just cant handle it..Now if I let you have the main bedroom with the en-suite....do I get to train with your trainer just once?????
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RHP User
14 years ago
I used to take in lodgers, they had to pay the rent and service me. All went well Till one dark and stormy night There I was, laying back with Rodger the lodger giving me a good rodgering I had a lit candle a tad close to the bed. As he give me a thrusting the pillow moved over the candle flame He was saying god your hot, god your hot and I thought to self It is rather warm in here, and caught the flame of my burning pillow in the corner of my eye. Panic ensued I flung the blazing pillow away, it caught the curtains The fire alarm went off The curtains went up, Rodgers dick went down I threw his stubby of beer over the curtain the flames dwindled as did his passion. So, I got another lodger to share , a fireman. Problem solved You go girl. Enjoy the tripple pillow talk, it pays to get someone that can fuck well, and does windows.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Maybe you could be Caddy, you know carry the foot stool and tote bag of dildo's and assorted implements giveadvice on correct club selection for the hole, and of coursehone your own skills as well.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
I still really disagree with the prostitution comment. Where does it even come from? Who knows what their living arrangements are or even their friendship? Ruby.... I love ani! Well the fun ani. Thank you Felonious! HandMaiden, my friends situation is not the norm at all and I don't imagine it was all easy sailing for them either. Takes lots of hard work I would imagine. Although I think erzuli's situation is different as this is just a short term thing maybe? When I was reading the Ethical Slut there were plenty of times I just shook my head... just seem a little too unreal and too hard. Seems like keeping one person happy and having time to spend with them is hard enough. They had examples were people were "in love" with 2 people then they had a casual ongoing friendships too. Although I personally like the idea of having a poly relationship but I don't think I would like to all live in the same house. Decibels... it's really funny. I am not often on the forum these days I make a comment here and there. So I actually feel that I am not part of the "clique" that in fact there is a new clique and I am certainly not part of it. I have also been attacked a number of times by some of these "newbies" people too. Who gives a puck at the end of the day.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' .Now if I let you have the main bedroom with the en-suite....do I get to train with your trainer just once????? I saw that! LOL Sure you can train with my trainer....but he will work you out so be prepared. :)G
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' So, I got another lodger to share , a fireman. Problem solved Ah TR, Can I just say... we've missed you! As for everything else, could we please agree that everyone is entitled to their opinion and is free to disagree with each other, but it's really annoying when people tell other people how they should post?* Disagree with ideas, not how someone expresses them.*Yes, I totally appreciate the irony of me writing a post telling people to stop telling people how they should post.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thats a great idea Felonious,definately would be worth a chuckle or two..Off to organise a weekend retreat>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
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14 years ago
Ruby- I know you weren't laughing with me. But your attempt at ridicule meant zero. Everyone has a choice here- if someone has a go, they can get bogged down by it and take it personally or laugh it off! I find it hard to take much personally on here so I laugh it off. Cause it is kinda funny to see people implode! And MeMeMeMe-it's-all-about-Meeka, the prostitution comment was actually a quote from a well-known poster in the thread about swinging auctions.... Didn't see such an outrage about that! Wonder why...... Peace out sister!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wow you are brave.... To have a third person in your home permanently 24/7....even if its a couple of months... You must both be very secure....and believe in the streghnth & depth of your relationship... However....I do believe & know that a sexual affair is not dangerous...(its like going to the gym & sexasizing)...when you compare it to an emotional/mental affair...(listening & understanding & feelings etc...). So....If the third person starts having feelings towards you or your partner....& sets her mind to it... Well? Good luck & be safe:-)xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
sorry for making some of you uncomfortable,hgfsit didnt actually start as a sex thing, but as we developed our relationship it happened.she pays rent,always has, and in fact the ball is in her court, she asks, or suggests and its up to us. she is a horny wee thing!!!!we all share each other and have seperate moments too.we know it will end one day, thats life nothing lasts for ever! we talk about that, we will always have something.she was my first.
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RHP User
14 years ago
ive always been interested in this, but i thought having 2 men would be ideal.lolmy husband loves me, and will not leave me for her, if he did that hed never see his kids again and thats not going to happen, hahahai find it strange so many of you are against this, i also find it really offensive the comments about rent!!! its not prostitution, when u assume you make an ass out of you and me!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
in my lifetime,but as our society becomes more secular and less bound by religious convenention perhaps these sorts of arrangements will become more accepted. The the so called nuclear family is failing dismally,one in three Australian marriages end in divorce.Perhaps we need to rethink and look at arrangements that are not just about sex but provide emotional,physical and financial supportive environments for everyone involved. including childrenx Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hesione, the two already co-exist in modern society. Mormon polygamy is still alive and kicking. Their arrangements might seem different, but we dont know what goes on behind closed doors.... Think of how many other religions and cultures not only allow but encourage it!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Geez talk about everyone getting their knickers in a twist here. To be honest though, would you think twice about staying over at a good friend's place if you were backpacking and they offered you their place to stay at temporarily, free of charge? Then what if these 'friends' were some cool, laid back people you had met online who are also extraordinarily attractive and interested in you and you them? If you put it that way, I wouldn't label it as 'prostitution', although having said that, I wouldn't do it myself as I hate imposing on anyone's hospitality, even that of my best friends'.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well hasnt this been a Fun Read.... for the record you know you can do as you please right ..... and everyones who agrees or disagree's opinion counts for SHIT. So Meeks Carry on sexy I enjoy your passion and FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT
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RHP User
14 years ago
My interpretation of the term "living with us" denotes somewhat of a permanent arrangement. Staying with us - temporary, backpacking - even more temporary.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sadly there are alot of people being quite vile here aren't there ! I would suggest you all just pop your little typing finger back in you pockets or what other orifice offers itself and take about 3000000000 deep breaths than have a good hard think and come back here ! People are often much braver and verbose on forums that in real life and scream down line while never doing the same in real life. .Now I have to say I have met some wonderful people here some I have gone on to form friendships with other are sexual partners and other freinds only. I have I suppose the crux is , in fact stayed with some of them ! Again in fact Sarah and I stayed with a friend from here in Milano a couple of years back. She with us in Australia when she visited Australia again. It was relaxed and friendly - it comes with its challanges but heck doesnt every relationship BUT again I admit these challanges I feel are higher than normal..That is all - and remember if you dont have anything nice to say ............... Fcuk off your bugging me ! .Brae
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RHP User
14 years ago
that is an awesome situation :p
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RHP User
14 years ago
I love the high moral ground on a swinging site ,It amuses me immensely..........hahaha thinking of starting a harem myself ...lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
So who's up for it??????? lmao
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' Okies re reading Ive interpreted meaning into things that just were not there. Ive made a dick out of myself and will just have to live with it. Gutsy and honest, esteem rating top shelf . Live well.
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RHP User
14 years ago
ApolloThirteen was not that these arrangements didn't exist but that in the future they will be more accepted and become part of mainstream society....which is not the case now.....an excellent book which touches on this topic is Sex At Dawn by Ryan and Jetha. x Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm not going to judge... until you put up a Red Hot picture set - then I'll judge it out of 6 of course
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playful4u
14 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' Okies re reading Ive interpreted meaning into things that just were not there. Ive made a dick out of myself and will just have to live with it. Like
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RHP User
14 years ago
I believe it will only turn out 2 ways.....really bad ....or good..........what if she got pregnat??
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'erzulie101'ive always been interested in this, but i thought having 2 men would be ideal.lolmy husband loves me, and will not leave me for her, if he did that hed never see his kids again and thats not going to happen, hahahai find it strange so many of you are against this, i also find it really offensive the comments about rent!!! its not prostitution, when u assume you make an ass out of you and me!!!To be honest you didn't actually outline the living arrangement pre se in the original post so I guess alot of people made assumptions as to her paying or not paying rent.. but as with anything if its not explained to the full extent people are going to make assumptions.. and to be honest if she wasn't paying rent I would have said the same as others--basically its a form of prostitution... that does not make me judgemental.. I would have no problems even if that was your arrangment.. but could or would I do it? NO. Furthermore.. you have children... again I don't know how young they are and I am not judging.... but what would happen say if they accidentally walked in on Mr doing it with the housemate? I walked in on my parents when i was younger and it scarred me for life.... I couldn't imagine my reaction if it was my mum and a live in!! All I'm saying is that accidents do happen.... I am not the moral police...nor am I judging you.... but this is MY opinion. xx ( hopefully that might keep the sharks at bay!!! ;) )
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RHP User
14 years ago
hey this is the other girl!!!!Hmmmm, i pay my way all the time... this is just something that just happened and we are all quite fine about it all!!It's a new experience for all of us and i see it all working fine. Yes it will end one day and our friendship will always continue no matter what!!thanks
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey other girl.. other than what I posted above I am happy for you guys and that the sitaution is working out As others have said though there is always the potential for things to go wrong.. but thats the case with any relationship... even with friends and family. But in life certain risks are worth taking .... I would say have fun but I'm sure you're already having plenty of that ...oh and as a side note wanted to say congrats on being the Mrs's "first"....it will always hold a special memory for her :)))) xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Good for you Other Girl! That clears up my conjecture regarding your arrangement. Hope it all works out for you!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi, if youve got it and you can make a buck, or save one for that matter use it i say, lucky people all three of you. Most on here giving it away, whos the silly ones. lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Meeka, Noted your comment about the ethical slut....beware on ordering it through bookrags online. Just wasted $10.00 on it. Got the review, instead of book! Damn..... Ps love the forum, love the banter!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'erzulie101'hey this is the other girl!!!!Hmmmm, i pay my way all the time... this is just something that just happened and we are all quite fine about it all!!It's a new experience for all of us and i see it all working fine. Yes it will end one day and our friendship will always continue no matter what!!thanks Hehe - You'll get a hard time now because not only are you living in their house, but now you're using their RHP account too!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
God you are right JG!!! *gasp* maybe she is paying them $1 per message or something. Or doing extra chores on the weekend. Wonder if she lives under the stairs too??
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RHP User
14 years ago
So wat if she doesnt pay rent she is using wat shes got if she is cool with it then all good prostitution shouldnt be judged or looked down apon.if u needed money and have wat people will pay for or just love it and can get paid for it then power to them
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'decibels' Quoting 'Meeka100' LOL... decibels good for you! So what I can't disagree with anyone. I have to bow down to you? Hmmm nah. Don't think so. Where did I say you have to bow down? If anything its us newbies who feel as if we have to bow down to you 'old girls' of the forum. I said I disagree with you disagreeing with someone else. Just an opinion after all. Never said you were the queen of anything or owned the forums, but you sure are acting like one now or perhaps a princess. Let me go get your crown for you. Its clearly visible by the amount of banter that goes on in the forums, even blind freddy can see that. So much favoritism, ouch. Shame on the newbies for their differing opinions. You are not a newbie...You are sexymylf who has been here before and is still here under two profiles... Still as bitter as ever I see! I had my suspicions it was you...and was very happy when you admitted it in chat last night! Wow, I recall you having a go at others about having more than one profile! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'decibels' Quoting 'Meeka100' LOL... decibels good for you! So what I can't disagree with anyone. I have to bow down to you? Hmmm nah. Don't think so. Where did I say you have to bow down? If anything its us newbies who feel as if we have to bow down to you 'old girls' of the forum. I said I disagree with you disagreeing with someone else. Just an opinion after all. Never said you were the queen of anything or owned the forums, but you sure are acting like one now or perhaps a princess. Let me go get your crown for you. Its clearly visible by the amount of banter that goes on in the forums, even blind freddy can see that. So much favoritism, ouch. Shame on the newbies for their differing opinions. You are not a newbie...You are sexymylf who has been here before and is still here under two profiles... Still as bitter as ever I see! I had my suspicions it was you...and was very happy when you admitted it in chat last night! Wow, I recall you having a go at others about having more than one profile! xFunlovingxLol, good to put a face to the name, any wonder it's bitter, now who is AVERAGE........HEHEGOOD REASON TO BE BITTER
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RHP User
13 years ago
Exactly what I was thinking.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' Exactly what I was thinking. ummmm...which part? lol--- the first post or the last post...or both? lol :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey, I think it is so great and I truely do wish i have some in my own home, you only live once so go for it, trust one another and see how it goes, you wont know how it is until u try it. life is worth living for and to have as much fun as you can :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
is anyone sharing "similar stories" or been in "similar situations"??- I would love to experience what you are doing - yes it could be messy, who cares, we are adults and make choices, if given the chance and given the right elements, by all means I would do it.. My choice :) The best thing, I would not end up wondering "what if" ;)enjoy!TD&H
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