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Venting
January 28 2015
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You'll be able to join in on the next arseathon...... ( for the initiated, posters change their profile pics to bare arse)
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
One person in here concerned for how i was getting on without my ex, suggested we catch up for a catch up. About the same time, messaged said ex and said " dont tell Annie but why dont you pop around. Im feeling horny and my wife is away" Oh dear, did i not mention gf and l are still friends....... One less friend on the list. And no need to reply to my lovely message. You are blocked.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'BooHooBoo Are you talking about Four corners episode called "Australia's Shame"? I watched it and saw. Disturbing as it is, It certainly has shocked the nation. Ms Foxy and many others goes to show the Government has still learned nothing from it's own current Royal Commission into Sexual abuse of kids while in 'care'. As part of the questions I answered at my private session, they wanted to know how to stop it happening. The restraints I saw being used on that boy were barbaric. The commissioners also questioned us about our concerns regarding aged care as it reflects back on our time in 'care'. They haven't listened to that either while things like the story from 9 News (aged care facility resident's daughter records acts of elder abuse) proves. The daughter who took the recording proving the abuse was told she was lucky the video was allowed as evidence because it was taken illegally. IMO, recordings in rooms of vulnerable children and adults in the 'care' of authorities should be mandatory. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Are you talking about Four corners episode called "Australia's Shame"? I watched it and saw. Disturbing as it is, It certainly has shocked the nation. Ms Foxy And Foxy, this nation has to do something about it ..........NOW do we have no shame ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
who can't communicate for shit
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' One person in here concerned for how i was getting on without my ex, suggested we catch up for a catch up. About the same time, messaged said ex and said " dont tell Annie but why dont you pop around. Im feeling horny and my wife is away" Oh dear, did i not mention gf and l are still friends....... One less friend on the list. And no need to reply to my lovely message. You are blocked. Six words BYE FELICIA !! and SHAME ON YOU
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RHP User
9 years ago
Institutions by their very nature are death making..paraphrasing Wolf Wolfensberger Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm currently suffering from a blocked duct in the lower eyelid of my right eye and because I'm using antibiotic eye cream, I am not allowed to use my contact lenses. My specs need repair and can't be worn out and I was just telling Annie that tonight, I realised how terribly vision impaired I am, especially at night. I couldn't see clearly at all and everything was blurry. Doesn't help that I've got night blindness! I'm just glad to have made it out and back alive, and I haven't become roadkill! How long more am I going to be kinda blind?! Wish I have someone to hold my hand when I have to head out for food and groceries.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Darnit... with the aforementioned temporary vision impairment condition, watching porn isn't enjoyable for now because all the dicks look like stubbies! Ggggrrrrr...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well there was the Foxxxy toilet roll tube test. Now there is the Peony Pony stubby holder test? (I failed). Those porno cocks must be HUGE! I hope the bung eyelid clears up quickly PurePeony
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Seachange73
9 years ago
hate the time difference between head office in US and Aus. its past 1:30am Friday and Had to do a conference call, via skype for work, 15hr difference (10:30am Thurs US)!! Got my work blouse on and my pyjama pants on while skyping. it'll be another 30 mins before my brain settles down... Am going to be so buggered for work tomo... faaark!!!
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Seachange73
9 years ago
hate the time difference between head office in US and Aus. its past 1:30am Friday and Had to do a conference call, via skype for work, 15hr difference (10:30am Thurs US)!! Got my work blouse on and my pyjama pants on while skyping. it'll be another 30 mins before my brain settles down... Am going to be so buggered for work tomo... faaark!!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Ghost71' Well there was the Foxxxy toilet roll tube test. Now there is the Peony Pony stubby holder test? (I failed). Those porno cocks must be HUGE! I hope the bung eyelid clears up quickly PurePeony Maybe time for a name change! Peony Pony - the pony that gideeup's and gallops when spanked!
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tylannister
9 years ago
My profile reverted to an earlier version!
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Did it become Foxxy's toilet roll test? Mmmm. Will have to hit the archives........
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I'm sure you didn't mean it as an ownership type of thing, and had read it in another forum Topic. It's been around longer than the great wall of China. I'll take ownership of the idea if crispy creme measurment, as I was at the airport (a few years back )with a group if RHP friends. We walked past the stand and I came out with bakers dozen quote. It was hilarious at the time. It just went from there. I'm pretty sure, crispy cremes were mentioned prior to that, somewhere in the forums? I don't know, as not going to search archives. :) Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'BooHooBoo Are you talking about Four corners episode called "Australia's Shame"? I watched it and saw. Disturbing as it is, It certainly has shocked the nation. Ms Foxy and many others goes to show the Government has still learned nothing from it's own current Royal Commission into Sexual abuse of kids while in 'care'. As part of the questions I answered at my private session, they wanted to know how to stop it happening. The restraints I saw being used on that boy were barbaric. The commissioners also questioned us about our concerns regarding aged care as it reflects back on our time in 'care'. They haven't listened to that either while things like the story from 9 News (aged care facility resident's daughter records acts of elder abuse) proves. The daughter who took the recording proving the abuse was told she was lucky the video was allowed as evidence because it was taken illegally. IMO, recordings in rooms of vulnerable children and adults in the 'care' of authorities should be mandatory. Peachy There are a number of reasons the underlying issues here warrant very careful consideration. I agree the matter which was reported was absolutely abhorrent, as was the response of the facility when the matter was brought to their attention. However, I also think it would be a serious error of judgement to require the victims of such crimes to lose their own right to privacy, and arguably also sacrifice (perhaps yet more of) their dignity in order to detect and/or apprehend the perpetrators of such crimes. I agree transparency and accountability are essential. I do not agree surveillance of the victims of crime is the answer. There are a vast number of issues to consider. Not least of all: Who would monitor the gathered data? Over what period? What safeguards would be in place to ensure any gathered data is not misused? Obviously too, such surveillance would drive up the costs of care. Given the existing pressures on care budgets, does the level of abuse warrant the expense? Are there more efficient and cost effective means of catching culprits? Almost invariably, preventative measures prove more effective. What are the recruitment practices in place in the industry? Those standards likely warrant closer scrutiny. Are prospective staff appropriately trained and screened prior to employment. What ongoing training is required? What are the levels and standard of staff supervision in the workplace? etc etc etc. It would seem the pressures on care budgets in these facilities tempts shortcutting of care standards. I would suggest this ought come as no surprise in privatised care institutions. Carers themselves most often view and treat their work as vocation. Business entities, their management structures and their shareholders/investors are motivated by profit. We all know it is the case in every business, there is great pressure to reduce overheads to maximise margins. Costs associated with personnel (such as remuneration, and/or time/motion/"efficiency") are low hanging fruit. Surprisingly, we all very quickly forget such things when confronted by highly emotive matters such as this one. This is symptomatic of the more broadly seen politics of fear we've being seeing for some years now. What I suggest is, rather than look to the symptoms of a problem and risk adverse unintended outcomes from hastily implemented (and perhaps not thoroughly thought out) attempts at a solution, we all we be much wiser to look to treat the root causes of problems. As a society, we already have sacrificed many hard fought and won freedoms and rights, but the substituted conditions do not necessarily offer the safety and security that were promised, or might be expected.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I refer here not only to the report of abuse of children in custody in the NT, but also to the reported instance of elder abuse in an Adelaide Aged Care facility, and in the other venues/locations where vulnerable people are falling prey to crime.
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RHP User
9 years ago
of the victims of crime in care facilities (amongst other places), you might recognize and think how people also sometimes find themselves victims of home invasions whereby they may be bound, gagged, assaulted (perhaps even tortured or raped), then have their possessions stolen. In recognition of these facts, would you therefore also call for mandatory surveillance and recording to take place in the homes of all citizens in order that if such a crime should occur, the perpetrators of said crime might be more easily brought to account? The same questions I asked before still apply to this scenario (and many more). Sounds rather a lot like Orwell's "1984" doesn't it? How about Kafka's "The Trial"? (Technical capacity for such practices already exist). Is that any way for people to live? There must be better ways of addressing the problem...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Why not use cameras that operate when the door is opened If privacy is required? Or remote control that come on randomly so the workers don't know when they're being watched? This type of abuse particually of our young, old and disabled has gone on too long, these ppl are mistreated because they can't fend for themselves. My Aunty was in a facility with dementure, the dentist used to come every 6wks, when my Aunty stopped eating, it was found that she had 4 rotten teeth that req'd removal, a quick trip to local dentist and all was good. Your answer is good long term fix, but how do we deal with it next wk? Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Think you're being a bit extreme there. Ppl are allowed to have camera's if they wish, I personally don't, but I know many ppl do. The ppl that need them are the "vunerable" that are in the hands of some "unscrupulous" ppl. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' What I suggest is, rather than look to the symptoms of a problem and risk adverse unintended outcomes from hastily implemented (and perhaps not thoroughly thought out) attempts at a solution, we all we be much wiser to look to treat the root causes of problems. As a society, we already have sacrificed many hard fought and won freedoms and rights, but the substituted conditions do not necessarily offer the safety and security that were promised, or might be expected. I agree with most of what you say on some level, all good points. I think the root problems are that money is the bottom line for institutions, and the power for individuals is attractive. Abusive people will seek out weak people to make use of. Institutions will turn a blind eye or at least downplay 'events' to their advantage. I believe there are many options that could be explored to make an appropriate model. Things that would need to be explored would include... Personnel recording. The right to use a private recording to prosecute. The possibility of agreements between patient, guardians etc and personnel & institutions. Time to dole out accountability. I'm sure that's not any sort of exhaustive list or anything above but I hope you get my idea. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Watch or look up The Standord Prison Experiment. It a real eye opener! They used college students as inmates and guards. The experiment was supposed to run over two weeks but had to be stopped after only six days. The college students playing the prisoners were distressed and depressed and the ones who took on the role of guard became sadistic. It was experiment to show how certain environments and prompting can turn "good people" It's food for thought on the topic of how complicated it is to work morally and impartially under such conditions. As far as the vulnerable in our community go - they need the most monitoring and support - end of.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was approaching with the current Royal Comission in mind. It's appalling what a blind eye lets slip by. I was also considering people in prison. It's not just about the vulnerable but also about the people in positions of power as evidenced by Soft's post. And was the point of my last post. Abusers will put themselves into positions of power to aid their access to victims. There is no ifs buts or maybes. The world is awash with news of the entertainment industry. The church. The government. And their parts in the organised abuse of children over the last few decades.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is your willingness to explore outside the standard responses. But now I'd like to see you consider answers for solving the problem of protecting the elderly, children, patients and prisoners from their carers. This has nothing to do with installing cameras in homes as much as most abuse in the world does occur at home. That would have to be viewed as a separate issue. Feel free to do so. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's not easy to be cool talking about something I feel so personally about. I have unusual experiences that give me a unique perspective (yes, I know we're all unique etc). I don't think there is an easy answer. I read all of what you said Mr Urn. More than once. Do you know anything about the Royal Commission I mentioned in my post above? It explores the systematic abuse of children in 'care' since early last decade. the Child Migrants, the Stolen Generation and the Forgotten Australians. The realisation of the depth of the problem in Australia with the inclusion of approximately 460,000 Australian children alongside the already recognised Child Migrants and the Stolen Generations was started by whistle blower Det Insp Peter Fox. The true horror is that the same thing is going on all over the world. Systematic and deliberate abuse by the all manner of people in positions of power. Why do I go on about it? We have already sunk off the news page. Most people you ask will have no idea what you're talking about. A lot won't want to know about it all, even friends, too confronting. The problem is societal and the problems are still going on now. I don't know if you read the story about the youth in detention. But the gov't there has made it legal to use restraints on children that include strapping them to a chair with a bag over their head and leaving them alone for hours. There was a law passed not to so long ago that Drs and such are not to report anything that happens in detention centres at the risk of being charged and sent to jail as an outcome. Re money, I read a story recently that the amount spent per patient in public nursing care homes is being reduced which is going to make them think twice before they call in someone. I've already seen it happen to a relation who was still waiting on a Doc visit for pain he was suffering. Then there's the friend who had to pay thousands of dollars to access a bed and keep it for their parent. The same patient who had a non diagnosed broken arm until a relative noticed and commented. Read the news. The stories of the troubles in our health system etc is constant. I said this is a topic close to my heart. I don't think there is an easy answer. Abuse happens within people's homes as much as it does in the system. :-(
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, it happened to me in my home and I wished I'd had security cameras or something. No-one believed me. It's so shocking the organizations don't believe one of their professionals could do such a thing. Fortunately, I wasn't badly abused but I still felt violated, took me a long time to come to terms with it. And look at me, I'm not exactly frail. It upsets me deeply how vulnerable the aged people in care are, and how more stringent checks aren't put in place to ensure they are treated with respect, as they deserve to be. Just using aged care as an example but my comment pertains to other institutions and positions of trust. I also met a lady who grew up at Fairbridge and was abused, she wasn't alone either. Her life story was shocking. She'd had a terrible life, but still smiled, such a beautiful person
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RHP User
9 years ago
We've been watching a series called, "60 Days In". Several men and women entered an American prison incognito as part of the show which was organised by the governor of the prison to try to work out where drugs are coming from. The TV crew is introduced in the prison as a show about new people in jail, so they get to take their men and women away for private interviews. Seeing the dynamics and violence in there has been shocking regularly. And seeing how much the moles have been effected and started falling into the patterns of the place is scary. The setup seems to guarantee problems, so I'll be interested to see what the Governor does to improve things there. I'll have a look at the Stanford Prison Experiment too... Cheers, Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Whose name is Wolf Wolfensberger.His theory of Social Role Valorisation addresses these issues.He says that institutions by their very nature are death making.Institutional cultures encourage the distancing of the other's humanity. If we do that,then what happens to the other person is not happening to a human being.. I worked with very vulnerable people,people often with high and complex support needs for thirty years.In my opinion it was all about the people providing the support,people who were ethical.people who were well trained ,people whose motives for doing the work were based on compassion. As a manager it was important to me that the people I and my staff provided support to had meaning in their lives. Creative options via a visual arts space,music studio,creative writing.exhibition program etc.Because the work was not just routine and the staff were engaged meaningfully in people's lives this was another safe guard. In my opinion it comes down to humanity,if the staff are compassionate,if they are chosen well and supported and trained then that is the best safeguard of all. Although I no longer do this work it continues.The current manager of these services is someone I mentored for ten years,he has now been the manager for nine. I now just work two days a week but the welfare of the students I provide support to is always my focus.I hope I make at least a small difference even if its just correcting the often negative views of students that some of my colleagues have .Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'peachy Yes, it happened to me in my home and I wished I'd had security cameras or something. No-one believed me. It's so shocking the organizations don't believe one of their professionals could do such a thing. Fortunately, I wasn't badly abused but I still felt violated, took me a long time to come to terms with it. And look at me, I'm not exactly frail. It upsets me deeply how vulnerable the aged people in care are, and how more stringent checks aren't put in place to ensure they are treated with respect, as they deserve to be. Just using aged care as an example but my comment pertains to other institutions and positions of trust. I also met a lady who grew up at Fairbridge and was abused, she wasn't alone either. Her life story was shocking. She'd had a terrible life, but still smiled, such a beautiful person Our survivors of 'care' as children are usually pretty amazing people aren't they, I touch. With big hearts that they can be protective of. I am incredibly sorry to hear such a thing happened to you, (yes I know you're not asking for sympathy xox), in the first place and about the added insult to injury. Just wanted to offer hugs and share your frustration. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks. Yeah, I wasn't looking for sympathy, just highlighting how vulnerable people can be when needing care. Children or the elderly, not forgetting disabled or mentally impaired, it makes me angry that there are individuals who take advantage. Lowest of the low. I believe there are protective measures they could put in place to protect these people, similar to schools where they have strict rules now, to protect the children, which is a great thing
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1'There is a social philosopher Whose name is Wolf Wolfensberger.His theory of Social Role Valorisation addresses these issues.He says that institutions by their very nature are death making.Institutional cultures encourage the distancing of the other's humanity. If we do that,then what happens to the other person is not happening to a human being.. I worked with very vulnerable people,people often with high and complex support needs for thirty years.In my opinion it was all about the people providing the support,people who were ethical.people who were well trained ,people whose motives for doing the work were based on compassion. As a manager it was important to me that the people I and my staff provided support to had meaning in their lives. Creative options via a visual arts space,music studio,creative writing.exhibition program etc.Because the work was not just routine and the staff were engaged meaningfully in people's lives this was another safe guard. In my opinion it comes down to humanity,if the staff are compassionate,if they are chosen well and supported and trained then that is the best safeguard of all. Although I no longer do this work it continues.The current manager of these services is someone I mentored for ten years,he has now been the manager for nine. I now just work two days a week but the welfare of the students I provide support to is always my focus.I hope I make at least a small difference even if its just correcting the often negative views of students that some of my colleagues have .Q Interesting perspective, some 'Homes' did assign numbers to the children in their care telling them that was their new name. My name was changed while in foster care of parents and most of my official records including my school ones are in that name. Until I asked about it at 15, and chose to use my birth name in future. I cannot argue that there is true beauty in systems at times. Get the right leader like yourself and dedicated professionals and I cannot disparage the success of their efforts. It is that I am approaching the topic from a negative viewpoint admittedly. xox I'm sorry Mr Urn, probably a bit of both but due to no fault of your own. :-) I do read comments over and over sometimes, I don't always get it right, but I do try. I was approaching this one from a very negative viewpoint which is my experience. If the RC looked to be achieving it's goal which was to be taking our experiences to improve present 'care' I'd be a far happier chappy. As it is, I'm angry and scared for more and more of those I love as the year progresses. I bow my head to the shame of what people will turn their eyes away from. I follow you because I admire you and Mrs Urn. :-) I'm sorry to hear such a horrible thing happened to you Mr Urn, the way things are handled can make such a huge difference and too often the victim is not part of the consideration but the rights of the alleged abuser.
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RHP User
9 years ago
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You have my thoughts. Annie x
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel very lucky to have grown up in a loving household and not an abusive one or even worse an institution. Unfortunately it did not stop me from becoming prey to a caregivers partner from the age of 6. This person was paid to take care of me while my parents worked hard to keep a roof over my head. They turned a blind eye to keep their marriage and the shameful secrets they themselves weren't able to cope with. Anyone in a position of trust, power and responsibility has a duty to the vulnerable. And I agree - turning a blind eye and not making a stand although terrifying, can be nearly as damaging as the act itself. I spent many years wondering whether I could bring children into this world, knowing the potential dangers and trauma out there - even in this amazing country. When my daughter turned six, I hit a wall of depression and anxiety. Every day was a reminder of the time when I was her age. The experiences I had, the threats, the abuse, the inability to speak to a soul about what was happening for fear of their lives as well as my own. But every time my daughter found joy in something it brought me to happy tears, her innocence so beautiful and raw. Watching a child who has other issues but has her innocence be who she is without living in fear. From a very young age as much as it was difficult for me, I spoke to her about owning herself. Her body is her own. And no matter what is done or said, she can always tell me anything without shame or getting into trouble. And I guess that's what we need to do as responsible adults. Teach our children, listen to our gut, monitor our environment, speak up for those who can't speak up for themselves. We've come a long way with protecting our vulnerable, but as the latest report shows we have a long way to go. I've always said child care workers, disability support workers, special needs assistants, and those who work in institutions are severely underpaid and often under appreciated. Those that love the job should be bottled. Sadly a large number that work with our vulnerable are doing it as a means of getting further or just to pay the bills. I've seen it especially in aged care. I don't know if there's a quick answer. But I do know that every injustice deserves attention. And I feel thankful knowing that there are at least some who won't just bury their heads in the sand. As much damage as the media have done, I appreciate them bringing these issues to our attention. If it educates one person or changes one persons view point, encourages one person to speak out then it can only be a good thing.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's a sad affair that I don't mention mostly because of the pain and memories it brings up. The triggers. This is a topic I should have left well enough alone because of that. I'm sorry if I offended anybody but there was no intent to do so on my behalf. Thank you to the people who care. One thing I will make sure of is that my demise is never posted here for people who didn't care about me when I was alive.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Peachy, it's a difficult subject for some. I won't pretend to understand it but I appreciate you, and others, who let the rest of know what is really happening. You all have our utmost respect. Keep speaking out. And don't listen to the nasty girls, they can have their little discussions over drinkie poos. Just let it roll off like water off a ducks back. The negative comments you may come across online mean nothing. Don't let it affect you. CD
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RHP User
9 years ago
Peach jam! 🍑🍾🍾
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Lots of people care about you. We know you have the best intentions and any offense that may be taken is short lived because we know you. Perhaps a short break would clear your head. Just remember we do care.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You should join us for drinks then. You are well qualified to occupy the leather lounge......
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RHP User
9 years ago
That means a lot to me. Thank you. Annie, thank you for your words here. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice'My heart goes out to all of you who have shared your stories, and Peachy, though we often don't get on here I sincerely admire how you have overcome the horrors (though you never said, I imagine that word is accurate) you were subjected to. will second this sentiment.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Actually do not really know the people who post here...unless we are friends in real life.Sometimes people share their stories or give us a small snapshot of their lives. Sometimes we just don't realise that the casual slur,the group negative view can have an impact that was unintentional. Sometimes if other events are negatively impacting on someone what is said here can and does often compound that pain ...just my opinion of course,others may disagree. Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
they broke the mould after they made you xx Oh shit, I mean that in a good way
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't believe anyone of any age should endure being violated in any way by anyone. The stories I read in the last couple of pages (PeachyPearl, Softand Curious and I Touch) as well as the conversations I've had with women who shared their hoffific stories and those that haven't spoken on here, makes me shudder. I don't know what to say, my thoughts are with you and I feel for you dosen't seem enough. So I got a couple of white rippon bands to spread the word, hence the new profile pic, just to let you know I'm with you all. CandyDelicious said "Just let it roll off like water off a ducks back", which I can relate to. I had a chat with our middle little darling earlier in the year, high school orientation day was at the beach and they learnt beach safety and about getting cought in rips. Perceptions is something I've had to adjust to, cope with, like letting it "roll off like water on a ducks back", I liken it to a tide I can't swim against, I can't change peoples perception only they can when and if they get to know me.And of course this no comparison to any form of abuse to anyone, in particular the brave posts recently. Some tides we can't swim against.Swimming in the ocean and getting cought in a rip, there's a couple of options.You could try to swim against the tide, though the current is to strong and you don't get anywhere, you become exhausted. Then you might need help or get help and struggle your way to the beach. Or being aware your cought in a current taking you out to sea, you could understand the strength and direction of the current and go with it. Out into the deeper, uncomfortable water but your not exhausted from trying to swim against the tide. Soon you'll be comfortable enough in the deeper water and have the energy to swim across the rip to calm waters and make your way to the beach. Cheers
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm a paid up member. plenty of pics of my face and not even one friend request or message accepted or replied to but that's life
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RHP User
9 years ago
Of the fact that this is a public forum. You can read these forums even if you're not a member of RHP. I am very thankful for the very brave souls who post their stories here, but I will never be that brave. I would however like to thank everybody who has shared their stories, they give me hope and make me realise I'm not alone.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Welcome to RHP.1 You're a bloke.2 Your'e in the majority here.3 Women are a minority here.4 There's no shortage of horny buggers here sending messages, flirts and friend request out all over the place.5 Some women get mightily sick of the unwanted attention.6 Be yourself7 Show some respect and you might get somewhere.8 Good luck
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' Just had my 15yo son, who is home with concussion, bust me playing 😳😱 I didn't quite get the vibe turned all the way off - he could hear it... Oops! 😂😂 did he get the concussion in the first place - hit over the head with a vibrator, perhaps ..?
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quick thinking is your friend. Just tell your son his concussion must be worse than you thought. Now he's hearing vibration noises? Tell him to go lay down.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' Just had my 15yo son, who is home with concussion, bust me playing 😳😱 I didn't quite get the vibe turned all the way off - he could hear it... Oops! 😂😂 love it. One of my old bullet vibes used to start up by itself when the batteries were low seriously, son and his friends were there sometimes and I'd hear this crazy buzzing coming from the bedroom, go racing in there to take the batteries out. It was keen and ready for action, wish all my men were the same
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' love it. One of my old bullet vibes used to start up by itself when the batteries were low seriously, son and his friends were there sometimes and I'd hear this crazy buzzing coming from the bedroom, go racing in there to take the batteries out. It was keen and ready for action, wish all my men were the same You're a bloody hard taskmaster, lady ! Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
Betty, I would love to catch you using your toys.........would jump in and help too
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RHP User
9 years ago
Since when was your self worth dependant on a number of people on a list??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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tylannister
9 years ago
So much for getting some work done after getting the kids down to sleep.
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RHP User
9 years ago
think you have an admirer what am I saying, with that pic, there's more than one
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Dog sick last night. Vet bills $600. So far. 😔 Camping excursion fee for son $350. Theatre fee son's school excursion $100. Damn. I'm broke. Being a single working mom is so hard at times. 😤
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just when you think you're getting a bit fitter you go and nearly have a cardiac arrest on the cross trainer...
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LeMerovingien
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Sarah Jessica Parker on feminism, in Marie-Claire magazine: "I am not a feminist. I don’t think I qualify. I believe in women and I believe in equality, but I think there is so much that needs to be done that I don’t even want to separate it anymore. I’m so tired of separation. I just want people to be treated equally.” Can someone get her a dictionary already? I'm glad to hear she's a feminist, but she's making the rest us of look silly. "I just want people to be treated equally.” I read that as she doesn't want to seperate the issues in equality concerning: gender, race, wealth etc and thinks they should be treated as one overarching issue? I have no idea what she really means though, I barely know who she is!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Feminism, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary: - The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. it's just that it is a poor term to describe the belief and that is evident from the number of people who say they are not "feminists" but then hold beliefs that qualify them as feminists (even if we ignore all the militant - often misandrist - aspects that often gets associated with feminism and turns people away from associating with the term).
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting SummerSolstice "And just for the one or two... Feminism, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary: - The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities." And...... There's no mention of equal pay!!! So.....feminists..... Fuck off :) :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Back at uni 2 weeks and of course I've already picked up a bug and woke up today feeling like crappola....so much work to do and all I want to do is sleep
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Posting crap, then when you are called out on it, get it cleaned up/deleted? So you dont look like a goose maybe?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Remember kiddies, we're not allowed to post anything remotely controversial on here. It's sweetness and light and everybody holding hands singing Kumbuya only. RHP pandering to the minority as usual.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think I broke my vagina! I returned to PT this week and during one session had to do a quick rotation. I jumped on an eliptical machine and misjudged the seat, catching one vaginal lip between my thigh and the seat! I'm struggling to walk Or sit ATM! Bloody hell! Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would have just shut up... pity that's not one of my talents. I copped a consequence for it and will now live with it. I will live with the consequences beyond that without complaining too. Cheers, Peachy
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL'If I had half a brain Of an old joke - the person so bright they have two brains - one's missing, and the other's out looking for it.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
If you are feeling fragile, maybe take time to step back and disconnect from forum rather than shoot from the hip, insult and apologise again. Insult has been said and it doesn't change things. Seems like a pattern of late in my observation. getting sick of the drama really. Pffft indeed.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL'If I had half a brain I would have just shut up... pity that's not one of my talents. I copped a consequence for it and will now live with it. I will live with the consequences beyond that without complaining too. Cheers, Peachy Going by that... I can understand some of what you're saying but my post is not an apology, more a recognition of the fact that there are consequences that I won't complain about because I do have some understanding of how a lot of people are going to feel. I do get that. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Stuff like engage brain before putting mouth in gear. :-D I bought a coffee cup for myself with that saying on it, lol. Allow me to share a bad joke with you. In Some Rare Instances, Brain Damage Can Lead to Joke AddictionOh, wait... Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Peachy is always cheery and happy so are you suggesting she causes dramas on here? because from where I sit, it's the exact opposite, she sets a fine example for all of us. And insults? haha I'll leave that well alone
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RHP User
9 years ago
if you're getting sick of the drama, maybe you should take a break. Hate to burden you like this, I'm really worried about you. Do you think you should take a break?
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RHP User
9 years ago
HAHAHAHAHA my knuckles are skinless lol *grunts like a cave man* Ok I concede feminism isn't the best topic to be trolling with.....even on a casual basis.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know it's insensitive of me.......but... Bahahahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ohh poor Mary Can I kiss it better?
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
I couldn't help myself. I stopped by the beach on my way home from work, for an early morning walk along the beach. It is such a divine, glourious day here in Brisbane. The sun is bright and warm, the birds are singing, waves are crushing, people are out. Great for the soul....This is living. :) Ms Foxy
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MissBishere
9 years ago
Getting glasses and still feeling like I can't see 🤓😖
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I couldn't help myself. I stopped by the beach on my way home from work, for an early morning walk along the beach. It is such a divine, glourious day here in Brisbane. The sun is bright and warm, the birds are singing, waves are crushing, people are out. Great for the soul....This is living. :) Ms Foxy You bragger... Though I'm glad at least someone is having some fine weather somewhere. Down here it's been generally overcast with the odd spot of rain, and been coolish for a while. Would love for the sun to come along. Forecast for the middle of the week - we shall see. Would be nice to see it today - got to go out later to perform some healing (also good for the soul) and it's usually dead cold in the hall. You got some space for an extra body ? Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
People who use "this is how it is in Australia" as an attempt to ostracise, insult of belittle someone who has chosen to live here, after starting their lives in another country. The way I see it, "the way it is here" is accepting of everyone, and supporting the notion of free speech and freedom of expression. Sarcasm is my primary form of communication - and I'm Aussie through and through.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Controlling the forum...love it. I don't see anyone on here stopping you from having your say, loudly and regularly. Also who is it that runs to the mods to have comments and threads deleted every time something is posted that they don't like / agree with, hmm? That's what I would call controlling the forum. Honestly this place just gets more ridiculous every day.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Amazing how deluded many can be. And their inability to self reflect is truly remarkable However, in the end, truth wills out and their ultimate nature is always revealed But its a nice Sunday arvo, and there's too much other shit going on in the world for us to add to it Life is too short my friends And that last sentence, is, my ultimate vent
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
My thoughts are for you. And im not engaging in this shitfight. Too nice a day and some sexy meets to get set for. Peace all
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RHP User
9 years ago
A swift kick in the nuts might help you empathise with my situation! 😝😊 Joder thank you but I'm getting some TLC for my injury lol Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sounds like you're in a bit of a flap... Boom tish!!
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
but as I'm in this topic at the moment, and saw the change of pic whilst here....Willow, as much as I enjoyed your lovely torso pic, I really like your current pic of your corset and billowy blouse.Do you have a pic of this that shows a bit more of you in that outfit ?? Mmmm Tall
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RHP User
9 years ago
V funny. 😄
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't have the uncropped pic any more. It was on my old phone.But agree it's a lovely outfit. From my absolutely favorite gothic/steampunk online store in the Netherlands, called Dracula Clothing. ( who I constantly plug because their clothes are amazing and the best quality I've seen.And cheap. And free postage to Aus)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've come back to site quite late in the piece, I know. I was occupied offline the past week, hence my lack of response to all of your earlier posts. I do not have all of the answers to this issue but I have taken significant time walking around it and looking it up and down to try to better understand the problem. I'm not convinced the victims (or potential victims as the case may be) of crime should accept a life lived under surveillance as was proposed by some to become mandatory. I will explain some of my reasoning in this post, though I'm sure you can appreciate I cannot be exhaustive in this forum. (Well, actually I likely could, but I will not. Many will no doubt be quite pleased to hear/read!). This is the sort of issue which raises many, many more questions to be answered before a satisfactorily workable solution may be found. By coincidence, recently I've been studying, reading and thinking on some of these sorts of issues, including a range of Law Acts and Case Law. (I mentioned one relevant book a couple of weeks ago in the thread "Books that changed..."). I won't offer a full review or even a precis here, but I will say it made for an interesting read. I would highly commend similar background reading on these sorts of matters and their implications before one makes strident calls for increased surveillance. There is much to consider. By another coincidence, a week ago last Friday I discussed some aspects of this with a friend who worked in an Aged Care facility until quite recently. Our discussions suggested some (particularly, but not exclusively) non-clinical staff recruitment practices and standards may warrant review. My friend described basic criminal checks being undertaken, but little more seemed required of prospective employees in terms of formal qualifications, or scrutiny of their background, experience or their references. This includes people in close proximity to residential clients. For example: Kitchen and Housekeeping staff, Grounds/Gardening staff, Handyman etc. In essence, this is a situation where one party's failure to meet their own legal obligations/responsibilities, has the consequence that another party's legal rights are violated, and/or that the other party has suffered some injury or loss. In each case, you need to identify precisely which Laws have been violated, how they were violated, and the remedy sought. What are the minimum and/or maximum penalties? What are the precedents? What would be the time and cost to fight in Court? Of course I am aware none of this addresses the question/suggestion of prevention. I'll come to that shortly. Firstly however, I think it important to give due recognition to certain facts. It may be cold comfort to some, however, by a range of objective measures, a greater proportion of people today (particularly in places such as our own Nation) enjoy a life which is more comfortable, more safe and more secure than at any time in all of human history. Of course there is more that could be done. There also always will be some people who are more vulnerable to cruel and/or unscrupulous treatment or exploitation. The question how best to protect the vulnerable is central. This begs question as to what constitutes "best"? What plans might be capable of being implemented and what might those plans cost? What is the likelihood or record of success elsewhere for each proposal? What actually are all of the costs? (Tangible/Intangible) The costs of the crime? The costs of the solution? Which is the most cost effective means of resolving the problem(s)? Assuming the problems are to be resolved, how should all of the various costs be apportioned? (Lots of people already are not satisfied with current costs of Aged Care, or levels of taxation. How do you address the very real likelihood Aged Care fees and/or taxes would need to be increased?!) I acknowledge these cases of abuse present very difficult legal, ethical and moral problems to resolve, but still I find it striking that people might readily succumb to the suggestion it is fair/just/reasonable/proper for a proposed solution that requires the victim(s) of a crime to bear (or perhaps suffer?) significant further injury, loss, interruption and/or violation of their own existing legal rights when there are other, more effective preventative measures that may be employed to prevent or to at least investigate the commission of a crime. I think it may be fair and just to correct or refine work systems to prevent employees' (motivation and/or opportunity for) crime, and to aid detection and prosecution of crime after the fact. I would argue (potential) victims of crime ought not be required to surrender themselves to close personal surveillance, thereby also surrendering all of their other legal rights under the Privacy Act and the National Privacy Principles (to cite just a couple of glaring examples). In my earlier posts I asked what I thought were some pertinent questions such as who would operate and be legally responsible for conduct of surveillance/data acquisition such as was proposed? Who should have access to that data, over what period of time (retention) and in what circumstances? What of the circumstances where a client/resident and their visitors need to discuss sensitive personal matters? What if those topics of discussion were Medical-In-Confidence, Legal-In-Confidence, Commercial-In-Confidence? In each of these circumstances, would it not reasonable to expect a right to privacy to engage in such discussions in your own place of residence, or while visiting a friend's or a relative's place of residence? What rights and protections are retained? What rights and protections are lost? You might see some common features to the operations and practices of people and organisations involved in the types of crime and corruption which have been variously described (be they in Religious-based, or in Secular and/or Government-based Institutions/Organisations/Venues/Activities). There are known countering measures and strategies which appear not to be indicated or employed in many of the circumstances of the recently reported abuse events. For example, I mentioned recruiting practices in one of my earlier posts. If we are to assume the worst (capitulating to the politics of fear by doing so) we might prefer to shift the onus of proof of good character. This too presents a dilemma due to the longstanding legal principle that an accused is deemed innocent until proven guilty by a legally constituted trial. There are various industries, organisations, and work positions which require pre-employment screening for medical, physical and mental fitness. There is precedent for a range of parameters to be tested, by a range of methodologies, and result thresholds for comparison. As examples I might cite drug testing, physical fitness (strength/cardio) exams, and psychometric/intelligence testing. Would people consider those practices worth implementing in workplace settings more broadly? You might also consider staff postings, durations/tenure, rosters and timing of staff turnover. These strategies have been variously employed to reduce staff familiarity and formation of cliques. Consider also, structured staff training requirements (in-house or external as appropriate), career progression prospects/succession planning, rewards and recognition of staff performance measures. It appears corruption may be more likely found in conditions of long tenure and low staff turnover, in environments where (particularly external) transparency is low. Also conditions conducive to conflicts of interest represent susceptibility. I disagree large scale surveillance is either necessary, reasonably practical, cost effective or wise. Rather, we'd be better served by revised recruitment and workplace practices and by properly instituted, funded, justifiably targeted, and truly independent audits and oversight such as which already successfully capture issues and help maintain public confidence in so many other institutions and aspects of our lives. What are fair levels of transparency and accountability? Whose conduct bears scrutiny to either prevent or to solve a crime? (The criminal or the victim?)
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Thank you.Pity about not having access to that pic any more - it really does suit. Just something about the overall composure and cut of cloth. Yes, can't complain about the quality from the Dutch - totally unbiased, naturally....
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RHP User
9 years ago
I always knew you were a ball buster......just usually in a much more pleasant setting lol :p Xxx funny lady
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Seachange73
9 years ago
what happened to your thread? I just clicked on my stream and it was gone? Did I miss out on something? I commented on my break that I hope the thread wont be derailed nor deleted as some wonderful touching stories were relayed. such brave souls to post their stories, specially Mr. Urn.. Will try again at lunch time....
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
the petrol can got knocked over by the vacuum cleaner.............and boom
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RHP User
9 years ago
That a thread goes somewhat off topic, but when it does, I'm ok with the mods closing it down so no further posting can happen and cooler heads can prevail and we all draw deep breathes. But it does upset me when the thread is deleted. I like to read the genuine posts, maybe make comment but at times contact people because of their honest and uplifting posts and commend them on their sharing. Disappointing.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
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Seachange73
9 years ago
if the mods deletes a thread, to have it also any references deleted off the stream and on the hotlist topic selection. Just some consistency. some referential integrity issue for the IT people to sort out.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
i agree. it would have been best if the thread got cleaned up. it was going well. i do not see any good reason for it being torched. Unless of course I missed something in between views. I was going to post my experience this afternoon, as I said. Mods, can yoiu please enlighten us on why the thread was deleted?
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RHP User
9 years ago
That some seemingly fragile flowers have to be tippy toed around when they have a tantrum.
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RHP User
9 years ago
That the thread was pulled! To those including myself who shared very personal and at times very traumatic stories - please let me say your voice was heard. Your stories are important regardless of the action taken. It's shameful and upsetting. Summer - it was a brilliant thread and I'm so sorry
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RHP User
9 years ago
It was a disgusting display of further bullying in my opinion alright for those of you who aren't on the receiving end of it but you of all people, should understand. If you choose to ignore it, you're enabling and just as guilty as the people doing it. Yes the stories are heartbreaking, but why don't you now take a stand to help blot it out. instead of standing by watching other people be subjected to it, right under your nose. Absolutely appalled for the lack of thought the here and now. Your pasts have been horrible, some of the stories are disturbing and upsetting, but the complete disregard for those currently being subjected to it, I don't even have words really, I'm confused by that. If it upsets you so much, then why allow it to continue to happen?
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RHP User
9 years ago
You didn't need to try and have the last say, you yourself have been guilty of the actions you condemn! Please!!!!! Mary
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