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Unreliable RHP guys
May 03 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have actually met some fantastic, wonderful people from RHP. Many of whom will be friends for life now. Those that dont meet or chicken out at the last minute I figure are either lying about themselves and thier circumstances or they are just on line for the online tease...the whole fantasy thing. If that is thier thing I wish they could let me know up front. I dont mind playing the on line tease for them but for me to go to all the trouble of arranging a meeting normally involves travel, accommodation and suitable respite carers for my kids. To cancell at the last minute for anything less than serious illness or death is not good.
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
A lot of time wasters on here. I've been cancelled on by single males quite a few times - sometimes with seem to be legit reasons, other times just clearly them backing out. Who knows why. Be thankful you at least got a last minute cancellation - A few weeks ago I didn't even have that courtesy extended to me. After very frequent online chats and messages/texts back and forth, he completely disappeared. Very strange. Who knows their motives. I try not to waste too much time contemplating it, because I find that they waste enough of my time dicking me around without actually 'dicking' me around Dida xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I do not know why guys cancel but miss didactic I would never cancel on you : )
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RHP User
15 years ago
I can't believe guys cancel on you either, I read you profile and you seem like a really nice young woman. I looked at your pics.....ok ok feeling ever so slightly pedo....lol. Very nice....maybe you just intimidated them.Best of British to you!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe you are just going after the wrong guys perhaps? Just a thought. Some of us never stand up a meeting. Well thats not true, there is one girl I ALWAYS stand up, she's gorgeous and one day boasted "Every man always comes running when I call." To this date I've stood her up five times, she just won't learn lol Apart from that, which is just humour value, some of us never stand a girl up.
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RHP User
15 years ago
ive had the same thing happen to me too, set up to meet 3-4 times but always last minute cancels by her.even had her ask if i was busy that night, my plans suddenly changed to make me free, said yes, and then she turns around later and says shes tired from work..
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
Quoting 'CarlosSpicyWienr' I....maybe you just intimidated them. Thanks New, but that's not a good enough excuse. If they didn't feel like they would go through with it, don't make plans and leave someone hanging. I do wonder if like Margie says they are just here for a bit of tittilation. Poor form though to do that to those who are genuine. Also I think saying 'never' is a bit impossble. Sometimes things come up and you do genuinely have to cancel, but it's about common courtesy and being decent enough to let someone know in advance. DIda xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
we have had the same.....our experience is though, that these guys are invariably attached, and cant get a 'leave pass' even though they have told us over and over they are single.......
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think it is just an unfortunate part of life. It has happened to me as well. Last Friday to be precise... There was a sexy female coming around to my place. I have my favourite bottle of red here waiting and.... No call at all. I have texted since, but not even a reply to say sorry. What can you do??? Part and parcel for meetin people from the net I suppose, but some of the fun I have had with some of the great people I have met makes it all worth while.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'DidacticTactics' A lot of time wasters on here. I've been cancelled on by single males quite a few times - sometimes with seem to be legit reasons, other times just clearly them backing out. Who knows why. Be thankful you at least got a last minute cancellation - A few weeks ago I didn't even have that courtesy extended to me. After very frequent online chats and messages/texts back and forth, he completely disappeared. Very strange. Who knows their motives. I try not to waste too much time contemplating it, because I find that they waste enough of my time dicking me around without actually 'dicking' me around Dida xxIt does seem to happen quite frequently on here , that goes for us guys too , whether its just straight out being scared or they are just full of it , , would not and could not ever stand you up Didact even if it is just for drinks , Firefly
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RHP User
15 years ago
I always get let down by the single guys, they book their spots for our parties and then dont turn up and others miss out because they cant be bothered to notify us that they cant make it after they have been selected.Just part of it all, after 8 years of having the club i get to know who will turn up and who wont after the first email nowdays.Leesa
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint' I always get let down by the single guys, they book their spots for our parties and then dont turn up and others miss out because they cant be bothered to notify us that they cant make it after they have been selected.Just part of it all, after 8 years of having the club i get to know who will turn up and who wont after the first email nowdays.Leesa but dont you have to take the 'single' bit with a grain of salt? does their behavior not appear to be just like what an 'attached' guys would be?
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athletic_couple
15 years ago
.... some of you single girls are guilty as well.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Loving it how all the single guys on here are using this topic as a chance to set up a meeting with Didactic. Dream on, fellas.
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BradBrisCanHost
15 years ago
Without starting a flame war - rather I'd like to start a reasonable discussion - is a particular type of guy that is unreliable?ie a certain age range, body type etc Are young muscly guys more likely to not show up?Recently I was messaged on another site at around 7am to see if I was free that day - now I had friends down from Brisbane and I had to wait until they woke up to see what the plans were before I could reply - so it was around Midday before I went to reply - only to find I was blocked...presumably they would view me as a time-waster or unreliable. But sometime you can't just say yes straight away - perhaps I should have replied to say I would let them know later in the day, but lesson learned I suppose.So any ideas on if there is a type of male that is 'unrelaible'?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree.... sooo many men, talk BIG but act ohhh soooo SMALL ! . I get begged by guys to allow them to accompany me to swingers type clubs and events or private parties. And EVERY time I have organised to go with an RHP guy... he has BACKED OUT ! . Some of these clubs/parties are rather exlusive so it's a pretty big deal getting in the door. I think the thought excites them then the prospects of all the other HOTTIES and competition scares the shit out of them !! . So my choice is to go alone which I don't enjoy, go as the extra woman with a couple or skip the fun or together which I usually do. . Guys... you need to CHILL, TALK LESS, ACT MORE ! . Hugs, Saturn
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XtremGuy
15 years ago
How about a little notice Saturn as you know I would love to accompany you... I promise to behave this time i swear :-(
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RHP User
15 years ago
Frankly, I think RHP guys are great. The one's I've met from here have been awesome. OK, I've met a couple of wackos, but that was before I learnt to filter better.I caught herpes off another site (ok, so it could have happened anywhere, and had a bad scare with other nasties). RHP for me thanks. There are good boys on here.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mike no their behavior is not like an attached guy, as we dont allow married guys entering our club pretending to be single at all.THere is a process we go through for registering of single guys and after the process you i have begun to learn if they are going to attend or not.Leesa
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RHP User
15 years ago
Having said that , dont get me wrong, all the rhp guys that we have had the pleasure of meeting are awesome guys and now great friends of ours and many have gone on to become couples at the club.THe ones that dont turn up we have obviously never met, so i wouldnt knowBut there is NOT one guy from RHP that we have met after our registration process that we would ever say is not nice and friendly and very respectful.RHP guys rock! Leesa xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's not just guys.......some girls act the same way
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' I agree.... sooo many men, talk BIG but act ohhh soooo SMALL ! . I get begged by guys to allow them to accompany me to swingers type clubs and events or private parties. And EVERY time I have organised to go with an RHP guy... he has BACKED OUT ! .Ha! That's pathetic. In any case, they're likely to be guys who have never been before.... Now.... ummm... maybe you should ask that question first. :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
yes its too true , been stood up on many occassions by guys , even after we have booked motel rooms etc , or at the last minute their best friend has died , dog has died , or they have been called into work
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RHP User
15 years ago
I guess you have to take the rough with the smooth. It's almost as frustrating when you think you are getting on really well with someone, but then go to send them a message only to find that they have closed their account! Either way, you just have to take the attitude that it's their loss (and hopefully someone else's gain!).
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RHP User
15 years ago
I turn up to every meetnig coz there's way too much fun to be had. (The one you knock back is the one you never catch up on lol) Anyone keen? [email protected]
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RHP User
15 years ago
And once again I got a late message from a RHP guy telling me he had to "work" .. lmfao this from a Tradie who reckons he has to all of a sudden work at 9pm and then tells me it's a "conference call" that he has to wait for once I told him that it was bullshit...changed his story completely! I must say that from here...the guys are unreliable....from the Sister Site to here...never had a problem! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
From my experience its not just the guys, Ive had ladies and couples do the same last minute "work" or "family" issue as well. I think it comes more down to honesty. I wouldnt care so much even if ive paid for the room if the lady or couple was honest and just said they had cold feet.We all get cold feet from time to time or the chat and text has been going on for so long the moment has disappeared.Im still here and syill looking so there are nice and honest people out there....just have to beleive.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' And once again I got a late message from a RHP guy telling me he had to "work" .. lmfao this from a Tradie who reckons he has to all of a sudden work at 9pm and then tells me it's a "conference call" that he has to wait for once I told him that it was bullshit...changed his story completely! I must say that from here...the guys are unreliable....from the Sister Site to here...never had a problem! xFunlovingx You've involved your sister and they're still not showing up?HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Dont forget, this can go both ways. I have had the same happen, pick i time, place ect to meet, and they call, or txt and say sorry, cant today. hmmmm even worse if you have taken a day off work to make the meeting....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' And once again I got a late message from a RHP guy telling me he had to "work" .. lmfao this from a Tradie who reckons he has to all of a sudden work at 9pm and then tells me it's a "conference call" that he has to wait for once I told him that it was bullshit...changed his story completely! I must say that from here...the guys are unreliable....from the Sister Site to here...never had a problem! xFunlovingxWhats the sister site to this one......please tell me
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' I haven't had a guy from RHP let me down, ever...No cold feet, no calling it off last minute, I find there are a lot of punctual, reliable, consistent, really fantastic guys on this site, and we have a great time together. Of course you have to screen heavily to find them, but THEY ARE OUT THERE KEEP LOOKING GIRLS!!!I have made quite a few really good friendships from RHP, and it more than makes up for the time I spend screening. And quite a few guys going way beyond the definition of a FWB or FB:Guys offering to help me move house (and not into their place...)Offers for helping with my car (I don't go there)Offers to help out in anyway around my place that I may happen to need assistance with (and not in a demeaning or patronising way)And from the girls on RHP who have met you decent, fantastic guys THANK YOU it is noticed and very much appreciatedChilli xx This is not meant to be a cheap shot in anyway , You are from Perth , The guys on the east coast are a little different , Pluse you sounds like a sweet heart so I sure that helps as well. The funny thing is it,s a lot more easy for me ( male ) to bring a single girl to a club , then my wife with a guy , she giving up now. she a sweet heart as well, guys get cold feet .
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RHP User
15 years ago
As a part time single guy and in an open relationship, I would never not turn up if a date had been arranged. Simply put my time to play us precious. I only get to play when sal is unavailable. Single guys if anything have been unreliable, unlike the woman we met as a couple. Dont forget singles night at C.I reliable guy like me will be there :p
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RHP User
15 years ago
being a single male the tables are turned and there are alot of single girls that do the same maybe if you open you age range a bit you will find that you get the better responce, mature guys love sex tooo. A lady hoildaying here in Townsville wanted to have 4 guys, i got a call asking if i would be one of the guys the other 3 were alot younger then me and were saying yes they would love to do it ,, well i was the only one that turned up the young ones seem to chicken out im now moving down to Bribie, so if any females like to have some playtime with someone that will turn up let me know
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RHP User
15 years ago
Couples, women and men all have their turn at being unreliable and not showing, not responding to texts or contact or maybe just not having the courage to say, thanks but no thnaks. As a couple we have found men can be unreliable, but I have found quite the opposite when with my single profile. Infact, I feel I am the one that is unreliable etc. I just don,t have the time spare to meet just like that, as say Andy does....being that he is only part time in a relationship! I am commited full time to mine regardless of where I am or who I am with, couple that with family life, work and all the rest my time is very limited... Yet I so badly want to play!! :( xx Salina
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RHP User
15 years ago
Move give less take?or Just Do It?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I dont get time wasters, why even talk to somepone you are not interested in to start with....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Does everything on this site revolve around the male being the bad guy?Everything I read in the forums and chatroom is 'wah men this men that'You women are equally responsible for this sort of behaviour, and sometimes even induce it.On the topic, if I back out I atleast say something, but people seem to enjoy making their own storyline out of it. Say I get a call in to work over the weekend, I tell them, and they think I'm telling lies and instantly assume I'm bullshitting them. A number of you women need to get this 'males are are liars and useless' mentality out of your heads.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We have never been let down by a single guy or couple once we have all made the decision to meet and play. (we dont meet to go with the flow, rules and expectations are agreed to in advance) Sure there is quite a lot that are just talk but somehow we must sence them.
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RHP User
15 years ago
They probably join and post pics and blah so people will message them and tell them they're hot and that they want to fuck them etc..and from the attention they get it boosts their self esteem and they feel validared from that...that's how they get their ''feeling of importance''.sorry for any typos or bad grammer rhp isn't very smart phone friendly :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi all....... My very first post....please be gentle.....LOL I have found quite the opposite.... As the is a very high ratio of Single guys to Single woman and the same for couples...... The women and the couples Are Extremely picky..... I have chatted indepth with a few...etc and always get the jumping through hoops routine or all of a sudden have become to busy, to even get together in a social setting...... Quite perplexing...... I would really like to hear other views.....so much to read.... Sirlixalotmore
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its just not guys I have sent so many massages and no reply and arranged meetings but no showARE THERE ANY REAL PPL ON HERE WHO WANT TO MEET
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's never pleasant when someone is unreliable or just plain fake. I used to be a paid member but let it expire because I never got any genuine replies, just spam mainly. Mind you, it's very clear to me that there isn't much demand for straight males in their 40s, so a lot of us males are up against that too.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well, I don't know about the guys on rhp, although I'm certainly not unreliable, non-genuine or attention seeking (& it hasn't done me heaps of good lol), but there's certainly no shortage of game players, teases and unreliable ones amongst the women. I think a significant proportion of the women haven't got the slightest intention of meeting anyone and are just going on the site to massage their ego. Unfortunately, I think both genders definitely have some ordinary representatives on the site.
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blueballs212
15 years ago
just following up zzz888 and travisxxx, as a 60 year old male, it is safe to assume that any contact at all will be with a scammer, shonk, fantasiser or outright crook. So when it inevitably turns out to be so, there is little disappointment. When it, as seldom as it may be, turns out the opposite, then it is profoundly enjoyable. I wish it were otherwise, but such is life.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Lancepunts'Does everything on this site revolve around the male being the bad guy? I can be bad...I can be very bad. So spank my naughty arse!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well it happens in WA too! Two in one week in fact! ... Yep, maybe lack of experience 'filtering' on my behalf? ... Yes it annoys us at the time, when we've spent time getting ready, organising the kids, driving and waiting ... Afterwards we're just grateful that they've shown their 'form' and we can just move on to meeting real people. In saying all that we've met some great people and they certainly make up for the inconsiderate ones!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Lancepunts' Does everything on this site revolve around the male being the bad guy?Everything I read in the forums and chatroom is 'wah men this men that'You women are equally responsible for this sort of behaviour, and sometimes even induce it.On the topic, if I back out I atleast say something, but people seem to enjoy making their own storyline out of it. Say I get a call in to work over the weekend, I tell them, and they think I'm telling lies and instantly assume I'm bullshitting them. A number of you women need to get this 'males are are liars and useless' mentality out of your heads. as a couple, we have had more than our fair share of last minute cancellations and completely mystery no-shows. in every case, by a supposedly 'single' guy. we no longer invite anyone to our home as a result. its just not worth the effort thats put in here, when it so often ends in a non-event.......
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RHP User
15 years ago
They could just be on here for adventure and to get kicks for a confidence booster and when they have you all ready for a date they call it quits on the whole thing because thats all they wanted was to know they can have you... Alot of my mates flirt and make the girl really like you and then quit just to know if they still have game
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RHP User
15 years ago
first of all stalkie i wouldnt stand u up luv those legs nice butt. iv arranged 2 meet guys as well but they dont show up & its not just this site these days guys r only after sex they r not interested in a friendship/relationship ladies its not just happening 2 u ladies only,sometimes it just makes u feel like giving up on these sites as r they 4 real like the guys.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We have had guys that are on there way with a no show or dont have the decency to call or txt to cancel,whatever way you see it its bad manners and its wasted our time of planning when we could of gone with someone else.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' so guys do this just for kicks? what a pack of idiots why would u pass up sex just to know that you could get it? what a waste of time! but in ethe end still don't have the confidence to go through with it
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Lancepunts'Does everything on this site revolve around the male being the bad guy? Of course two lines of logic there. 1/ The girls are in charge and allways right. 2/ The Forum police is made up of girls blouses.
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
Of course it's not just men that stand people up and are unreliable. The majority of 'women' on this site (and I say 'women' because a lot of the profiles are doubtful when it comes to whether they are genuine) give us all a bad name also by being here, as was said, for simply an ego boost. Or when it comes time to meet they freak out and can't go through with it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
ummm sorry but i have been let down so many times its not funny :( thats why i am now back to guest status caus ei like real people who say and do what they mean no unreilable guy here :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
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GezWouldGo
15 years ago
Yep, heaps of time wasters in here, but i'll tell you something for free ....... they aren't restricted by gender !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Any ladies tired of being stood up by men should do one thing....MESSAGE ME!!! lol I won't stand you up and have alwaysd turned up to planned play dates.
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RHP User
15 years ago
What about the 1s who don't reply messages ,its not hard to do even if its to say no thanks , and when u see them on line and send them a flirt or another massage u find u r blocked , for what, tying to meet,
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'pard_e_time' but in ethe end still don't have the confidence to go through with it Quoting 'pard_e_time' No i dont even think its that Maybe they have girlfriends. I had two cancel on me on the easter weekend. One sent me a text at the last minute and the other one never responded. Why bother giving out your phone number to a stranger just to stuff them around? Do they have two phones, one for real and one for rhp? Its beyond me really. How do you know if someones for real or not? Im not a stupid person but you dont have any way of really knowing for sure. Ive met guys just by text messaging and emails and even having their phone number doesnt guarantee you theyre genuine. whats a girl to do really?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its not the getting stood up that i think is worst. Its how you get stood up too. At least you folks who are at home and the doorbell never rings only have to deal with the disappointment. Many's the time (yes, literally many) I've gone somewhere to meet someone, waited and waited. No call. No message. You wait a little longer. Maybe they're stuck in traffic. This street corner is windy. Maybe its been raining? Its half an hour after the appointed time. You got there early just in case so you've been standing here for almost an hour soon. Its gets to the hour mark, maybe a little past that... your phone buzzes with an SMS. "I'm not coming". You ask if something's wrong... No answer. You call. No pick up. No more response to emails. I know what I'm thinking. Then just to add insult to injury it turns out the next day it was too cold and rainy... you have a nasty cold for the next week to keep your misery company. Yay. My life doesn't suck at all.Of course as one of the many guys who seems to almost never get replies to his email, never gets any interest at all, I have to also offer the option that maybe you girls and guys who are being stood up need to "pick against type". If you keep meeting the same unreliable folks, or not meeting as it happens, then you need to remember these were the ones you chose. The difference between reliable west coast guys and shocking east coasters for example may simply be your poor taste or "your type". The fact may be that you are all just picking the (possibly same) rotten apples.Food for thought? (No pun intended! Oh all right... maybe a little)Hope you're all having fun...E.
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RHP User
15 years ago
the topic is about unreliable guys...has it only taken 2 pages until its ben hijacked? its not about couples or women, they were the subjects of other forum topics.......... stay on topic people........
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Sigmalonewolf
15 years ago
i have never stood up, or been stood up by anybody..... maybe that is the comfort level i establish before the day?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' the topic is about unreliable guys...has it only taken 2 pages until its ben hijacked? its not about couples or women, they were the subjects of other forum topics.......... stay on topic people........ I don't want to offend but we can each of us only talk about our experiences. If, as you feel, the topic can only be about unreliable men, then it will by definition just become a whinge session for the women (and perhaps the odd gay guy?). Like so many of the other men here, I've never deliberately stood up anyone in my life and yet its happened to me often. I feel its not sex limited and I feel no compunction about saying that. E.
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blueballs212
15 years ago
I concur and have nothing to add.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'eviltwin' Quoting 'mikeandshel' the topic is about unreliable guys...has it only taken 2 pages until its ben hijacked? its not about couples or women, they were the subjects of other forum topics.......... stay on topic people........ I don't want to offend but we can each of us only talk about our experiences. If, as you feel, the topic can only be about unreliable men, then it will by definition just become a whinge session for the women (and perhaps the odd gay guy?). Like so many of the other men here, I've never deliberately stood up anyone in my life and yet its happened to me often. I feel its not sex limited and I feel no compunction about saying that. E. ok flower, settle down.... was just reminding those here what the OP posted.
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RHP User
15 years ago
He has a point. You can't just whinge about it without taking a little flak yourselves. You getting on the defensive about it just confirms our views.
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RHP User
15 years ago
we dont make arrangements and cancel. we dont make false promises. as a couple its so easy to tell the truth from word one. unfortunately 'single' guys dont do that. at the last minute they suddenly acquire a conscience, and admit to there being a wife, girlfriend or significant other.... we have children, and maneuvering our lives around so we can be free to host is difficult at best... then theres giving the place a once over (paranoid about cleanliness) and hours of preparation.... body pamper, tidy up of nails, the doing of hair etc, then......theres the mood setting..selecting wines, setting up candles and music etc...its not done in 5 minutes, but then....5 minutes out from arrival time....we get a text cancelling........not once or twice either.... this has happened over and over....so yea, we get pissed of by it..... its rude and unreasonable.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
What about the unreliable woman ,I was to meet a woman on friday did not show we chatted on msn she said sorry I ask her if she still like to meet and said yes we made another date monday and again no show ,so why don't these time wasters get off this site.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have to say, on the side of the single guys, i can imagine it would be a bit intimidating attending a couples home that you dont know, they dont know what to expect and i am sure are a little hesistant indeed.2 against 1 i suppose and it would be a daunting task.So i can imagine it would be something that may have been great in the begining when they had a hard cock thinking about it, but then reality hits...and boom....here they are going to a house of a person that they dont know, ( only on the internet) and they are a couple, ( is the couple nuts, are they gonna go crazy when he gets there).....is the hubby gonna freak out while he is fucking his misses) i am sure all these things go through their heads, and then they turn around and go...NO FRIGGIN WAY I AM OUTTA HERE!Having said that, a phone call would not go astray , but i am sure some just think, oh well what the heck it they were so keen to get me there, they will have others lined up for sure.So i say dont get angry at the single guys, poor souls if they are rude so be it, just move on to the next one, after all is said and done, you have a clean house, and tidy wife and few hours spare...spend them on your wife and love and make love to her...it simply isnt that important to play with others ...what is important as a couple is US.Leesa xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'athletic_couple' .... some of you single girls are guilty as well. Whilst I get it that peoples experiences are that single guys are totally unreliable, from my personal experience, I have been stood up by single girls AND couples - in fact the couples have generally been the ones NOT to make any contact and just not turn up. No one is any better than anyone else. And after all what does a phone call cost? 55 cents?My thought - you don't turn up and can't be bothered making contact - your loss! But please don't try and make contact again!Next!Do I waste too much time thinking about it? Nope! And why, because the people I truly want to play with won't be so rude!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'eviltwin' Quoting 'mikeandshel' the topic is about unreliable guys...has it only taken 2 pages until its ben hijacked? its not about couples or women, they were the subjects of other forum topics.......... stay on topic people........ I don't want to offend but we can each of us only talk about our experiences. If, as you feel, the topic can only be about unreliable men, then it will by definition just become a whinge session for the women (and perhaps the odd gay guy?). Like so many of the other men here, I've never deliberately stood up anyone in my life and yet its happened to me often. I feel its not sex limited and I feel no compunction about saying that. E. When it comes down to it, it is both sexes that stand people up! But the OP was asking about Unreliable men...trust me you men have had heaps of your whingeing in "Men Ask" about the same topic! I don't agree that it is a whinge session for women and maybe the odd gay guy at all. If you read back on the posts, most guys have been great in their answers saying that they would never stand someone up or they just can't comprehend at all why guys do stand girls/couples up! It's not boys vs girls here at all...It is just someone having their say and asking if it has happened to others! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint' I have to say, on the side of the single guys, i can imagine it would be a bit intimidating attending a couples home that you dont know, they dont know what to expect and i am sure are a little hesistant indeed.2 against 1 i suppose and it would be a daunting task.So i can imagine it would be something that may have been great in the begining when they had a hard cock thinking about it, but then reality hits...and boom....here they are going to a house of a person that they dont know, ( only on the internet) and they are a couple, ( is the couple nuts, are they gonna go crazy when he gets there).....is the hubby gonna freak out while he is fucking his misses) i am sure all these things go through their heads, and then they turn around and go...NO FRIGGIN WAY I AM OUTTA HERE!Having said that, a phone call would not go astray , but i am sure some just think, oh well what the heck it they were so keen to get me there, they will have others lined up for sure.So i say dont get angry at the single guys, poor souls if they are rude so be it, just move on to the next one, after all is said and done, you have a clean house, and tidy wife and few hours spare...spend them on your wife and love and make love to her...it simply isnt that important to play with others ...what is important as a couple is US.Leesa xxx strange how thats exactly the way we feel about clubs and venues. we find them far too intimidating and just a little scary..........and yea, ultimately its still us that wins. if they are a no show, we just delete and block and dont ever give the benefit of doubt or a second chance. its after all, simple good manners to communicate honestly with those who are gracious enough to invite you, a complete stranger (and potential stalker or worse) into the sanctity of their home and who invite you also into their bed............ good manners, honesty, integrity and trust are not difficult traits to adopt...... but people tend to leave them behind in the pursuit of the more 'carnal' pleasures.......
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not sure how a club or venue can be intmidating, but feel free to drop on over and i will show you guys around, free pass on me.This saturday is our back to school theme night, it will be packed to the rafters and i hope your myths and misconceptions will be dispelled.Leesa xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not sure how a club or venue can be intimidating, but feel free to drop on over and i will show you guys around, free pass on me.This saturday is our back to school theme night, it will be packed to the rafters and i hope your myths and misconceptions will be dispelled.Leesa xx
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
If they are at CI at least you know they aren't going to be unreliable - they're already there! I've been there as a single girl and everytime i've been i've had a great night. It can be a little scary rocking up by yourself, but you're not alone long, and as a couple you have each other there.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'DidacticTactics' If they are at CI at least you know they aren't going to be unreliable - they're already there! I've been there as a single girl and everytime i've been i've had a great night. It can be a little scary rocking up by yourself, but you're not alone long, and as a couple you have each other there. we've been invited over and over, and have said 'no thanks' every time. we dont do clubs, we dont do venues, we dont do parties. beginning and end of conversation sorry..... its just not us. there is no interest or desire to go there..........
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RHP User
15 years ago
and you know that If I say I will be there at 2 tommorow to worship your breasts I will be there !
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mikeandshell, then you probably should not say that clubs are intimidating to you if you havent been, they are not everyone cup of tea i agree and it takes a very open and outgoing couple to enjoy a party atmosphere at a club or venue. You have to mingle and do the hard work so i suppose if you dont do that sort of thing i suppose it would be intimidating and daunting indeed.After all communication is the key to this lifestyle and mingling and chatting to others makes ones night a great one.And yes Tactics, i have done the hard yards for you all when you come here with the single guys, i have mailed them, returned messages to them, made sure they are single and then allowed them to come, so those that come are there for a good time and have also turned up....as you say. I have made sure they are comfortable before they come along, made sure they are comfortable when they arrive and made sure they know all the ins and outs of the lifestyle. So those guys that come here are surely the reliable ones...lolLeesa xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I must say i have a job ahead of me then, i will get MikeandShell here no matter what...i wont give up trying....lolThere is a huge event for RHP happening here at CI in July and they will have to say yes.....just wait and see..hehe.Leesa xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint' I must say i have a job ahead of me then, i will get MikeandShell here no matter what...i wont give up trying....lolThere is a huge event for RHP happening here at CI in July and they will have to say yes.....just wait and see..hehe.Leesa xx will say no now, to avoid pain and frustration for you later.... it wont happen sorry......
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey Mike, There was a bikers group a couple years ago they may be still around. About 30 bikes swinging couples ...... How does a afternoon swingers group bike ride, Book out a motel, then book out a resturant, then off to a club like CI in huge numbers. Sounds like a fun night? / Tempted?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Romancefor4' Hey Mike, There was a bikers group a couple years ago they may be still around. About 30 bikes swinging couples ...... How does a afternoon swingers group bike ride, Book out a motel, then book out a resturant, then off to a club like CI in huge numbers. Sounds like a fun night? / Tempted? lol. no.... not even a little bit... we ride alone or not at all, besides, its not fun waiting on the roadside for others to catch up because they break down or have to ride slow...........
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well we will see about that, you will probably get an email soon for an important person and that person will be asking you to attend due to a large event, if you say no now, then i will tell them not to bother and you dont accept now to save them wasting their time.Shame though..but never mind..
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RHP User
15 years ago
<Just kidding of course Maybe he is not real..lol Leesa xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint' <Just kidding of course Maybe he is not real..lol Leesa xxx what? because we dont do clubs? we are very real thank you, and most definitely not hermits.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hay beechgirl how right u r ,but with me it was the female who was no show.... twice.... this post should be unreliable girls.
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RHP User
15 years ago
haha, as a single guy, I've been trying to catch up with a certain person, we've been messaging each other quite a bit and they seem keen, suggested a couple of times to meet and they mention working etc etc, that's fine because I'm busy with work and have limited time too (which is why I thought this site would help) but maybe they think I have the potential to be a time waster and just go to the venues to take out the risk?
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RHP User
15 years ago
It still constantly amazes me that some people b*tch and carry on about being stood up or left in the lurch when they are often the same people who don't reply to messages but then look at your profile everyday......but hey, that is just my opinion!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'mikeandshel'we dont make arrangements and cancel. we dont make false promises. as a couple its so easy to tell the truth from word one. unfortunately 'single' guys dont do that. at the last minute they suddenly acquire a conscience, and admit to there being a wife, girlfriend or significant other.... we have children, and maneuvering our lives around so we can be free to host is difficult at best... then theres giving the place a once over (paranoid about cleanliness) and hours of preparation.... body pamper, tidy up of nails, the doing of hair etc, then......theres the mood setting..selecting wines, setting up candles and music etc...its not done in 5 minutes, but then....5 minutes out from arrival time....we get a text cancelling........not once or twice either.... this has happened over and over....so yea, we get pissed of by it..... its rude and unreasonable..... You actually go to all this effort? Why I ask? I mean its nice that you clean it up as noone wants to go to a pigsty but you cant really blame them for the house being cleaned as you would have to do that anyway eventually, unless you only ever clean up when you have visitors. Still a good reason to clean up i guess. So these guys get wine and candles? If you keep getting repeat offenders why do you still adhere to the same rigmorole or is this just what has happened in the past? In the end youre a couple who still have each other, not some poor single guy waiting on street corners catching a cold. Still not really excusable on their part, but perhaps they got cold feet or couldnt leave their wives/girlfriends. Ive had guys bail on me at the last minute but ive never gone to hours and hours of effort cleaning up, pampering myself just to accomodate them so in the end it was no big deal. Move on to the next one, the reliable ones who you do meet. Plenty of them around to make up for these other rude inconsiderate time wasting fuckwits. I think couplesint need to give up on mikeandshel. They are not going to go to one of your parties. Maybe they need to get out more ;-) I wish I was in qld id go to one just to try it out. You guys sound like fun :-) you get it all wrong. its Shel who get 'wine and candles' not some stranger, thats for her only. as to the preparation. its Shels own 'pampering' that takes the time up. Not being accustomed to doing things by halves, its full hair, makeup and general rub scrub and sparkle. This is a woman who excels in presentation. as to everything else? If we are going to indulge, its to generate a memory. not to settle for something thats immediately forgettable. the house is always spotlessly clean and immaculately presented, but theres always room for a touch-up regardless of who is on their way. its a case of done properly first time, or not done at all.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'mikeandshel'we dont make arrangements and cancel. we dont make false promises. as a couple its so easy to tell the truth from word one. unfortunately 'single' guys dont do that. at the last minute they suddenly acquire a conscience, and admit to there being a wife, girlfriend or significant other.... we have children, and maneuvering our lives around so we can be free to host is difficult at best... then theres giving the place a once over (paranoid about cleanliness) and hours of preparation.... body pamper, tidy up of nails, the doing of hair etc, then......theres the mood setting..selecting wines, setting up candles and music etc...its not done in 5 minutes, but then....5 minutes out from arrival time....we get a text cancelling........not once or twice either.... this has happened over and over....so yea, we get pissed of by it..... its rude and unreasonable..... You actually go to all this effort? Why I ask? I mean its nice that you clean it up as noone wants to go to a pigsty but you cant really blame them for the house being cleaned as you would have to do that anyway eventually, unless you only ever clean up when you have visitors. Still a good reason to clean up i guess. So these guys get wine and candles? If you keep getting repeat offenders why do you still adhere to the same rigmorole or is this just what has happened in the past? In the end youre a couple who still have each other, not some poor single guy waiting on street corners catching a cold. Still not really excusable on their part, but perhaps they got cold feet or couldnt leave their wives/girlfriends. Ive had guys bail on me at the last minute but ive never gone to hours and hours of effort cleaning up, pampering myself just to accomodate them so in the end it was no big deal. Move on to the next one, the reliable ones who you do meet. Plenty of them around to make up for these other rude inconsiderate time wasting fuckwits. I think couplesint need to give up on mikeandshel. They are not going to go to one of your parties. Maybe they need to get out more ;-) I wish I was in qld id go to one just to try it out. You guys sound like fun :-) you get it all wrong. its Shel who get 'wine and candles' not some stranger, thats for her only. as to the preparation. its Shels own 'pampering' that takes the time up. Not being accustomed to doing things by halves, its full hair, makeup and general rub scrub and sparkle. This is a woman who excels in presentation. as to everything else? If we are going to indulge, its to generate a memory. not to settle for something thats immediately forgettable. the house is always spotlessly clean and immaculately presented, but theres always room for a touch-up regardless of who is on their way. its a case of done properly first time, or not done at all. So the wine and candles are for shel? Lol. And shel spends hours on herself for who? the stranger or you? I cant see the big deal then really. And the house is already clean anyway, so you sound like youre exaggerating somewhat. Still doesnt excuse the non show from the guys. Only takes a text message But if shel wants to spend hours making herself beautiful then thats her choice really. Why not go out for a night on the town. Shes all immaculate, tipsy on wine. Sounds perfect ;-)What more could a man possibly want? At least you both have each other at the end of the night. yes the wine and candles are for Shel. and she spends hours on herself for her own satisfaction. as to the big deal? if its beyond your ken, theres no point me explaining further is there?
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RHP User
15 years ago
i would guess more than 50% of the guys here are married. trying to juggle the wife and meet someone from here while keeping it all hush hush i would imagine would not be easy.When the missus wants something and it conflicts with a date with you, you lose.
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Phantom16
15 years ago
I am on here to explore my sexual likes and dislikes and would never attend an organised meeting.Recently i have joined RHP and am looking forward to many fun times with all the peopl i have the pleasure of meeting, ps cant wait to play with beechgirl.
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RHP User
15 years ago
well ive read through alot of this thread and see that it is a bit of a laugh, well i have not missed a meeting that has been made between a female or couple but have turned up to find no-one a few times but the thing that gets me is you go to the trouble to message / wink some people and they dont even have the nerve to send back a reply so it is easy to see who would be a waste of time.
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Phantom16
14 years ago
Hello BeechGirl, You know that i have been in contact with you two and i was willing to commit to something permanent and for some reason you decided not to commit to me. I have never been declined by anyone over the age of 45 and to have you two say i wasnt what you were looking for really came to my surprise. I was honest and open and looked like we were going to meet up but then you both chnaged your minds. So,dont say that all RHP guys are time wasters because there are guys like me who are keen to play. I dont have cold feet and when i say im going to meet up i WILL and do intend to on all occasions. Michael.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' you get it all wrong. its Shel who get 'wine and candles' not some stranger, thats for her only. as to the preparation. its Shels own 'pampering' that takes the time up. Not being accustomed to doing things by halves, its full hair, makeup and general rub scrub and sparkle. This is a woman who excels in presentation. as to everything else? If we are going to indulge, its to generate a memory. not to settle for something thats immediately forgettable. the house is always spotlessly clean and immaculately presented, but theres always room for a touch-up regardless of who is on their way. its a case of done properly first time, or not done at all. *cries* I wish I lived in Queensland...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have yet to *not turn up*I have yet to *turn up but not have {other} turn up*...I'm sure it will happen. Hell, I've only been here 2 weeks.In advance:YOU ARE A FUCKHEADThankyou for your time
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RHP User
14 years ago
I can see your point but I can also apply the same thought to a lot of females on here. I've had many dates organised only to be let down again and again. When time and effort goes into a date, such as cleaning the house ;), preparing a romantic evening (candles, best sheets), buying & cooking an awesome meal (and sensual deserts), it does pee me off when someone cancells. I like people to feel 'romanced & pleasured' at the end of the day but it annoys myself when people are unreliable. It makes you grow to get used to it. Thankgod I've a nice pub close by with some nice friendly people to chat with.Please don't generalise this topic to just men, make it broad.Hugs n Luvin to all
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RHP User
14 years ago
reading through this post..it makes no sense to me. I have read some from horny couples waiting for 3some with a single LUCKY guy...and i cant understand why that guy would be there with bells on? They clearly have some issues?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just men do this??? Keep it real...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi beachgirl..Sorry to hear...I had 2 guys turn up a few months apart..after we both had to scheduled...time for play..i was done up the way they'd like to see me..and when it came to down to it...need i say anymore..I had just put it down to cold feet and being new to the situation as such...we still chat from time to time or either they txt or message They were amazed that i'd even wanted to still talk to them..A one stage i'd rather that they hadn't shown up...but oh well shit happens..lolI have had only one no show...with no explanation...i thought oh well..next..lolbesides..i had a few who wanted to come back and play...so i didn't waste my time lookingas i was happy with the most awesome-st guys that i did meet...Though it did take some time to find them...there are top guys on here with the balls...to carry through...with meeting...Maybe try word of mouth...heymumma xox
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