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To kiss or not to kiss?
December 27 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
It a personal thing so will be different for many, me personally I need the kiss, it tells me so much the way someone kisses. Nothing hotter than a long passionate kiss
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi, I wont say I have a rule as such I just don't kiss men ,I don't go out of my way to do so. if a guy try,s I,ll say sorry I,m just not into that, and leave it there, . if another female kiss,s me that's an okay. plus I will say I have never kissed a guy in my 71 years, , maybe one day I will don't know I,m really not comfortable doing that is just how I am. ...noeleena...
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have never understood this - you are okay with us bumping uglies, but no kissing?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think for a lot of people kissing represents a certain level of emotional intimacy (as opposed to to sexual intimacy) that they just don’t want from that particular experience. In the case of couples I can see how kissing another person’s partner could be overstepping the line and from a unicorn’s perspective it’s just not something you want to go messing with. However, there’s plenty of instances where kissing is just fun and everyone’s cool with it, so it really is a play by ear kind of thing.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
No kiss, no root. Simples. If their relationship is that fragile, I'm not getting involved
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try1ngit
7 years ago
We both like to kiss any new people we meet. I believe that the first kiss can give a pretty good guide as to how the rest of the evening may go. A long passionate kiss usually shows that the other person is into what is about to happen, whereas a 'sisterly' like kiss usually shows that they are not that really into it.Having said all that, we have had some great times with people that were not into kissing others.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am a very affectionate person. Kissing is the start of things and continues throughout. It ignites the fire. I am curious of other people's thoughts. Thanks for being so honest.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
We like to kiss As long as they are not smokers, don’t have Halitosis and poor oral / dental hygiene. So our rule would be that you need to look after your teeth / mouth and not be a smoker.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Totally agree with that. They need to be clean and healthy.
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
We have no problem with other people who have this rule. We just won’t meet with them as kissing is an important part of our experiences. There’s nothing hotter than someone who can truly give an amazing kiss. Foreplay without it is just not foreplay for us. Each to their own 😉
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
*Foreplay is just not foreplay without it for us. Bloody autocorrect!
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
Its their polite way of saying they have terrible oral hygiene. 😝 *You can now kiss my arss*. Ms Foxy
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sw1ng3rz
7 years ago
We don’t kiss the opposite sex... for us we see it as more intimate than sex. We can appreciate that others need and want the pash... it’s just mouths that’s off the table for us. Still lots of wonderful areas to kiss and explore to turn up the heat.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
for us a good kids and pash ,takes it’s from really good to whoaaa hot good mr b
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honkytonk
7 years ago
kissing costs extra bahahahaha
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egr2please69
7 years ago
Like Annie said, no kiss no root. I understand some people see it as their own intimate thing but really? You've ok with my tongue going elsewhere else but our lips will never meet. Its a personal choice i know, i get it but as many in here have said. It adds so much more to the experience and can chemistry and connections with your play friends more enjoyable and on a deeper level 😁
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RHP User
7 years ago
In response to other comments, I think it’s a bit rude to assume people don’t want to kiss because of their oral hygiene or because they’re insecure in their relationship. Maybe they just have different preferences to you....
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Definite deal breaker...... no kissing?? Take a hike👍🏻
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RHP User
7 years ago
Penetration, oral sex and kissing is all intimate. Kissing is part of building sexual desire. Wouldnt want to not have it all. If your bad kisser then it wouldnt go further for me. 😁
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing is a yes from me, as others have said it’s a sexy way to start an encounter and continue throughout the fun. If I can kiss other parts of your body I want your lips to.
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boxestotick
7 years ago
Kissing is the most taboo part and sexy AF!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing is integral to sensual connection for us, from passionate to soft and sensual a kiss can convey so much .... couldn’t go with out it Mrs Sx2 xx
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm someone who doesn't mind practicing to work towards perfection either! Lots and lots of practice... Peachy
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teamaj2
7 years ago
We agree with you Salacious. We respect people’s boundaries but if anyone has the no kissing rule we aren’t interested .
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
As I've said, kissing is a requirement but...... Some people just CANNOT kiss. Kissing is a relatively simple act but a minority have no clue. Too sloppy, too much tongue, too much teeth....Gawd the list goes on. I think it affect play when you realise they can't kiss and you start to avoid the clash of lips and it's impacting on your thoughts when it should be just flowing.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I know this topic is more couple focussed but I have a question for the ladies have you ever used the quality of the 1st kiss as a barometer to take things to the next level or leave him alone on the dancefloor or to pay the bill. Trying to bust a chick flick myth?
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RHP User
7 years ago
By Sheril Kirshenbaum is a fascinating read and explains it all Hugs Q
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RHP User
7 years ago
I thought the no kissing rule was because they found kissing to be too intimate, too personal. To me, sex is personal and fire and passion are a must.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sex with out kissing is just cold 🥶 meaningless sex. Kissing your partner shows emotions, passion, excitement and quite often the stepping stone from an awkward meeting to a satisfying one. I personally need to be kissed and caressed before during and after. I’m sure my partners would agree 💋💋💋💋.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
also agree with annie ,i think mrs b has had a couple of unfortunate experiances with i believe she refererd to them as bloody drooling wide mouthed catfish and can’t get passed it 😂i just say they are over happy and excited ,to be there kissing is funny ,you sort of get used to how you do it with your partner, think it’s a winner cos your partners likes it or kisses the same ,but if it’s totally different from what your used to ,it’s either awesome or outright strange and yuk ,just one of the many things that makes swinging different and at times challenging for better or worse 😂
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bonefide
7 years ago
The barometer, the measurement, the standard, it’s the excitement, its the vibe. :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' No kiss, no root. Simples. If their relationship is that fragile, I'm not getting involved crikey, you sound like a meerkat :S
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RHP User
7 years ago
depends how smashed you are, I once kissed a grasshopper
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Seeking_desires In answer to your question yes.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Oh God.... 💋 There needs to be the 1st kiss!!! I agree with you ... Oki Doki
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RHP User
7 years ago
Love this topic.., the first touch of the lips! Mmmmmm .., It would be a deal breaker for me..if I couldn’t grab your face... 💋
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes .... I remember the Julia Roberts movie “ Pretty Woman “ ... wasn’t it about a paid prostitute ? ........ Hence the ‘ no kissing !’ I’d like to think we are all here for fun , excitement , intimacy and mutual sexual encounters .....and no-one is using this site to be on the payroll. All forms of intamacy including kissing is part of the experience,, naturally .
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RHP User
7 years ago
Same for me, no kissing is a deal breaker. Things don't start in my head without it, it doesn't fire up, and, well, same thing in my pants. I don't use my tongue for kissing only and I see it as my best accomplished sexual organ.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Personally, I would find full swaps much more personal than kissing on the lips and could not do that without kissing first. That simple.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We both love kissing others. Sex would be weird for us without it. We have no rules in that regard. It's how it all begins for us.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We met a couple that would not kiss found it very awkward and a deal breaker we chose not to see them again
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RHP User
7 years ago
The most telling for me is the "chemical connection" that an intimate kiss reveals. I believe you can't fake a passionate kiss . That kiss should feel amazing and you should feel emotionally and physically connected to the person you are kissing. A passionate kiss locks out all other people and the closeness from it is a great signal for how the rest of the encounter will be . It screams "I am so attracted to you " and who doesn't love that feeling ! To kiss or not to kiss , that is the question ! The answer is : If we don't kiss slowly and tenderly , then I'm afraid you've lost me
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RHP User
7 years ago
We kiss. A good kisser turns us on.
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SSExplorer
7 years ago
We are kinda shy, kissing is a wonderfully soft and sexy way of relaxing into it. I don’t understand this whole fucking is just sex but kissing is emotional...it’s all emotional! If we wanted to just fuck another body we would go pay for it. We want more connection with people even if it’s in a fleeting moment.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing is part of getting naughty with someone. Like the first taste of a yummy meal, you get a build up of sexual tension until you just want more. 😛Doesn't matter if you're dating or just a casual fling.
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imjustmetassie
7 years ago
No kissing rule our end Its major deal breaker for me...... Thats my job my guy is reserved for me only in that area
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jimmybali
7 years ago
Simple, no kiss no sex,
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RHP User
7 years ago
I love kissing ... You need some form of passion surely ... xxxx
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menmish
7 years ago
Kissing, absolutely and a most definite YES!
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Thrills33kers
7 years ago
Whatever feels right. We enjoy kissing if the others have immaculate oral hygiene. Also, if they have an aggressive tongue that's a turn off.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Personally..I take it on a "case by case" basis lol.. What ever feels good at the time Txx
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RHP User
7 years ago
For us girl on girl kissing is fine. No male on male kissing and no kissing the opposite sex of the other couple. So far it works for us and if that's a deal breaker for other then that's fine, move along and best of luck to you. There's plenty of people out there who have different rules and if you can't come to terms with that ,too bad, we'll find our fun elsewhere.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing is so important to me! You can tell so much about connection but also what kind of lover someone is by the way they kiss ! I find it clinical and boring without kissing Nice breath is crutial !
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RHP User
7 years ago
Won't kiss but will eat pussy or suck cock.... Its mind boggling 😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
I totally enjoy a good pash. Adds to the intimacy and build up. I do enjoy the journey getting there, not just the final destination 💋💋
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'HotNightsPerth' We have no problem with other people who have this rule. We just won’t meet with them as kissing is an important part of our experiences. There’s nothing hotter than someone who can truly give an amazing kiss. Foreplay without it is just not foreplay for us. Each to their own 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm fine with kissing. Don't see a problem with it.
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sensualcple2play
7 years ago
We Have never come across that rule here.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hubby isn't big on it but definitely a must do on my agenda, plays a huge role in foreplay. Not excessive kissing but enough to connect with someone on a level that makes an encounter even more steamy!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Totally agree missHoneypie! Even for a hookup, it's just natural and very sexual. I can own a good kiss, even if it doesn't lead to sex that instant, you'll be looking for an excuse to make it happen!👄
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing is a must for me, however I respect those who are not into it or have a no kiss rule.For me personally it heightens my senses and makes me feel more connected to the moment. To be honest I consider deep passionate French kissing with lots of tongue a sexy teasing form of foreplay. I even like the site of people/couples kissing. One of the hottest things for me is to have a someone buried deep inside my partner while she kisses me and moans, I can almost feel her ecstasy as her breaths draw deeper and faster or if im hurried deep in a woman and she is kissing her partner... its enough to make me explode.
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AandA26
7 years ago
Wow hasn’t this topic brought out some judgy people! As with everything kissing is just people’s personal preference, I understand the people here that say it’s a deal breaker for them because obviously it’s something they like. But for people to say that if you’re not prepared to kiss your relationship isn’t strong or that you have bad oral hygiene that’s a pretty big assumption. I personally would never want to be with anyone who can’t respect other people’s choices or boundaries. Most people have things they do and don’t like, it doesn’t mean you have to like the same things. You can just choose not to be with that person/people, but why be so rude and judgmental?
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Thirdwheel
7 years ago
I was at the NBO on the weekend and the most memorable moment was kissing with a couple ( MF ) . It felt so nice and connected that this particular interaction was my highlight of what was a pretty exciting party . So much so that the wife came up to kiss me goodnight at the end of the party and I hugged her husband like we had known each other for a long time. I mixed with another couple in an open room ( same party ) and it was fun but I was just a dick with energy , no kissing. Interesting to be a part of their scene but I preferred the kissing . It sort of shows care and whole interest rather than just a cock or pussy interest . Ultimately whatever works for the couple , it’s their show that a third party is invited into initially.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We would rather no sex than no kissing. Kissing is the best part and much more intimate. If a couple had a no kissing rule we would definitely not play with them, it sortve hints at what they think good sex can be and their idea of good sex would be far from our idea of good sex.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I greet everyone with a kiss straight on the lips one hand either side of their face, looking at them straight in the eye, I can tell straight away if I am going to enjoy their company🥂or not
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RHP User
7 years ago
If you’re into playing by rules you may wish to consider why you’re on a swingers site? The no kissing rule is for the chaste and emotionally constipated, surely the majority of us are here to explore our boundaries and forget about the rules of our civil lives?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Ohhhhh charming ... more “Rules of Engagement”? Where does one lay the rule book to keep it in sight at all times when you’re (hopefully) rolling around naked? Uh-oh... don’t forget the “Leave your sox on” rule. Kissing is in or they are out. That said, Julia Roberts may be the only exception...if she wears clean white socks. Seriously? ⚡️
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RHP User
7 years ago
No kissing is definitely a deal breaker. Everything starts with a kiss.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Ive been on and off this site for yrs and I had no idea kissing was such a deal breaker! Most comments seem to be no kiss, no go.. so Im coming out and posting in support of the NOT. For me kissing feels very intimate and Im here to fuck, not "make love". I got a couple of fwb and as the friendships became stronger, it ceased to be an issue.. Different strokes for different people.. and a little unfair to claim it has anything to do with anyones personal hygiene.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always thought it was to do with intimacy. I feel intercourse is intimate and for me, it needs to be worked up to.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Have come across two couples that have said no kissing. I said if there is no kissing then there is no oral sex. Well if you are taking one of my favourite things off the menu then I am taking something off. Never heard from either of them after that!
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RHP User
7 years ago
OMG no kissing really???? I think kissing definitely takes it up a gear, for me I agree with a few others on here, no kiss no sex!!!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing makes it hotter.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It would be god awful boring if we were all the same.
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RHP User
7 years ago
...like go down on her, does that count as kissing? Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh yeah! Kiss that Miss.......
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...like go down on her, does that count as kissing? Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh yeah! Kiss that Miss....... Downunder
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CrouchingTiger
7 years ago
No kissing would be taking casual sex to a new shallow level.
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Sweet_Kitten79
7 years ago
I happily kiss a lot of areas that don’t include the mouth, not because of any rules or boundaries though. It often depends on the connection I feel with the person I’m playing with and if they are a smoker or not. I don’t smoke and don’t personally like the taste but it won’t stop me playing with you, I just might not kiss you. I love using my hands, mouth and body to touch you all over. It also does not bother me if my play partner kisses someone else, it’s kinda hot to see him turn her on that way, I’m likely to start kissing other parts of her when that starts. But I do agree with a previous comment, if my partner kisses me while someone else is playing with me, that pushes me over the edge every time, yum!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing sets the mood... it tells me if we’re about to get passionate, dirty, playful, dominant.... and it’s how I express the above to them. I couldn’t imagine anything without kissing. And I am an absolute sucker for a great kisser!
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funcouple82
7 years ago
Nothing gets us going as quickly as a good deep kiss , it’s just so darn sexy!! It’s a must for both of us.
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RHP User
7 years ago
The kiss has actually been the deal breaker .because as the song says "It's in his kiss". Hugs Q
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Mask_007
7 years ago
I like kissing. In saying that I am very flexible. If the other(s) are not really interested, i respect and go with the flow...
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RHP User
7 years ago
You have to kiss It’s part of the whole deal , No kiss no play imo Plus I’m a great kisser 👄😆
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RHP User
7 years ago
Do what makes YOU happy. If they’re not into into it then C’est la vie. They are missing out on what is a truly great experience. For me kissing adds to the whole experience. Whatever works for you. It’s all about you!
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RHP User
7 years ago
As the female I adore kissing a woman’s lips Feeling her passion they way she responds to my body pressed up against mine our tongues mingling hands caressing!
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RHP User
7 years ago
That is so hot.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I know this Q was probably more geared toward couples. But for me kissing is like entree, it sets the mood and gets the appetite going, sex is main & desert. If no kissing, I just can’t get into it as much or enjoy it as much as I would.
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RHP User
7 years ago
This question is open to all. No exclusions except assholes, figuratively speaking 😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
No kissing makes sex mechanics and I hate mechanical sex..No kissing no I'm out the door
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes love kissing touching so hot
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RHP User
7 years ago
XXX
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RHP User
7 years ago
We don't have a kissing rule and it doesnt bother us if someone we're playing with does, everyone has their own limits. I (mrs chicken) have to disagree a little though with some of the comments in regards to a kiss giving an indication of where the night is going or chemistry, I've had some pretty weird or bad kisses with some people who were otherwise dynamite! I honestly think it's the easiest thing to fuck up 😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
Its the insatiable catalyst that cant honestly be extinguished via preordained labels.....when energies merge with think Nike got it right.....Just Do It.....
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RHP User
7 years ago
@Lovableanna, I'd love to kiss you 😘
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RHP User
7 years ago
I agree with Mrs Chicken with the first kiss. Kisses and most things often improve as things heat up especially if you do it again and again.
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RHP User
7 years ago
The homonculus man is a representation based on a neurological map of the most sensory and motor nerve endings in the body! You’ll see both the lips and the hands are by far the largest represented. Surely the best experience involves as much sensory input as possible, not just from the sex organs.
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justforthefun44
7 years ago
No kissing males for me don't like it. Love kissing a female. Just my thing. Don't kiss mr that much don't know why I have never liked kissing men.
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justforthefun44
7 years ago
Would kiss you anytime miss silk
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melbcpl01
7 years ago
We have the no kiss on lips rule . have for many years and find most people have been happy with that . We do full swaps but also like to keep one intermate thing between just us as a couple . We still manage to find plenty of sexy fun with others .If another shows respect for your rules and visa versa shows each others respect and some great times can still be had .
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RHP User
7 years ago
Kissing is completely delicious and a huge turn on... I don’t think I’d enjoy the whole experience nearly as much without it.
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