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Married Men.... No go zone???
January 12 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
When I (the male of the couple) was much younger, I slept with a married women. She was much older than me, and this affair went on for some time. Then I met her husband. He was a really nice guy... So nice , in fact,that I just couldn't keep doing this to him... I would never go there again unless the partner knew what was going on. Its a shitty thing to do to someone... Anyway... thats my experience... we are all different. John
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RHP User
14 years ago
well as a single i think u will ony be his cum bucket.he has a wife that he goes home to cuddle up to,buy flowers&chocies for,he makes her breaky in bed on mothers day not you.you will only be his cum bucket! being bi i have fucked my fair share of married men who have stolen their wives under wear for me to fuck them in.guess what?they were my cum buckets! if you think of spreading ur legs for him remember who he makes breaky in bed for on mothers day!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Do as you please you will anyway so no big deal. Everyone has thier own choices in life and no matter what another person thinks it doesit will not change anything at all. Karma is NOT real dont listen to that shit for starters.. Is Santa real , is there an Easter Bunny No there is not and its the same with Karma. So do as you please.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i guess it depends if she knows or not, maybe think about what you would do if the situation was reversed, if you were the married one and your husband wanted to hook up with his ex without you knowing about it, would that be ok with you?? I just say this cause karma can be a right bitch and personally would not do it if i didnt want it done to me ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'goodgrlzsayplz' I think if you're cool with someone else running of with your man after you've spent years having children and making a family together then go for it. But it's not as black and white as that is it. A lot of married guys have given up on their marriages but want to keep their families. If you can do it without falling in love so you spend your life getting sloppy seconds (he will NEVER leave his wife while his kids are young for you, no matter what he says, no matter how in love with you he pretends to be)....then go for it. I'm not being sarcastic here, if you want the guy just for fun and will never want him permanently and he's smart enough to protect his family from ever knowing about you then that is your choice to make sweet. If you will be wanting a relationship at some point it's probably just less hassle to find a single guy. You're cute, hot and young. You can have who ever you want. xx gg
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'd be quite happy for my wife to indulge again - I found out after the fact - but that's ok, we both know it for what it was.....lust :)There were no secrets, no lies...now, how many women would think the same way about their husband?James
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RHP User
14 years ago
...married or not, we all have our needs. At what point did society (and who in society for that matter) decided that all relationships should remain monogamous? There is much to be said about the adage 'what you don't know won't hurt you...'It would crush me to know that my partner was cheating on me - and I would struggle with the guilt of her finding out that I like to fuck other women. At the end of the day, I've got about 40-50 more years on this earth, and I want to enjoy it as much as I can. I choose to live my life the way I do without the 'opinions' of those in forums... Maybe you should do the same?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Do you mean the single guy profiles that say attached? Do you understand the concept of swingers? Variety being the spice of life.We have a couple profile that details how we as a couple play together or separate, the woman gets as many guys as she wants but the guy gets nothing due to the mentality of the theory of the unhappily married man. The guy from our couple has no trouble with women at the swingers club yet on here he doesn't even get the time of day from women and sometimes he has been abused by some ignorant women on here. It doesn't really seem fair to us considering it is a swingers site after all. It was never meant to be a singles dating site as the operators of RHP have told us.Please check the guy's out properly before you condemn all of them.
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RHP User
14 years ago
interesting topic this,as a married man i have my reasons,im upfront and honest about it on here and women have the choice to say yes or no i respect others opinions and i do not judge them,i see no mention of married women,or do they just fall into another category
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm happily married, been together over 15 yrs, unfortunately my sex drive is way higher than hers and she cant keep up with me. We have a hall pass system we can both use but recently she told me its ok for me to start looking for short term, no strings dalliances as she understands my needs. I'll never leave her for someone else and make that very clear at the start of any new connection. I think this and similar circumstances are fine as long as there is open communication on both sides. Also, she wants to join in at least once so will happily search profiles with me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Would include Hugh Jackman (with or without Deborah's consent), Mark Harmon, Simon Baker, and maybe still Sean Connery (I'm not as young as I once was either)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting Fun_2_gether "It was never meant to be a singles dating site as the operators of RHP have told us." I wish I had know this before paying my membership for the third time! Maybe RHP need to reveiw their advetisement as being a provider of Adult Dating services for Singles & Swingers....Damn us Single people who pay our membership in the hope of meeting other Single members to play with...we are obviously a blight on RHP that shouldn't be allowed if we are not swingers....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh my word I'm sensing so much negativity towards married men! Well, all the nay Sayers need to face up to some serious facts in issue.... A) we married guy shave a proven track record. We're the fucken goods Bebe! You don't get to be this sexy without a lot of practice! B) you don't know what you're missing. C) we KNOW what we're missing and we aim to set that right! D) so what! It's just sex FFS I don't wanna open a joint bank account with you or anything! Damn I don't even want your phone number, let alone your pin number. E) have I mentioned my dick size yet? No! See? Trained. I told you we are the goods! Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
he should find a way to meet you by chance and introduce you to his wife as an "old friend", later when she gives him the third degree he can be honest that he has been with you before and still finds you attractive, maybe she gets angry, maybe not... amazing how much better it is to play with permission, maybe you get 2 playmates.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Rutgar Hauer and Michael Pare and Robert Downey junior and Dolph Lundgren and...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would just like to say thankyou to everyone for their advice/opinions/views. When I did this topic I didnt think I would get much of a response, and that whatever response I did get would be negative. But, you have all been very honest, open minded and non judgemental, Thankyou for that. There have been a few comments about Karma, morals, and "How would you like it?!", and I just want to point out this is why I had an issue in the first place. I wouldnt like my husband to cheat on me behind my back, I do believe in Karma and I do have an issue with husbands and wives stepping out of the marrige without their partner knowing. Having said that, married people cheat for a reason and they also lie, as we all do. I have no doubt I have slept with atleast one married man and not known he was warried (he has lied to me.) So... can I sleep with this man knowing what I know? and the answer is.... no I cannot. I love this person as a friend, I care for him, we have spent many a good times together and ive known him a long time. I know he loves his family, wife and child, but he has his issues at the moment. According to him, his marrige is perfect except for the fact he doesnt get enough sex. Something I think we can all relate to in a relationship at some point in our lives. So altho I can relate/simpathise with him, im not willing to open my life to unwanted drama. He also made the choice to get married. He chose to give up all other people for sexual activity, unless his wife agrees to it. I have no doubt he will break that promis with someone if he chooses to, but it wont be with me. Besides the fact I'm big, beautiful, funny, smart, and sexy... and any guy would be lucky to have me (lol)... I have also come to realize I need to be able to not only look at myself in the mirror and love the Sarah looking back at me but also love the MUM looking back at me. I'm a mum, and I refuse to be one of those slutty, sleep with anyone, trashy, young mums who have lost their self respect, self worth and morals somewhere along the way. So to summerize... my answer to him was no. :) Thankyou again for your opinions/comments I enjoyed reading all your different point of views. ( I would just like to say, I do not intend to offend, insult or judge anyone in what I have or may say. I am opinionated, blunt and honest. No one ever has to justify themselves - what they say, do, or who they are - to anybody. Just be happy, be safe! and be kind to one another... and just maybe we will all get Lucky!!! lol) -=SarahBoo=- xoxoxoxxox
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RHP User
14 years ago
That was a truly amazing post. Thank u for sharing your story and your decision with us all. I wish you nothing but love good health and happiness in the future. U r awesome and don't u ever forget that. U go girl !!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
If you are married and seeking something discrete you might get sexually involved with a married guy. Otherwise, if you are single, why do you need the hassle..the last minute cancellations, hurried quickies, the unavailability. Do you really need that? I dont bother. There are plenty of singles with whom to have some real fun.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yoohoo sarahboo...you go girl!! I was cheated on and readin your decision puts a smile on my dail
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RHP User
14 years ago
YOU GO GIRL ! ! ! For a woman of 25 years, you have commanded a truly high level of self-respect. For you, as well as your son. Reading your last post brought tears to my eyes. I am so pleased that not only did you post your original question, you read all the replies and you now show your strength of personality in your ability to combine everything together and finish up with a decision you are proud to live with ! ! ! Extreme love & hugs to you, Saraboo xoxoxoxox
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playfulminx
14 years ago
The guy sounds like *he's* in a rut with a new baby and possibly a wife who is too tired to provide him with sex. So he hits on you. That's the bit that makes me feel 'ewww'. Not that idea that you'd see a married man.I get married men who seek alternative sexual arrangements some time after a marriage has gone south or who have unfulfilled fantasies etc. but there's something that irks me about a man who bails on monogamy so soon after getting married and having a child. Men change over time and feel differently about marriage and/or their partners but this sounds like a really small frame of time for a guy to feel he has to get his end away outside of his marriage :|As someone else said, he'd have to be *that* hot and *that* good for me to overlook his situation. There is nothing sexy about a man appealing to me for sex just because he's temporarily not getting any at home :|
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sarahboo
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RHP User
14 years ago
I say yes to open relationships, no to married, and a definite NO to married with Kids
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RHP User
14 years ago
As a married man I would put this warning out first make sure you know what your getting into because the person has made a commitment that may not be broken. If you see it as some fun for yourself then go for it butif you are looking for more then I would advise to walk away. Judging the married person or a person about their morals isnt for everyone to do. Marriage is hard especially when the person your with changes overtime. A year probably isnt long enough by children certainly change the situation quickly. Hope you have luck in which ever way you go. Cheers
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RHP User
14 years ago
Firstly...apologies to anyone who has read this comment in another Forun, but it seems relevant to this post. This usual old chestnut of a question.... A radical opinion.... At this risk of being totally berated and struck down by the moral views of so many on this forum, I will make this comment 'Who cares if the guy is married?' I choose to play with guys who may be married. I haven't had any issues with it so far. I'm not here to break up their marriage, but just to have simple NSA sexy fun. Lets be honest....'sarahboo', you are not the one who is taking the risks, he is. If he wants to do that, let him live with the consequences, and you just get out of it what you want. As long as you are not looking for a commitment from him, then enjoy. Life is short & too many of us get hung up on these stupid morals. To be honest, it would seem that marriage means very little anyway. Yes I have been married & yes, I am now single. Call me cynical, I guess. Maybe I am in the minority (I'm sure I am), but I don't judge what other people choose to do in or out of their marriages. The hormones & endorphins don't automatically shut down just because we have promised ourselves to one person...If two strangers are attracted to one another, then that chemistry is lust & can be purely physical....no need for judgement or recriminations. Maybe I am being simplistic, but is this not a 'SEX' site? Has everyone lost the ability to separate casual sex from meaningful relationships? Is it not better for a highly sexed man or woman to seek out non-commited, extra-marital fun than to get embroilled in an illicit affair? Surely this is far less hurtful & confronting. It may well be that your 'Fuck Buddy' asking to see you again, is not actually so bad. Who's to say that this little (temporary, we hope) fun may in fact save his marriage. If his having this NSA fun, on the side, whilst his wife may not be interested in sex right now, means that in the long term he stays committed to her, then hell, why not? If he is looking for a long-term affair, then that is a different ball-game entirely. Lubes x
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