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Male Underwear at Party's
July 26 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
So I checked out some of the men's lingerie as recommended and then went looking for more and saw this interesting kilt lap lap thing, clicked on the picture of a tanned hunk in said outfit and then it said "tap to expand" Well I just lost it, sprayed the keyboard with coffee. Gotta laugh. 😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
You have your op fine . Yer If Pat Raffter just rolled up with out booking in to be put on the door list he would not be getting in as we are legal bound to have a Door List . As for the S/males , S lady's n Couples that came most enjoyed themselves We only had to ask 1 lady to leave as she did not want to get out of her Every day clothes. 3 males had brands on there underwear ,which we asked them to turn the band in side and down. they where happy so where we.
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Seachange73
8 years ago
Good for you for sticking to your guns. I'm sure that single woman can find another party to suit her. Not your lost. Lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hey you want to rock up In your branded jocks guys I have a pair of scissors to cut them off or I can give you blue or red ribbon to tie a pretty bow around your cock and you can offer it as a present to the ladies quiet simple really, Our event isnt just a normal venue its beautiful and for 99% that came thoroughly enjoyed themselves and for those that think well im not going to bother going because of a jock rule your the ones missing out and I wish other places had rules like we do setting a standard Is a good thing because those that came will tell you it was a fabulous night with hosts that care about their guests
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Has the right to dictate what undies man or woman wear ? In this case they don't have that choice . It's either do as your told or get booted..? If someone tried telling me to wear what THEY wanted me to wear I'd find that rather confronting and react accordingly. Even so, they still win because they just killed the mood of why you attended in the first place ? Unless of course you do as your told.. As long as you're presentable and clean' should be the only rule.
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Now that sounds hot ,^^^Now you have me thinking about coming in branded jocks ,just so you can cut them off ,sounds a little bit kinky,lol Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Get out much? Ever been to a pub or nightclub where they dictate what you need as a minimum to get in? Like a collar or closed toe shoes? It's just a variation of that within our lifestyle. Simples....
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Sawadee
8 years ago
When I go to a pub or nightclub I wear what I want to wear. I know what's presentable and what's not and know no one is about to ask me about my undies.. That's the diffence.. and yes , I regularly get out and about, comes with the territory in my industry..
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm with I_touch_myself2 for egality but I also like to dress well. Thing is, as a man, for the past 200 years that's been impossible. You get a burqa or you get to fix the car - make your choice. I feel the main helpful suggestions in this thread were along the lines of: boobs_or_bust and PerthSocialites ... The way to improve something, to raise a standard isn't by persecuting the victims it's by creating opportunities for advancement, incentives even. So you could have your cake and eat it by partnering with the best, most creative and sensual underwear sellers and strike up some discount deals, sponsorship. Make the guys wearing this awesome gear feel proud because a portion of their purchase goes toward hiring the venue or curing Aids or whatever. Point them out to prospective partners, give them a drinks voucher. And watch the world change in front of you. Of course I know nothing because I'm not a swinger or an organiser but if I were this would be my approach. In hindsight it looks like a classic question of leadership styles - how to best motivate people.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pretty rhetorical question So if one wants to look good then taking pride with selecting some male underwear other than the no brand stuff would be completely disregarding the idea of neat appropriate attire. One can find brand labeled underwear without massive logos bands. & as for anyone male or female to contradict the brand label with anything other than their own wrongly preconceived ideals That's ridiculous. This is an Adult site where discerning Adults should be making well chosen decisions Colour preference and patterns are individual things. But as far as logos. That's just childish jibber - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yeah I agree. I understand what the OP is trying to do but I would suggest that a more positively-framed approach would have been better... A good starting point would have been to offer up some examples on what they would consider appropriate. 6 pages on and I am still wondering... would my subtly-branded silk boxer shorts be ok, or would I need to invest in a gold sequined g-string or some latex hot pants??? 🤔 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
why ask a question when the answer from many is deemed unacceptable? "hey guys, we've started 'a sexy no-branding night, no visible brand names, wear sexy undies - everyone' would people like to come?" I'm sure it was a great night, but the question the OP asked seems to have been the wrong tack to take - particularly without guidance/examples. Kudos to boobs_or_bust, I took a look at the lovehoney stuff and it's a lot better than the male underwear I'd seen on other shops. That deal looks pretty good (OP, or others who attended, what do you think of the lovehoney stuff? Any particular styles? Annie, Mary - style suggestions please? :) )
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Could put some pics in his galley from a few sites that sell of what they think is where they are aiming for and leave the sites in the pic for people to followWith a tick ,As a way of getting his point across or maybe the style of what is not acceptable Is easier and put a cross in the corner ,in due fairness, You can't put links here or pics in threads here ,because would have been the best way - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Could put some pics in his galley from a few sites that sell of what they think is where they are aiming for and leave the sites in the pic for people to followWith a tick ,As a way of getting his point across or maybe the style of what is not acceptable Is easier and put a cross in the corner ,in due fairness, You can't put links here or pics in threads here ,because would have been the best way - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'jayme2' When I go to a pub or nightclub I wear what I want to wear. I know what's presentable and what's not and know no one is about to ask me about my undies.. That's the diffence.. and yes , I regularly get out and about, comes with the territory in my industry.. They don't give a fuck at pubs and nightclubs about what undies you have on because you have pants on. Yes that's the difference........
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose'Kudos to boobs_or_bust, I took a look at the lovehoney stuff and it's a lot better than the male underwear I'd seen on other shops. That deal looks pretty good (OP, or others who attended, what do you think of the lovehoney stuff? Any particular styles? Annie, Mary - style suggestions please? :) ) Well my choice for you SOTL would be none........ But seriously, l think the intent of the OP is to get rid of the big lettered branded waist bands such as Bonds, Tradie etc. What the fuck is so hard people?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just want to know I will be made to feel welcome at an event. Not only by the hosts, but by the other attendees. Yes every event has a dress code, attendee criteria etc and is perfectly acceptable. If you want no labels and I have them, I can't get in, just like I can't attend an under 30s party or go to Fernwood gyms. However sometimes it's not what you have to say but how you say it, (in my experience just like in your employment). So if your tact is "our way or GTFO" (not just referring to dress code either), it makes me hesitant about further involvement even if I do meet the criteria. I'm more than happy to match a requested dress code. At a costume party I went to recently (not in this scene) the costume requirement was "formal bedroom". I bought a black vest, black silk boxers and white bow tie just for the occasion. Being a non-play event and not in this scene, everyone was happy to talk to everyone else. So I gauge whether an event is suitable to go through all that money and effort based on attitude and language used in advance of it. Yes it might turn out to be wonderful for some, but before an event there's the risk of meeting an entry requirement and very large entry fee and still be wandering around looking like a lost puppy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_T_4cpls' I am curious as to what "sexy" male underwear consists of? Rightly or wrongly the term "sexy male underwear" makes me think of something most likely worn in the gay and lesbian mardi gras parade. I even Googled "sexy male underwear", and that's exactly the sort of thing that came up. Would a simple pair of dark silk boxers be fine, or more like a sequined gold g-string? Asking for a friend....lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
For all the guys that don't want to or cant be bothered to find that unbranded type of shorts we are looking for . You can fold the Branding inside your shorts / briefs. So it cant be seen and we do not want to see it during the night.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Get over it people! Dress code is dress code. Just accept that an "underwear" dress code really is no different to any other . The intentions were : (a)to make the party more visually & erotically pleasing for all attendees (b) up the standards of the attendees and thus the party (c) to set a more seductive & erotic mood. If you wanted to attend an upmarket & sophisticated, formal cocktail party, with a strict black tie dress code, would you moan and bitch about it as much as you are in here? If you really wanted to go, you would comply with the dress code. If people arrived ( at said formal cocktail party ) in their high vis tradies gear and muddy steel capped work boots, how would that impact on the ambience and standards of the party ? When you go out on a date, do you shower, shave and dress nicely (dress to impress )? When you go to a corporate job interview, do you arrive in shorts & a T-shirt ? Or do you dress the part ? All that the OP was asking, was that people who wished to attend, simply dress the part and stick to the dress code . It's like wearing red to a "white" party. Not only would you stick out like a sore thumb, but you would be disrespecting the hosts wishes (and intentions ) Again no one was forcing you to attend the party if you did not want to comply with the dress code. A plain, unbranded pair of male undies is such an easy (and cheap ) thing to acquire . So it's hardly going to be a deal breaker. We , for example, will not play with smokers. Our preference . Our choice . It would be ludicrous (and unacceptable ) for smokers to then start bitching, moaning and abusing us (for not wanting to have sex with them ) due to OUR choice & preferences would it not ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
To the OP's credit, please note that in the case of the Doorman, I have actually met him on a couple of occasions and found nothing wrong with his hospitality. Sometimes it is hard to find the right language that keeps the people you don't want out but doesn't discourage others from attending, finding the line between being seen as preferential or seen as political. But even the best writers and speakers can't please everyone. *Passes soapbox to next person... :)
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Read my last post once more.. you must of missed something..? Either that or it's you who doesn't get out much ?
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Best read your own post again. Obviously I get out a bit more......
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RHP User
8 years ago
You'll have to excuse me, as a consulting engineer I spend my days being very specific in documenting exactly (EXACTLY!) what I want, so I have found it a bit difficult to understand what you want to see, I don't seem to be the only one. Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with you trying to set the bar high, but I'm just trying to find out exactly what you want to see. From what I gather from your responses so far it seems like you're happy enough with a pair of $5 briefs from Kmart as long as they are in good condition and don't have branding, but a pair of $90 Versace briefs are not OK because they have branding? Am I on the right page? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
and g strings, bit like budgie smugglers on the beach really. Beauty really us in the eye of the beholder, branding or no branding IMHO Which btw dynamic couple, telling us to "get over it"? and to stop moaning, your words. Excuse me but that is correct re the party, the event listing, and other communications etc re the event, off the forum that is. But this is avforum topic where a question was asked. I didn't notice anything in the op that said we had to agree? A forum is for discussion, not dictatorship
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fold the Band inside and down you get to wear your Underwear, we don't see the Branding .
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RHP User
8 years ago
It can be quiet irritating when someone doesn't attend events or parties but yet keeps commenting, you know nothing about going to these sort of places I_touch_myself2 how about attending our event and then your OP might actually have merit.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
and don't forget to take your dough with you.... hear ? 😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you're so irritated with opinions contrary to yours, why start a forum topic jeez 👎
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'll decide what I wear, or don't wear, when and if I choose, with the correct age bracket, in the company of people I'm comfortable with. The constant jibes about me not going to parties are quite honestly getting tiresome. Sorry op but you're too old for me, as would most of the other men be. I'm fussy who I strut my stuff in front of, my preference and I'm very comfortable waiting to arrange my own parties, thank you very much. While I'm here, there are others who share my opinion here. I would appreciate it if you could cease singling me out. Appears as though I struck a nerve?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry, meant to put a smiley after that 😀😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
I_touch_myself no nerve touched at all your just commenting on something you have no experience at all about, My partner started this forum to see what people thought that actually go to parties and events and you keep commenting on, perhaps ive struck a nerve as you havent been to a party or event so wouldnt have the slightest clue what your talking about and if you can read you will see that its actually about what guys wear not women wear as women put in alot effort it has nothing to do with you or what you wear this form isnt about you ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think if you stick with the gold sequined g-string or some latex hot pants you'd be right on the money!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Whats so hard to understand? If you are invited to a Fancy Dress party and dont want to dress up, you dont go. Up to you. If you are invited to a themed private party where theres a dress code and you dont like the code, dont go. There will be plenty of other people there enjoying themselves. Im having a party this weekend but the only person who will be dressed up ( or down) will be the waiter. Im sure there wont be any complaints
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Sawadee
8 years ago
You are 100% correct , and therefore lots wont want to go.. Why ? because when 1 person wants to dictate to others when there's really no need , it becomes unattractive and uninviting. Neat , tidy , clean , polite , social , are much further up my list of priority than a band around a man's undies ... ? 🙄
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
who could not bother going to the effort of respecting the dress code, and if they don't want to attend as a result of said dress code, well that is their choice, and fun will in any event be had by those who do make the effort. The KK parties, which attract the so called "sexual elite" do extremely well and attract a marvellous crowd. Their dress code is very strict - black tie and compulsory masks for everyone. And that's what sets them apart. If there was not a strict dress code, their parties would be no different from the rest. They also have strict rules - you may not approach a females. The women do the approaching. And because of this one normally finds at least a dozen (or more) really attractive & empowered single women at their parties. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
For sticking to your guns, raising the standards and by so doing, creating a party that really is a cut above the rest. The venue dictates it. Ignore those who don't make the grade, and could not be bothered, you don't need them , nor would you want them at your parties. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Wondering if this event was in your home town, you'd be a little more sedate, pop down to the local Kmart, grab yourself some nice undies, register and have a great night........
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like the idea of women approaching omg now that would interest me 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
I understand and agree, and would put my black tie on for said event. However, if we can't initiate conversation, what happens if I/we don't appeal to the others at such event? I imagine it would get pretty lonely standing around for hours in my penguin suit not even being able to try to talk. Or is there always someone who would come up to you? (But the idea is not to expect anything). I would love to try though. Do I need a tailored suit? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's not relevant if no single men. I hope you are allowed to approach your partner if there is no other interest :) :P
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
No single men are allowed , ever . And one is allowed to mingle and enjoy some chit chat over cocktails and canapés. What is hot allowed is for the male of a couple, to move away from his partner with the purpose of approaching a woman so as to illicit play from her. Many males find a female to simply take along , just to get into a swingers party and once through the door become single males. The rules at KK make this much harder for those types. Women at KK parties thus feel very safe and empowered . And they can relax and not have to look over their shoulders for meerkats & seagulls . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'll leave that one alone 😂😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
For some reason they do have a "couple/single male" membership option...? The way it was put suggested a suitable way to perhaps arrange a party involving men, as I would be prepared to invest in a black tie suit to go such event to find a "sexually empowered woman". You would think the run of the mill asshole would not go to all that effort? (Although you can certainly look to many upper classes of our society to find assholes in suits...) - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
The KK Club does have an option for single males to join. However the KK parties are couples & single females only. And yes, there are "assholes" in all walks of society, upper class included. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Yep, hometown good.. DC... Yep , like the black tie and masks , and the ladies doing the approaching.. all good. Be happy to with all of that because that's all upfront . But I still can't get around the band around the undies thing.. If your that far into getting your gear off, the undies won't last long
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Why do you like the idea of black tie / formal wear and masks ? Have you seen the "orgy" scene in the movie "Eyes Wide Shut" ? If so, do you think if they were wearing branded, banded underwear it would have spoilt the visuals and ambience of the scene in the movie ? We think that the OP is just trying to set a more erotic, sensual,sexy and upmarket vibe at his parties. Humans are visual creatures. We certainly are. And we personally find undies with heavily banded broad bands to be very unsexy..... but then we don't enjoy smokers nor grafitti and I suppose we would be seen as "tall poppies" by some , just for having discerning taste and high standards - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'jayme2' But I still can't get around the band around the undies thing.. If your that far into getting your gear off, the undies won't last longYes you can look at it like that. The OP has said you can ditch the branded undies and go naked so problem solved. But for the rest of us who may have to watch you enjoy a drink at the bar, a nice pair of undies would be preferable to the rays of sunshine coming from your bare arse........
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Quoting 'jayme2' But I still can't get around the band around the undies thing.. If your that far into getting your gear off, the undies won't last longYes you can look at it like that. The OP has said you can ditch the branded undies and go naked so problem solved. But for the rest of us who may have to watch you enjoy a drink at the bar, a nice pair of undies would be preferable to the rays of sunshine coming from your bare arse........ that's why I tan myself all over, Annie... (comma placement really changes the visuals that accompany a sentence :p )
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RHP User
8 years ago
Due respect but I think tall poppy is how you view yourselves, not how you are viewed
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Never seen "Eyes Wide Shut" so can't really comment. As far as black tie and mask are concerned , it's something I'd like to experience at least once in my lifetime. That's all ? If the OP is trying to set a more erotic scene , I think you would agree ' there are many other erotic things to set the scene than a man's undies such as I already stated. As far as the tall poppy statement is concerned , that comment seems to sum up what this post is all about and is why there's opposition.. Btw , I also have discerning taste and high standards too but it's not a expectation...
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Think yourself lucky.. Something you may dream about , but it ain't gunna happen.. Dream on ... 😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
What we have on offer is not just the run of the mill swingers parties, Its an event not a house party or private party, There's no other venue out there like what we have and we have every right to say we want males in something nice, I have gone to many swingers party's and attended events and nothing more un sexy than a guy wearing his every day jocks to something exclusive, Some people wouldnt understand this as they have never been to a party!! So like I have said what would you know about what a guy should wear and its very social so you dont walk in throw your jocks off and start fucking, Its a party people dance, mingle, converse with each other so in saying they dont wear them for long is wrong they even put their underware back on after they fuck but what would someone know that has never been, Would you wear runners and tracksuit pants to a wedding? Would you wear your work boots and overalls to the gym? Would u wear pj's to a nightclub? Would you wear a onesie to the beach? Or would you be appropriately dressed, i dont see how this is hard to understand, But then again some have never been to a swingers party or event lmao
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RHP User
8 years ago
No need to respond so defensively. You asked the question, did you not?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I_touch_myself how do you expect people to respond when you dont respect others, tall poppy's? and everything else that you have said perhaps you should stick to what you know, you dont attend parties or events so your OP has no value to it
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Respect is a two way street. Posters can only react to the subject and the way it pans out.. You can't expect to put something out there and expect everyone to agree. It don't work that way..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't even bother, waste of time. Agree btw 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree, if you never go to parties or events your opinion isnt going to have much pull. Before I attended any parties I knew nothing about etiquette. You respect the rules or dont go. Thats why so many parties are successful, people dress appropriately and have a bloody good time. Looking to come over to Melbourne for a weekend and will be looking at events or looking to Auntie Annie for advice on where to go......
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can't help but think this thread would have been received so much better if the original post had have been proposed a bit more diplomatically. 🤔
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RHP User
8 years ago
It was just an ad and the forum isn't supposed to be used for that. It should have been kept in the events section where it belonged, along with the narly hosts. Topics of discussion are posted in the forum for the purpose of each way discussion. A discussion allows for different opinions, it is not a dictatorship. If they didn't want to know, they shouldn't have asked, and they didn't want to know, go figure
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RHP User
8 years ago
whatever you say. Curious, have you played at parties? Aren't you more into the meet and greet type cup of tea meets?
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RHP User
8 years ago
your nice frocks 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
Was in a hot pink bow tie and gold sequinned hot pants :)
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precious142
8 years ago
And was there any dramas with his dress code????? BTW - couldn't see any branded undies on him....... Thanks for a fabulous nite xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, I have, with one particular guy. I still prefer the meet and greet type events we have, although I dont know where you are getting the cup of tea thing from. Again, assumptions about things you know nothing about. We have made a lot of friends through our meet and greets, and always have a good turn out. You dont have to have sex with everyone you meet to have a good social circle with people from here, its good to meet people, have respect for each other and remain friends. Try it sometime.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
DoorMan and PerthSocialites belong to one and the same group ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Might have been a clever comnent but seeing as how we are in separate states....
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Just wondering seeing you scratch each other's back.. .? 🙄
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Sawadee
8 years ago
How many of the group reply ? All ? ' or just the one person ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks, yeah I might come along to one. I'd have to come in disguise 😎 so I don't get egged 😂😂
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gazpacho
8 years ago
I've got a pair of colts that used to look awwrite.... but they had colt written on the band. Hanging out in my undies ... you're right. Not much effort required. Why do women get to swish about, while choices for men are languishing. Make pantaloons and the cape, a thing? Hugs G
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ha....scratching each others back is pretty common on here. But I wholeheartedly agree with the OP. I comment through the Socialites as I dont have my singles profile now so the likelihood will be thats its me writing on the forums. Hope this satisfies your curiosity. And welcome back Gazpacho! Always nice to see that profile pic! :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
The only thing in common is we are on RHP on different sides of OZ. We both provide a place to for like minded people to meet and do their thing.
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RHP User
8 years ago
We'd love for you to attend our event I_touch_myself, its a very social night and guests have enjoyed their night, we dont have eggs or throw eggs lol so no need for a disguise lol, you would be welcomed like all other guests :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' I've got a pair of colts that used to look awwrite.... but they had colt written on the band. whoa whoa whoa, welcome back!!!! I thought this must've been an old thread suddenly revived!
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