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♥ Love ♥
January 21 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
When she pats you on the back and says " your IN Luv"
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On_Safari
13 years ago
It's when you first meet and you think to yourself, he's a lil weird but harmless enough. When he stops being weird and becomes interesting. When you realise he makes you smile when you think of him. When he opens doors for you. When the coffee table slips out from under you both as you make love and he catches your head in the palm of his hand before you hit it on the floor. When he looks at you with your makeup on then gently strokes your cheek as he looks in your eyes and says "You don't need it, you're too beautiful; it's too much.". When you will jump into the pool fully clothed and ruin your best pair of stilletos after a week of being apart to get to him quicker. When you say the cruelest things in anger and devastate him and he still wants you. When you do the most horrible thing and leave him and when you return broken he calmly and quietly helps put you back together. When you love another completely and he doesn't make you choose. When all he's ever done is try to love you, despite your vanity, your craziness, your tears, your insanity, your cruelty, your selfishness, your apathy. When he can let you forgive yourself. That's love, all consuming, unconditional and uncompromising. (deep sigh). I'm such a bitch......but he loves me and still thinks I'm the kindest, gentlest soul he knows. It's messy, it's ugly and it's fraught with disaster so why do we want it? Because when you have it it feels fucking great!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have never had a feeling like it. Such a two edged sword . You have absolutely no control over who you fall in love with, but when you do and it is mutual, the single greatest feeling on earth. If for what ever reason it is taken away. I have never known pain like it. I have learned that without the greatest risk you will never make the greatest gain. Love who you you are, just when your not thinking about it., ilove will land right in your lap.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' Stop over complicating something that's very simple and beautiful.~shakes head~Maybe it's like that exotic car you've always wanted?"If you have to ask? The answer is no" Yanno, you're pretty clever LRE.I hate to quote Dr Phil, but I am self-employed, after all. And this stuck with me: "Being in love with someone is waking up every single morning and trying to figure out how to make today a nicer day for them." If that seems simple and natural, you're probably there. MsK x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well Meeka Im running around after 15 years of marriage exploring my sexual self and trying new things. Which is a adventure in it self and very liberating after many years of so so sex. Still looking for the elusive fwb and may have found him. Time will tell.However 7 weeks ago I had a date twice in one week with a man whom tug at my heart strings so strongly it brought tears to me eyes after sharing my bed with him. So glad the lights were dim and I wiped them away before he seen them. But he could here in my voice that something was a miss. Well he texts everyday and its sometimes sexual but mostly just checking in and seeing how our days are going. Haven't seen him again since and told him that unless he commits to seeing me more regulary I would prefer no contact as I'm trying to live my life. My heart feels pain when I did this and when I think of him. The next day once again another text and I just cant stop and I admitted that to him that I cant not break the contact. I told him I new that this was more a one sided feeling. He said I'm not so sure about that. So where does that leaves us I dont know but I wish he could just give it a chance as I know this is a very special man and we have something that could be worthy of a relationship and possible love long term.Until he does I'm continuing to live my life and be with friends enjoying my adventures. If you both feel a connection just go for it as you have to take risks. Because if you dont you will end up lonely and will regret it. Sure it hurts and you feel let down when it doesnt turn out the way you had hoped but this is living and we are emotional beings. We crave the caress and the touch of someone whom does really care. Good Lucksilk
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari'It's when you first meet and you think to yourself, he's a lil weird but harmless enough. When he stops being weird and becomes interesting. When you realise he makes you smile when you think of him. When he opens doors for you. When the coffee table slips out from under you both as you make love and he catches your head in the palm of his hand before you hit it on the floor. When he looks at you with your makeup on then gently strokes your cheek as he looks in your eyes and says "You don't need it, you're too beautiful; it's too much.". When you will jump into the pool fully clothed and ruin your best pair of stilletos after a week of being apart to get to him quicker. When you say the cruelest things in anger and devastate him and he still wants you. When you do the most horrible thing and leave him and when you return broken he calmly and quietly helps put you back together. When you love another completely and he doesn't make you choose. When all he's ever done is try to love you, despite your vanity, your craziness, your tears, your insanity, your cruelty, your selfishness, your apathy. When he can let you forgive yourself. That's love, all consuming, unconditional and uncompromising. (deep sigh). I'm such a bitch......but he loves me and still thinks I'm the kindest, gentlest soul he knows. It's messy, it's ugly and it's fraught with disaster so why do we want it? Because when you have it it feels fucking great!!!
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On_Safari
13 years ago
Ticklish xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' So love is love in all it's forms. And you feel love for different people and family in various ways. In love is just love + lust. Once the lust dies you have love left if you are lucky. That is what I get from all the responses. :) Yes lust and love go hand in hand but the lust part only fades if you let it. When you find your soulmate you will know. It only took me 30 years to find mine.
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I look back over my life I had a few loves, love for my children - there is nothing I wouldn't do for them! Love for my family - even though I disagree with them on many levels I would still do anything for them. Have I been in love with someone, I honestly can't answer that. I loved my ex but when I look back I find it hard to see whether I was IN love with her, we were more friends than anything else. Maybe one day I will find it but until then I am happy just to be finding out who I am And what I want.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you can love more than one but cannot be IN love with more than one.. I cant anyway...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most will say what would I know about love... ok here goes.. and think about it FFS Im not holding your hands againLOVE heals the scars that LOVE leftLOVE is a clinging nauseaLOVE is a truth that has no fear attachedLOVE is self deception I LOVE you more than I hate my loneliness and painThey say true LOVE only comes around once and you have to hold out and be strong until then. I have been waiting. I have been searching. I am a man under the moon, walking the streets of earth until dawn. There's got to be someone for me. It's not too much to ask. Just someone to be with. Someone to LOVE. Someone to give everything to. Someone
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Kinkstersinc' I hate to quote Dr Phil, but I am self-employed, after all. And this stuck with me: "Being in love with someone is waking up every single morning and trying to figure out how to make today a nicer day for them." If that seems simple and natural, you're probably there. MsK x Isn't that called "Loving someone" and not just "Being in love with someone"?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yep, I'll stand corrected on that one. But only because you're terribly hot ;) Maybe you'll like a quote from Dr Seuss better? “You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” I've even got one for ChiefGazza while I'm on a roll, from Neil Gaiman: “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.” And finally, one from one of my favourites, Anaïs Nin: “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” I don't believe that being in love is love plus lust, and when the lust dies, if you're lucky, you are left with love (the general consensus a while ago on this thread). I believe that falling in love is the easy bit, and staying in love is a difficult but very worthwhile goal that is altogether possible. While I still sometimes see old couples looking at each other a certain way walking in the shops, or dying within days or weeks of each other because they simply can't live apart, I class that as not just love, but in love.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Beautifully said. I think I... lust you. (Oh, and I really like you, too.)
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RHP User
13 years ago
You pick on them for fun all the time...Enjoy their companyButterflies..pinch yourself..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ChiefGazza' Most will say what would I know about love... ok here goes.. and think about it FFS Im not holding your hands againLOVE heals the scars that LOVE leftLOVE is a clinging nauseaLOVE is a truth that has no fear attachedLOVE is self deception I LOVE you more than I hate my loneliness and painThey say true LOVE only comes around once and you have to hold out and be strong until then. I have been waiting. I have been searching. I am a man under the moon, walking the streets of earth until dawn. There's got to be someone for me. It's not too much to ask. Just someone to be with. Someone to LOVE. Someone to give everything to. Someone That's exactly what I did! lolYou've "redeemed" yourself... I think you're right...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think love is wen a best friend u genuinely care for turns into a bright light, in photos you only see a bright light. You cherish every moment together - just the thought of your bright light makes you smile from were ever you are.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It can only be defined by you OP. Great answers so far :).
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RHP User
13 years ago
The Anais Nin quote got me! It answered a whole bunch of questions for me about why the love I had didn't survive. Turns out the love still exists, it just didn't survive me and him and us and our many flaws. Dammit :( I loved your whole post actually - I agree that falling in love is the easy bit (if you can find him/her) but staying in love is the trick. Thanks for sharing :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, the pain. Damned awful and overwhelming.
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RHP User
13 years ago
They say true LOVE only comes around once and you have to hold out and be strong until then. I have been waiting. I have been searching. I am a man under the moon, walking the streets of earth until dawn. There's got to be someone for me. It's not too much to ask. Just someone to be with. Someone to LOVE. Someone to give everything to. Someone
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' They say true LOVE only comes around once and you have to hold out and be strong until then. I have been waiting. I have been searching. I am a man under the moon, walking the streets of earth until dawn. There's got to be someone for me. It's not too much to ask. Just someone to be with. Someone to LOVE. Someone to give everything to. Someone Has just made it into my book of "favourite quotes, sayings and meaningful stuff..." (I just copied & pasted it too)Interesting how many of us haven't experienced it... WTF happened? Did it skip our generation? lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe it did skip our generation. Staying in love is such a difficult task when managing our busy lives. Finding time/energy to nurture a relationship was damn near impossible with being a full time working mum without close family support. His gambling addiction didn't help either. :-( I've now learned to prioritise, we live and learn. But if I never fall in love again that's ok too.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Songs take on a different meaning, everything reminds you of them and I mean EVERYTHING- an ad, a song, the ikea furniture you argued about when you tried putting the bastard thing together. Lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...One of the most accurate measures to determine whether a man loves his partner more than himself is the Hot Dog Test (HDT).You go to a BBQ.1) The man wanders off and prepares a hot dog.....wanders back and starts to munch on it (fail).2) The man wanders off and prepares a hot dog....wanders back and hands it to you (pass).OK - it's not foolproof but it is a start.......;-)Danny
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess its when you feel like getting off sites like this and dont want to be a player anymore... and you feel like getting a blood test to make sure that you are not putting your partner at risk of all the diseases that you may of, or may not of caught... good luck with that...
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RHP User
13 years ago
FAIL...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'paintme' FAIL... ..it was a joke - but taken seriously by my wife! ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
What the heck r u bangin on abt hot dogs for danny??!! I think u meant to say vegan "not dogs"....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'TheYogini' What the heck r u bangin on abt hot dogs for danny??!! I think u meant to say vegan "not dogs".... Well, of course vegan hot dogs - it's just easier not prefixing everything with the word 'vegan' ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
If you have to ask, you haven't. Xoxo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I disagree. Once the lust dies down you are often still left with love, that's called marriage. I believe you have to work at keeping the spark/lust alive. But I have never been married or in a long term relationship. In fact I still am not sure what "being in love" is supposed to be. Although sounds nice... Maybe one day a man will love me. :p Now that's middle of the night mushy talk. Off too bed with me. :D I kinda agree here - to a point. MrInaddition and I have been together 19 years in June. I fell in love with him quickly - we were only ever supposed to be causal sex over summer (and there was plenty of that). I certainly wasn't looking for a long-term partner who I could move to the other side of the planet with and have his babies (yet I did). I'm good with words, but I can't articulate how I knew I loved him. I just knew.Our marriage still has lust (but I know of many that don't) - I think that's partly because we choose to continue to make an effort to be desirable for each other. We communicate our desires openly and we chose not to let the rigour of domesticity take over our need to feel desired by each other.And we have bags of love in our mariage. I'm still "in love" with him deeply. Sometimes, I catch myself looking at him and I'm engulfed with emotions that I can't explain.Not sure that helps answer your question at all actually!
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RHP User
13 years ago
....Giving her the remote......DGPS.... thats a joke too....
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StookyAndChooky
13 years ago
love is something that is special you know will know when you have found that special someone even if you have been hurt in past and everything between you and them just gels together naturally be comofortable with other and long to be together and compataible on every level heading in same directrion in life trust me I found my love on here we have been together for nearly 5 years coming up in July. I hope you find love soon female party of couple here.
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