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Is age just a number?
May 10 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
What a load of crap.
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Sure that much older men (in their 50s and onwards) would probably know how to have proper intimate sex, as well as better at treating a woman than much younger aged men do because of their life experiences. But why should I go for someone in their 50s when I can go for someone in their 40s, whom has similar maturity and experience? Don't forget that not all much older men are fit and still energetic! In my late 20s to early 30s, I had dated a man in his late 40s and man, the difference in our energy levels was clear as crystal and I never got to do the outdoor activities, like 5 hours non-stop bush walk at the Blue Mountains, with him! Beside all the physical strength factors, I also have uncles aged in their late 50s, 60s and my parents are in their 70s. So, hooking up with or dating anyone a lot older than me would remind me of my seniors and that is a turn off! Frankly speaking, I do not need someone to teach me how to have sex at my age! So, no thanks for anyone who is 10 years older than me! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Oh dear. Suburban house wife in a housecoat hey. What's a housecoat? And is that going to get me in trouble? *shrugs shoulders*
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have read many forum topics and posts by you throughout my time on RHP. My impression of you is that you are a very expressive, open minded, free spirit with few sexual boundaries (as you have shared in these open forums with us all). And yet you are so against consenting adults having sex when their ages differ considerably (according to your calculations). It is one thing to have an age preference of your own, duly noted. But for you to denigrate people for having different preferences is not cool. If the sex is between consenting adults, who are you to judge?
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RHP User
11 years ago
My last lover was 64 and we had a wonderful 2 1/2 years of play. We have remained great friends and still have the occasional dinner, movie or small trip together. Age is just a number. People are valuable and beautiful at all ages.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely Revolutionary..viva Che😘xxFreya
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' The next 20 something to turn her nose up at you.... will not be her last. Just as you turn your nose up at women 55 and up. There really is no mystery there. Your preferencesVersusYou being outside of the preferences of the person you want to get inside of. The "just give me a chance, you might learn something" is irrelevant if they.... just... dont... want to. Thats all there is to it. ML...just couldn't help yourself. Go back to page 3 and re-read my comments. It is quite obvious that you have not understood anything I wrote down. Or is it simply that you can't understand, as you are suffering from a Broad Spectrum Learning Disorder, and actually need written explanations in very simple, kindergarten grade English (or do you prefer another language, perhaps ?). I'm not going to repeat myself just for your benefit - if you can't make sense of it, then leave well enough alone, and stop trying to play with the adults, where you clearly don't belong. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I appreciate that. I think my concerns are absolutely valid and that is it a bit pervy really. I wouldn't date a 22 year old now so I certainly won't be dating one when I am 58 Precious. No worries. But as you will have seen, not everyone else necessarily share the same boundaries as yourself ( or me), and we are all wired with our own set of variable and comfortable values. What you say is not right or wrong, just what you personally feel comfortable with. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'VeryEroticCouple' honestly do not understand what this comment of yrs means I have never varied my birthdate on this site, nor any other. I have indeed just turned 58 a few weeks ago, and it has been the natural progression of my ages before such. but, as someone pointed out earlier, men in their 50s can get somewhat arrogant and self obsessed it happens to some of us and i can tell you its a real turn off for everyone so apart from saying that 'men always went younger women' whats your point? older, younger, who cares its the connection that counts as i said, its an age not an attitude so i guess that explains it OK, as I've noted the comments get a little shuffled around, and I can see what you are getting at. I believe my 'birthdate' reference is reasonably self-explanatory in connection with comments since written. Age was only marked down in my various postings, as it is so clearly denoted in your own OP. I fully agree that it is the connection between two people that is more important - and has been said by others age is usually merely a guideline to help us sort out the possibilities. As I have also pointed out, prior to marriage my girlfriends were all older than myself by varying degrees, mainly as I was looking for a suitable connection. I don't really understand why you were trying to implicate arrogance in your lines of commentary, other than you may have possibly misunderstood my referral to your initial OP commentary about your respective age range /gap. And I did not point out at all about 'men always want younger women' in my comments - I believe that is your own misinterpretation of my viewpoints. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your comment to Mischeviouslad above... Thank you for showing everyone your true persona. You did it better than anyone else ever could, kudos. Leaving you alone now. Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
And after that petulant rant... he calls me the child. lol I think, Tall.... as Meander eluded to.......we can clearly see why your broad preferences.... aren't the handbrake. Enjoy!!! DG
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Your comment to Mischeviouslad above... Thank you for showing everyone your true persona. You did it better than anyone else ever could, kudos. Leaving you alone now. Good luck. This is one of the reasons why I have no more interest in dating a man who is more than 10 years older than me, or the much much older man because, SOME of them are just too grumpy and miserable! I would have expected someone at 58 years of age be able to handle adult debates with class and grace, instead of giving personal insult as well as launching a very direct and harsh personal attack like that! Disgusting behaviour!
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RHP User
11 years ago
i have to say when i first joined this site (waaaayyyyyyy too long ago) i had an "age range". but i can say these days i have a good giggle since i always see ladies in the chat room and on profiles say oh sorry your not in my age range. i had mine as 10 years older then myself at most, and yet i met ZZ here, a guy who was 2 years out of my age range, we have a 12 year difference. but i wouldn't be 8 years later with him if i had stuck to my age range. i met him based on the person i chatted to, the guy that gave me a giggle. funny enough he had sent me messages on this site and another and i ignored them both (mostly because his online name) but also his age.... then he came into chat and i got to chat to him and got to know him better. im now the first person to say fuck the age ranges if the match is there its there don'tblow someone off just because their age doesn't match what you think is right.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seen as you mentioned it … as inciteful & insightful as it was, appeared to be damage control on your part Mr. Tall, having already set the tone for what followed on page 1.You said “It is obvious a few of you like to try and 'push my buttons' - but all it does is really reflect on yourselves.” and then proceeded to post not one but two unwarranted & below the belt attacks at Mischieviouslad, which suggests that perhaps it is you that simply just doesn’t get it in this instance and makes me wonder who’s trying to push whose buttons … jus sayn.Furthermore, I happen to think Mr. Mischeviouslad’s reputation speaks for itself (in favour of his character) with regards to not taking or making things personally, as do his replies to your attacks in this topic – I’m not so sure that the same could be said for you. I would hazard a guess that that is more of a conrtibuting factor than the age thing (as it is for any one of us contributing in the forums) as to whether or not someone pursues any form of contact … just a thought.
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RHP User
11 years ago
meander, seet gem, Sneaky_n_zz, xKiwiBredx and a few others are right on the button re arrogant, sexist male attitudes on the part pf some male postings on this topi!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just wrote this little 4 liner God, save me from the stupid The arrogant and dumb For whom attacks on womenAre just their sense of fun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To summarise what people have said - age is just a number until it becomes a real generation gap - and this can vary from person to person. If you are really attracted to someone i whatever way then the acceptable gap can be larger.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Cant quote your post and dont disagree with your comments regarding those who are old and arrogant. But my life experience would tell me that if someone is arrogant and generally fucked up in their late 50's, they were well fucked up long before that. Arrogance doesnt start in your 50's. It starts very very early. So lets not paint every guy in their 50's with that brush. And its not a male based scenario.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps, for men, the 50s are mid-life crisis times and you want younger women to find you attractive. and older women are somehow a conformation of age. For women, i think it is quite different and can be a time of liberation with both older and younger being attractive. I dont know but what do you think?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mind you a lot of both men and women simply lose it in their 50s!
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RHP User
11 years ago
When and why do some people lose interest in sex? Or do they? And just need a different partner?
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Being in my 50's, happy to find ANYONE that thinks im attractive, man woman or...... And having both female and male personalities, I really get confused about attraction and what i should be going for. My name is no word play. Mid life crisis may be a factor for want of a better name for it. But why should that be aimed at males? What women dont have mid life crisis? Or is menopause a cover for it?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes - you are right - mid life crisis is not restricted to males. What i was saying was that different people - personality types, sexes, sexuality, life situation - all respond to it in different ways. And on a more serious note, i hasten to add the 40s and 50s are also prime territory for serious conditions of depression, anxiety etc - i know i've been there. But oddly all this change does leave you asking 'what do i want to be?. And i guess some people want sexuality and others don't. So we all decide in some way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Annie,a pulse is not a lentil xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'VeryEroticCouple' When and why do some people lose interest in sex? Or do they? And just need a different partner? Answer that and the world will beat a path to your door
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Shouldn't throw those at me on Monday morning. I will spend all day trying to work that one out. I always seem to put my pantyhose on back to front on Monday's as well........
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me, my 50z have been totally liberating a revelation even. No crisis here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Theres lots of data that shows that people with better sex lives are happier people - endorphins etc. Its the same for people who exercise, follow creative pursuits or connect with lots of different people day to day. Conversely, people who do not 'get enough sex' are usually not so happy. Makes you wonder if RHP could get government funding for contributing to the nation's happiness! Either that or subscriptions to RHP could be made tax deductible! Imagine it! A sort of CentreBonk rather than CentreLink!
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RHP User
11 years ago
see new 'sex and happiness' thread
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RHP User
11 years ago
Far prefer older gents, have zero interest in younger menBut it's the mind in an older man that gets meHave to disagree with you tall n hard, Give me an honest, open minded kinky older man over an insecure liar any day
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RHP User
11 years ago
Age is not a number. For the young age is the future, expectations, goals and growth.For the old age is wisdom, memories, the relaxed comedown of life's high.For the middle age, it is a head spinning, rolla-coasta ride, with unexpected surprises at every turn, at times too much and then not enough. Age never seems to be what we expected. Age is change. Age does not make you old, that comes from letting go of the child within. Please don't ever grow old, just be a child that has some age.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have no idea why you have said what you did butI have no problem finding younger women and in fact its my own age thathas all the baggage.Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Or perhaps foolish ?Don't make mention of a man's age on here once you've passed, say, 45. You are eternally damned by the 'younger' women on this site - as in not being good enough for anything, least of all SEX. Age IS just a number for those of us who are actually wise enough to appreciate that, but not so much for those who wish to be blind about 'numbers'. Take (great) take, my friend. Tall
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Let me open your eyes there. We all have baggage. We wont talk about the large qty of cases i have. The older we get, the more cases we collect. To you, the young ones have none but they do its just that comparing to yourself it appears they have none. The rest of us mere mortals adjust by seeing people in our own age bracket. We learn to appreciate and respect the cases that our partners carry and thus become understanding of others needs. At your age Chev, you are on the cusp. On the side you are on, the young girls see you as a mysterious older gent who offer them unknown sexual tricks. You are not far off crossing that line where those same young ones will begin to see a rather strange old fucker that has moved into the no go zone. You will retreat back to the older ones but you will be unable to deal with the baggage and they will see this and keep moving. You will be one of the odd ones that we all seem to know one of. But you are one of the lucky ones Chev. As the owner/ builder of fucking machines, you will still be able to fuck yourself silly. Start growing up before its too late. Lots of love Your Annie xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Louis and I are closely acquainted ,but I pack sparingly and travel lightly xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its hard to limit the carbs with so many opportunities to eat popcorn
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RHP User
11 years ago
Youll have to start your own agony aunt page on here. For goodness sake, before I choke to death each time I read your posts! Its true though, we all have baggage. Its why most of us are on here, we are afraid to give away our feelings again. But the thing with being on RHP is, the cases suddenly feel a lot lighter
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RHP User
11 years ago
I want an Ask Aunty Annie forum!
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
WTF?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe age is just a number
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RHP User
11 years ago
The Amy_Whichway Column! Whatever the issue Amy will see it through the lens of her own extensive experience.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
But lets get the naming right. A N N I E or A N Y......
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Your wording of your post "Ask Auntie Annie Forum" struck me. I'll share a true story. When i was 15 and dressing part time,before my stint as a TS, mainly with my boyfriend at the time at his place, he said to me you need a proper girls name. I thought for a long time and tried to accept a few different names but none really stuck a chord. I had an auntie and yeah you guessed it, her name was Annie. I remember she didnt really like kids as i was growing up But i remember this one time (just after band camp) when i was about 5 or 6 or so, i was with my mother at my auntie's place. I remember her looking at me and she smiled at me and said to my mother " this one is very special". I remember those words crystal clear to this day. Any way roll on to me still toying with names for my female side. I had a dream one night and in that dream my auntie came to me and had a conversation. Cant remember the details but i woke next morning and had her name in my head. During the day, i phoned my guy and told him I'd found the name i wanted for myself. Annie. Later that night during family time my father announced that my Aunty Annie died early that morning in her sleep. 88 yo. So Meander's words were the first time since those days i had seen that title and name. And reminded me of a very special and errie memory Annie
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RHP User
11 years ago
What a wonderful story, thank you for sharing x
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RHP User
11 years ago
phew that is the longest thread I have ever read throughso many interesting comments and differing, yet still valid, viewsmy view is that age is a number - a number that has some implications in terms of changes that have gone in a persons life such as maturity, life/work experience, health etc.The interesting word that the OP mentioned was "liberation"On a personal note I have found as I my years counter ie age has increased,I have become more liberated in many ways but especially sexuallyWhen I was younger I was much less confident and even shy. as far age differences between people are concerned.I think its a personal thing and anything can work.Once people connect and at ease with each otherthen perhaps age is just a number
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RHP User
11 years ago
The way we measure time is relative not definitive. That said, I mostly look for ladies 10 years either side of my relative age.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are very special. Thank you for your story. It was very touching and heartfelt. Thank you again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your comment pretty much sums up what I was about to write... Have no interest in younger lady's or couples, just Doesn't work for me as it's more then just booty call! I need a complete connection....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hear hear FF, Im with you on this topic. The dropped lips & sour grapes need to be dispensed with & we just toughen up - gather some dignity & get on with it ! Personally , I find "Sooks" distasteful & impossible to have any respect for. I love older guys & always have. That doesn't mean "every single" mature, older guy tthough. The same as guys find different levels of attraction to individual women. ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hear hear FF, Im with you on this topic. The dropped lips & sour grapes need to be dispensed with & we just toughen up - gather some dignity & get on with it ! Personally , I find "Sooks" distasteful & impossible to have any respect for. I love older guys & always have. That doesn't mean "every single" mature, older guy tthough. The same as guys find different levels of attraction to individual women. ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There seems to be an obsession with many people about the issue of size. Bigger breasts, bigger cocks, big or slim bodies and so on seem to dominate a lot of profiles and descriptions. So does size - just like age - really matter? Personally i think not - but what does everyone else think?
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RHP User
11 years ago
To me age is not important and some people age very well like a good wine :-) for me personaly would look for women my own age or older that's my choice and everyone choice on this site, would certainly understand a younger women who's not interested in an older man when there is enough younger attractive man on here lol . Let's be real we were young once ha ha :-) So stop whining. Very Erotic couple enjoy life and move on
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RHP User
11 years ago
I accept any female for who they are wether young or mature... If I like them so be it... Must admit there is tooooo young though... Its nice to be able to hold a sensible conversation . How does a man say he still gets more attention of younger females than older without sounding vain ? You can't ..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do find this subject rather ammsiing from my own experiences though. I have been with well older than me and some that are around my age but in the end it's each to their own. I have been turned back many of time because they feel I am either way to younge for them or I am way to old for them though there is only a few years difference. I don't find myself attracted to the age of the person, it's more how the person holds themselves and a personality. If you are 40+ and have a body I think is sexy with a personality that fits I am there but really it's each to their own and what ever they are searching for at the time. There are some hot older lady's on here by the way mmmmm - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
....lots of opinions on age. Turning 57 in a couple of months, whilst I am not such a fan of growing older, it sure beats the other option. The casual throw away line of "Age is just a number" is usually used against me when I have told a 20 something that I have absolutely no interest in having sex with a guy who is young enough to be my son. I have enjoyed 56 >57 years of summers, autumns, winters & springs. Love and loss of loved ones. It has enabled me to know what I want and what I have no interest in.Repeatedly, I have learnt that I am happiest when I am with someone close to my age, share similar experiences, laugh together and enjoy fabulous sex :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum'I am happiest when I am with someone close to my age, share similar experiences,laugh together and enjoy fabulous sex :) Absolutely agree... plus or minus how much
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not older I'm "chronologically gifted" 😜
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like that expression - it oozes experience, humour and not taking yourself too seriously. I'll buy into that any day.
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TomatoSauce33
11 years ago
To each their own Everyone get's their opinion and view on the matter here's mine don't burn me for it Age is just a number and you shouldn't judge or think you know a person because of how old they are. Yes you can make some educated assumptions and for the most part are generally correct. When it comes to sex tho, although you'd think age dictates experience, and the more experience one has the better they are at it, I've slept with a number of mature women, 40-60 all varying tastes (literal and metaphorical) and pleasures and can safely say age is not indicative of how good someone will be in bed. For me the hottest experiences I've had are girls my age whom can keep up with a younger more athletic person than perhaps an older women would be able (doing a bit of self marketing here lol). Having said that I've been with a few cougars that were definitely a pleasure to be under cover with, age does not matter, at least when it comes a persons sexual prowess. As the original poster said tho, I'm a younger guy, I'll pretty much fuck anything, I can confirm. I don't need to feel a connection greater than physical attraction to fuck someone
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RHP User
11 years ago
The intro to this forum says it all, mr ketchuo. Its far too easy to generalise about this. Saying 'older women are more experienced' or that 'younger men will just about fuck anyone'. You have just put yourself in the 'fuck anyone' camp. Sorry, as you said 'fuck anything'. Enjoy..
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RHP User
11 years ago
What is age, it's just something that passes us each year. Some people age better than others. Some people have had it hard. But if your attracted to someone that's what matters. I'm not attracted to someone's age, I'm attracted to the personality and their looks. Date whoever, fuck everyone you want to. Have fun with who your attracted to :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
well said!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im in my fiftys by no means old as i train at the gym 5 or 6 days a week ive never looked my age and have never been with a woman my age either ive found that a lot of younger women like older men because they treat them better in or out of bed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is this the ultimate truth - you are as old as you feel. Older stars like Jane Fonda and Helen Mirren as really sexy - Jane claims to be having the best sex of her life in her seventies! Slumped in an armchair at 50 just isn't sexy - maybe even younger for some. Alive and vibrant at any age is a turn on - whether you are 30 or 70 or any ages in between. What do you all think?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Another thing i have noticed is that for men being with a - much - younger woman is all tied up with ego. For women it seems to be quite different - excitement, exploration and 'trying something different'. Women are also happier with the idea of older men than men really seem to be with the idea of older women - apart from the 'i'll fuck anything' brigade. What is this telling us about male and female sexuality> -
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'VeryEroticCouple' Another thing i have noticed is that for men being with a - much - younger woman is all tied up with ego. For women it seems to be quite different - excitement, exploration and 'trying something different'. Women are also happier with the idea of older men than men really seem to be with the idea of older women - apart from the 'i'll fuck anything' brigade. What is this telling us about male and female sexuality> - Sorry I disagree. I think it's just as much about ego for women as it is for men.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I relate better to men around my age. But then I speak about sensual sex not just fucking. Yes I am on RHP for a long time and I have med many men, still I stay in my age group. I tried younger males and I have to say their bodies mean nothing to me, I am not turned on by a body even the touch of someone so chiseled it nice, but it doesn't get me wet, its more of a study my mind does. For me the mind the person I connect with first through writing then through meeting is what sex is for me.....and yes age matters in that. I realte much more to males around my age, but then you see each one of us will only get to know the person we find interesting and some you talk to and you know thats not for you and others are just right. My time with men around my age is beautiful. And yes age matters for me. As I am getting older, :) and that's each year I will adjust my age preference.
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RHP User
11 years ago
See new topic 'What was it like the first time?' for more revelations!
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