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How many of you read the profile of who you are wanting to contact?????
November 21 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read the profile first. There's no point chasing someone if they are not looking for the same thing. And I don't want to come across as ignorant asking a question that would be simply answered by reading someone's profile first.
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RHP User
7 years ago
But the majority of people that message me either don't read my profile or completely disregard what I state I am looking for (and they are not it). It can be annoying if you let it get to you, but just block and move on.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read the profile. The only thing I sometimes ignore is the age bracket if I'm 2 to 4 years outside of it as I do think I look younger for my age. Everything else I take note of and respond or not respond accordingly.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I believe I sent you a flirt because the only thing is I'm outside your age range of 45. Everything else I feel like I comply with.
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
Not being mean but I had a look at your profile read 2 sentences and shut off because it was so long.. instinctively I'd just message anyway and get to know you as a person. That could be the case Nobody wants to read an essay
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RHP User
7 years ago
I second bazingal... Don't let it get to you, the site lets you report and block people. Easy peasy. Use the site to your advantage, don't let it use you :)
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'LetsFrolic' Not being mean but I had a look at your profile read 2 sentences and shut off because it was so long.. instinctively I'd just message anyway and get to know you as a person. That could be the case Nobody wants to read an essay Too long?2 lines and you are done?Guess you are more a picture person?Seems the OP's post has hit a target. Lol.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Always! Information in the profiles help to determine compatibility- it’s why we complete them and why incomplete profiles are frustrating.
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RHP User
7 years ago
How else can you know if they are a potential match? I have a type; mentality, intellect and physicality. No point wasting messages unnecessarily.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Every time. Though I've noticed through my observations of profiles that most guys don't write a lot, whereas women do. My profile is probably considered long but I don't care cause it spells it out (like yours), so if they clearly didn't read it then I decline or don't respond (mostly I'll send a polite decline).
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MissRedFox
7 years ago
My guess is If they're not reading profiles they are not reading the forums either
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RHP User
7 years ago
Men are visual creatures Pics pics pics! I know my profile is long, slightly harsh and only appeals to a minority. Which doesn’t really stop the “hey we should hook up and have sum fun” messages 🙄 But at least they’ve cut down somewhat. I placed a word at the end of my profile to be quoted in a first message in order to get a response. it helps filter those that can’t be bothered to read and just looking for a random root with whoever they can get. I definitely read profiles, if they have an appealing photo and message, language and qualities and attributes are important for me to guage if they’re a like minded person I could spend time with and play regularly. I think if more men realised how much competition there is they would try harder.
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
They are fishing luring out the bait in hope to catch something, anything! I just hope it's not crabs. 🙊🙈 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
😂😂😂 Ms Foxy, love your sense of humour 👍 I definitely read all profiles or at least the ones that have been completed, so many that haven’t been completed thou 😔
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
I actually do read profiles but to see alot written can be a reason for people to just skim through. There's days to make it easier to read that's all
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LetsFrolic
7 years ago
Ways not days.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mr here. I’d rather a longer well thought out description rather than a tonne of pictures. It gives us a better idea of whether we’d get along in person, or it’s going to be just an awkward meeting for everyone. The way I see it, if something in your profile precludes is, I’m not going to waste my time or yours. We all like different things, sometimes they don’t correlate and that’s ok.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read it all as I want to know what prospective intimate partners really want from the site. You can read between the lines and and get an idea of their personality and lifestyle. For example, I want to avoid contacting people who are into drugs or clearly want someone far younger than me or with a 10 inch cock. I’m happy for them but reading their profile means I won’t waste their time or get my hopes up unrealistically. So reading profiles means I only contact people whose profile suggests I might interest them just as they have interested me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We get the odd flirt or message outside the scope of what we’re chasing (single men). It’s no biggie just to scroll past. I’m guessing the single women get bombarded though?
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honkytonk
7 years ago
especially the ones that include short succinct phrases like 1. here to have fun. sweet baby jesus oh, and it works both ways ladies. i am kinda thinking noones read my scribble. i mean surely if you ladies had, id be inundated with marriage proposals, offers to father your children etc etc bahahaha
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
We believe that .. If you make an effort (with anything ) you will generally be rewarded. We read profiles fully, from beginning to end, not only out of respect for that person, but also as a way to see if they have the attributes we are looking for. If someone is too lazy to fully read our profile “essay” , they will generally be to lazy to make the effort and turn up to meet us. If people are too lazy to come to a venue ( that we were going to in any event ) then they don’t get to meet us. The long essay is our way of weeding out the fakes, time wasters and no shows. A single guy wanted to meet us for drinks one evening. He drove 3 1/2 hours ( 7 hour return trip) simply to spend a couple of hours chatting. He made the effort. 3 weeks later we drove to the country town where he lives . Had a MFM with him, and have been a second time. No pain. No gain
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tamworthguy46
7 years ago
I always read profiles, I have messaged people that i possibly haven't met their exact expectations, eg I don't look my age and happy to back that up.But yeah I wouldn't contact you because I don't fit into your 15k limit for a start.But good luck, I hope you find what your looking for
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RHP User
7 years ago
Clyde here. I expect that everyone replying here will read profiles, you will not get any nope just look at the pictures, if they are not willing to read the story that goes along with the pictures they are certainly not going to read forum posts that require them to think. I personally find the profile texts more interesting than the pictures most of the time. I will not even bother with any profile which is just pictures, I will not reach out unless i feel both sides will have a connection. Being new at this means that we have only messaged two people so far, I know that number will increase as both Bonnie and Myself become more comfortable in this space, but I do not expect to ever message a profile which is just pictures.
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RHP User
7 years ago
At least people open your profile. The only time someone opens mine is after I message them. Usually days after.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thank you for all of your replies. It was great reading them and having a chuckle at some of the humour. Seems 99% of us do in fact read profiles yay 😃. Enjoy your adventures ladies and gents. Cheers 🥂Belleeco
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RHP User
7 years ago
Im just here for the pictures. Its subjective for me. Im a visual creature. Ive read some awesome profiles then looked at pics... Yeah nah. So I just tend to go for the pics. Tho I do like a man in a suit with a paddle. No profile blurb not will change my mind.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read profiles, but even when I have a paid membership, I don't think I've ever initiated contact with the first message. I know my profile hardly gets read..it's a freaking essay! I wrote it to discourage all the 'wanna f*ck?' Messages because my profile stated I wanted a FWB...something I've still never found in almost 6yrs of being single. Now I at least actually sometimes get a rare decent message ;)
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RHP User
7 years ago
I feel your pain!
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RHP User
7 years ago
It a must to read profiles and even if no pic I will still read it. However no pic and a generic pick a phase profilr leaves me with the feeling of why do people even bother.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mobile phone replies on forums 😳 when u see your typos. Must remember 🤓 in future.
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RHP User
7 years ago
No they don’t. My profile is short and sweet that I’m Not doing meets at the moment, get multiple messages a day with the opening line of ‘want to meet up?’
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read every profile and it’s burning my eyes with all the reading I’m doing but it’s just the smart way of doing the looking.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Well i always read the full profile, you have to have an idea of who you are talking to or thinking of talking to. But after reading some of the comments in this thread ive actually just shortened my bio by about half!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yep, fairly certain ours doesn't get read by single males. We're guessing it's the pretty pictures. Initially we reduced the amount available but it doesn't seem to make a difference. We do read profiles fully as we too don't like to contact people if we don't meet what they're looking for. Anyone find an increase in traffic during school holidays like we have in the past? Generally during business hours from relatively newly created profiles, while mum and dad aren't home.... 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
Something that may work that I have seen some couples do - at the end of their blurb they ask people who message them to put a certain word in the message title, so that they know they have read the profile right the way through if that word appears.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I like to read a profile from top to bottom if it doesn't bother me if there are pics or it's long like "War and Peace" or just a few sentences. You generally get a feeling as to the type of person writing it pretty quick, and if it's someone you would like to contact.
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jriste
7 years ago
I understand random msg and flirts etc and to be fair when you connect its a very cool place to have a none judgmental friend or buddy on the same wave length or similar wave length . Not all bump and grind and wam bam thank you mam/man x
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RHP User
7 years ago
When I get messages I'll let you know how I go...my profile must scare so many off
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honkytonk
7 years ago
whilst reading your profile i was bemused as to why you believe you are not getting messages. then right at the end i struck upon the 'LOVES TO CUDDLE' line. see there's your problem jilly. all men know that cuddles are a gateway drug. one minute you're holding hands, walking along the beach, holding a picnic basket with the one non-hand holding hand filled with a selection of french cheese, crackers, strawberries and australian champagne (cause its tres cool to support the local wine making industry), the next minute you're entwind in a deep cuddle staring wistfully into eachothers eyes and before you know, you're married, divorced and your car has been keyed.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read the profiles. Whether they’re short or long, they give you an idea of how the person thinks, as well as what they’re looking for.
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RHP User
7 years ago
A simple way to weed out the bad ones is halfway through your profile ask them to start a message off with a particular word, if they don't then you simply delete without opening.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Have to agree that you get out what you put in...if you cant even make the effort to read the summary of a profile your disinterest borders on dismissive if not disrespectful...how hard is it to read "guy is straight" ? Good luck to all the men who are not but why oh why insist on contacting someone who has clearly stated and different tastes? and we think some men think in more than pictures...Wittgenstein springs to mind immediately
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horneycouplewa
7 years ago
I thoroughly read a profile, check all the little boxes of their details and look at photo's.It's easier now to distinguish who is genuine and making an effort to find what they seek. Funny enough we have had a few amazing long messages from guy's who's profile I probably wouldn't have considered due to lack of something but that message got my attention and turned out to be fantastic dates. I guess some efforts can over rule others, nothing is perfection in here. When we first signed up we didn't know what to write or what pictures to put on, it's been a learning experience as we go with updating as much as we can. So I'm not too judgemental on the newbies here and they probably don't even know about the forums !! Mrs H JillyK…...happy to give you a cuddle, snuggle and a poke - whoops ;) :) honkytonk... I've had guy's want me to stay the night because they miss the cuddles however can regret it as I snore (apparently) lol !!!!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Funny, I read your profile, ticked all the boxes and your requests ..... Sent a message and heard crickets! Oh well
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RHP User
7 years ago
Im frustrated by profiles that have absolutely nothing 😏. I just skip them now. They're obviously not that interested.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Wish You Were In Perth! You sound a good match! I did read your profile, and I liked most of what I read. It could do with tidying up, add a few blank lines to break it up. Take out the repetitions, and alternate a negative with a positive. Say for instance, you want to stay within the bridges, and a guy who could host, would be fantastic! I’m curious about the bridge bit, it makes me think of the 3 Billy Goats Gruff, with the troll under the bridge! I always read a lady’s profile, to find out if she’s “real” or a scammer! Then if there’s a 80% match and I like the pictures, I’ll send a message, never explicit, usually with a bit of self mocking humour! I don’t get many replies, surprise, surprise! But when I get a genuine one, even if “it’s thanks but no thanks” I feel heartened, by those, see, I’m pleased by the simple things in life! It’s surprising, how many women don’t read my profile either, and that’s when we’ve met, “oh! You’re married!” They exclaim! They don’t even look at my private pictures when I open them for the lady! I don’t blame ladies for being specific, they are in a minority and guys are all over them like ants at a picnic! However, profiles that are very demanding, make me wonder how a man could ever come up to that standard!? And conversely, how would it be if I asked for a sex partner like a model who shagged like a dream, was kind to animals, smelled nice, dressed well, was warm and giving, but not a bunny boiler! (Tongue in cheek!) M_D4
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yup JillyK I Ran! That IS too hard work! I have a wife, I don’t need another demanding female, and wifey isn’t that bad! What we’re after is friends, friends that happen to get jiggy with it! We come across friends, they’re not all successful applicants of an online application! Maybe just put down the deal breakers, maybe simply “must have good personal hygiene” You might like the right guy with a beard? A clean shaven guy through the week, might be a hobo at weekend and holidays! E cigs are fantastic! I’m not a smoker, but my workmate is, he’s been on eCigs four years now and he’s fine to be around, I don’t notice it, even if he vapes in the office! Yes, I would run a mile from your profile JillyK!! M_D4
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RHP User
7 years ago
Majority of what's written is a lie, written to draw in a certain type of person to take advantage of them
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Sailor23
7 years ago
Always read profiles myself before contacting others or else there won't be a point at all. But in saying that, I do understand the frustration of men here due to their number being so large compared to the couples and ladies combined. Once a lady was telling me that guys from other states were contacting her and requesting to visit them too.. didn't know guys were that desperate though!! 😁
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Good_Bad
7 years ago
OP if you want to find someone who you click with you could always contact or send a message to someone who's profile stands out to you :) peace and good luck ✌ *disclaimer didn't read your profile just going off your original question
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sensualcple2play
7 years ago
Its kind of a known fact that most males dont read profiles on dating sites, coming from the male 1/2 here, I use to often get remarks like "oh you actually read my profile" lol Most just like the pictures 😎
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RHP User
7 years ago
This is an epic problem on this site. My profile states I am seeking women. I currently have 14 flirts from men in my inbox. It’s not hard to read the what am I seeking section. It’s one word. Women.
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RHP User
7 years ago
This site is known for and marketed as a "meet for sex site". Society has forgotten about respecting themselves as well as others. This has been caused by the explosion of the the internet, and the easy availability and access to computers. There has not been a culture of respect and understanding what is a new and still very young emerging trends. Truncated language has created an all new, form of language. The standard needs to be set by the individual, because there will always be people who will not respect you for wanting to use this medium to garner some discreet fun. It is like some of the cliche's that are used in a lot of profiles, "please don't contact me if your young enough to be my son/daughter" is just one that immediately comes to mind. Cultural respectable expectations that exist in life, are disregarded when hiding behind a keyboard and screen. There will always people who do/don't read your whole profile, everyone has a pet peeve and until some decent cultural expectations are laid out, like those of some of the party's ( that have a modicum of rules/expectations) and people are pulled up about their bad behaviour the culture will only degenerate at your own hands. IMHO.
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RHP User
7 years ago
At least women actually get messages. Try sending out 10 messages a day for a.month and not get 1 response. I read all profiles whether they be 2 lines or an essay and try and incorporate what I read in the message to show I did read. Yet 99% of women can't be bothered to even reply "not interested". It's an age old forum this " women get too many messages whilst men get none"
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read profiles cause I dont feel like dealing with crazy partners lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yep sick of it. And I love when they say put that they are straight on their profile because people get put off if they put that they are bisexual. Ahhh well well we(bisexual people) get put off by that. Not paying for this site anymore...wasted money
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coastalguy74
7 years ago
I do read every word of a profile before i message somebody but it’s also pretty frustrating when you write time consuming, relevant messages to never get a response time after time. The response rate for my messages would be maybe 10%, is that normal? So i can understand why guys shoot off 20 generic messages a day without ever reading profiles, they could do that 20 times for the time it takes to find, read profiles and maybe send two thought out messages. Pretty sure which i know which would have the better probability. Seems to be a numbers game to be honest. Anyway i’ll continue with my brief spurts of motivation lol. Thank you to the couteous people who respond saying no thanks, at least i know you’ve actually read my message and considered what i wrote. 👍
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RHP User
7 years ago
We always read the profile. If it is a little out and we fancy them, we will give them a chance. If the woman is straight, they are single or only want full swaps, it is a no from us. We are clear about wanting a committed couple with a girl who is interested in girls.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It happens on every dating platform. The more the guy has on his profile the the higher chance of him reading and being more specific with the right person. I suppose you could put a key word down the bottom and mention to use it in the subject line on the first point of contact
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read the profiles, always. But having said that I think it’s rude not to get a reply. I know there are a lot of people on here and we’re all busy. I get that but I’ve sent so many flirts and messages and know that they’ve viewed my profile but still don’t reply (some do)
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RHP User
7 years ago
We always read profiles ...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey, lets f!@#// tnoght
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read the profile. Twice if its a more detailed one. Pointless contacting anyone who isnt intetested or you don't fit into thete headlights.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Everytime
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am truly sorry for your disappointment and frustration as humans we all seem to be very particular and concise with what we all want because we all want the same thing "Happiness and pleasure' try and be outspoken and report abuse and you should be able to separate the looser's from those that want to make you smile. xx
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi I do read and than reply so please don't paint the picture that all Guy's dont respect that.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read but the only answer I get are no or no reply
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Mask_007
7 years ago
Op. You have a very good point. As you explained extremely well in your profile what are you looking for. That is vey important. I do read the profile that i come across and interest me, in any position that i am not sutable for it. I still try to send s complement, just in admiration for such a nice profile... Having that with no intention to offend anyone. In say that I all so understand that some people do not want that, and is understandable. Fantastic post well done
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RHP User
7 years ago
Profiles are for reading so that’s what I do. I would rather not waste my time or yours if our profiles or preferences show different desires. As a newbie I’m also increasingly aware of how many generic profiles there seem to be so I tend to look for the profiles with originality or some hint of the person’s personality...
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’d personally just be happy with any contact at all 😬
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi greg5700 & Letsdothistonigh, Looking at both of your profiles my suggestion is to spend the time completing them, let your profile blurb show your personatilty. This will increase your chances of ladies looking at your profiles and will help with getting responses to messages. Look I’m not going to tell you that this is easy as it takes a lot of time and effort but the rewards are great, you also need to keep in mind the massive discrepancy with the numbers of men on sites like this to the number of ladies. Another thing to keep in mind is the ladies get mountains of messages as my wife can attest to so you need to stand out to be noticed. Don’t loose hope, spend a little time thoughtfully constructing your profiles both the about you section and what you’re looking for. Hope this helps. Michael
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TJginger
7 years ago
I always read a profile and for me it’s the biggest determining factor other than an intial picture. But it seems very few people read mine! I have the same constant messaging from men and couples who don’t read my profile or look at any information, just the other day a guy messaged me and we got chatting but a couple of messages in he said “oh you’re married” and that was the end of it. You’d think if that was a dealbreaker then you’d make sure to check that detail before contacting them!?! A written description is the perfect introduction, most questions get answered and you can get a good idea of whether you’ll get along. I refuse to chat to people who have nothing written in their profile, to me it’s a simple case of if you can’t put the effort in to writing something about yourself you clearly can’t put the effort in to anything other than a one night stand. There’s nothing wrong with outlining what you want either, we’re all here for a good time and to find something that suits us so it really helps to cut the fat and narrow down that search.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Always read the profile. I checked the looking for bio to see if we had similar wants. Height for example is a big one for some women. And for me you had to like sport. And sex obviously 🤪 It was never about numbers. We had the “hello” approach again yesterday. One word, yep, that’s going to get us salivating. Care to read our profile mate?? Sentences and structure shows maturity and some emotional intelligence. It’s not all just penis in vagina after all. Mr PF
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'luvu2' Anyone needs a box of tissues here I could be a millionaire by now selling them to you all Best keep a box or 2 for yourself. If you dont take it all in we shall all be reading your future topic post of you not being able to get a root. Tissue in hand, sobbing.......
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RHP User
7 years ago
Here here! I found it absolutely hilarious that when I first set up my profile, not only had I written nothing in it, but I also had no pictures. Within a day I had over 20 messages from people, many who wrote how amazing I sound, how much they loved my profile, and how sexy I am, lol! I think a lot of people must just hedge their bets and do a copy paste message to every person on the site. That to me just shows that they are purely after a generic-female-type-human and have no interest in who that person is, let alone basic compatibility. What was interesting was how defensive most of them got when I pointed this out to them! 🤦♀️ I honestly don’t understand the mentality, have some standards people!
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RHP User
7 years ago
My messages will tell the reader if I’ve read their profile or not... As to the reason why people in general message despite them being not what you personally are looking for...well...it’s my view that it’s clearly worked before for them, so really, why wouldn’t they continue?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I would say a large percentage don’t read them. BUT the odd one that does sends a message worth reading instead of a closed ended question. I often say to people did you not read my profile and they’ll say sort of I just looked at your photos ffs i need a mental stimulation. Anyway would be nice if people actually took the time to read them maybe they could have a adult conversation 😈
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Quoting 'luvu2' Anyone needs a box of tissues here I could be a millionaire by now selling them to you all Best keep a box or 2 for yourself. If you dont take it all in we shall all be reading your future topic post of you not being able to get a root. Tissue in hand, sobbing....... If you have something to say about my public posts you are welcome to respond to same in the public arena.I dont appreciate nasty personal messages where you think you can exercise your narcissistic personality so no one can see it.So you are hence blocked. Have something to say then say it here.In the meantime I would recommend the women here to avoid your poisonous attitude.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’ll read all profiles of people that spark my interest, best to work out if you are compatible first. But if their bio has a long list of “must haves” then I run a mile.
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RHP User
7 years ago
So annoying getting constantly contacted...said no guy ever. Lucky you, half your luck!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Eurydices_Song' Here here! I found it absolutely hilarious that when I first set up my profile, not only had I written nothing in it, but I also had no pictures. Within a day I had over 20 messages from people, many who wrote how amazing I sound, how much they loved my profile, and how sexy I am, lol! I think a lot of people must just hedge their bets and do a copy paste message to every person on the site. That to me just shows that they are purely after a generic-female-type-human and have no interest in who that person is, let alone basic compatibility. What was interesting was how defensive most of them got when I pointed this out to them! 🤦♀️ I honestly don’t understand the mentality, have some standards people! I am not interested in meeting anyone but I have a date finder up for months and months away just so I could look at them. I got a message from a guy saying he loved my profile.. I replied I am pretty sure it is locked, can you confirm you can't see it.. He did.. so I blocked him because I don't like liars :D
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RHP User
7 years ago
1 I read every one I come across. 2 It won't matter whether a guy reads it or not, because they know a woman is looking for that visual representation first and foremost, that 0° body fat image. Cmon... lets face it a few years ago it was the dad bod, now the image of well maintained, probably to highly maintained and women wonder why the get treated like shite when they find a "so called good one!"... ladies might have the upper hand in being able to be picky, but do they really!
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emmy128
7 years ago
Totally agree!! It drives me a little insane. If I get a respectable intro I always respond expressing what I’m after... My boobs are out deliberately you don’t need a face pic lol.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi there. I wouldn’t apologise on your profile at all for stating what you are looking for. It certainly doesn’t give the impression you are “stuck up” - nothing wrong with a women knowing what she wants. I think it’s clear and fabulous you know what you are looking for. Unfortunately I think it’s just part of the process to receive so many messages from people who don’t read your profile - other sites are the same! Just keep sifting through, deleting and blocking and I’m sure you will find some success! Cheers & good luck x Mrs Rudefun x
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RHP User
7 years ago
Well said. The old saying a picture is worth a thousand words should not be considered reading profiles. We take the time to explain what we are looking for so please take the time to read respect goes along way
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technologic
7 years ago
If most people just go by the photos and if we just used photos to describe our profile (a picture paints a thousand words afterall) I wonder what it'll look like - I guess ours would be photos of sores 😂😭😂😭 It's alright... Most people don't read forums anyway.. 😌
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read profiles, it’s an insight into the person imo. If it’s an essay, It makes me want to pursue them more, as long as I fit what they are seeking. If it’s just a simple 2-5 line profile, I take it that they are just wanting to hook up and nothing more than that. I’m very clear on what I’m seeking and it’s definitely not small talk, so if you read my profile, be prepared for questions and I’ll happily answer any that you have. But as some have stated men (not all) but some are just visual creatures and don’t have enough blood flow going from the big brain to the little brain which makes it harder to concentrate.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always read the profile I occasionally message some women without reading the whole profile I must confess I am married, and generally look only for those in similar situation or from what they are lookin for If it says seeking “ unattached” then I move on It’s pretty simple....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Meant Always. Not generally... :/
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read em.. start to finish especially if they make a funny post.. sometimes several times. The requiremnt of a buzz word is a great idea..
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Lol. I see you're using those tissues already.......
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read your profile after I saw your age bracket , so I sent no flirt nor message ! It’s very important to indie by people’s choices !
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ElectricDreamers
7 years ago
A dear and very experienced unicorn friend of mine advised clearly including a code word in your profile that you ask any potential contact is to use when reaching out so that you know that they have actually thoroughly read what's written and can separate template scattergunners from those genuinely interested in you..
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RHP User
7 years ago
Honestly it’s all a waste of time anyway, until you meet in person. RHP, is no different to Tinder or any other hookup app. Plenty of people look better in their photos than person (false advertising) and many of the hot ones, suck as human beings in person. Personally I don’t have any Sexual chemistry/attraction to 70/80% of the male population. On here I literally haven’t found a single guy that I’ve looked at on RHP and said wow! I need to fuck you. My husband sets the bar pretty damn high though lol. But there is legitimately, a high concentration of single men on here that are total rejects. Super thirsty/desperate, don’t bother reading my profile, I have high standards I’m not interested in anything less than what I’ve got at home. I don’t even check my inbox anymore.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read the whole profile. In the same way that I wouldn't apply for a job that I wasn't qualified for, I'm not going to waste the time of someone who has clearly outlined the 'qualifications' needed for this very important job - pleasure provider 😉 I also put thought into a message. It's not always appreciated - based on some feedback - but a lot of the time it is. If I don't get a response... message received. It's not like we've got enough room to write the equivalent of the government's budget papers.. so how long can the average bio be?
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DonnaBrett
7 years ago
We often get flirts or messages from people who obviously haven't read one line of our profile...if they would have they would know we aren't interested in smokers, people who don't practice safe sex or they don't show their faces when they contact us ..which is something we ask for. We're sure many people just look at photos and then message or flirt. They're just lazy and time wasters.
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Howling_Izzy
7 years ago
It's important to read the profile. If the person you want to contact, has spent the time investing in what they are seeking. Why waste their time? Respect them and be Honest! If you Hookup and don't live up to your word, what are you really? The only thing, I gamble on. Is the; Who are aged between. I keep being told, I don't look my age. So I'll push it 5 plus over generally.
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RHP User
7 years ago
What
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RHP User
7 years ago
It’s always worth reading to get a sense of whether we meet each other’s criteria and are likely to be on a similar wavelength. I often pick up on something they say in their profile if we get into a chat. What surprises me is the number of people who say they’re looking for likeminded people without actually writing anything about what they’re like.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I've been here five days. During this entire time my profile has stated I'm not looking, and for men to save their messages. I've received seven initial messages from men so far asking if I'm interested in their profile/meeting up. This is not counting the flirts. Have they not read my profile or are they thinking they are the exception to the rule? Further date is needed.
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