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Coming under fire ...
September 08 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Recently I made a joke about our popular poster Meeka leaving the site because she got outed as a researcher. A couple on another forum four days earlier had made this ludicrous accusation, and I was sure everyone else saw the absolute ridiculousness of their post, and therefore take my joke the way it was intended. Sadly my flippancy backfired spectacularly, and too many thought I was both serious and slamming someone who I had come to have the utmost respect for over the three years we shared these threads (not to mention met in person numerous times). I learned to not assume that people get my sense of humour, especially when on paper, and I will make damn sure I'm clearer about my motives next time. Live and learn.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The topic about if those two young Australian drug smugglers deserved the death penalty or not changed my opinion of a few forumites, though really I can only speak about their posts and not who they are in real life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have not been here that long only a few months (some would say that be too long). But I know as I have always been viewing and posting in the forums there are people who I would not like in the real world and others I would just because of what they post. I get a bit tired of complaints being posted but one has to expect them. I do not use my humour as I know that one will definitely bite me on the arse. As there have been a few posts comments and threads that have gone bad I think maybe when an OP asks a question or states something respond to that only, the problems begin when people post comments and opinions on comments and not responding to the original query. Yes I know they are just opinions but some tend to take them, shall we say too seriously and not too well. One has to remember you do not know these people and they play no importance in your life so why let it get to you or upset you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Which is why i dont post much any more. - Posted from rhpmobile
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horneycouplewa
10 years ago
Don't do it when angry, emotional or have been drinking 😲 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
it happens when you post and sympathy is not what you will get here. Just straight up opinions of many, You have to cop it on the chin and have a thick skin for the RHP forums. Hasnt stopped me maybe just slowed me down sometimes.
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RHP User
10 years ago
One of my first posts here I was accused of being a Femi Nazi by a regular poster..And a few years ago I put up a post about guns and received a whole heap of vitriol particularly from one regular poster..Did others options change mine,yes in a small way,I realised that people on the land need to be able to stop animals who are hurt and dying from further suffering xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
No. There is the odd post or two that affect me negatively - these posts are usually one-offs by the poster and are pretty easy to ignore. No matter how hard I try I can't comprehend why gay marriage is still illegal in Australia, or why Australians don't support refugees during this global crisis in Syria. As a rule of thumb (minus a couple exceptions) - forums are a place for thoughts and ideas to grow and manifest upon themselves. If I speak personally - I have a plethora of thoughts and ideas flowing through my brain which contradict my underlying beliefs. It's these ideas I like to bring to the table. Why? Because. You have to break down walls to see what's on the other side.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Guess my most memorable, probably because it was recent, was the one that Meander refers to with Meeka. And i think it typifies most misdemeanours i cause on here. I find it hard to resist highlighting opinions/attitudes that could be construed as hypocritical or 2 faced. I wont go into details about that one which killed the last A &E but merely using it as an example. I guess those that are hypocritical cannot see it in themselves generally and will therefore bite back instead of admitting they may have had it wrong. Human nature i suppose. For that reason i try and stay out of heavy subjects such as the Bali two and the current Refugee thread. I prefer more light hearted and a twist of humour. But humour comes at a price on occasions and i seem to offend occasionally. For that i apolgise in advance if i do. But i have learnt a lot but always still learning. Like your thread OP☺ Annie xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
... about the Bali execution thread. It should be noted though, that a lot of what was said in that thread was reflective of what was being said on social media, including comments responding to on-line news articles. It was a real eye-opener to say the least, can't remember the last time I'd cried so much as I did that day, and a for a few days afterwards as well. And still with Meander, the over-reaction to her comment about Meeka astounded me... I still can't figure out how people could have possibly thought that was anything but a joke and completely without malice. As a reader, I've definitely had my opinions changed on a few things, and I'd like to think that I'm a lot more opened minded these days, thanks to the forums. As a poster, I've commented on just about everything, even when it wasn't necessary. I've stood up for people and I've stepped on people. I've said nice things, and I've said some truly awful things for which I've had to apologise (and rightly so). These days I rarely post, and there are very few topics that I follow. There've been a few really unpleasant and unnecessary comments and incidents that I've witnessed over the past couple of months that have left me disillusioned. Exercising my freedom of choice and staying out of it :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Caveys topic earlier in the year got very heated. Because I had commented and joked about it, I was then expected, and asked,by a few people to explain myself and my reasoning for making light of it. That was hard for me. But I did it, and didnt get my head chewed off in the process.( and I have a lot of respect for Caveys honesty) I havent really been a recipient of a personal attack on here. Im not one for conflict anyway. But will occasionally stand up for someone getting targeted.. Im drawn here for the light hearted banter.thats more my personality. But appriciate the mix in here. Ive learnt a lot from some of the topics. Astrild, I like your post here,and what you contribute, and wish you would play in the sandpit more often. :(
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I stand by everything I post, it's who I am, I'm sharing my opinions, my experiences, my journey and my story. Do I think about things differently after someone has had a go at me, I'm not sure if I'd say I think about it differently, but I definitely think about what the other person has had to say. I don't post without thinking about what I'm about to post, or just for the sake of posting, ok sometimes I do, but not very often.... So if someone has a difference of opinion, then that's ok, I don't mind, because it's my opinion and it only really matters to me, if they want to have a go at me, that's ok, but I will speak my mind and stand up for what I believe in, because that's me...... I love that we don't all agree, that we get a different spin on things, that we are passionate about what we believe in, people's opinions are interesting to read, even if I don't agree with them, that's what makes us all individuals.... And like a few others have said there have been a few posts/treads that I've been absolutely gob smacked by (Bali executions, cravey's tread, the reaction to meander post, the TMI tread) these things got a reaction out of me, either because they were very personal to me or for pure astonishment in what was being said... God bless the folk in here, it an interesting place to be sometimes.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I noticed something going on in a thread a few days after it began. A comment made by a forum regular about another forum regular with no specific identification but obvious to a few who it was about. That post was picked up by the other forum poster who then felt they had to defend themselves... which was where I came in on their side of the argument considering it had gone outside the 2 people who should have been involved, imo. .It ended up that the thread got cleaned nice and pretty but not before I was accused of informing the poster who'd been posted about, of the comment. .The bright side, I got to mend old bridges with that poster. The rest lingers along with a pile of other inaccurate smudges on my character. Too many to mention. .I chose not to make details clear because I didn't think they needed to be. The essence of that story roughly covers a host of experiences, though not all with the rosy part of that outcome. .Peachy
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RHP User
10 years ago
in the words of eminem :- "I've been chewed up and spit out and booed off stage, But I kept rhyming and stepped right into next cypher" And ya know what it taught me?? It taught me that if you give a lot of weight to other people's opinions then your head will cave in eventually; you cannot be popular through following other people's opinions; only your own.... Only your own direction matters....so make a decision as to where you want to go and take steps - no matter how small or big - toward the direction you choose.....if your destination changes then it's not the end of the world......if your opinion changes, and you feel it's a better one; then you have grown.... But you only fail......when you stop trying to achieve your goals....whatever they may be.... So.... When you fall off the bike; kick the fucker and get right back on..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
now there's a topic that stirs everyone up and really divides audience 😕 ...... There's nothing on here that I wouldn't be comfortable saying in RL. I really remember the ANZAC day post got some heated discussion as well. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my first incarnation on this site I was moderated frequently, I guess for being a bit dark, cynical and outspoken. My gallows humour went down like lead balloon and I left the site, I returned because I liked the forums and learned to keep my views more in moderation with what I perceived was acceptable here. The JD incarnation has been her well over a year so I've done well to stay out of controversy...until recentlyNow the old DILLIGAF me is struggling to get out of its cage
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RHP User
10 years ago
I haven't been here long, I can't really think of any forum that has really affected me good or bad, (other than "reverse Gangbang") I couldn't stop laughing. In saying that I have always considered myself open minded but I must admit the forums have given me a lot more food for thought than I would have ever expected. I have started commenting from time to time but I am a little wary/shy, I would never want to upset anyone, that is not why I'm here at all. Mostly I enjoy the banter you all seem to have, sometimes I wonder where you all come up with the things you say lol Is there a book I can get? maybe something like *10 easy steps for learning how to comment on RHP forums*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for your kind words... I'm sure I'll get over myself one of these days and get back into full participation :)
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting 'Astrild' Thanks for your kind words... I'm sure I'll get over myself one of these days and get back into full participation :) We miss you.......xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I understand..we all get forum fatigue..But we do miss you xxFreya
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
A couples post "First couples encounter, fizzer" May 2025.Couple had a play weekend with other couple but first night, posting couple insisted on fulfilling their fantasy of a mfm and leaving second couple mrs out in the cold. Second couple packed it in next morning. I stated that they should have had normal play first and do the fantasy thing second night or such. But OP only wanted affirmation that they were in the right and the second couple were wrong. Everyone who posted in favor of the second couple were dismissed by the OP.They played the name calling card against me and it evolved into shit.Of my 12 months here posting, the trans card has only been called a few times. (I'll leave out Mr Bella for obvious reasons).That's why I like it here. There is so much less prejudice here that in real life. If I am called out I will fight. I will go to the end but I will lay in the trench for days to recover. It hurts inside. My female side is very fragile even though I have grown in the time here. But people in here do care for us and that gives me strength.But why post if you only want the answer you want?I will never forget or forgive prejudice. And that OP can still go and get fucked.......SorryAnnie xx
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Looks like you've started a thread that resonates with pretty much all'n'sundry here, probably because we've all been in that boat at one time or another, judging by the responses so far. And I'm also one of the crowd, in that respect. I have been a long term member of the site, but only been partaking in the forums for just over a year and a half at this time. Initially I was just a reader and taking in the process, and making mental notes of who reacted to what and trying to figure out the various personalities. I've only ever posted one thread, but contributed to many others. Initially it all went well enough, but of course over time as I grew more in confidence and called a few things as I saw them, I got ostracized by some, and one or two in particular. To me I'm old enough to look after myself, and my opinions are just that, my opinions - so all water of a ducks back - we're never going to all agree with everyone else - be a bloody dull place if that ever happened. As has been mentioned by another, I usually consider my viewpoints very carefully before posting - I will read and re-read to check for my intended meaning, as well as making sure my spelling and grammar are up to scratch, before 'sending' for approval. If the criticism does happen to go too far, I have at times just taken leave for a period of months, and will come back later to test the waters again. I don't particularly wish to "blow people up" on site, because that should not be warranted on such a simple site. But I will avoid interacting with them in the forums if they wish to try and annoy me further. In essence, that is why I have not attended any M&G's, as I have the consideration for the enjoyment of others at those events that I do not wish to be the cause of any possible discontent at those gatherings. I am quite happy to look through most threads, and if there is something that appeals to me, I might wade in with some commentary. If it is not of any particular interest, I will usually bypass it. But certain posters have made unfavourable impressions, with one individual who has a certain unshakable believe in themselves who thinks they have the perfect contribution to all scenarios and has had many people fooled into believing that they can do no wrong. I have absolutely no time for that person and will not engage if at all possible - they are just a complete and utter dickhead. I was surprized that some of the more 'sensible' people on here actually rallied out a defence for that person, as most usually have a shot at that same individual for their other postings. So in general most topics do not have any overt concern, and neither do most posters. As I said, we'll all have divergent opinions on just about any point in life - it is just a matter of our own perceptions as we have moved through our own journeys. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway'I will never forget or forgive prejudice. And that OP can still go and get fucked.......SorryAnnie xx Don't say sorry if you don't really mean it...Tell'em to get fucked.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But been here long enough to remember that post also Annie, I thought it was disgraceful, especially in a place of supposed acceptance of one and all and openness , they were a little too open.. With their mouths but closed with their minds ... Hugs ... My only post that comes to mind was a catch phrase about ' taking one for the team' meant in Jest, but caught on like wildfire with every commenter quoting it!! Don't regret it, still giggle about it, not everyone's gets my humour, I get it and I'm good with that..have less time these days to post but still enjoy reading from time to time... I value everyone's experiences and opinions on here (well most :-P) and enjoy that they share them.... Thank you :)
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jack_Denials' Quoting 'Whateverway'I will never forget or forgive prejudice. And that OP can still go and get fucked.......SorryAnnie xx Don't say sorry if you don't really mean it...Tell'em to get fucked. I was saying sorry to you lot for having to read that..............
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would rather hear a genuine "GET FUCKED " than an insincere apology...
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RHP User
10 years ago
one of my first posts copped a caneing.......I felt a member went too far referencing under age people. So I gave it to that member with both barrels. And Yep My post got smashed. Do I regret what I said - 100% No. Would I say it again - 100% Yes. Did effect people's opinions- not sure & Don't Care.........
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RHP User
10 years ago
100% Yes. I've learned never to judge a book by its cover. A TS girls comment on Fathers Day last year still breaks my heart.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To come under much fire but there have been some heated exchanges around the issues of misogyny and violence against women over the years. I won't let something pass if I think it is really derogatory to women. Its who I am and it doesn't bother me if people don't like what I say. My sense of identity is not tied up in what people on RHP think of me. I think one of the threads I learned most from was several years ago and it was a squirting thread. I was a newcomer to RHP and it really opened my eyes. I have had several bouts of "forum fatigue" and am probably experiencing one now as I haven't commented much in recent weeks and the one comment I did make was "lost" in the ether. It was on the venting thread.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' one individual who has a certain unshakable believe in themselves who thinks they have the perfect contribution to all scenarios and has had many people fooled into believing that they can do no wrong. I have absolutely no time for that person and will not engage if at all possible - they are just a complete and utter dickhead. I was surprized that some of the more 'sensible' people on here actually rallied out a defence for that person, as most usually have a shot at that same individual for their other postings. Tall I appreciate your honesty as you see it and thank you for your contribution. I was one of those who rallied in defence of that poster (and stand by my comment I might add). That particular poster rarely takes or makes anything personally, which is where I think a lot of people come undone. People generally tend to react emotionally when their individual belief systems are have been confronted if not challenged on some level in some way. It's one thing to have an opinion, but it's another thing entirely to be able to see past that in order to see where another person is coming from. Those that can't often take snippets from another posters comments to shift the focus from the initial context in an effort to promote their own point of view, which inevitably comes across as an attempt to belittle the original poster.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Appreciate your honesty on the subject too. Just goes to show that being as individual as we all are, we will all see slight variations of a theme - some will jump one way, and the rest will go differently. Isn't that what we're all about ? Life moves forward... Thanks, Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
As this thread has shown people have gotten themselves in trouble on these fora for various reasons, whether justified or not. Referring to someone here as a complete and utter dickhead is something that in my view is not on, and I believe name-calling is something all posters deserve to come under fire for. Can we please keep it about people's posts and not who they are as humans?
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
I appreciate your concern, but I hold my view on that particular matter. I consider myself to be reasonably tolerant on quite a wide spread of issues that may come to the fore from time to time, and equally I will give people a very generous berth on their behaviour and viewpoints. However, if people wish to push the boundaries beyond a reasonable point, I have no trouble in putting forward an opinion which I believe is deserving, regardless. It is not as though I have a habit of assaulting all and sundry - I am extremely considered in my approaches. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wondered how it would go considering the touchy topic!.Loved your response to Tall and the outcome to that. Peachy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPearL' I wondered how it would go considering the touchy topic!.Loved your response to Tall and the outcome to that. Peachy. What could possibly go wrong?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meander's response to Tall_n_Hard is exactly the reason why I have 'forum fatigue'. While it may not be polite to call someone a dickhead, no names were named, and I for one have no idea who he was referring to. Admittedly, that could be because I'm really bad at reading between the lines, or deciphering veiled comments... I need things spelled out for me. The point is that that is his opinion/experience & my opinion is that the comment was not vilifying, discriminatory or name-calling. Different if he'd actually used the member's name but he didn't. I don't like this type of censorship at all, and goes against the grain of many comments made in the recent thread 'If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'. The general consensus there was that these are open forums & we're all entitled to voice our opinions. Meander, I'm not singling you out... a number of us have done the exact same thing, myself included. It was just a good (and fresh) example of something that's been driving me nuts. xKiwiBredx, apologies for the rant and for going somewhat off topic... I'll retreat to my hole now :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
but I don't give a fuck and I will keep posting my opinions. I will say one thing however - I was horribly vilified at all crossings when I first joined 5 years ago and that was by Meeka, therfore I do NOT apologise for any of my forthright obnoxious comments to her. Sooooooooooo I have said it and I relly do not give 10 fucks. Belittling me in the beginnings was as I see it - pretty fucked up. I am no perfect linguist not do I pretend to be - I am also not a damn fence sitter. .................if you wanna slap me for this then YOU best have a mighty BIG paddle As for naming - who cares. I have big breasts and can take the load,. Vilify me all you like
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RHP User
10 years ago
......as I could not put icing sugar on my comments. Guess I fucked that up
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RHP User
10 years ago
Icing sugar is sooo last year. Its 100's & 1000's now. Get with the times woman!! 😝
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RHP User
10 years ago
You know the suck up kind
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RHP User
10 years ago
attempted diplomacy....lmfao Fuck I love your honesty 😍😍😍😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry you got slapped on my post...In fact.. sorry to anyone who has, does and who will in the future..apparently I have rattled a few cages.. once or twice..But.. "Does it bother WHAT people think about me, or write about me" ?No.. sorry.. and here is why.. (Sort of..)I read lots... and a LOT of what I read offends me.. and tortures me.. questions my moral fibre (OR lack of it)Questions my methodology and even my psyche ..At work for example, I often see shit scribbled about me left laying around.. OR, someone, from work.. or from my.. Well... from my OTHER life.. tries to "Piss in my pocket" and let me know about someone saying shit about me..BUT.. my job at work is to ensure the rest of the crew gets home to their loved ones safely, healthy and intact..So long as I achieve that, I am successful.. love, hate or anything in between is NOT my affair.So, I will continue to be the "Me" I am on here..and.. as long as I pay my fee's and don't do anything ILLEGAL.. I am pretty safe..NOTHING I have EVER read on here from other posters makes me dislike them, because I understand that emotions and beliefs stem from shit in our PERSONAL lives... and it is a trip we have to make alone.So.. "Nothing written about me here in the forums can hurt me""Nothing I write on here is written with the intent to hurt others.. "EVEN when I say shit like I said to Jay me on a recent post.. It was meant to "INVOKE thought.. NOT offend personally..*shrugs*"From my cave..."
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard'I appreciate your concern, but I hold my view on that particular matter. I consider myself to be reasonably tolerant on quite a wide spread of issues that may come to the fore from time to time, and equally I will give people a very generous berth on their behaviour and viewpoints. However, if people wish to push the boundaries beyond a reasonable point, I have no trouble in putting forward an opinion which I believe is deserving, regardless. It is not as though I have a habit of assaulting all and sundry - I am extremely considered in my approaches. TallI agree that you have been very considered in your responses and they have been respectful in general and I get your reaction to any behaviour like that you speak of. We'll just have to agree to disagree on the term you chose to express your view. Quoting 'Astrild' Meander's response to Tall_n_Hard is exactly the reason why I have 'forum fatigue'. While it may not be polite to call someone a dickhead, no names were named, and I for one have no idea who he was referring to. Admittedly, that could be because I'm really bad at reading between the lines, or deciphering veiled comments... I need things spelled out for me. The point is that that is his opinion/experience & my opinion is that the comment was not vilifying, discriminatory or name-calling. Different if he'd actually used the member's name but he didn't. I don't like this type of censorship at all, and goes against the grain of many comments made in the recent thread 'If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'. The general consensus there was that these are open forums & we're all entitled to voice our opinions. I don't feel singled out and I hear what your saying. The term used by Tall was something that personally grated me and I certainly see how my response would have had some others roll their eyes. I think my issue with that part of the comment was the fact it wasn't even "this one poster is a dickhead" (I still wouldn't have agreed), but the fact that it went together with a description of both the person and people's responses to them. I personally felt it was obvious who the comment was about, but that is my assumption and not confirmed, so I could be reading too much into it. Please don't leave. Kiwi, I don't want your forum to be remembered for the wrong reasons or take it off topic further, so I'll bow out.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Referring your earlier posting, no, it's not necessarily that you're bad at reading between the lines. I purposely carefully worded my posting in a 'diplomatic' way, with the intent was to have been understood by the main players involved, but also was a more general response to the issue raised by the OP, and to be read simply as a general response by the other forumites. The purpose of that is that, even when there are items that can rile the feathers occasionally, I can still be reasonable in my responses. Name calling is something I generally refrain from, and certainly not, as a rule in the written word, but on this particular occasion it was something I thought was warranted to more clearly explain my feelings on a certain issue. I hope that this clears it up a bit for you. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Tall_n_Hard: It also goes to show that just because we didn't agree on something said in one topic, doesn't mean to say that we're going to be bumping heads all over the show from thereon in - that's what I'm trying to get across here. Peachy: I don't see the thread itself as being a thread in need of handling as such. Other than my use of the 'Like' button to acknowledge posts in response to the OP (the purpose of which, being to encourage new posters) & responding to direct questions and/or posts, I don't see that my input is required. People are sharing their experiences and voicing their opinions - all of which are valid contributions. If past grievances or unresolved issues can be aired in the process, then so be it. If it gets heated between posters, given the opportunity it will resolve itself. Astrild: No need for apologies. It's a forum about forums - you can't possibly go off topic
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Completely understood and agree. It'd be a weird world if we all had the same opinion on everything that was said and done. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Agree to disagree. Tall
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
It was not just Meeka, there was also Tandy as well, whom you didn't mention. That is what I do not agree about in your first post there where two people not just the one. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Hi Kiwi, I think this topic maybe be a little sensitive to some, as it may bring up sensitive feelings/issues/Topics which may not incite people to speak about. I for one am one. :) Some things are best left unsaid. Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
No reason to bow out. You have explained your original post response perfectly well and i would presume everyone respects your view. Some may not agree with the view but would have to agree to the logic behind it.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Foxy's post weren't there when started tapping........ Didnt mean pop up right here.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have come under fire plenny times, but you know what? That is their opinion formed through their experiences. Who am I to judge where their response is coming from? There is one regular poster who has dead set told me I'm wrong and "would just ignore me from now on" and I must admit I feel really sorry for that person. Through their other posts it is quite apparent they are not happy, so I'm not offended by their stance as clearly they are governed by a negative approach. I love feeling challenged, I enjoy seeing different opinions and it's awesome watching people engage in thought provoking conversations. What's not cool, what is soul deflating and what makes me question humanity is how some people can get dragged into vicious cat fights, which then degrade into name calling, insidious threats and veiled attacks(and I'm not just talking about the forums). I have had some try to engage me in a negative fashion, but I refuse to go there. It's not my nature, and although I think on 2 occasions I have slipped(god damn beer!) I prefer to keep things positive, humorous and friendly. But I respect the right of other people to voice their opinion negative or otherwise, I just think some of us would be better off not engaging with them! Yes there have been many memorable topics that showed some posters in a different light. A recent one gave me much faith in all of you, with kind words to someone in their time of need, who has only ever been shot down previously. I guess I keep coming back because the good far out weighs the bad, and the bad aren't bad all the time!
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RHP User
10 years ago
It was a multiple's orgasm post and the response was negative from a frequent poster with the why would one want to have so many Os. I was angry, i was pissed off, but then I stood back, I opened my mind to a difference of opinion and yes its not everyone's cup of tea. Its been illuminatingly fun reading and occasionally posting. Thanks for the fun ladies, gentlemen, girls, boy, transgender, unicorns, lesbian, bi, and hope I haven't left anyone out 😊😊😊
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think every OP handles their threads differently, in how they control it AND how they take it, and I was appreciating the way you were handling yours. .I hope this thread does clear the air for some and goes on to be a well remembered thread rather than just raising old, or even new, issues again before being deleted. It would be a welcome change. .Peachy
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I got hammered in the multiple orgasm thread as well. I think by the same person, who also had strong views about what a male would know about the subject.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meeka's thread which ended up about Alpha Males....the thread went on and on for a few weeks, battle lines drawn, alliances won and lost....was a pleasure to bat on with some of those folk, it was all on topic not on the individual....thoroughly enjoyed it. Particularly given I've not been a "Forums" the of guy until RHP - go figure?...maybe we are all similar in a way - all somehow connected.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Anal Sex 😂😂😂😂😎😎😎😎
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madotara69
10 years ago
It was KiwiJohn's thread, a bloke asking about multiple orgasms, 'Guys Ask'... Meeka must have had the shits about something and put up a question several actually all around what is, what are, are what and watty watt is watt watt or not watt ??????, as she does and on a blokes thread asked "what do people think or mean by ?" So I posted 'Intimacy' as a means, an example of intimate connection and in that example I put 'someone' who's would be her chosen partner, not me. 'Someone' was not read, overlooked, ignored, but more likely her habit of speed reading the topics and posts, darting about and depending on what mood she was in, shone bright in her replies. So I copped it, 'Mado are you telling me how to have an orgasm ?!?' , 'I want answers from women, not blokes' kind of reply and Annie wound her up, Meander wound her up, Miss Freya wound her up, even Lovinit edged it on a little and it was on. That's what the sand pit is all about, but she fucked up on that one, smashed me and gave me the 'just because you get one chick off, aint no pussy whisperer' and 'someone who knows what they are talking about, dig,' rallied up the go girl go and in doing so made the call 'Edging, I would totally fail at edging. Wish I could do that!" So she must have had the shits about something else, because 'Intimacy' and with 'someone' was edging for the ultimate multiple orgasm' just like she wished she could do and she reckoned she had done all that sort of orgasming as I described in the beginning. Yeah Funcouple copped it, But Annie you were on fire for that little willy willy. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have no idea who Tall is referring to being a dickhead -could be for I care and know. ...... and why the fuck are bailing a lot. You trying to catch a horny cowboy ey. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do not read every post Mea so I didn't know who tall was on about either.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I think Meeka and i enjoyed winding each other up. Look forward to her return one day. Annie waves out in cyberland.......xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I swear my brain skips too fast and I miss out words. Wat I meant earlier was I didn't really care too much who tall was referring too and the other thing I meant was Meander I enjoy reading your posts and I enjoy seeing you get fired up. It's all part of the forums. I know I have fired people up and them me too. They're funny. Tho I won't stand for anyone being belittled. I was told once my grammar and spelling were shite by several hard core posters. It was and still is at times - I'm still learning and that's cool . I didn't appreciate the down right rudeness at the time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'Kiwi, I don't want your forum to be remembered for the wrong reasons or take it off topic further, so I'll bow out. 'you'll be back, you'll be bloody back!" care of Jake the muss The nature of a discussion is to reach a decision or exchange ideas is it not? If something said prompts a response, that's not going off topic - that's room for further discussion ... jus sayn.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you all insist. Another amazing topic was that one called "The ten commandments for writing a male profile", but I forgot who the author was. p.s. Inspirit, I'd love me a cowboy and that reminds me: I miss Funlover.
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madotara69
10 years ago
I think we bored Meeka to a degree, nothing negative, just she had a good crew a few years back in the forums and they got their hands on her while they had their hands on each other and I think she really fucking liked it and wore the whole lot of them out, has to be that Italian blood I reckon, she can give me the shits and she is not scared to have a go, feisty little short arse, but she holds herself well and can back herself up too, she is one of the most inspirational women we have ever met and she is so cool in real life and when the women back her up, it's because they are her friends and she has actively taken debauchery on, given half the chance she'd be voted in as Prime Minister for the likes and we will be the first to do so.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualAries' Anal Sex 😂😂😂😂😎😎😎😎 Nutcase!! *said with humour and a silly grin*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your refrain reminds me of a small child and it's mantra of Poo Bum,over and over again...
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RHP User
10 years ago
SA, your always so disruptive, I'm sure you could do better if you put your mind to it, now take your hands out of your pockets and go and stand in the naughty corner !
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RHP User
10 years ago
poo poo two to too you 3 2....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nope. Never been slammed in the forums. It's been a while though. Haven't been slammed at all lately. My shit doesn't stink either. Kisses to all xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Hi Kiwi, I think this topic maybe be a little sensitive to some, as it may bring up sensitive feelings/issues/Topics which may not incite people to speak about. I for one am one. :) Some things are best left unsaid. Foxy True, but then again just about anything said in any given topic or post could be insensitive or offensive to someone.Interesting choice of word you used there - insightful - very very insightful Quoting 'MrsPeachyPearL' I think every OP handles their threads differently, in how they control it AND how they take it, and I was appreciating the way you were handling yours. .I hope this thread does clear the air for some and goes on to be a well remembered thread rather than just raising old, or even new, issues again before being deleted. It would be a welcome change. .Peachy Thanks Peachy, appreciated
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seeing a few of you mentioned the multiple orgasm thread, which I could vaguely remember, I went and searched it to have another read. Gee women must confuse guys!! ( myself included ) We women were sprouting off about men have no right to tell/explain/show us how to orgasm. And yet we harp on about wanting men who know what a woman wants and can take contol in the bedroom, show confidence and be creative sexually. Hahaha. Any guy reading that thread would have been scarred for life I reckon. My new mantra.."What do women want?... We dont know!! When do we want it?...Yesterday" 😳😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
Don;t post to often ,but have read some nasty ,cat fights and back and forth sniping,Lovit your all very entertaining in your own individual ways. Keep on posting and try and play nice
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my experience most people do have a great deal of respect for each other but as we are all human we have comments and moments where we fire up. Which only demonstrates we are passionate people. Those who I have no time for are the people who linger in the background just waiting to stir up the shit. The are a few regulars who do this and don't really make any valuable contribution but only try to piss people off. Over time you realise they are full of inconsistent and contradictory comments and will say anything to get a reaction. I believe it is these people that put others off from making comments on the forums and I encourage those who are reluctant to just dive in and don't let the game players get to you. There are heaps of knowledgeable and wonderful people on here. Cheers Rob - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
is full of bitches (gender neutral term), sycophants, conservatives and keyboard warriors. Seriously, I've never ever heard, seen or witnessed, anything like the storms that brew in here happen in real life. The Gas Lighting thread was a highlight of this. That woman (?) got torn to shreds, though it would take a very mature person to admit that she did made some very valid points. Then there was my Mandatory Profile Sideshot Pictures thread. It was just a pisstake written by a fat guy who flipped the genders around to see what would unfold. Whoooooeeeeee! Touchy subject 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
"A cowboy HUH??? ".
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RHP User
10 years ago
A cowboy who trains pastel coloured horses.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So which are you?....i'd say 1 & 4....btw shall not bother pondering what the old leaf was like.
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MissBishere
10 years ago
i come in and I read bits, I never read every post some are just so long and I post where I want and what I want and I leave. I don't really think about it as intensely as you all seem to. I guess I stay away from the more serious subjects. Have I been slammed by people, most likely but I don't always go back to check how a post was received. I am constantly amazed at people's narrow mindedness though and by those that just look for the negative in every comment or how can they interpret it with a negative connotation. And yes a couple of posters comments on various topics have shown me they are people I would not be friends with in real life due to differing opinions, I don't however need to attack them for their opinion, but I also find that on Facebook all the time to, I think that's common in any social media. I'm easy going, complex and a contradiction so when you figure me out let me know lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Cereal Posters Quoting 'micknmaggie' Is that like writing with alphabet soup ??Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
So many people are just idiots and think their opinion matters to you. What annoys me is that people act like experts and become keyboard warriors because your opinion doesn't work with theirs. Personally anyone who takes the fun out of things isn't worth responding to or waste your time with. If its constructive and worth debate then id reply, but if its just an idiot wasting oxygen because they think their personal opinion is the only option, then I just shake my head have a beer.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Id respond to your post. But you know......your words to fit what i think of your post. Funny that. Can we get a refund on that oxygen you used to write it?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'TurnedANewLeaf'The Gas Lighting thread was a highlight of this. That woman (?) got torn to shreds, though it would take a very mature person to admit that she did made some very valid points. I could have sworn I responded to this and pointed out nothing bad was said on that thread. What caused offense Leaf, the fact I posted the link so everyone could judge for themselves or that I reminded people that the OP of that forum and her pics were phony? (I still miss lilmiss_fussy)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'TurnedANewLeaf' is full of bitches (gender neutral term), sycophants, conservatives and keyboard warriors. Seriously, I've never ever heard, seen or witnessed, anything like the storms that brew in here happen in real life.The Gas Lighting thread was a highlight of this. That woman (?) got torn to shreds, though it would take a very mature person to admit that she did made some very valid points. Then there was my Mandatory Profile Sideshot Pictures thread. It was just a pisstake written by a fat guy who flipped the genders around to see what would unfold. Whoooooeeeeee! Touchy subject 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile Mate ever worked for a multi national? Not that that is any benchmark, but I'd say more than likely not. Politics happens in every organisation mate more so in larger companies.....IE larger forums.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For a brand spankin' new gray ghost profile, youre very up on the old threads that even I cant remember!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
My money's on the deleted Gas Lighting thread being the one that TurnedANewLeaf is referring to. I don't have a problem with someone creating a profile as a means of posting, if anything, I think it just goes to show how strongly someone feels about something - besides, how many people are here strictly for the forums? Wether you (and that would be the royal you) agree with what's been said or not doesn't make somebody else's opinion any less valid.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Turnedanewleaf" HAS been here before.. and some MIGHT be surprised at WHO he/she was/is Just saying
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was the Gaslighting thread,,,now Cavey we are all speculating...I always guess wrong 😳xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'xKiwiBredx' My money's on the deleted Gas Lighting thread being the one that TurnedANewLeaf is referring to. My previous response disappeared, so not posting the link again, but easily found. As Freya said, from 2013. I'm thinking here are a few dual and reinvented profiles around at the moment. If your (royal you) writing style doesn't change with the name/gender however, it becomes obvious. And yeah, to stay on topic, that could change my view on someone, depending on their reason. Some people need a break, some are escaping stalkers, etc. which I totally get, but then there are those that create new profiles to troll, have a go at someone or agree with themselves to make their original persona look better. That kind of fakery is a big turn-off for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The underlying premiss is where the error is...... I say you are acting as if you're Royalty. Hence I believe my oppinion is most valid..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Princess Mary.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It was obvious NewLeaf had been here before from the part in their post that says, "Then there was my Mandatory Profile Sideshot Pictures thread. ". Unless that is deliberately misleading, but I didn't think so..There were 2 Gas Lighting threads at the same time, the one that got deleted is mentioned on the thread that survived. .Too funny, I googled and found a post about the 'Mandatory belly side shot on profiles' thread being deleted, the post was by me, LOL.Peachy
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madotara69
10 years ago
an angel
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I used to be logging in and participated frequently in the Forums. However, after I was called a nasty name once (simply because a poster perceived one of my comments wrongly and took it personal); plus seeing the repetitive behaviour of some regular posters, I began to lose my interest of coming back here regularly. Hence, I stayed away from RHP as much as I could and as time went by, I have lost even more interest of returning to RHP. So, these days I only log in when I get really bored with nothing better to do. Even when I log in, I still don't always make response on every single thread. So to answer part of your questions OP, I don't change my position on things when I make a comment because, I am entitled to hold my own opinions and my comments are often related to my life experiences. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
SensualAries, your right, it's not just RHP, it's the whole internet!!! Not even a gut full of beer can give people as much courage as a keyboard in front of a computer!!! My post was a pisstake, and the new profile was because my last thread pissed A LOT of people off :D I must be living in the past thinking Gas Lighting was huge, I dunno, maybe that happens a lot around here??? :D Meander, you must have been the photo sleuth? The post wasn't about you, it was about the cliques and high school politiks in this place. You actually saw the humour in my thread and we're kind to me after it blew up!!! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Turned/:p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualAries' The underlying premiss is where the error is...... I say you are acting as if you're Royalty. Hence I believe my oppinion is most valid.. Well of course you do and it is - from where you're standing, as is everyone else's from their perspective
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RHP User
10 years ago
But now try now to steer away from confrontation. I did have an issue with one poster briefly and I retaliated, which was purely due to a misunderstanding. I have since read and replied to numerous posts and now believe that person to be a good person. I believe now you have to accept people have differing opinions and points of view, which you don't necessarily need to agree with, but should maybe respect that is their opinion..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Being married and looking has made me a target but most of that has been water off this little black duck's back, I expected some moralistic nose peering.I've also had my words misinterpreted and transmuted in a manner to put me down, maybe I failed to express my intent clearly or maybe someone chose to transmute my meaning...I still don't care I've got a thick skinThere was one thing that did bother me a bit and that was when someone took a cheap shot at me in public, it wasn't the cheap shot that bothered me but the private apology that followed...
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