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would you eliminate a potential partner
March 17 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
For me i need someone who is interesting ..Its not about the job, the money etc.. i would rather someone who knew how to give a good head job , over her work job !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think anyone who's hobby is getting wealthier would be looking for someone with similar interests and a proven track record. There's nothing wrong with that... probably already attend all the same society functions anyway... just haven't noticed each other... or haven't climbed the social ladder high enough yet to get an invite.I'm considerably less ambitious.. but I draw the line at unwed mothers. This is because I don't like children, not because I have some pent up prejudices against incubators. :pHugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
not in pics but in text. if i can't understand what you're saying because you have no idea how to string a sentence together, i don't have much hope that we'll be able to communicate well in person and i think that a basic ability to communicate makes for better sex xx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
If there's a spark there then it's worth exploring further. Then if you match up on where you want your lives to go, can see that you can support each other in your needs and wants then things are looking up. Then you just need a lot of tenacity to not let things slip.Ask your mate next time what he'd think if he met this woman who was in the right earnings bracket, a relationship developed, they both fall deeply in love with each other then fate turns a bad hand and brings him down with something that means he can no longer earn the dollars. Now would he expect his partner to stay with him? Would he expect her to keep on earning the dollars? Or would he think it reasonable that she dump him and find someone else in the right bracket?Life plans are fine but sometimes life just doesn't go to plan. I'd prefer to be with someone who would be there through thick and thin. We all get older and lose our youthful looks. Money comes and goes. Fashion changes from silly to ridiculous and back. Me thinks your friend needs to find some depth in his soul then he might have a chance of finding a soul mate to share it with.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' not in pics but in text. if i can't understand what you're saying because you have no idea how to string a sentence together, i don't have much hope that we'll be able to communicate well in person and i think that a basic ability to communicate makes for better sex xx Sarah What about if you say something that leaves them all tongue-tied?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just reading through his profile I would have eliminated my partner. It was lucky I met him at a party that was advertised in the events section on this site.Perfect example of how you can miss out on meeting your soul mate by being too picky.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Damn!! If these are eliminating factors then I am stuffed...lol . I like converstaion and if all you can talk aout id=s your work then we may have issues but discuss a wide ranging of topics then its all good.. . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'focusliason' Damn!! If these are eliminating factors then I am stuffed...lol . I like converstaion and if all you can talk aout id=s your work then we may have issues but discuss a wide ranging of topics then its all good.. . Kisses Focus We have a lot in common! I have crap dress sense too!Actually, I like your dress sense...particularly that black cocktail dress in you profile!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'focusliason' Damn!! If these are eliminating factors then I am stuffed...lol . I like converstaion and if all you can talk aout id=s your work then we may have issues but discuss a wide ranging of topics then its all good.. . Kisses FocusHaha. I am totally in agreement. He who is without sin, right? I am not. I can't really imagine judging anyone on something other than much they capture my attention, and don't let go. I suppose there are many prejudgements that people can make without realizing they are doing it, but I certainly do not have a list of criteria...Well, that they are a woman, that they are an adult, and that they are alive...everything else is negotiable...Well, that they are interesting, that I find them attractive, that...err.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky'I'm considerably less ambitious.. but I draw the line at unwed mothers. This is because I don't like children, not because I have some pent up prejudices against incubators. :pHugsS Except for me its ALL parents and because I definately DONT LIKE CHILDREN and do not want any of my own (or any of yours for that matter)...I dont care how nice the person is kids are a definate deal breaker for me . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Shame you live so far away... . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'focusliason' Shame you live so far away... . Kisses Focus ...on April 30 I'm moving to Melbourne. And I'm bringing my mixmaster with me
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interesting topic! Although some shallow statements in this post!. I would never autodelete for job status, income status (purely not interested) A man's children I am ok with, have none of my own although timing is an issue and availability. I would autodelete if he can't move on from talking about the Ex and would certainly autodelete if he was toxic toward his Ex. Definately autodelete if he is on the text or phone during our time. As to ticking boxes, I am not buying cattle at a cattle yard ffs... xxx I agree with Taipan, I am interested in interesting people....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Im only interested in terminally ill, extremely wealthy, impotent men.................am i too fussy ???other than than......people who are engaged in life......vibrance
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RHP User
15 years ago
i cant aford to pick and choose...if i did id never get laid but id be a lot more pickier when i decide i want a relationship but im a total dag too so i dont care what a person wears or what job he does although he does need to have a job...for some reason a jobless man is a turn off roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I personally think that people will have an idea of what mould they think their perfect mate will be cast from, but in reality people tend to form these opinions based upon the social conventions of the people that they associate with and not on what they themselves are truly attracted to. My personal experience was that I was not looking for anything serious at all and in the long run would settle down and have kids with someone similar to myself and of a similar age, but instead I had a one night stand with and 18 year old school girl and now 5 years later we are in our second year of marriage and we couldn't be happier. I suppose the point I'm trying to make is as John Lennon said, "life is what happens while you're busy making other plans," you will end up with the person that is right for you, in reality unless you conduct a screening interview by the time you figure out if the earn enough money for you or own enough pairs of Calvin Klien underwear you will most likely have formed an emotional bond with them and won't care about that crap anymore.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't know that I would have them eliminated...I'm not sure but I think that is actually illegal, right? So probably best to just stick to what might get someone rubbed out on the white board "to do" list. | I really like a good sense of humour and a quick bit of wit. Life is actually quite funny most of the time and we need to be able to laugh together or even at ourselves sometimes. Miss that and I will most likely take it for a miss. | Interesting and interested...and that does not mean I would expect anyone to be a rocket surgeon or have sailed around the moon in a Viking long boat, just interested in life, and confident in who they are as people. We all have a story to tell...or I would hope we do, so tell it. I am actually interested. | Sensually and sexually playful...really a must in the game and perhaps more so in the warm up leading to the field. I like the feeling of "I can't wait to get there" rather than "here we go again". | Other than that...breathing unassisted and a body temperature within a 2 degree scope of relevance are a fine start. | Oh too...please leave me on your whiteboard. I have a job, don't need a loan, wear clean jocks when I do wear them and can cook. I also like dogs, can tolerate cats and get along with kids really well most of the time. | And I promise...I won't have you eliminated.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I want what's best for me and so should you ! But in saying that .. I usually don't eliminate based on job or financial status but perhaps based on intellect and style ... I like a certain amount of mental stimulation in my contact with men. I also don't ever want to connect with someone I don't like something about .. ie smoking.. so yes they would be eliminated. Overall though .. if there is chemistry between two people I don't think anything stands in the way of connecting
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' I don't know that I would have them eliminated...I'm not sure but I think that is actually illegal, right? | | | .
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would not continue to see someone for personality traits, and not because of thier job status or clothes sense. I dont need someone to support me financially I am more than capable of doing that myself. Although if chosing a life partner he must be as equaly as capable of supporting himself. l Not all unwed mothers are looking for a hand out or someone to foot the bill. I can handle children. Cannot have anymore myself but I seem to keep accumulating others so I have no problem with his kids...so long as he is aware that I will defend them to the hilt...even from him. l Clothing is easy to fix...I love shopping. I can take care of the wardrobe department. It is boring conversationalists that will get me every time. Talk to me about more than work, the ex and how good you think you are in bed. I can and will discuss most topics intelligently except cricket.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Song from Tower of Power, a group out of Oakland aka Bump City back in "the days"... | It's not the crime, it's not the thought, it's not the deed, it's if you get caught! | ...these days, I find it a lot less complicated to use the whiteboard.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with most of what Fionabee has said in her post, coming from the other end where I find myself now a single woman who has children. Although I keep that side completely separate from what I do in my *cough* free time, if I was thinking of an ongoing relationship the two sides would eventually have to meet. Though I don't want him to be a father to my children, they already have one and he is still a big part of their life. . A deal breaker for me would be one of those baby Daddy types, who has been running around racking up children all around the globe all to diff women, it shows irresponsibilty and a 'not my problem' kind of attitude. . Also someone who wants to take control of my life and run it their way......uh oh If they keep trying to give me things they think I need, money/gifts etc it just pisses me right off, I'm fiercely independant and get very offended. I'd much rather a man give a little more of himself than anything material, it lasts much longer in my mind and my heart . . Other than that I'm always willing to give someone Im attracted to a chance to show me themselves without looking to closely at their job or clothing, sometimes the best parts show themselves when you least expect it
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RHP User
15 years ago
The job matters not, the level of appeal matters much. I like suits,great aftershave, good grooming and personal habits. i like guys who know how to dress well even when they are wearing casual clothes, i like guys who enjoy nice restaurants and can talk about wine and travel as well as a well as a whole host of other topics that's all it comes down to in the end.A genuinely good guy, with a good heart who i may well have as a dear friend in years to come wether we are intimate or not. Someone gentle but very assertive and driven in his desires and life in general. At the end of the day that type of package tends to come with certain professional roles, that is the reality. Kitty
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'KinkyKittyKat' The job matters not, the level of appeal matters much. I like suits,great aftershave, good grooming and personal habits. i like guys who know how to dress well even when they are wearing casual clothes, i like guys who enjoy nice restaurants and can talk about wine and travel as well as a well as a whole host of other topics that's all it comes down to in the end.A genuinely good guy, with a good heart who i may well have as a dear friend in years to come wether we are intimate or not. Someone gentle but very assertive and driven in his desires and life in general. At the end of the day that type of package tends to come with certain professional roles, that is the reality. KittyKitty, i had no idea you knew me so well..............
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