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why is it the guys take no notice of age range
October 19 2010
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captainjizalot
15 years ago
i guess their line of thinking is if they dont ask they dont know if they might get lucky...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes steph, My profile says for males only between 45-50, yet I get 20 year olds, whom I am just not interested in. There is a lot of 'dirty old men' out there, but just be polite and say no thanks. Males do not seem to read profiles, they just hit on anything hoping for a chance. I tend to feel sorry as they do find it extremely hard on here, you can see this by the many different topics that come up with this fact. But as I said before, just be polite, but a firm "thanks, but no thanks" Worst case scenario - just block them - Good luck!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Perhaps you need to be more clear about what you're after. There are a couple of good reasons that older men would contact you - one is that under "I am Looking For" you replied "everyone". The second is that looking at the list of your 30 friends, you have 6 aged between 26-29, 8 aged in their 30's, and 1 in his 40's. In fact, exactly half of your friends are outside your preferred age range.If a man was to read your profile thoroughly, he could reasonably conclude that although you have a preference for men 25 and younger, it's not something that you feel strongly about. Would you not agree? Adding something saying that you won't respond to messages outside of your preferred range should sort most men out, though then you may not have met half your friends...
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RHP User
15 years ago
same as you i specify age on my profile but i get under 25 and over 45 contact me its annoying people just read i think Steph wish you all the best on the site :))
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RHP User
15 years ago
I constantly get hit on by guys who are in thier early 20's. It clearly states in my profile that I am not interested in those under 40. Having said that, the one or two that I have met under 40 have been fantastic guys. Of course you are going to get hit on by guys of all ages. Just send them a thanks but no thanks message to be polite and most (but not all) will stop.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Steph91, yes, I think there are many people that just send flirts to anyone, the scatter gun approach, without reading the profile. But then I do find a lot of profiles are contradicting themselves. Take your profile, you say you only want to meet men between 18 and 25, but your friends list is made up of people that don't match that criteria, 50% in fact, being 14 guys over 25 up to 41 and a couple. You also state your straight but list your sexual interests with a FFM bi. So for some seeing that it would suggest that your profile isn't set in stone.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' I constantly get hit on by guys who are in thier early 20's. It clearly states in my profile that I am not interested in those under 40. Having said that, the one or two that I have met under 40 have been fantastic guys. Of course you are going to get hit on by guys of all ages. Just send them a thanks but no thanks message to be polite and most (but not all) will stop. How could any man, of any age, resist the your charms.
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RHP User
15 years ago
please bear in mind that your pic is gonna be in the Hot or What section...and anyone that votes you HOT...will have a flirt sent on their behalf.As for the messages...welcome to RHP.Sadly...a lot of guys seem to totally disregard anything you have written...and go on the assumption that if you're on here...you'll do anyone.*Please note i said A LOT of guys....not ALL guys....before any knicker twisting happens.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
knicker twisting lmao Steph I chat to a few younger ladies int he chatroom but as for dreaming that I'd be a chance..no way. I also get blocked by people in chat who I haven't spoken to or looked at their cam 'cos of my age but that is their choice. At 49 you tend to forget that the ladies looking at you ..could be thinking " dirty old man" . Unfortunately we don't think of ourselves as old so are not looking as old men..still thinking like a 30yr old. Just remind them they're old enough to be your dad, even Grandad. better still just ignore the silly sods.
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CinMelb71
15 years ago
As has been mentioned, a lot of people do seem to use the scattergun approach and just message/flirt anyone and everyone, not paying attention to whats written or the preferences. I do read and respect what people put, though on some profiles it can get a little confusing and contradictory especially between the preferences section and whats written in the profile.That said there is the odd time when I have gone outside that and messaged someone when I didnt fit exactly into their criteria or age range, when I felt there was something in the profile I really liked and connected with (no not just cause of a hot pic!) where I thought there was a real chance we might still connect. In that situation I think its more about how you approach it, I always try and include something in the message like "I have read your profile and understand I dont fit it exactly but I really did like x, y, z in your profile so thought I'd take a chance and message anyway, but understand if its still a no" and then just let it drop if it is still a no. Thats usually more with something like me being just outside their age range (me being 39 to them wanting 35 or under, or 40/45 or over) rather than being 10-20 years outside their desired age range or say them wanting women or couple and me being a single guy.As with so much in life I think it comes down to common sense and treating people with decency and respect, something there probably could be more of both on here and in life in general
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RHP User
15 years ago
dont worry about what they all say about your friends list come on people we all know that you can have anyone on your friends list i personally have FRIENDS on my list...men, women and couples im only looking for men, so does that mean i should delete the people i know and chat too just because they arent aged between 35 and 45 and they are women or a couple give the girl a break...most men just dont read and thats all there is too it plus like karmacal says sometimes you read a profile and you see something that makes you want to write to that person even though you know your not what they are looking for you still just want to say HI most of my mail is because someone ...men and women... have read something i have written in the forums so they just wanted to say HI if that type of thing happens its up to the individual if they want to say YES or NO to a chat but Steph hun its up to you if you want to chat to a man in his 30s, 40s, 50s or not...but please always reply, whether its YES or NO it doesnt matter, just reply roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think with the extremes you mentioned there, it is unreasonable to send a random message - but as a typical male we are always going to be tempted to push our luck. I always make the assumption that they are age guides rather than exact ages - so I don't think it's unreasonable to message someone if we are plus or minus a few years. Of course, we have the added complication of a reasonably significant age difference between the 2 of us, and RHP doesn't cater for that when it comes to couples (and being an optimistic sort of guy I am more likely to assume that if one of us is in, or close to, the age range, then we might as well see what happens! :) ) The fact that we have had some degree of success (we have friends whose ages have ranged from 20 - 55) also encourages us to "push the envelope" from time to time. So....sorry for those we have offended....but if you don't ask you don't get! lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
It just really pisses me of when i i get 6 of the same msg template for one guy in about i week...It just makes them sound really sad... If theres a guy a few yrs out of my age range sure i have no problem it... As roxxy said just because im friends with a person in the 30's or 40's i dont think people should get the impression thars what im looking for... I think my profile needs a little revamp :)
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erotictouch4u
15 years ago
I have had some young women message me without my initial contact, stating they have a secret older man fantasy. One even said she wanted someone older with experience to show her what it should be like instead of the drunken, fumbling, over-in-a-minute sex with boys her own age. They all had age ranges in their profiles well below my age. As others have said above, you seem to have some inconsistency in your profile and maybe you need to firm it up a bit. Then just a polite "thanks for the compliment but...no thankyou" reply to satisfy their curiousity. ET.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We've had several of those "fancy an older man" messages...but without exception they have either been all talk or after some form of payment when it comes to actually meeting up. I would be interested to know whether any of those that contacted you have actually followed through!
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RHP User
15 years ago
All I see in the original post is someone pissing and moaning about the inconvenience of interest from the group of people who fund the service SHE USES FOR FREE!! Here's a novel idea for you sweetheart, pay for membership, lock your profile from view and then YOU CAN CHOOSE.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree. Can't complain about the service because it's DIY and free. Can't complain about the attention because thats why we are here. Be grateful that someone finds you attractive and say thanks but no thanks.
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RHP User
15 years ago
The more you open that mouth and spin, the more we luvs ya mate...hehe!
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RHP User
15 years ago
For the record I don't think anyone should impose themselves on others who don't welcome the attention but seriously, is it really that much of a chore to wade through hundreds of messages and flirts from people who think you're a bit of alright? Well I assume its hundreds if it warrants a complaints thread. last I looked it wasn't a breach of the terms and conditions to try your luck with someone who hasn't selected the criteria you fit into either. But I sympathise with the OP i'm sure I'd be suicidal if I had a hundred women a day message me wanting my body..... Not!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah Rugged and DominaT said it perfectly.
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RHP User
15 years ago
"testosterone'
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RHP User
15 years ago
How about if one woman sent you one hundred messages a day would that do?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Age range... what is that? ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok i'll say what all the other guys are really thinking. Hi steph how about a good time with a lovely mature age guy who can show you the ropes and help you get to be aware of lifes little problems and how to deal with them , and then we can shag, bahaaaaaaa
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wondering how many more than the usual amount flirts you have received since posting this :p ... soooo tempted lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
That would be very flattering Fiona!
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RHP User
15 years ago
My profile states no one under 30 and, in reality, I'm not so interested in anyone under 35-40 but I am constantly hit up by young men from 20-25 who, frankly, can be a bit aggressive and rude about such things. Of course, there are many very nice ones but, my point is that men seem to generally disregard the age ranges we specify and, follow their loins anyway! My boyfriend framed it for me as a compliment that they've found me attractive! In that regard, it makes my day to get any flirts or emails.
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