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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  No it shouldn't be like that and IMHO is not unreasonable at all. I would think that being in a country town complicates things somewhat as I am sure it would be a bit harder to find couples to play. I guess the thing would be is the annoyance of organising everything all the time outweighing the fun. To put it another way if you had a normal non RHP friend where you were putting in all the effort all the time then sure you would question the friendship.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  People lead busy lives..for some people meeting up for play completely dominates their lives, thats where their whole focus is, for others play is incidental, if it happens when everyone planet collides, then so be it...its like that in just normal day to day life as well   Bitching though is not going to help your cause......either accept that you are the party that does most of the organising and be happy with that or alternatively dont do it...really only two choices....if your fed up ..then dont   What should be and what is...are always two completely different things and the only person/s that can change their attitude on that is you...

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  Cheekyarses

  13 years ago

  I can understand completely what you are saying as we too are extremely busy ppl, and maybe you are right, maybe we are the party as others may be too shy or expect everything to be done for them. I'm not complaining though, I have a beautiful life - just asking a simple Question though, why shouldn't ppl interested make some arrangements too...

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  bellajss

  13 years ago

  If both parties are interested, then they should work together to arrange a meeting, give and take, not one person doing all the work, making all the concessions, and being shunned...   If people dont want to meet then they should say so, or else they should say, look i work/am busy, these days but i can do something on these days.. its not hard, if both parties want to meet then there should be give and take...

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Seems we are in the same boat, it does get tiring at times. But generally it's worth it.

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  Smilingwithfun

  13 years ago

  By being the ones who do the organising you are not the one's saying how come our profile doesn't work,we aren't meeting anyone except that couple who organised a meet with us.Look at the positives.Also by being the organisers,you meet the ones that you want,no awkward moments trying to say no politely.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I agree... has to be mutual effort on both sides... If you are too busy to make the time, you shouldnt be here..? There are genuine ppl who do the right thing ' and there are the ' you must work around me because Im too busy' types who waste everyone's time and effort..To those who like the world to revolve around them and them only. plz do everyone else a favour and move aside..

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Maybe you are trying too hard? If you have to make all the effort perhaps there are others out there willing and keen to share the load also it shows that they are just as keen as you, so perhaps go forward and seek others more like minded than you and prepared to go the extra mile - ie they are more on your wavelength.

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