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what is ur dream partner? What is it in a partner that would make u fall in love for good?
April 03 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
We will all get to an age where sex is completely unimportant... impossible even... but sex is one hell of a good way to pass the time away until we're that old. I maintain that its possible to love more than one.. that is.. to have more than one life partner... and that you can have these life partners consequetively or concurrently. Don't ever let people tell you that sex is unimportant in a sexual relationship. It is very important Jules... otherwise you may as well be housemates. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Since my previous relationships have been duds in the bedroom and my sexuality is important to me, I need to find someone sexually compatible first and then find the chemistry or the spark. In fact my lifestyle more or less dictates what my future partner will be like. But you never know who you are going to fall for or how they will enter your life. Just be ready to hold on to them tight when they do. And love should be unconditional.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm reading a pretty incredible book about love atm, which says 'falling in love' is not real - it's just chemistry and it's fleeting. Real love is an act of will and an act of courage. It's when you do loving things for someone for their growth as a person. It's when you choose to be loving, even when you might not feel like it. And so on. I also remember a doco on oldies still married some years ago. One couple was asked how they managed to stay together. They said because they never fell out of love at the same time. Probably that means that one of them chose to keep doing loving things for the other, even while the other was borderline about the relationship. We've all been there I reckon - well I sure have.I look for a man that is calm, peaceful, clear about what he wants in his life and determined to pursue it, great values, kind, a passionate, tender but in charge lover, smart (very smart) and a bit yum to look at.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well, nowadays with 46 years experience under my belt, two attempts at living with a proposed "life partner" and many luscious lovers later at least now I know who I am. Monogamy is not for me. I know that now. So my perfect life partner would be someone who understands who I am, accepts my aversion to monogamy but wants to love and adore me anyway ;-). He would also have to be fabulously witty, smart confident independent and sexy sexy sexy. Even though I love variety - sexy, hot, honest, explorative chemistry between would be a must. Is he out there?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'lilmissfussy'I'm reading a pretty incredible book about love atm, which says 'falling in love' is not real - it's just chemistry and it's fleeting. Real love is an act of will and an act of courage. It's when you do loving things for someone for their growth as a person. It's when you choose to be loving, even when you might not feel like it. And so on. Is it "The Road Less Travelled" By Scott Peck? Random
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RHP User
16 years ago
But not one sexual partner. I want someone I can share everything in my life with always... good, bad, ugly and smelly... and wake up with that person beside me and share my LIFE with him. But I want to share sex with a variety of men and bring to my life partner some of that variety in the bedroom as well. Keeping the flames of love burning for each other and spicing up OUR sex life with what I experience with other men.... and having him do the same with other women. Sex with someone you're not in a relationship with is only sex..... making love to your life partner is deeper and much more meaningful but requires lots of spice to keep it from getting mundane. SD
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RHP User
16 years ago
Love the book by M. Scott Peck and the poem by Robert Frost. I believe that yearning real love is an inherently human characteristic, but alas in 'progressive' society our conditioning guides us away from our natural instincts towards such heavy reliance upon our minds, where we fear our own inadequacy, and our insecurity fuels greed and purges altruism.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes, yes great love does exist! Lets start by saying personally, I find it easier to love a dog than to love a man. The simple reality is that my unconditional love for dogs are possible because their loyalty and adoration for you are unquestionable. They’ll never cause you grief (unless they start eating your bed). SO, loving a dog is SAFE. So wouldn’t then, if we can abandon all our fears – fear of betrayal, abandonment, fear of potential hurt that can caused by a man, fear that its not a 2 way street - and just accept him with this careless, carefree attitude – accept all his foibles, his womanizing ways, his annoying habits, and put his needs first before yours - then would the love not then be great love? But are we willing to go to that extent – that’s another question. I had seen my mum done that for my dad. I don’t know if that deserves pity or respect but after 30 years they are a happy couple and there's nothing she wouldn't do for him. Like nothing. I think we all desire life partner at some point, perhaps not necessarily due to the fact we need to feel true love but we are scared to be alone, to be growing old on your own. Its all good when we have the youth and beauty and the world is at our feet. Moving forward 20 years, what then? Searching for a life partner then seems more like a necessity. I think you can have many true loves in your life and comes in many forms and sizes, each one serving a purpose, helps you grow for a particular period of time. Maybe 60 years from now, our grandkids will be looking at our doco and said, “ahh...I like to have what they have, true love”. xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes' of course true love exists ' but the real question is for how long ? We all know that when you first fall in love' sparrows fly outta ur backside left right and centre'... the world is such a beautifull place to be' but does it stay that way... if it did ' we would have found the key to eternal happiness... Our Parents: The older generation were raised to think and practice that love is forever. It was a way of life in a generation which everybody practiced and embraced love is for a lifetime and you raised a family and that was that. It was and still is a very dignified way to live your life and I admire those who lived by their beliefs. Im sure after so many years of familiarity' it became just as much a pressure on them as it does with any generation' but for them it was the done thing to stay put through thick and thin. And there they stay. Today' we question things more so than our parents. We are better educated and more open to expand our limits. Its all apart of progression and that aint gunna stop. So in summary' yes' there is a thing called true love.. and theres also a thing called expectation... once the two meet' thats when the fireworks begin.... Just my observation btw.. Mrs JJ and I are still happily married ' but we have our moments... Cheers Mr JJ
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'randomtip' Quoting 'lilmissfussy'I'm reading a pretty incredible book about love atm, which says 'falling in love' is not real - it's just chemistry and it's fleeting. Real love is an act of will and an act of courage. It's when you do loving things for someone for their growth as a person. It's when you choose to be loving, even when you might not feel like it. And so on. Is it "The Road Less Travelled" By Scott Peck? RandomMy new fave book!!! Second only to The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.lilmiss x
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RHP User
16 years ago
i agree totally with you Annabelle.....i watched my uncle have a heart attach late last year, it nearly killed my aunty, the thought that he would leave her...it was the saddest most beautiful thing iv ever seen i dont really believe in true love anymore...but i would love to have that...just that one person that you have loved forever and you would die if they were'nt around anymore roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
No one falls in love by choice, it's by a chance...No one stays in love by chance, it's by effort...And no one falls out of love by effort, it's by choice...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Cait Sidhe... Never heard it put that way before.. well said and so true... Good principle to live by...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'AnnabelleJ' Yes, yes great love does exist! Lets start by saying personally, I find it easier to love a dog than to love a man. The simple reality is that my unconditional love for dogs are possible because their loyalty and adoration for you are unquestionable. Moving forward 20 years, what then? Searching for a life partner then seems more like a necessity. xx Ok - so I'm a dog person.... and this made me wonder - why are dogs such great companions? Is it their short memories? Their seeming inability to forgive and forget (as long as you're not a little white fluffy dog)? Are they not very smart.....or are they really really smart? In fact all the posts here are really thought-provoking... Pity we're not this profound when trying to answer "Why won't anyone respond to my flirts!!?"
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RHP User
16 years ago
Maybe mine has about 100 channels and comes with a remote control !! i really love my Foxtel..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' i agree totally with you Annabelle.....i watched my uncle have a heart attach late last year, it nearly killed my aunty, the thought that he would leave her...it was the saddest most beautiful thing iv ever seen i dont really believe in true love anymore...but i would love to have that...just that one person that you have loved forever and you would die if they were'nt around anymore roxxy xxx We want life partners to provide us with companionship, love and sex - yes? But what if these 3 elements come from separate sources and not from one person, would that not be just as good? From children and family, you receive love. From lifelong friends, you get invaluable companionship. From RHP - sex! :)) It doesn't have to come from just one person. Its still afterall a balanced diet. In the ideal world, we want our own Edward Cullen but if that damn vampire is nowhere to be found...I think, if we really look around us, everything that we need and desire is already there for us (I am not sniffing hairspray...really!). Didn't you say that your happiest moment is when your kids tell you that they love you? :))) To me, motherhood is the most beautiful gift ever. You already got it all roxy :))) Jean - ref puppy love. They are great because they love you the day you brought them home and they love you until the day they die. And their love don't change even if you throw them out the street or beat them to a pulp. In their eyes, you can do no wrong. Oh man, I am starting to get a lump in my throat ..enough said. xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
We've been together for over 20 years so far... tis a bonus we have more sex now than in our first years together aside from those first few heady months Fantastic quote Cait_Sidhe, so true Hugs... Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
heres what i want from love a relationship,a best friend,a smile,a kiss,sometimes only just to be touched,an unconditional bond that can never be broken,a woman who loves everyone but gives their heart to me,a woman who is my equal that i dont have to follow or she dosent follow me,compassion,romance,feeling,intelligence,a woman not a girl or a granny just a pure woman,lust,tenderness,playfull,cheeky. have i had this in my life yes but only once did i get all this from one woman,and one day it disapeared just like it came. you could say i have old fashion views on both romance and love,i totally believe there is more than one person in the world who could offer you this,the harder part for most is excepting it ! some of the comments here are truely amazing,well all of them actully. as a final thought... to find someone i love equal to my kids,who i love unconditionly and would die for any given day,will always be the woman who hold my heart.
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RHP User
16 years ago
My old folks are the perfect example of what life partners should be like.they come from a different era. The perfect couple of 46 years still holding hands. I guess today we aren't made like this. Somewhere we decided we always want more. Fab.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am in love with my vibrator, it even has a name, alas Buz! Don't have to make it coffee in the morning, always ready to go hard and strong for however long I want, don't have to share the bills with it, does everything I ask, can get it anytime I want....I am in heaven!!! Seriously though, I have been lucky enough to fall in love 4 times in this lifetime. Married 3 out of the 4. I do believe in love and not afraid to fall again. I am divorced now although lucky enough to have been there. Would not change my past, just not meant to be. Unfortunately widowed to one husband...never mind. Depends on the individual and your willingness. Not into padlocking heart up. My parents have been married and are still very much in love, it has been 53 yrs...They still date lol, they have their date nights. Mum shares a little tooooo much with me which I won't get into now lol lol....ewwww Make love and not war!!!!nor enemies..... xxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Blackstilettoes xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thats where it all falls apart........can buzzie make you a coffee next morning? Who will listen to your days plights?Who will share a share a joke to lighten the moment?Who will kiss you and tell you it wilkl be ok!?Who will spoon you in the dark hours?who wil make you a cup of tea while you drift betwen concous/unconcious in the dawn light?who will kiss you on the forehead and tell you everything willl work out?Where is Mr Buzzie without the product of Eveready Corp!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nev, yes that is what I want and I have to be careful what I wish for... I get you, yes would dearly like all that, I like the kiss on the forehead and share the kinda day I had.. I have a few friends on here to which I can share my day with, and that's all good, also can wave them in any time I wish. I would love someone to make me coffee in the morning oh yeah I am hearing you but don't need the bullshit of a full on relationship, hope that makes sense I envy your relationship...mmm Maybe have saved my marriage if we where here mmm nope luv being me xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
In a perfect world you would be able to find a dream partner.....someone who can make you laugh, hold you when you cry, buy you presents just because, make you feel like the most improtant most special woman in the world. After being in a relationship for 20 years I found that this died off after the kids came along. Now I am looking for someone who can make me scream, moan, lose control and be aching afterwards.
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RHP User
16 years ago
My dream partner is someone who will fullfill my desires in and out of the bedroom. I have met someone on this site who has met the bedroom requirement lol very nicely I might add. Now I need to find a way to have the other side of life equally satisfied. Anyone who can do both things is in my opinion a perfect man lol. hugs xxxx
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