M44 F44
wanting candy and eating it too... (hi, i`m a hypocrite)
March 21 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
I love how you found a cure for being a lesbian by deciding that you're better off just doing what comes naturally to you without having to ask yourself if it fits within your sexual identity.As for being greedy, that's fine so long as he will let you be greedy and impose your restrictions on his sexual desires and freedoms. Seems lots of couples are in that situation anyway. Frankly, there's no way I would be able to contain myself under such a dictatorial petticoat regime for long. Maybe you'll loosen up in time. HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
That evil, insidious, uncontrollable human emotion! I try to steer clear of it where possible. And even though in the instance you refer to here, I could safely say I'd be okay with it, I think that if you feel the stirring or potential of it early, then I'd leave it right there. Once the seed of that noxious weed is sown, no amount of rational thought or self talk can make it go away.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem'That evil, insidious, uncontrollable human emotion! I try to steer clear of it where possible. And even though in the instance you refer to here, I could safely say I'd be okay with it, I think that if you feel the stirring or potential of it early, then I'd leave it right there. Once the seed of that noxious weed is sown, no amount of rational thought or self talk can make it go away. Yes, that is what keeps most people from exploring their sexual interests. If you can't see yourself sharing your partner, it's usually because your afraid that you will lose him/her to another person because they are so good sexually. If you both agree and understand that additional playmates are just that, "Playmates" then there should not be any emotional feelings of attatchment to the other people, just pure sexual enjoyment. I would say, you're not ready, if you have a strong relationship and are not afraid of losing your parnter, then you probably are ready. Remember if you lose someone they were never yours in the first place... I always give my partners that opportunity, if they find someone better then they should be with that person and not me.
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RHP User
15 years ago
So you were once a lesbian but now you choose not to hang a label on yourself you find men sexually attractive as well. So you were not a lesbian at all just bi who didnt know it? l All the "what if's" will drive you crazy. If you dont want to do it out of jealousy, insecurity or what ever other reason a fertile imagination can come up with then dont.Even if you manage to go through with it, in the end you wil be second guessing every step of the way, replaying it all in your mind and wondering.............
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RHP User
15 years ago
So the reverse should also be possible...girls should be able to do the same?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' So you were once a lesbian but now you choose not to hang a label on yourself you find men sexually attractive as well. So you were not a lesbian at all just bi who didnt know it? l She didn't go so far as to say that. What she said, in effect, was that she used to identify as a lesbian and that stopped her from having sex with men, because in her mind, lesbians don't like to have sex with men. I think that once we identify our sexuality we try and squeeze our attractions into that model... and thereby we deny the potential for attractions other than those that fit the identity we choose for ourselves. The Op has come to a mature revelation that having a sexual identity denies her the opportunity to accept whoever her body is actually attracted to. I can assure you it is quite liberating to free your mind of those limitations associated with labels.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'fionabee' So you were once a lesbian but now you choose not to hang a label on yourself you find men sexually attractive as well. So you were not a lesbian at all just bi who didnt know it? l She didn't go so far as to say that. What she said, in effect, was that she used to identify as a lesbian and that stopped her from having sex with men, because in her mind, lesbians don't like to have sex with men. I think that once we identify our sexuality we try and squeeze our attractions into that model... and thereby we deny the potential for attractions other than those that fit the identity we choose for ourselves. The Op has come to a mature revelation that having a sexual identity denies her the opportunity to accept whoever her body is actually attracted to. I can assure you it is quite liberating to free your mind of those limitations associated with labels.HugsStalky Can I have a like button please ! Agree, I identify as straight .....with a little twist , a dash of lime and a salty after taste ! ;-) I get what Gaz is saying and above with Ninja.( the whole identify thing) I am straight not Bi not Gay but if the right thing or things came along maybe I would, maybe I wouldnt, it would depend on it being the right thing ! Brae......Nodding in agreement.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I SO love it when Stalky reads my mind ... Although if Brae keeps up I'm going to wind up contorting myself while I check and double-check my label!! Regardless of criticism or judgement of her own label amendments, to which for reasons Stalky has stated above, I also applaud, I think she is right to question her feelings beforehand rather than deal with any shitful feelings after the fact.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Everything he wanted. My candy store is rich and sweet ! Bend over here I'll pop you a cherry .....chocolate ;-) Brae ... thinking we are hijacking a forum about Jealousy ?????
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RHP User
15 years ago
Suppose he might put up with being teased a couple of times before he wants some too. He may well have insecurity problems seeing you with any guy, you may not have that choice in the future and he is happy with you organising another chick for him as well. Your jealously you have to reconcile in your mind and believe him when he says its you he wants ...others is just play you both do together.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'fionabee' So you were once a lesbian but now you choose not to hang a label on yourself you find men sexually attractive as well. So you were not a lesbian at all just bi who didnt know it? l She didn't go so far as to say that. What she said, in effect, was that she used to identify as a lesbian and that stopped her from having sex with men, because in her mind, lesbians don't like to have sex with men. I think that once we identify our sexuality we try and squeeze our attractions into that model... and thereby we deny the potential for attractions other than those that fit the identity we choose for ourselves. The Op has come to a mature revelation that having a sexual identity denies her the opportunity to accept whoever her body is actually attracted to. I can assure you it is quite liberating to free your mind of those limitations associated with labels.HugsStalky She did say "back when she was a lesbian" and being definately a heterosexual sometimes it gets a touch confusing. I always thought lesbians were just that and gay was just that, and Bi was Bi. Well you live and learn. l Fionabee.......not about to liberate her mind this life time.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Organise a girl orgy for him to watch. gives it a little more twist than just 2 girls and a guy in a room and you can make some lucky ladies' fantasies come true without the pesky penis-in-vagina business. xx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
Our little story..both straight...Mr Pup had 3way with old gf..told Mrs Pup in convo..her eyes sparkle and she says.."oh I wouldn't mind trying that!" So we do. We both like but both "identify" as essentially straight but nice things feel nice hey! So single bi girls seem to come with headaches so we try a couple, yes Mr Pup has great reservations about being jealous. Event happens and Mr Pup blown away at how turned on he is watching Mrs Pup in action...no jealousy issues at all...actually feel closer and less jealous than ever before. So yes we like candy and we like to share it. It's a great thing to know when I'm old and can't get it up anymore I can just sit around in my Hef dressing gown and watch her go at it with all you willing toy boys
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RHP User
15 years ago
didn`t expect this many comments!! ok...stalky, sweetheart, as horrible as this may sound, i wasn`t attracted to guys for about 10 years. and then i discovered asian men... and then i discovered bald white guys... and then i discovered beards. and if anyone starts singing that bloody youtube video, i will kancho you... the point is tastes change. i wasn`t repressing or restricting myself when i was a lesbian, at that stage in my life i wasn`t attracted to guys. and then i went to japan, couldn`t really find any girls, and decided i couldn`t deal with not getting laid. And then i discovered i liked cock. I`m glad my tastes change though, cos the picture of Peter Andre i had on my school diary in grade 8? hideously embarassing...`maybe you`ll loosen up in time...` see now... first time i read that? heads will roll... but i`ll grudgingly admit you have a point. the issue is that i never used to get jealous. and in memory, there`s only 2 ppl i`ve ever gotten jealous over, m (because, quite frankly, i was insecure, because he was screwing anything that moved pretty much... but that`s a long story...) and now awesome guy. I`m not worried about him leaving me or blah blah blah. But evidently I am insecure about something, because i`m getting jealous. Part of it is my need for someone to be paying attention to me. Which is why the 4some thing would work perfectly. The problem there is that if i get emotionally attached to someone (and hence possibly start getting jealous lol) - sex with someone else isn`t half as good. I don`t enjoy it because i`m lying there thinking `It`s not X, it`s different from what X does` etc etc... So I guess my question here is not `how do i get over it`, because I know how to deal with that, it`s more `why this person and not any of the other 16000 guys i`ve dated?`fionabee - i guess the issue is i *do* want to do it... i`m just thinking too much about how things could go wrong etc etc. maybe i should just stop thinking altogether... lollooking2try3 - sexuality comes in many different flavours. the point is you`re not a brand of sauce, and you shouldn`t have to put yourself into some kind of box so you can sit on a supermarket shelf. if ppl choose to identify as X/Y/Z, more power to them, if they`re happy with it, cool. And there`s nothing wrong with someone who`s 150% straight and has no interest in same sex playing either. And while i`m on my soapbox, can we get rid of the stupid bi stereotypes too please?? lolcuriousnewgirl78 - orgy? sweet... where do i find the women? lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
I may just have a new Forum crush LOL. Well said OP. All of it! And puppy, as usual, refreshing opinions and always good value! ... What colour is the Hef gown though? *cringe*
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' I may just have a new Forum crush LOL. Well said OP. All of it! And puppy, as usual, refreshing opinions and always good value! ... What colour is the Hef gown though? *cringe* aaaaaaaaw *blushes thankyou :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' I may just have a new Forum crush LOL. Well said OP. All of it! And puppy, as usual, refreshing opinions and always good value! ... What colour is the Hef gown though? *cringe* I was already swooning before the articulate gesticulations. Funny how bunny rabbit ears have that affect!HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
"Flirty shares well with others." ... Where's that damn angel emoticon??
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' I may just have a new Forum crush LOL. Well said OP. All of it! And puppy, as usual, refreshing opinions and always good value! ... What colour is the Hef gown though? *cringe*Crimson of course :)
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