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there have been a couple of threads recently about weekends away
October 21 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Been there done that 50/50 is all I will consider.I don't want to obligate or feel obligated, if it's unbalanced there are strings real or imagined.Maybe in an established relationship things could be different but first up 50/50 is clean and guilt free for all concerned so the fun can blossom unfettered.
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RHP User
13 years ago
cash :) no cheques please I love men spending money on me, trips, clothes, artworks from paris ahhh so sexy a black bankcard I have been known to pay for a hotel room or three in my day, five star of course so I can play with my toys on thousand count sheets bad kitty but then a nice roll on a matress on a rainy day, with no sex ..priceless you know who you are hot stuff
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always pay for the hotel. 5star always. I have the money to shout the partner, so why wouldn't I? I don't expect sex for it. It's just easier than going to someone I don't know's house. It's a lot safer in a hotel, so if they don't show or turn out to be a freak I just have a me-party and leave it at that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That based on the assumption that its the first meet, it should be 50/50. After that I must say I like to be the provider, as I think it's just good manners to provide without expectation; which I think was the point of a few on the other threads. There's no issue in being a provider, on the understanding that its also coupled with no obligation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Personally, I would have wished the second poster a bon voyage.
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RHP User
13 years ago
A full expenses paid trip away? or Dinner and drinks? Whats the difference? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
I must admit though that I do prefer to pay for my own accomodation. Especially for a first meet. Then there is no expectations at all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
and I do not have any "expectations" because of it...That is just part of my moral compass, plus I am a nice catch...Ricky
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RHP User
13 years ago
Female here, why not and good luck to you all if you want an all expenses trip. There is even a site that is for this purpose only. Misstravel.comWish someone would offer me a trip, i'd be there in 2 seconds flat
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would never be able to accept somebody else paying for my accommodation, flights or meals, unless I were able to pay them back in some form (ie, they pay for dinner, I'll buy two rounds of drinks and dessert somewhere else). I don't see it as offensive in the way that some 'feminist' women do: 'you don't think I'm capable of paying for myself??', I just feel a touch uncomfortable as I feel there's a form of obligation attached to it, especially if it's in the case of a purely social first meet and you have a niggling feeling that you probably won't be seeing them again.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If someone is happy to foot the bill then I can't see the problem, the other person shouldn't be frowned upon or insinuated it isi money for sex, it is really no one else's business except for the parties involved, judgements by outsiders really is a mis nomer
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RHP User
13 years ago
In reverse order Freya:Yes. I think that there are lines which can be crossed - especially in online relationships generally, as well as in RHP meet ups.For me, I'm not sure where that point is - I stopped thinking about it at a private Island in the Bahamas. Or the Caymans.Yes-I'm more than happy to be paid for - I mean, what sort of pro-feminist - pro-woman type of guy would I be, to tell a woman that she couldn't pay for me. Just seems kinda wrong to me...Yes to None, Some and All - different answer to different scenarios. I'm always happy to negotiate :)In the right context and circumstances - i don't think there are many things I would have a problem with a woman paying for me, as long as she's happy to do it - and can. Go for it I say.Does that make me easy???2b
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RHP User
13 years ago
.....i think you know my thoughts lol.keep it real people...........yes, I have paid in the past and been paid for..what ever rocks the boat at the time
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I offer to pay for someone...we took a couple to a strip club on Saturday night and I paid hundreds of dollars to watch them play... I expect nothing in return and do so because I want to.But I refuse to accept things from other people as a lot of people do expect things in return. I'm not sure why, but I just can't get passed that view.What other people do doesn't bother me though
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear'The Mr and I were offered plane tickets to a meet n greet a few years ago. I would have loved to have accepted them but most people I mentioned it to then and in conversations since were against the idea. Travelling as a couple and providing our own meals and boarding, I've been surprised at the negative opinions over time. There was no sexual agenda...I couldn't see me / us offering to fund anyone's travel etc. we've had this a few times.. invites to interstate meet and greets........... last time was to Tassie, a friend we chat with wanted to pay our way down....... all sounded wonderful, and we even had our pick of where we'd prefer to stay...opted out as it didnt fit with our schedule.... had a few things happening in the weeks leading up to the suggested dates, and a heavy commitment load in the weeks following...maybe next time it'll work oiut..... oh well...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think it's a necessary "evil" in the games we play on rhp. Although personally I think 50/50 is the better way to do it. Just because of obligation etc. I might have to open my search to interstaters now.
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RHP User
13 years ago
if a man offered to pay for my flights to visit him and my accommodation whilst I was out of my home state, I would let him. Who am I to turn down a man's generosity? I would pay for my food/drinks etc and certainly TRY to pay for more; but I know better than to squish a man's ego by emasculating him. If he want's to pay for me then go right ahead my friend!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Money, money, money some people have got it, some haven’t; sometimes everybody’s got it, sometimes nobody has it. Sometimes it comes and then goes. None of this matters. People should only offer if they can afford it (unconditionally) and nobody should feel bad about accepting something offered. Mr RD here
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RHP User
13 years ago
for some great thought provoking posts everyone.I have always felt a little conflicted about this issue but I think it really is about the individuals involved and the situation.I have had someone pay for my accomodation ,travel expenses and meals ,it was an amazing few days and I certainly didn't feel like a hooker...and then I have had the opposite situation happen where a man did make me feel like a hooker,not because he paid for anything,just because of his attitude.xR
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