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the no show people

November 10 2011

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Is it just me or do women or men, get the death by ten thousand text and then the no show for the appointment. My circumstance may be a tad different but so many guys say they want to come see me and get their pictures done or even just chat and then not show. I do not mind if a person changes their mind and feels they do not want to get photographed. But why do the huge lead up with sexting themselves silly just to not show up. I guess the are the afraid people, who hide behind a fake persona of the internet, and I get that, but its a waste of time for me. I do not do the chat on the internet, nor will I do the sexy text unless I have been with the guy and like to keep that tension going. I do not do that as its false advertising, I used to do it but it backfired when I did not deliver all the goodies I promised in text. Big learning curve, now if I text something it means I am willing to give it a go. So do you get people that phone sext all day and do the message by the truck load , make apts and never show.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Oh Tuscan Red I so know what you mean I had one guy recently continually looked at my profile and continually contacted me…all very pleasant though, however I did tell him that I didn’t think we were suitable but he persisted and I”gave in”..chatting. This lead to sms which lead to phone conversations etc over a period of nearly 2 months…and once I got to know him, he sounded lovely….we had arranged to meet several times, but I have to admit that my work got in the way of this and I had to cancel several times…but whenever I couldn’t make our appointment I always sms or rang with plenty of notice - he was aware of my work and its commitments and he said that was fine with that…, he understood – being on call can suck at times !!! Accordingly, we finally arrange to meet one Saturday nite on the Coffee Strip in Freo – at his insistence he wanted to meet outside the arranged venue….I said ”Can’t we meet inside for a coffee?” but he was quite insistent that we meet outside the venue…Ok I agreed....but it felt awkward…I would have much preferred to have waited inside, warm and cosy with a yummy coffee in front of me….yep you guessed it..he failed to show..no sms, no phone call no nothing..and here I was loitering outside a coffee shop on a Sat nite…lovely Of course I did think for a moment that something may have happened to him and I did ring and also sms him to see if he was OK…no answer….. What got me was from the day I relented to chat with him, he bombarded me with sms, emails, phone calls and live chat and then…. Nothing – I know he is still alive as he still looks at my profile a couple times of week… Obviously I wasn’t his cup of tea and my own belief is that he arrived at the venue, checked me out and left…..I could be wrong but I think not…that’s fine, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and I am completely ok with that…it is what it is..but after endless sms, phone calls, emails etc…would it have killed him to have a cup of coffee for half an hour out of a 24 hours day ??? and then politely say “thankyou but no thankyou “? I wasn’t asking for his kidney !!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    We once contacted a couple on another site, we got talking, things are going ok. Exchanged pics. Things going ok. Good good. Dropped my ph number, said call or text anytime except Saturday. I am busy Saturday. So they send me an over the top explicit text on sat night, around the time I guess they drank up the courage to text. Of course I am standing next to a friend when I open and read it. A very good friend, who knows nothing of my activities and intend to keep it that way. I texted back, please just email us, we are out, ... Will get back to the email in our time. I was pretty annoyed too but still nice enough to reply and encourage contact. I guess they lost Thier bottle because there's no emails in my account from them.... Annoying.... If only mildly due to being used to the tyre kickers over the years.

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  • erotictouch4u

    erotictouch4u

    14 years ago

    Yes I also get the teasers...those who already have a partner and just see how many more they can get interested only to later tell you as a meet is organised that the partner is not interested in sharing them out to others.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    When we get people like this who try and do the 1001 text's hiding behind there mobiles. Rather than just following through and meeting in person. Jane usually just calls them back rather than text back. The dreamers usually find it to confronting speaking directly. Especially after each time they text they get a phone call in return. They soon get the point we are for real and not here for teenage text games.That said if its people we know or have met in person we don't mind some flirting via text. Like you said it builds some tension until the next meet.Tim

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I enjoy your forum articles.   I am now guilty of a no show, however, there were extenuating circumstances. Let me explain, we had been messaging and talking on the phone agreed to hookup at his place, he lives in the country, first off a nice long drive there, and plenty of time to think about what happens if we dont like one another, how do I leave how does he get rid of me.You know what I mean, had difficulty finding his place so headed home.   This is the first time I have done this, I did text him and tell him that I was leaving and had cold feet. He was lovely and phoned me and we are now going to meet for the proverbial coffee first. What a gentleman.     I have also been burnt with the sexting, it really disappointed me and left me feeling dirty and used. I wont go there again. Messages and phone calls and then a meeting no meeting no more contact.   I want skin on skin not phone sex!   I wish I could get someone to take my photos. Older women rock!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I totally agree with tuscanred comments and find it amazing that we have this site with so many registered and like minded people and yet there are still no contact and no shows?   I created a travel plan/diary as I am in Perth for a week on business and yet have had no interest at all ?   I would like to ask why?   So please look at my profile and picture and please let me know as I am totally in the dark and stumped , all comments and feedback is appreciated.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I have had two men cancell at the last minute. They have both texted me and said so. I myself have had to do this as sometimes things happen that are outside our control. It is the ones that chat for months and nothing else. I think some of it is the thrill of the chase. Once they have you..even if only over the phone, the chase is over...for them. Some of them have no intention ever of meeting anyone and for them they get thier jollies by the on line flirt and tease.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Even worse he takes the time to turn up but is a no go just because I am older. Not even a coffee back at my place even though I send him accurate photos inadvance. No manners.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    You cannot surmise that it is because of your age. I think in a situation like that the chemistry just wasnt there for him. At least he has the decentcy to front up anyway. It is no ones fault if he just didnt feel the chemistry that you may have.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Your profile is nice, and I hope you have face pictures in the private gallery. the only thing I would change is a woman that loves orgasims...like who is going to say gee hon I really dont like orgasims but can I come up to your hotel.   I would put in my profile that you travel, and can be in any city as its right at the bottom that you added your trip plan. Most ppl just look at location and and read the main text.   Hon with that bod,just go down to the bar at the hotel...bingo   I see all the lovely women that are your friends, I would think no way, that guy gets all the hot bodies. why would he want me? apart from that its a good profile.   I have to agree with Fionna on this one, re age. A lot of guys make like they cant get enough of a hot older woman like AAplay. They get an idea in the brain a fantasy that gets it up, then a reality check that makes it drop, some mens fantasy does not translate into reality.   Same for older women meeting younger guys, they look good in the picture but there is no connection and its hard for them to understand when you say no.   Its almost like an insult that an older woman would not be as greatfull as hell for a young studly dudley, but chemistry is chemistry. I have a return text for the wanna bees, " show up or shut up"

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I have to confess to cancelling on the day of a meet. The physical atractionwas just not there. We agreed a meeting after a brief talk (too brief probably)Even good chats about the play. The troule was the more we spoke and the more I looked at this photo then the less I liked. I sent him an SMS that morning. I got foul language on SMS messages, the phone at work, and later that night. Definitely a diffenent side to tim. I thought he was really nice. Everyone has choices.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    AAplays,how could someone turn you down,your stunning,their loss

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    we get the no shows often enough that its a frustration.........weeks of texts, pic exchanges, meets for coffees, and 10 minutes from touch down.....a cursory text to cancel...or no word at all....just a no show......actually managed to get out of one guy that it was as AAplay suggests..that they are daunted by our age...and by our confidence and experience....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I think we hold the record lol 30 planned meets so far, 24 no shows without even letting us know. The other two couldn't make it but at least had the decency to let us know... At least we had 4 that showed... Getting used to it tho :) We are not everyone's cup of tea and I guess :) But if the doubts about meeting were there would have been polite just to let us know that they couldn't make it. We don't bite, and prefer the honesty. Oh, and of that number, 23 were men and 1 was a woman...Michaelangelo, after having a squiz at your profile, I have no idea why you are having problems - well thought out, great pic and desirable qualities...Perhaps there is something about our profiles that puts others off, and we too welcome input on this :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'Fun_2_gether' I think we hold the record lol 30 planned meets so far, 24 no shows without even letting us know. The other two couldn't make it but at least had the decency to let us know... At least we had 4 that showed... Getting used to it tho :) We are not everyone's cup of tea and I guess :) But if the doubts about meeting were there would have been polite just to let us know that they couldn't make it. We don't bite, and prefer the honesty. Oh, and of that number, 23 were men and 1 was a woman...Michaelangelo, after having a squiz at your profile, I have no idea why you are having problems - well thought out, great pic and desirable qualities...Perhaps there is something about our profiles that puts others off, and we too welcome input on this :) 24 no shows out of 30 is crazy!Just had a look at your profile and most part it looks fine to me. I do have one question though. You say in your profile you want people to meet you at your house, due to having a child and limited minding options. Perhaps this is were your having trouble. As a 1st meet and greet especially if its a single guy. Coming to some ones family home you have never met would be very confronting. Perhaps try meeting them in a public place for a coffee - drink.One idea in your situation is to try a place that has a child minding so you can get away for 1/2 hr to meet them for a quick drink-coffee as a couple. We are in the same boat as you in regards to young family and limited options but and have met 80 or more people over the past year only one no show to date. We always meet for coffee- drinks at a public place and get confirmation before leaving our house that they are coming.Tim

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  • acousticguy777

    acousticguy777

    14 years ago

    Hi guys, I'd love to catch up at some stage while I'm in Perth. You two sound great and I promise no no show :)I've been lucky though. I think I've only ever had 2 no shows!Quoting 'Fun_2_gether' I think we hold the record lol 30 planned meets so far, 24 no shows without even letting us know. The other two couldn't make it but at least had the decency to let us know... At least we had 4 that showed... Getting used to it tho :) We are not everyone's cup of tea and I guess :) But if the doubts about meeting were there would have been polite just to let us know that they couldn't make it. We don't bite, and prefer the honesty. Oh, and of that number, 23 were men and 1 was a woman...Michaelangelo, after having a squiz at your profile, I have no idea why you are having problems - well thought out, great pic and desirable qualities...Perhaps there is something about our profiles that puts others off, and we too welcome input on this :)

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  • erotictouch4u

    erotictouch4u

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'timandjane'One idea in your situation is to try a place that has a child minding so you can get away for 1/2 hr to meet them for a quick drink-coffee as a couple. What worked for me was to meet at Macca's so that the youngster could play in the playground while I chatted to the other person. ET xox

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    You get a whopper :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    l am from Perth and never saw your traval plan.....Why dont you try the WA chat room where you might meet some one. Quoting 'Michaelangelo' I totally agree with tuscanred comments and find it amazing that we have this site with so many registered and like minded people and yet there are still no contact and no shows?   I created a travel plan/diary as I am in Perth for a week on business and yet have had no interest at all ?   I would like to ask why?   So please look at my profile and picture and please let me know as I am totally in the dark and stumped , all comments and feedback is appreciated.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    We have tried to meet up with guys half a dozen times in a neutral location for a meet... and still haven't had any of them turn up for that either. But generally we only put the offer there if they have a lot of questions and we feel it would be better to talk in person. From now on though we will offer that as an option to all guys that we are looking to meet and hopefully some will show then. :)

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  • contemplating1

    contemplating1

    14 years ago

    You only get a whopper at Hungry Jacks, not Maccas! (At Maccas you get a toy!)     But hard to understand all fun_2s no shows, nice profilefor those who fit, mad to not contact! One of those IDK feelings one gets here!   Have a good 'un!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Some people are just misleading, rude, gutless and selfish. Or all of those things.

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