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the heart-girl or the head-girl?

March 21 2010

hey guys...feeling a bit lost so thought i would ask your opinion...Which to choose...The heart-girl who has told me she loves me...or the head-girl who I can't get out of my head...Both tell me they are single but I have only been to head-girl's place...the heart-girl doesn't want me to come there...yetThe heart-girl who only wants me...or the head-girl who has a wandering eye...even now, I suspect she is chatting to someone else...The heart-girl can only see me sometimes, maybe not even once a week...but the head-girl can see me more regularly, but is also often unavailableThe heart-girl texts me regularly...the head-girl when she feels like itThe heart-girl chats often and about anything...the head-girl not often...Now before you go and jump down my throat...or say it is so obvious...or whateva...would you have a different opinion...if it was the heart-man v's the head-man and i was a woman asking the same question...Jose...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Surely it depends on whether your heart, head or even heads are the driving force behind making the decision. If as it should be,...All 3 are sharing the decision....It sounds way to early to be making those decisions tii you're all better informed. lol Mac

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Jose, surely you should have more sense that this. To ask such a question on a Sunday morning when most are still chewing down their first coffee in the morning, or suffering hangovers, you expect intelligent answers lolOkay, let me get this straight, you (we will now declare you a lucky bastard) has two women in tow. One is very interested in you and the other, you are very interested in. Now unless my personal character analysis is really out of kliter, you are after more than just a fuck buddy right, you want a woman you can actually go out in public with . Okay back to your problem.You need to ask yourself these questions:The heart-girl - do you like her as much as she likes you? If you don't she will smother you and you will look for the exit door pretty damn quickly.The head girl sounds as though she has got under your skin. But as you said, she has some traits that annoy you - would she change if you two became an item?I can't tell you which one to persue, all I can say that if I was in your situation, I would go with my heart and go for the head girl. But then I have been told I am a stupid old romantic idiot anyway lolUnless I have mis-judged you very wrong, I think I know which one you will chase.Mooka

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    The head girl/guy every time - why settle for someone who doesn't get in your head? It's all about how you feel, not how they feel. I'm not being very eloquent this morning, but I hope you get what I mean.As aside, who tells someone that they love them before ever having them over to visit???Cheers,Jules

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    The way my head and heart is at the moment..they both would give conflicting opinions.I've used my head, little of what i've got and other times my heart that being more often than not,and both have lead me awry...heart break city..and disappointment.xoxoxmummafeeling lower than a snakes belly.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    you meet the heart-girl, you dont need to meet for sex, just meet her for coffee or something and see if you click mentally and if you do click everything else should follow naturally. And if the other girl is chatting to someone else, just means something isnt working for her, if it was she would be giving you 110% of her attention.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    well jose i know neither one of these girls is me and im just so upset lolbut being the wonderful person i am...il try and help lolim a suspicious person by nature so i would have a few questions for both of themheart girl....if she loves you..why cant she make time for you more than once a week?..why cant you go to her house?..what is she hiding?head girl...well i have nothing for her lol....although it does sound like she is playing the game....but jose you are talking too another so why would you think it is wrong for her to talk to others?...just ask herif you cant handle the pressure any more lay it on the line...ask them both what they want from you...then tell them what you want from them...if they cant or wont tell you or give you what you want and need....walk awayiv probably made it worse but hey at least get it all out in the open then work it out and good luck xxoff to mend my broken heartroxxy xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Three times I read your post and it didn't register either time... all I could think was "Wtf - why ask us!!??" Are you trying to absolve yourself of blame when it goes pear-shaped? You already know which one you want.... want, need, lust - whatever it is, is a chemical / electric response / reaction (yep - just like the airbag in a car, but far less likely to protect you from injury - but I digress)... Free will is a joke - your body has already decided... You crave one of those girls, and just wonder what would happen with the other one... but that's not to be confused with wanting that girl, it's wanting to know what would happen if you chose the 'wrong' one - they're two two different desires. You should be asking - do I want the girl, or the drama.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    We want what we cannot have....it drives the excitement, causes the dilemma and prompts us to doubt. You want the head girl to be loyal to you. Jx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    The Heart Girl is the right choice but..................... while you have the head girl on your mind you cant be true to miss heart. Sorry Jose but if its a delimer then neither one is "the One" You will know when that lad comes along. Good luck Hugs and kisses

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    skip the both of them and head for tassie.Roxxies hot for ya man. Get yourself a panelvan.found that helpfull. hope i've been some help buddy.ahahahahahaahhahaahhahaahahaEarl

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Jose If we were cold hearted bastards we would say figure it out yourself..But we arent..The heart thing to me is always dangerous if it is a one way street..There ends up being a toll you have to pay.. The head well it appears you already have doubts..the wandering eyes etc..I hate to say it man your screwed !! Be the Master of your domain Jose..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Plough the field Jose....Im a great believer in..if in doubt... DON'T Lots to chose from around here anyway...and as Earl says... Tassie, is looking good at this time of year...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    The Heart-Girl is only right for you if YOUR heart is ripe and ready and ready for her too. Don't choose her if your heart is not available as you'll only end up breaking hers when you can't offer her like for like. If you have to ask - then I don't think your heart is in the right place to offer her what she needs and choosing her would be selfish. Shiny

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    aww jose,u have recieved some beautiful advice, arent the rhp forums gr8, yes i suspect u just want 2 hear what u already know...i would go with the head girl, yes u will prob get hurt, but to me it sounds like the heart girl is the player, even tho u would think the head girl is on the surface anyway...unfortunately when u trying to choose between 2, the answer always seems to b neither, its a bugger hey :(big hugs for u on a confusing sunday...my sunday is a strange 1 myself, got all ready for this big arse cyclone.......then nothing! was the most still quiet night! lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    I meant Lady not lad damm Y key

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Jose, Take a coin. Heads for Head Girl, tails for Heart Girl. After you flip the coin, if you are disappointed with the result and decide to try for 'best of 3' then you already know the answer. Good luck Belle x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    The one you want Jose Is the one that gets into your head and leaves you loving everything she is. The best way to know who that is is to spend some time with yourself, reflec,t examine, and analyse. Never rush where angels fear to tread cautiously miss b

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    what you need to do is get a mad scientist to genetically fuse both girls into one and take all the best bits of each, and if you accidently wind up with a girl with 2 pussys and four breasts, dont complain. but seriously, heart girl appears to have something to hide and is trying to get you in before you realise some things about her and her life. head girl is keeping her options open and may be like this due to previous burnings with rhp men. that is if she is from this site. if you are all that head girl wants, in the end you will get her. if you are not, you dont want her anyway.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Look i reckon the only thing you can do is give both girls a go for a period of time and the right decision will float to the top. Sounds like you don't know nearly enough about either yet, head girl could be a head case and heart girl could be little miss cling on. I don't know about you mate but i can't stand needy women!So give it time pal don't be in to much of a rush to make a decision.Cheers Nev