M57 F49
the decision maker
April 20 2011
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15 years ago
That's why i love being single, my way AND then hit the highway, baby!Good on you if it works for you guys, Mums, but that kind of thing never fit with me even growing up and also when i was still in the blissful bit when i was married, it's just not how I am as an individual, plus my ex was more of a 'dreamer' than my analytical, logical self. If a decision's being made that has anything to do with me, someone trying to make it without me would land them in a world of trouble, and in many cases even if it doesn't have anything to do with me, i still have an opinion about it, hehe.xx Sarah
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15 years ago
Single and lovin it.............. Tho I do have to answer to my 13 year old sometimes :)
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15 years ago
I think you're really sweet Mrs. Mum and I'd love to be on whatever happy air you're breathing, but at the risk of asking the hard question....... Are you trying to convince us how wonderful your husband is, or yourself? No its not going to be popular, but I only say it because you sound like me.....ummmm years ago, trying to compensate for my ex's insecurities about himself....so I blew smoke wherever I could to try and perk his self image up. Just be careful you dont dilute yourself to meet somewhere in the middle xox
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15 years ago
I've reached this thinking from reading this AND your cuddly thread
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15 years ago
Decide, Insecticide, Suicide.... . No decisions here, just choices and being that I report to my daughter, she makes all the best choices and I go along with her and her sidekick ~ Anatomic Barbie the Plutonium Princess with Radioactive Hair (comes with Kens Skin and clumps of his hair)
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15 years ago
both of us make the decisions. it is after all, a partnership. i just end up in trouble if left to make the choices. we are complementary too, in how we process those issues that demand a decision or outcome......
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15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' But on a more serious note, there are times when I love to defer to someone with complimentary skill sets to mine, if the basis of the relationship is equality and functionality for all. It was always me being the calm thinker in emergencies, but on the odd occasion that I've had my dad close at hand, I've LOVED following his instructions and leaning on his strong shoulder. That's why now I could only fall for a guy who is both alpha male (having earned my respect) but also a decent human being who knows that true leadership (by a male alpha OR a female alpha) is done through rolling up the sleeves and getting your own hands dirty in what ever way is required. I agree "decisive, firm and considerate" are a sexy combo when considerate includes making a decision mutually and at times deferring to someone else's better judgement. I'm one for 100% true equality in any relationship, especially in the big decisions. Having spent many years as the primary decision maker in a previous relationship, I am quite happy to relinquish that role these days and I really enjoy having simple non-earth shattering decisions made for me. It's refreshing and it's thoughtful and as Chilli says, oh so sexy when it's decisive, firm and made with consideration for pleasing you. I still reserve the right to overrule it if the urge takes me though
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15 years ago
Im with CNG and the other single ladies. There is only me. I take full responisbility. There is NO democracy in my house it is firmly a dictatorship. And that is the way it will stay.
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15 years ago
Any more wind up that arse and he will explode ;)
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15 years ago
you are not a biarch, quite the forthright lady, my man does not need smoke in his bum, i like the forums and try to think of real things to ask or say. Mr Mum, is direct, and some people dont like that, for me it is quite the nice life to know you have a man with balls willing to take the lead, and do what is needed. thank you for your reply, i can see how you may have thought that, though its not how i think, but thank you for your comments Mrs Mum
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15 years ago
Quoting 'lustful2011'Any more wind up that arse and he will explode ;) He cant explode, his air removal valve works too welll lol, seriously how bad are you guys, I love the man, I just wanted to know what forumers thought, If I did not justify why I like decision makers, I would have been told that I was weak and need to stand up for myself etc etc so shoot me for telling the truth Mrs Mum
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15 years ago
Quoting 'mumonmum' Quoting 'lustful2011'Any more wind up that arse and he will explode ;) He cant explode, his air removal valve works too welll lol, seriously how bad are you guys, I love the man, I just wanted to know what forumers thought, If I did not justify why I like decision makers, I would have been told that I was weak and need to stand up for myself etc etc so shoot me for telling the truth Mrs Mum dont let them get you down. thats exactly what they want. are you weaker for sharing how you feel? no absolutely not! celebrate the strengths of your love. trust and commitment. we dont go a day without each paying compliments to the other,or declaring our love and are each others best friend. sharing that with strangers is probably the most adult thing you can do, and its a real shame that others dont see it for what it is, good on you we say! Shame on anyone for trying to knock you down!
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15 years ago
all the single ladies ...all the single ladies ......all the single ladies ........ all the single ladies Any way I will just read on and continue to imagine you all with Beyonces arse .....all the single ladies ....... alll the single ladies Brae .......... Then ya shoulda put a ring on it ........
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15 years ago
Quoting 'looking2try3' all the single ladies ...all the single ladies ......all the single ladies ........ all the single ladies Any way I will just read on and continue to imagine you all with Beyonces arse .....all the single ladies ....... alll the single ladies Brae .......... Then ya shoulda put a ring on it ........ Well said Brae
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15 years ago
Well of coures , I wanted to frist stick up for Mrs Mum , But then I read her profile , omg Dgt , you soooo right . mmmmm I,m not saying that Mr Mum is a total control freak , But until one comes along , he seems to be filling in for one . Mr
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15 years ago
You stirer you!
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15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' You stirer you! LOL ahhhh Fi you read me too well ! Brae .........
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15 years ago
Means there is noone else to make decisions for me. When I am in a relationship, if it is an important decision I want to talk it through. Like Chilli says, some of those day to day things like what's for dinner, yep a Mr PG could take care of that. I remember telling a friend recently how while in a previous relationship, I held jobs where I was the final decision maker, I didn't want to make decisions about whether to eat in or out or what to eat or whether we needed this or that. I remember getting frustrated with my partner because he seemed incapable of making a decision about day to day things. Could that be why we are not together?
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15 years ago
I wasnt trying to offend you or your hubby, but as I was reading this and your other one, something nagged in my gut, it was one of those uh oh feelings But it could very well be that I'm all jaded , and sure I dont have the whole mushy thing going on right now, but look if it works for you, good on you. But my little alarm bells go off now without trying when I see a person constantly go on about their partner when they're obviously well n truly past that 'lusty, you're my world right now' part of a relationship. I start asking questions like, why do you need to constantly re-assure yourself or others of the partners worth or merits......and Im definately not saying that its the same for you, but it does get me wonderingits not the norm, and it kind of stands out.
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15 years ago
What is the norm? I have been with my hubby for 11 years, I am still in love with him. We never left mushy, I still get flowers, cards and messages left on the bench. I think the norm is to have a bond this strong, it makes marriage last, keeps honesty on the table, addresses concerns and issues without them mounting up. I am not a raving religious nut or a browbeaten wife, I have a great relationship with a good man. I hope one day for your sake you get the same, cause hunny, it is really nice to share all with someone you love. Mrs Mum
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15 years ago
Mrs. Mum why can't I have four men like that share all that with them. Go on, be all happy then LOL I dont want to drag you down from it.
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15 years ago
Right now in my house I make all the decisions...not that I think that's all that hot. If something screws up I don't have some of the funny little luxuires of asking "who burned the toast". I do have a Jedi here to show me the way...but if I blame him I have to remember to kick the end without the teeth. | I think that if I were to partner I would prefer to recognize that we have either strengths or weakness, things that we are just that good at that we don't really need to discuss in detail...and put my faith in her without question. Same thing applies on the other side...if you believe, don't ask just do it and I will follow suit. Chances are, if we can't have that sort of relationship it's headed for the guggler anyway...and for chrissake, don't burn the toast. | Like many other things in life...sometimes it should parallel nature and we may be much better off. Watch a pair of perfectly matched male and female alpha wolves once paired. They will run in sheer delight, in pursuit of the hunt or sometimes almost like foreplay. Side by side with neither in the lead...but if he suddenly breaks left, her nose is on his shoulder and similarly he will follow her lead. Intersting to watch when they break in opposite directions...as the worst job on the planet would be what they have just both found in the crossfire. | The differences aren't always complimentary...but maybe if we simply celebrate them together rather than say we are equal...we really can be. | PS...I still think John Gray should be caned in public until he admits the whole thing was a sham!
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15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee'Im with CNG and the other single ladies. There is only me. I take full responisbility. There is NO democracy in my house it is firmly a dictatorship. And that is the way it will stay. i make the decissions cause nobody else is here to do it....if i screw up its on my head i think even if i ever get in a relationship it will have to be a partnership cause there is noway id let a man make all the decissions for me...thats just dumb roxxy....already with Beyonce's arse
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15 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Right now in my house I make all the decisions...not that I think that's all that hot. If something screws up I don't have some of the funny little luxuires of asking "who burned the toast". I do have a Jedi here to show me the way...but if I blame him I have to remember to kick the end without the teeth. | You're full of shit! That Jedi is already making all the decisions around there and judging by your health right now, stealing all the covers at night too LOL PS...I still think John Gray should be caned in public until he admits the whole thing was a sham!Agree with this bit though.
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15 years ago
Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'Ditto DGT & CNG LOVING my single life, I make the decisions, I live the way I want to live, I no longer have to take shit from a narcissistic tyrant, hell no, I'm the freaking ogre now But on a more serious note, there are times when I love to defer to someone with complimentary skill sets to mine, if the basis of the relationship is equality and functionality for all. It was always me being the calm thinker in emergencies, but on the odd occasion that I've had my dad close at hand, I've LOVED following his instructions and leaning on his strong shoulder. That's why now I could only fall for a guy who is both alpha male (having earned my respect) but also a decent human being who knows that true leadership (by a male alpha OR a female alpha) is done through rolling up the sleeves and getting your own hands dirty in what ever way is required. I agree "decisive, firm and considerate" are a sexy combo when considerate includes making a decision mutually and at times deferring to someone else's better judgement. I'm one for 100% true equality in any relationship, especially in the big decisions. Often I don't give a crap about the small decisions in life, at those times I'd love to have a Mr HSC to choose what's for dinner, choose my flavour of icecream cone, flip the coin on the outing today.... Most of life is fun and I'm happy to go with the flow in the mundane, and next week he'll want me to flip the coin. Harmony... If this is how it looks for you Mrs Mumonmum, I'm ready to breathe deep some of that happy air, too. Chilli xx My ex and i always shared decision making and learnt to compromise it was all fine, well until it wasn't... But i have never had drama with making decisions, I just go with my gut, no regrets! But recently papa bear felt as if I required 'assistance' with some HIGHLY IMPORTANT AND SENSITIVE decision making, THAT WAS NONE OF HIS BUSINESS (i did not ask for help!), he did a spur of the moment (pre planned by him) mitigation for my ex and I, to take a decision out of our hands and have him make it for us, my ex agreed - fucken push over! I asked everyone to leave, not so politely... my parents over the last year had been worming their way back into my life as if i had reverted back to little kid that required a lot of lecturing on how to keep a house maintained/mortgage more important than life *eye roll* etc and they assume i can't look after my life now, coz surely the husband decided and did EVERYTHING hmmmmmmmmmmmmm... well 2 months of silence after that little incident, drove the message home that THAT IS NOT THE CASE daughter is an adult and did not request their assistance... And it finally sunk in, they don't understand me still, but i think i've gained a little adult respect back, or they know that trying to control me and my life never really worked when i was young, so seriously what chance have they got now!!! Sorry, tangent night tonight!!!! My point was, some folks are old school, where the man of the house is the decision maker (my mum and a lot of her generation, she is 75 and still living in the 60s ideals from when she came over from Greece on the boat back then, Greece moved on, the ones that left, stayed in a weird time warp!!) But in saying that i work with loads of NERDs!! hehe lovely men, HEAPS of them are the master of their work domain, but at home, wife is the boss and decision maker :) Everyone is different! And i think Mrs Mum did say she had had a few wines when putting up some of these threads, i think we should coin her sentiment as 'appreciate your partners day!' nothing wrong with a bit of mush here and there. It is just many of us here, are newly (and slightly bitterly) single hehe I know i thought i was totally married for life and had it ALL worked out. Now i don't know what the F i believe, i very much question whether or not i could ever have a life partner as I cannot compromise on things that makes my life a misery to ensure the partner gets what it is that makes them happy... short term yes, but not permanently... call me selfish, or say that i simply expect too much - he did!!! lol! i didn't see where he was going to compromise (bitter!!)... P.S. to more positive images - Chilli show us ur soapy bum!! Or just give me access to your galleries hehe P.P.S. instant posting rights, mr/ms/mrs/master/dr moderator, yes??
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15 years ago
The new young Jedi is being trained in the ways...albeit has a few of his own. Already a rompin' stompin' little boy dog lookin' for a pine tree to pee on...at about 19kg. this shiny jet black Staffy has a mind of his own and has staked out his turf. Fortunately, the covers on my bed are not on that list...even I have a few bourndaries although he has tried. | He suffers a better fate that Mr. Gray and with a training collar around his neck has learned already to heel, sit, stay and come on command. | Must be something in the voice. I can only wish that all you lovely ladies would learn the way...and come on command with nothing more than a gently tug at the chain around your neck. If it was that easy, I would buy you a gold one and let you pick out the diamond pendant. | Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' You're full of shit! That Jedi is already making all the decisions around there... | This is something about the breed that "they" usually don't talk about in public...and yes, a well-fed young Jedi requries constant vigilance in the early days to ensure that what he is full of doesn't end up in the walk in closet next to your shoes. | And just for the record and maybe on the "too much information" list...this breed of dog, with the young Jedi being a sterling example of good breeding, can and does more than frequently clear a room or two as they are the most flatulant canines I have ever had the "pleasure" to be around. On the upside, it is rather interesting to watch when... | ...even the blow flies commit suicide. | | The "hot greasys" ...jezus the stench seem to permeate the paint on the walls!
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15 years ago
T.M.I
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15 years ago
I took the opportunity to go up into the high mountains overnight and took the young warrior with me. It is amazing what you can see in the dark on a starry night so faw away even your mobile phone quits working...some of us ancients can see without relying on our primal senses. | Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Big enough for visually impaired old guys who seem to have a fixation on size... buzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz....compensating perhaps..........???| Gosh, I must be vision impaired. I was just about to say, Chilli....in that bunny suit I think I would prefer you to any chocolate bunny that I might nibble on in the basket. But if I was half blind to start with and blinded by holiday lust....I might end up eating that soap too. Bentonite clay and soap... | ...I don't think so. | | Stockings, a garter belt and the hair done just the way I like...so, what about the shoes?
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15 years ago
My very first ehug hehe RHP so need more emoticons: hug, blow a kiss, cheers, happy bonking couple, bobbing head one, PVC one with a whip, one wrapped in gladwrap with a blindfold, a girly one with a strapon holding a tube a lube, squirting girl, ejaculating guy, one flipping the bird, screaming red faced one, a group of nudies arranged not so tastefully... I guess if we had that many no one would ever get around to posting as they need to spend too much time perusing the selection.... Not all my ideas are practical?
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15 years ago
In our house, I seem to make all the moral type decsions and Gomez makes all the financial ones which means he pays all the bills. That is NOt to say that because 'he pays he says'.....he's just happy to earn and I am happy to spend :) (hasn't always been that way...we just got a lucky break)
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15 years ago
If you noticed our profile you will see it was constructed with the help of forumers, so shoot them for making my man look the control freak, i think too many here should try redhotcrucifiers.com mrs mum
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15 years ago
Quoting 'mumonmum' If you noticed our profile you will see it was constructed with the help of forumers, so shoot them for making my man look the control freak, i think too many here should try redhotcrucifiers.com mrs mum don't take it heart guys. some people cannot help themselves.... they see something that reminds them of what they don't have or cannot be and immediately set out to destroy it......... people often make themselves feel better by putting you down ....... dont give them the satisfaction of knowing if they got to you or not......... you know what you have, you know what it means to you, and you know that they don't matter. just remember that the only opinions that count are those from the people you respect, trust and understand. all 3 of these are earned, and so should never be given freely, especially not to strangers.
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15 years ago
My experience has been that some of my previous partners have been wanting me to be the decision maker and some wanted more of an 'equality' in that role. Personally I could care less whether I'm the decision maker or not. I'm completely comfortable doing it either way , as long as both people are turned on by it then it's cool. I'm really lucky like that , that I can adapt so easily , but my hat goes off to those that struggle to please their partners even when sometimes it goes against their upbringing , their conditioned nature. Loz. Ps thanks for the reminder about Beyonce's ass
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15 years ago
I do believe Mrs Mum was asking if a man who is decisive and firm, turns you on as much as it does for her ? O.o Nothing more nothing less, instead assumptions were made on their relationship and something about someone's insecurities...lol. I don't care too much how these were compiled from her previous posts, as I do believe this is a diff topic..right? I understand everyone has their own values and beliefs, but they should be installed in your reflective post's perhaps a little more lightly and kept more on topic here. I don't believe anyone actually answered her question. MrsMum ~ I find a man who is decisive and firm, not just in choice making but right across his personality to his academics and career. Confidence, drive and dominance = yum. This doesn't mean I don't make my own choices, and if I don't agree with something, I certainly have a voice, which I make vocal. In a partnership, like others have stated you draw on each other's strength's and weakness to harbour a strong relationship and make things work. I personally couldn't have ALL the decisions made and left up to the male, but some women are. If it works, then it works for them. I don't agree however when it crosses the line of manipulation and control over the woman, where her control is stripped through an emotional or physical abusive relationship. There is a diff. I'm a proud, independent women who can be very firm and controlling at the best of times, sometimes I just get off on having a man, no this is how it is, deal with it. Shows I can't play my games with him, which I can, and that he won't buckle under stressful times, and means less stress for me because I'm too worried about how is this going to be or what am I ging to do about this...ect... Btw...I'm single too...am I supposed to recieve a medal for this? As most have you seem to have boasted that it makes your choice more flexible and more satisfying? ;)
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15 years ago
Quoting 'alihummingly' Btw...I'm single too...am I supposed to recieve a medal for this? As most have you seem to have boasted that it makes your choice more flexible and more satisfying? ;) If you're happily single, by choice rather than just happenstance. If that's the case you can have a big gold star, bend over and I'll stick it on for ya! ;)xx Sarah (doesn't play games, therefore doesn't need 'putting in her place')
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15 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'alihummingly' Btw...I'm single too...am I supposed to recieve a medal for this? As most have you seem to have boasted that it makes your choice more flexible and more satisfying? ;) If you're happily single, by choice rather than just happenstance. If that's the case you can have a big gold star, bend over and I'll stick it on for ya! ;) xx Sarah (doesn't play games, therefore doesn't need 'putting in her place') What a shame you don't play games, I wouldn't mind putting you into place every now and then ;)
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15 years ago
Bridges to be built and ripped down again. I did say that I dont begrudge her, her happiness with her hubby, I just wondered if all the decision making involved just saying no!! I remember the profile advice thread, geez I even commented on it and was quite supportive. What Im not supportive of is if it comes from anywhere other than happiness. Because in a lot of cases we don't talk so much about anything unless we're trying to justify it. If all is good in our life and marriage , most will say an internal, yep all is good in my world. Nothing wrong with asking a hard question here n there, its how we learn
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15 years ago
Sometimes, as much as we like to doubt and remain skeptical to this possibility, there is such a thing called happiness and in turn want to shout it from the roof tops. Then there are those like you said, that are quietly happy. Not everyone is the same and expresses themselves the same. It's easy to form assumptions based on how your own experiences were or what you have seen/heard from others.
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15 years ago
Quoting 'alihummingly' Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'alihummingly' Btw...I'm single too...am I supposed to recieve a medal for this? As most have you seem to have boasted that it makes your choice more flexible and more satisfying? ;) If you're happily single, by choice rather than just happenstance. If that's the case you can have a big gold star, bend over and I'll stick it on for ya! ;) xx Sarah (doesn't play games, therefore doesn't need 'putting in her place') What a shame you don't play games, I wouldn't mind putting you into place every now and then ;) Haha, I don't need putting in my place by a boy, i mean. I'd be delighted to explore any number of places and positions with you, cutiexx Sarah
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15 years ago
You don't have the market on delight, love your work Sarah! ;-)
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15 years ago
wasn't this topic directed at those among us who are coupled? it doesn't take a whole lot of smarts to get that if you are 'single' then perhaps you might be capable of assuming just a little responsibility, does it? or does it? also the question was asked whether a man who could make decisions was sexy or not...for those coupled males responding just swap the gender....... or you could just 'hijack' the topic like everywhere else? just asking...but it seemed obvious so i guess its a bunch of rhetoric questions...
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15 years ago
Quoting 'alihummingly' I do believe Mrs Mum was asking if a man who is decisive and firm, turns you on as much as it does for her ? O.o Nothing more nothing less, instead assumptions were made on their relationship and something about someone's insecurities...lol. I don't care too much how these were compiled from her previous posts, as I do believe this is a diff topic..right? I understand everyone has their own values and beliefs, but they should be installed in your reflective post's perhaps a little more lightly and kept more on topic here. I don't believe anyone actually answered her question. MrsMum ~ I find a man who is decisive and firm, not just in choice making but right across his personality to his academics and career. Confidence, drive and dominance = yum. This doesn't mean I don't make my own choices, and if I don't agree with something, I certainly have a voice, which I make vocal. In a partnership, like others have stated you draw on each other's strength's and weakness to harbour a strong relationship and make things work. I personally couldn't have ALL the decisions made and left up to the male, but some women are. If it works, then it works for them. I don't agree however when it crosses the line of manipulation and control over the woman, where her control is stripped through an emotional or physical abusive relationship. There is a diff. I'm a proud, independent women who can be very firm and controlling at the best of times, sometimes I just get off on having a man, no this is how it is, deal with it. Shows I can't play my games with him, which I can, and that he won't buckle under stressful times, and means less stress for me because I'm too worried about how is this going to be or what am I ging to do about this...ect... Btw...I'm single too...am I supposed to recieve a medal for this? As most have you seem to have boasted that it makes your choice more flexible and more satisfying? ;) according to the others in the forum, you should not only receive a medal, but a knighthood and some land as well. apparently its the single people here who are saving the rest of us from 'inequality' 'male dominace' and just about any other sin they can lay at a mans feet.......
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15 years ago
Quoting 'alihummingly' Sometimes, as much as we like to doubt and remain skeptical to this possibility, there is such a thing called happiness and in turn want to shout it from the roof tops. Then there are those like you said, that are quietly happy. Not everyone is the same and expresses themselves the same. It's easy to form assumptions based on how your own experiences were or what you have seen/heard from others. Thanks for assuming Ive never experienced happiness I have but Ive also experienced a good dose of fucking reality to offset all the warm fuzzies.
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15 years ago
Mike if exaggeration is a sin, I'll happily lay that one at your feet come on for Pete's sake
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15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' wasn't this topic directed at those among us who are coupled? it doesn't take a whole lot of smarts to get that if you are 'single' then perhaps you might be capable of assuming just a little responsibility, does it? or does it? also the question was asked whether a man who could make decisions was sexy or not...for those coupled males responding just swap the gender....... or you could just 'hijack' the topic like everywhere else? just asking...but it seemed obvious so i guess its a bunch of rhetoric questions... Sourpuss is displeased with others contributing an opinion in a topic. Surprise surprise.Doesn't take a whole lot of smarts to realise that single people might have been in relationships at some point, the ending of which under whatever circumstances does not negate their opinion on what is a workable dynamic for them and whether being the decision maker is an attractive attribute in a mate. Opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one and yours is no more valuable, no matter how retentive it may be.xx Sarah
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15 years ago
how does being 'single' suggest a past relationship? how does 1 person make a 'dynamic'? ffs. a single person being the decision maker? oh how unique! and obvious. but you got that didnt you?
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15 years ago
Quoting 'dontgothere' Mike if exaggeration is a sin, I'll happily lay that one at your feet come on for Pete's sake no exaggeration.......read some of the other forum topics and its patently obvious.... and its always the same old lines.... form the same people.... over and over and over lol
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15 years ago
Jearzus, leave a topic on decision making up to the women and look what happens...ya'all start fussing and arguing with each other? Okay, let's sort this out...you know, kiss and make up or something close enough to the equivalent to keep us all happy? So now if I could get Sarah, DGT, Ali and FBF to please all grab on to the rail I will be more than happy to tie your hands to it and smack each of you a few times on your gorgeous little butts...then you can all kiss and make up, as long as I get to watch? | Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one and yours is no more valuable, no matter how retentive it may be.| And Sarah...you get an extra one. First of all because you have a great ass and will probably like it better than the rest...but more so, because by now you should know that it really doesn't matter what the topic is, one half of the odd couple is going to take some sort of contrarian view just to annoy anyone that will respond. What's that old expression... | "If you roll around in the mud with a pig, you will come up smelling like pig shit...and the only one that is really going to enjoy it is the pig". | Now then ladies...grab the rail and bend over. Sarah, I will get to you first and last... | ...that way you get to watch too.
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15 years ago
Quoting 'dontgothere' Mike if exaggeration is a sin, I'll happily lay that one at your feet come on for Pete's sake can i ask him first if he'd like that? please petal?
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15 years ago
I know, I know, I should know better than to respond at allWithout any reference to pigs and shit, she who takes offense when none was intended is a fool and she who takes offense when offense is intended is a bigger fool. It just takes a lot out of me to resist poking the grumpy bear every now and again.xx Sarah
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15 years ago
Yeah come with me then Sarah, I'll get us both a big cup of cement to wash that rant remorse down with. Dammit I hate the smell of pig shit on my clothes Oohh and out of that, comes a better idea, lets just get naked and roll around on the bearskin rug Im sure the grumpy one would even watch, I can ignore the grumbling in the corner if you can
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'dontgothere' Mike if exaggeration is a sin, I'll happily lay that one at your feet come on for Pete's sake stop calling me Mike please.
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RHP User
15 years ago
This forum needs more input from men.I've sat on both sides of the fence, lately I seem to be the dominate one however thats more to do with the women i've dated recently though I do find dominate women very sexy.I was married to a feminist Lawyer and rule number one don't argue with Politicians or Lawyers unless you are one. For the most part I would let my ex make the decisions and picked out the occasional ones I felt strongly about, then prepared well very well. After the birth of our son, I was the one reading all the baby books and left my ex clutching at various points of view that I could quickly dissect and suddenly I was making all the decision and without realising killed our Marriage.The role you choose for yourself is fine and if it works then great just be careful if you decide to change dynamics or push someone into a role they don't feel comfortable with.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Perfect and what a better way to give you a practical demonstration of what I meant by transverse tensile strength...when something perfectly round, like the twin peaks of your ass, are bent over my lap and your hands and ankles are shackled together, you apply enough pressure to stress the highest points of tension. Don't worry, leave the science part of it to me and just enjoy the ride...a bit like an E-ticket at Disneyland and probably as wet as the slide down the Matterhorn. | Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' Look, I know I wasn't technically involved, but... | Close enough for me and guilty by association, Chilli...so drop 'em and take it like a good little girl. Excess baggage my ass...please do tell the guys that rock up with the 18 wheeler from Linfox where to put my toys? Now here is another one for you... | "You can't teach a pig to sing...it will just make an awful sound and annoy the hell out of the pig". | Now we all know that the noise is going to start soon...but until it does ladies, can we play a little game instead? How about you all just grab the nearest tree and we can play a quick round of "Deliverance". I can't play the banjo, but if ya'all happen to squeal loud enough... | ...it will drowned out the sound of the pig. | | Nice part about being male...we come equipped with our own strap on.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I did probably forget to mention my relatives in Georgia...right? | Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' So Midnight....you know I have a pig fantasy and want to squeal for you. | I'm sure you will like what we'uns get up to in the smoke house...now I just have to figure out if you are going to be hickory cured or just salted and hung from the rafters. Hot or cold smoke... | ...it's your bacon that's in the fire. | | Of course there is always the back strap...and tender loins?
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RHP User
15 years ago
My ex-wife was a feminist psychologist , don't try to argue with them either! Lol and she wasn't feminist in the good way but rather the overbearing way. So in that relationship I didn't make the decisions as I was used to , instead she demanded to make ALL the decisions. Many psychologists are crazy in case you didn't know and she had borderline personality disorder , but no need to go there. I wasn't going to leave her however , because I'd made a promise and because I wanted to help her , but her dominating made it extremely difficult. In the end she left me because I wouldn't give up my religion ; saved by the grace of God ; yippeeee!!!!!!!! What a relief :) The marriage lasted two years , but normally I'm the dominant or decision maker in a relationship. As I said earlier though a person should be flexible enough in their role to allow the other person their autonomy , otherwise it can be nothing short of strangling someone to death , emotionally.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'dontgothere' Mike if exaggeration is a sin, I'll happily lay that one at your feet come on for Pete's sake stop calling me Mike please. Certainly And consider me well chastised, though I have this strange urge to poke my tongue out at you now that you've just spoken to me like my father
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'dontgothere' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'dontgothere' Mike if exaggeration is a sin, I'll happily lay that one at your feet come on for Pete's sake stop calling me Mike please. Certainly And consider me well chastised, though I have this strange urge to poke my tongue out at you now that you've just spoken to me like my father thank you.. I'm sure he'd not like being called 'Shel either.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I always thought of a relationship as a partnership. IMO such a union should be equal. No one makes more decisions than the other. There is nothing wrong with a man being clear about what he wants, being firm, strong and decisive. Just the same as there is nothing wrong with these traits in a woman. I dont want anyone to be making decisions FOR me at all. I need to be consulted every step of the way as this is MY life and I am in control. Would, for instance, MrMum like it if MrsMum all of a sudden started to make the decisions for him with out saying anything? For the OP, obviously you do not work well under stress and it is fine if you have your strong, firm man there to make all these important decisions that you cannot cope with. Many of us do work well under pressure and cope very well with all of the decision making processes. My biggest issue with the man making all the decisions stems back quite a few years when the man did make all those decision, the woman knew nothing about the money, where it went, what got paid. If something happens and the man is no longer around, how does the woman cope then? Does she just flounder along until the next "man" comes along to make those decisions for her? If your husband is your rock...if you know nothing about the insurance, the mortgage etc etc, ask yourself how you would cope? If you dont know the answer, if you dnt think your household would continue to run smoothly,especially if there are children involved, maybe it is time to stand on your own two feet...just a little. Quoting 'mikeandshel' wasn't this topic directed at those among us who are single. I do beleive that the topic was directed at us women actually. I agree with CNG78 just because we are currently single, do not assume that we know zip about relationships and what does / doesnot make them work ...for us! If you do not wish to be called Mike then maybe it would be a good idea to identify which one it is who is commenting. After all, it is only good manners to do so and your 'better half' seems to be constantly espousing the virtues of good old fashioned courtesy.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think everyone has some valid points but seriously some of the single ladies do sound a little bitter.I was in a relationship where i was the primary decision maker, (or as some might say i wore the pants lol) it was a lot of pressure and i did lose all respect for the man and sadly after 2 wonderful children and almost 5 years of wedded unbliss it ended. Then as a single mother for a while i had no choice i was the sole decision maker for my household.Then I met Mr GC and all that changed (over time of course not straight away) now we share the decisions the day to day stuff to the big issues, i still handle the money and pay the bills because that is my strength and he is happy with that but everything else is a team effort and that is the way we like it.I think an 'alpha male' is a sexy thing indeed but there is a huge difference between that and an 'overbearing one' and i think that some of the single ladies in their past experiences (as described by them) have only experienced the latter.It is also sexy for a woman to be confident and in control but sometimes it is easy to go too far and end up on the Germaine Greer side of things (ball breaker) lolStill each to their own and i am by no means insulting the single ladies here, you all do a fine job at taking care of yourselves and your kids and still find time for fun and i think that is an amazing job, just don't be so independent that you miss your knight in shining Armour if he should happen to open a door for you. Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' My biggest issue with the man making all the decisions stems back quite a few years when the man did make all those decision, the woman knew nothing about the money, where it went, what got paid. .As we fast forward into the present, in most of the relationships around me, the woman is in charge of the money. I somehow think the man would cope if she left though.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard' Quoting 'fionabee' My biggest issue with the man making all the decisions stems back quite a few years when the man did make all those decision, the woman knew nothing about the money, where it went, what got paid. .As we fast forward into the present, in most of the relationships around me, the woman is in charge of the money. I somehow think the man would cope if she left though. In my and many of my friends' marriages, sharing that responsibility would be a blessing, unfortunately it's not always possible to get someone interested enough that they'd put in the work it takes to monitor, plan and revise in the long term and it had/has become yet another one of those things that eventually falls to the one with the longest attention span!In all seriousness, working in a bank I see guys and girls come in and offer them new/more suitable accounts, etc and for every one person whether male or female who says 'um, i honestly don't know anything about it (their joint account), I'll let the other half know" there are two who say they'd need to consult their partner before making a decision and often they come back in together to do it. So even if the day to day management of their finances might fall to one or the other, from what i see*, they're most often BOTH involved in the actual decision making.xx Sarah*your mileage may vary
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' I always thought of a relationship as a partnership. IMO such a union should be equal. No one makes more decisions than the other. There is nothing wrong with a man being clear about what he wants, being firm, strong and decisive. Just the same as there is nothing wrong with these traits in a woman. I dont want anyone to be making decisions FOR me at all. I need to be consulted every step of the way as this is MY life and I am in control. Would, for instance, MrMum like it if MrsMum all of a sudden started to make the decisions for him with out saying anything? For the OP, obviously you do not work well under stress and it is fine if you have your strong, firm man there to make all these important decisions that you cannot cope with. Many of us do work well under pressure and cope very well with all of the decision making processes. My biggest issue with the man making all the decisions stems back quite a few years when the man did make all those decision, the woman knew nothing about the money, where it went, what got paid. If something happens and the man is no longer around, how does the woman cope then? Does she just flounder along until the next "man" comes along to make those decisions for her? If your husband is your rock...if you know nothing about the insurance, the mortgage etc etc, ask yourself how you would cope? If you dont know the answer, if you dnt think your household would continue to run smoothly,especially if there are children involved, maybe it is time to stand on your own two feet...just a little. Quoting 'mikeandshel' wasn't this topic directed at those among us who are single. I do beleive that the topic was directed at us women actually. I agree with CNG78 just because we are currently single, do not assume that we know zip about relationships and what does / doesnot make them work ...for us! If you do not wish to be called Mike then maybe it would be a good idea to identify which one it is who is commenting. After all, it is only good manners to do so and your 'better half' seems to be constantly espousing the virtues of good old fashioned courtesy. If the woman didnt know what was going on, then it was her fault not his. Women chose to allow the 'man' to be the one in 'charge' but seem unable to take the responsibility of making this choice.why? for as many partnerships where one is in 'charge' of such things, there are just as many where the other is in 'charge'. it goes both ways. and one should never assume to be so righteous as to declare fault when they really should just stay quiet. you dont know how our relationship runs, you dont have a clue who we are , here or in 'real' life. we share everything, from decision making to bill paying to the purchasing of clothing. if either of us suddenly found ourselves alone, we would immediately be able to cope. why? we made it so. we made it simple (because that's what it is) and we made it manageable, by being involved 100% in every aspect of every decision that affects our household.....life would just go on, with barely a hiccup.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'fionabee' I always thought of a relationship as a partnership. IMO such a union should be equal. No one makes more decisions than the other. There is nothing wrong with a man being clear about what he wants, being firm, strong and decisive. Just the same as there is nothing wrong with these traits in a woman. I dont want anyone to be making decisions FOR me at all. I need to be consulted every step of the way as this is MY life and I am in control. Would, for instance, MrMum like it if MrsMum all of a sudden started to make the decisions for him with out saying anything? For the OP, obviously you do not work well under stress and it is fine if you have your strong, firm man there to make all these important decisions that you cannot cope with. Many of us do work well under pressure and cope very well with all of the decision making processes. My biggest issue with the man making all the decisions stems back quite a few years when the man did make all those decision, the woman knew nothing about the money, where it went, what got paid. If something happens and the man is no longer around, how does the woman cope then? Does she just flounder along until the next "man" comes along to make those decisions for her? If your husband is your rock...if you know nothing about the insurance, the mortgage etc etc, ask yourself how you would cope? If you dont know the answer, if you dnt think your household would continue to run smoothly,especially if there are children involved, maybe it is time to stand on your own two feet...just a little. Quoting 'mikeandshel' wasn't this topic directed at those among us who are single. I do beleive that the topic was directed at us women actually. I agree with CNG78 just because we are currently single, do not assume that we know zip about relationships and what does / doesnot make them work ...for us! If you do not wish to be called Mike then maybe it would be a good idea to identify which one it is who is commenting. After all, it is only good manners to do so and your 'better half' seems to be constantly espousing the virtues of good old fashioned courtesy. If the woman didnt know what was going on, then it was her fault not his. Women chose to allow the 'man' to be the one in 'charge' but seem unable to take the responsibility of making this choice.why? for as many partnerships where one is in 'charge' of such things, there are just as many where the other is in 'charge'. it goes both ways. and one should never assume to be so righteous as to declare fault when they really should just stay quiet. you dont know how our relationship runs, you dont have a clue who we are , here or in 'real' life. we share everything, from decision making to bill paying to the purchasing of clothing. if either of us suddenly found ourselves alone, we would immediately be able to cope. why? we made it so. we made it simple (because that's what it is) and we made it manageable, by being involved 100% in every aspect of every decision that affects our household.....life would just go on, with barely a hiccup.Was I assuming anything about YOUR relationship in this?
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RHP User
15 years ago
gee... I dunno...was i supposed to read your posts too? oh bugger, lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'gee... I dunno...was i supposed to read your posts too? oh bugger, lol. You should take a little of your own advice before you big yourself an even bigger hole. Quoting 'mikeandshel' one should never assume to be so righteous as to declare fault when they really should just stay quiet.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'mikeandshel'gee... I dunno...was i supposed to read your posts too? oh bugger, lol. You should take a little of your own advice before you big yourself an even bigger hole. Quoting 'mikeandshel' one should never assume to be so righteous as to declare fault when they really should just stay quiet. whats wrong? do you need a hug?
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RHP User
15 years ago
if I'm digging holes, should I have brought my own bucket n spade?
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