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‘terrifying’ sober sex ordeal

February 22 2014

Google this news story the former hell raising hard drinking man(Hollywood star) has come out to reveal this new aspect of his life. As some have said alcohol increases the desire but reduces the performance, as well as reducing inhibitions My point in posting this is how much or how little does alcohol (or other "stimulants") affect your desire, inhibitions and/or performance sexually? I'm asking this because before Mrs Denials became fully inactive sexually she used to have a few drinks to get herself "in the mood" to service me sexually. I found this to be quite sad because it was obvious to me that she was doing this for the wrong reasons, that being a mix of duty, sympathy and guilt. The final straw to me was the night she was so pissed she fell out of bed. It's got to the stage that alcohol is now a bit of a turn off for me sexually I tend to think that if you can't do it without an alcoholic crutch (bad pun not intended) to lean on then maybe you shouldn't do it at all.So any thoughts comments or views on the subject generally or personally would be welcomed.

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RHP User

12 years ago

drunk or otherwise intoxicated sex is the worst! The spirit is often very willing but the flesh is weak. It's pathetic, and messy and you can't remember it properly the next day and it probably wasn't worth remembering anyway. urgh, the cringe factor..yuck. Don't like mixing alcohol and sex. as an aside, alcohol isn't a stimulant. I would just use the term 'intoxicants' because the action of stimulants vs depressants and hallucinogens etc etc are wildly different. All make for pretty crappy sex though.

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MsSuperFoxy

12 years ago

Some people will have Alcohol to relax, others have it because that is all they know. Sometimes people are addicted and others have control. I read the article, clearly he was a addict and now he wants to share with the world his first sober experience. Hes a mega movie star, I can understand the pressures he was under and now he wants to clean up his act. Time will tell. Drunken sex is sloppy sex. I would expect most people have had that one time or other. The problem I have, is when someone relies heavily on Alcohol and it effects their everyday day-to day living. For me, I would rather remember my experiences. :) Foxy

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gazpacho

12 years ago

I agree entirely. I can't stand a drunk trying to get sex out of me. They're always an unrewarding dud root, in my experience. No thanks, next. Hugs Gazpacho

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rootratandlady

12 years ago

I don't mind a little alcohol to take the edge of my nerves. especially in a first time play. But more than a little isn't good. I want a good time to remember.

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RHP User

12 years ago

i now totally agree getting a drink is not worth the trouble, i am having much more fun sober than i ever did drunk and i watch other people rely on a drink or drinks to loosen up. i have found it quite easy and much more fun to do it sober. quoting foxy The problem I have, is when someone relies heavily on Alcohol and it effects their everyday day-to day living. the above line was me and nearly ruined my life, it is a horrible drug that took me near to losing everything to realise that i cant and will not ever drink again. cheers Richard

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MsSuperFoxy

12 years ago

That's one very brave post! Thank your for sharing. Foxy

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RHP User

12 years ago

Brewers droop! Guys who drink AND smoke risk becoming impotent later in their lives, and, they may not actually be that old when it occurs. Women who do this, risk a lot more.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'liquiddesirezz' i now totally agree getting a drink is not worth the trouble, i am having much more fun sober than i ever did drunk and i watch other people rely on a drink or drinks to loosen up. i have found it quite easy and much more fun to do it sober. quoting foxy The problem I have, is when someone relies heavily on Alcohol and it effects their everyday day-to day living. the above line was me and nearly ruined my life, it is a horrible drug that took me near to losing everything to realise that i cant and will not ever drink again. cheers Richard Well said and well done Richard, Alcohol is a big problem for a lot of people and part of It's danger is the fact It's so accepted and even glorified in our culture. It takes serious guts to say 'that's not who I want to be anymore' and walk away. As someone who has had serious issues and still slips up occasionally I know what a nightmare It can be, and life (and sex) really is soooo much better without it! It may be more difficult in certain situations to do things sober, but all the more rewarding for that. But as RedTea pointed out drugs are vastly different, one of the most intense sexual experiences I ever had was on LSD, and I'm a big fan of a joint or two through the course of a night. Totally can't get it up on E though haha! From what I gather Viagra is quite popular in the pill-dropping community for that very reason...

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RHP User

12 years ago

For meeting someone new I always enjoy a chat over a glass or two of wine. It's completely different from knowing someone well/ being in a relationship. Helps me relax but I avoid getting drunk and after a few times with someone the amount of alcohol decreases. - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsSuperFoxy

12 years ago

If I see a continuous pattern of someone not controlling their intake of alcohol after getting to know them, to me it is quite off putting. Been there, done that, not going to enable someone nor be a rescuer either. Same goes for continuous use of drugs, as in marijuana, LSD, EX etc etc.. It's not for me, especially if they deny their addiction and it effects their day to day living. If someone has to rely on something continuously, it says to me they can not be their true self. It's not the way to bring the best out, most of the time it brings out the worst in a person. Foxy

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RHP User

12 years ago

I agree

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