stories on couples with an age gap? Success, dont’s, do’s???

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  teamaj2

  6 years ago

  I can’t help but wonder if you are asking for yourselves , I assume you are . Your age gap is not that big . I cannot tell you not to be concerned about an age gap if it is worrying you . We’ve had over 14 years of harmonious bliss and so much fun sexually . Our sex life only evolves and improves with time . Like any relationship it’s about compatibility of the mind and body. It is about if your lives are on the same pathway - children , travel ( not at the moment ) etc . It’s not about age it’s about wanting the same things from life despite age . Of course we had the naysayers. If I’d have listened to them and not followed my heart I wouldn’t be here today to tell you these past 14 have been the best of my life . We had people judging us and some had plenty to say . Our true friends , family were and still are happy for us . In short , I say I could’ve fallen in love with someone my own age , that didn’t happen . If you are the same age or generation does that give your relationship a guarantee for success ? The answer is no . Love and life have no written guarantees . Be true to yourself , enjoy the moment , have fun and enjoy what you have .No one has a crystal ball to see what is ahead . Goodluck Ax

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  When I was 34 I dated a 21 year old for a little while, he was a mature 21 but still, for us the answer was a definite no. I really don’t think age is an issue if the love and lust are alive and those things don’t go away with age, they go away for other reasons...

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  The should be a “but” between those sentences.

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  FeistyFatty

  6 years ago

  Well how do you overcome them? There's quite an age gap, have you found it to be an issue?

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  EarthQueen

  6 years ago

  Its only an issue if you care about what others think and/or if one of you wants kids and the other doesn't. Beyond that,if the love is strong it can overcome societies judgements. Fuck what anyone thinks and go with your heart and be a free spirit. Life is meant to be lived and if you are happy together thats all that matters. If it's you two you are talking about ,10 years is nothing. Just keep communicating well and talk out any issues ,same as any other healthy relationship.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Age gap??? We have it and it’s no issue now. Was in the early days but my wife kept on to me about it but I was not sure and let me say this, I am as happy more than ever. Going on 9 years married. We are here RHP, because if and when we need a way to let the hair down we can. Keeps the us alive and well. We don’t play much but we love it at times and once it’s over we go back to husband wife with no after thoughts. Keeping an open mind in the lead up and play then back to normal is a requirement, success love relationship will follow. You ladies will I guess understand my wife when she say older guys show respect.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  An age gap shouldn’t be an issue if you are both after the same thing and totally respectful. I had fun times in my early 20’s with a 53 year old ! Quickies and all day play when time permitted was a norm. If there is a sexual chemistry and something intriguing there is no consideration for age when both wanting. Can’t wait for this isolation period to end.

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  ReyandJean

  6 years ago

  It's not an issue unless one of you makes age an issue. 11 years in your case is not much, anyway. It makes a difference if the older partner is not 10 years older than their calendar age in their own attitudes. We have relatives 40 going on 60 and 80 going on 30. It's about attitude. How does any long term couple keep it sexy, after kids, especially? Good communication, making time for fun together, and being sexually adventurous.

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  2EssesExploring

  6 years ago

  There are positives and negatives to any choice. So you fall in love with someone with an age gap. If you are loving and attentive to each other your love will blossom like it should. I do worry about my wife having to look after me when I’m older but who in life can tell will be the one needing more care in life. The old “in sickness and health” idea should hold true and won’t be a resented burden if the love and attention was there in the good times. The desire for children could be an issue as this desire changes over time so entering a relationship where kids are off the table may well see them come back on the table. Sex: sex with someone you love is always better than anything else so she isn’t going to matter Interests: these evolve, change, become shared and separate. Just like any couple Others perceptions: people with negative perceptions of your relationship are always free to go fuck themselves. What issues are you specifically concerned with?

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  ajaussie

  6 years ago

  Quoting 'FatFunFiesty' Well how do you overcome them? There's quite an age gap, have you found it to be an issue? Quoting 'Phoenix_Rising' The should be a “but” between those sentences. BUT changes the meaning of the sentence.....so using AND is always better

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  CandDSwing

  6 years ago

  Hey guys, Great post and so interesting as we are about to talk about this on our podcast. We did a poll on this topic & the replies were really interesting. We're a 10 year age gap couple but our friends we're interviewing are 15 years. We have definitely noticed some issues with it especially as we age (we started swinging when I was 29), most couples that are interested in us are his age + which means you have to keep adding on the age distance from me. So generally speaking we get age 45-55 (sometimes 60) interested in us when I'm now 35. And as much as we might say that age is just a number... there is a certain body shape that comes with age unless you are really considerate of your health. Feel free to DM us.

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  ReyandJean

  6 years ago

  C&D, that's often our experience. Not always, but a lot.

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