M52
selling yourself
March 16 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
I dislike mind games. It makes me feel inadequate. I am however often misunderstood. Sometimes I feel like Mr Gerdener in "Being There". I'm completely unsophisticated by choice and naturally. This helps me control my paranoia. So...basically, I am what you see. Unfortunately what you see of me is just a slither of my character. I think the same principle applies to everyone here. I don't begrudge people playing mind games with each other though. I mean, it's fun to watch.... and people obviously enjoy showing each other how clever they are. Good for them. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm an open book. I answer every question with complete honesty and, if the other party is unhappy with my answers, well it's a match that wasn't meant to be. Love that movie, Stalky. Can you walk on water too?
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RHP User
14 years ago
this should not be a site to play mind games, or is it??? Dont presume people on here are idiots there are some very intelligent people on here they can read between the lines honesty is part of who I am, isnt it better to be upfront with who you are, what you are and what you want than to be sorry for the lies you said later, Im with you on this one stalky I dislike mind games, you never know who sees you on this site its sooooo out there for everyone to see, that is for those that are brave enough to show their face As for fun with playing mind games, dont agree! people are not clever at that, just hiding behind the person they would like to be Better to be who you are and honest with yourself and everyone else Lee xxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Isnt there enough bullshit going on in the world without us contributing more to it ????????? Im over mind fucking....just give me the purely physical fucking any day... If you have to resort to mind games...really, what does that say about you ?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't think I play mind games,depends on the interpretation I suppose but I do like to talk on the phone before I meet someone,quite different to the online chat. Often I will say to people who ask'what are you looking for'have you read my profile ' pretty much says it all....and why contact me if you havent read it. When I have decided to meet someone without the phone chat it's usually a disaster and as for not getting what you expect.....one man turned up covered in dirt....his hands and face were filthy....he hadnt bothered to wash after work....I cant imagine why he would think that was an atractive look...I mean there is dirty and then there is dirty !!!Thank god it was only coffee and I could make a quick exit. But then there is also the lovely surprise,the instant connection when you meet someone who makes the hormones rush....and the kiss.....thats the clincher,
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RHP User
14 years ago
They annoy me. I can normally cut right through them. I tend to cam before meeting and talk on the pnone so I do know what I am walking into. I dont get caught off guard often.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I like to think of it of Cognitive tease, and as I know you do that well,then yes I enjoy the game. Games can be nice, if you think of them as a tease, and not the kind of overt baby I am going to fuck your brains out. More the other kind of subtle seductive game. We see this all the time on the forums That tease between people, its a mind game as what else can it be until we meet a person Its all in the mind online, and that can cause problems. Like you say,yes sometimes you do not get what you ordered That is because we have mind fucked ourselves and created what we hoped a person could be. We cannot blame that person for not being what we ordered, Ya know, when you order plate number 69 and the chines cafe and its boiled chook feet! I find that people like my forum posts and they contact me and sometimes we connect on that level and with some mind games, I then find that man in my sheets So honey you can come fuck my brain and other parts any time you like Mind games can be fun, not the kind that hurts people or is deceptive stuff, but a metnal tease,is an aphrodisiac for me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Really i am just here to sell cookies.....to make everyone fat and therefore make myself look more edible...
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RHP User
14 years ago
We have all old lies to allow a situation to get cold, not hot. Quite the opposite outcome desired from this site. As long as it doesn't hurt anybody i have no issue, but personally I don't lie to get some "lovin". I want to enjoy my life and I don't have the great memory for remembering them later. Ladies, please don't take offense to a little lie because the alternate could be quite shocking and hurtful!! We want to be nice as well!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I shouldn't watch tv while messaging. Seem to have gone off topic. I think if we are all honest there is an amount of up-selling, but when the experience counts the lies will stand out. better to be all you can be, and if that isn't good enough, then you won't enjoy the experience as much, but you will still enjoy it. L.U All.
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RHP User
14 years ago
'mind games' is probably not the right word.... manipulating people is not my thing either as my intentions are always good, for me i'm looking for a deep emotional connection that's all..... we all have a criteria on what we are looking for, ticking boxes as we go, and this process may be drawn out for some,,,, however everybody would go about this in a different manner............ that's the part i'm interested in with you guys! i'm happy to meet people on a whim if it feels like a good thing, but lately i'm also finding it sexy getting to know someone without actually meeting them...... so i'm asking 'what does it for you and how you go about it' shit i hope that makes sense!, it does in my head.
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RHP User
14 years ago
My profile is incredibly accurate and men who fit the "job description" really appreciate the directness, wit & honesty. I have one fugly pic of myself to sort the wheat from the chafe. My profile is wordy, but my regulars have it memorised. My first meet was incredibly disappointing. In his pic he appeared to be a fairly dark South American, quite solid build. Arrived pale, skinny and jumping around like a junkie and we went for a drive in his vehicle that was grubby as hell inside. I said, "Sorry, I'm not feeling it" He persevered & the next meeting when I was able to see him for who he was and not that pic...there were fireworks! I take a pic on my phone of their profile pic and ask them if they believe they look like that and ask them straight out who is in the pic if they look nothing like that.There ARE mind games & plenty of communications & some are very delicious. Men, please read our profiles. If it says Athletic build, only apply if you are. If it has an age range ( mine is 20 -35 ) then be in that age range. If you see we have read your messages & flirts but haven't replied...don't pester further. And READ the profile. Mine clearly says "Married" so don't be all surprised as if I didn't tell ya. It doesn't have married in the relationship section, to not just attract couples or married men. I also ask for over 5'10" so why message me at 5'6"? PEACE OUT & ACCURACY PEOPLE....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Our profile is quite explicit, detailed and for some possibly exhausting. We have tried to set the scene from the initial moment of the read. The experience begins immediately. Initially the read, pics then the response. As we have put so much thought and energy into our profile, both written and pics, we do expect and will only respond to those who, firstly understand the excitement of our scenarios are not just physical. We try to stimulate the mind first.Some do get the picture. Others don't. Though we do offer responses to those who don't quite hit the mark, with their initial message, of 'Please either read or re-read our profile, then get back to us, hopefully with some thought and ideas as to what has been hidden deep down in their mind, that they have been too timid to try, share or speak about'. If the energy and stimulation of the mind is not apparent, we warn them they will simply be blocked, mainly so time and negative energy is not wasted.We do get multitudes of neanderthal/princess and judgemental messages. We tend not to take offence at these. We simply ignore and block. Though, having said that, there are some, we have found to be quite offensive, either with their speech or how they portray themselves. Any who really exceed the disgusting barrier, we simply submit one report and let RHP deal with them. We believe, why waste time and energy bickering with others regarding the differences between their and our beliefs and lifestyles. For us we do play games, but are not into disillusional teasing. People are either keen, interested, eager or they are simply are not.Sometimes, we have found others to be quite excited to try what we do. As the experience has already started with the messages, the experience continues upon the knock at the door. We don't carry on with, 'Hi, How are you?', because really we don't care how your general every day life is going. Our intention is to grab the moment and delve into it immediately. We find though, for some this is quite daunting and shocking. Once again, it is not for us to judge. Sometimes people need to be in the right head space at the right time at the right point in their life. That doesn't mean they lied, or tried to mislead us. Sometimes you don't know unless you try. They actually have our respect for trying and giving it a shot.Take care, stay sexy and be as naughty as you legally can.
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RHP User
14 years ago
In the early days, we used to spend a fair amount of time getting to know potential playmates online but quickly learned that sometimes, it can be too much, too soon.For us, there has to be a good connection otherwise, it's just not going to happen. But we've learned that a good online rapport and good emotional connection (as the OP clarified) doesn't necessarily translate to real-life flesh and blood sexual chemistry. It's much harder to say you're not into someone physically if you haven't invested a lot of time growing to like them personally!So there has to be a fine balance and its a balance that's tricky to find.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Selling ones self and lying....does that include your age, do most older people put quite abit younger age down to get younger people.
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RHP User
14 years ago
... but couldn't quite work out what it was, and then I saw InAddition to had already said it. I struggle to find that balance. A genuine emotional and mental connection is a must before I even consider meeting someone. If there's some kind of spiritual/philosophical connection, even better. So that takes time. And by the time I've spent all that time, I fret that a face-to-face meeting is going to leave the lovely man I've been talking to terribly disappointed. It's like a hurdle race for me, with that being the biggest hurdle.Having said that, one time when the chemistry was perfect it lasted for six solid months of online chat, before a face to face meet led to fireworks for 18 months :)I guess you just have to do what works for you.Quoting 'InAdditionTo' In the early days, we used to spend a fair amount of time getting to know potential playmates online but quickly learned that sometimes, it can be too much, too soon.For us, there has to be a good connection otherwise, it's just not going to happen. But we've learned that a good online rapport and good emotional connection (as the OP clarified) doesn't necessarily translate to real-life flesh and blood sexual chemistry. It's much harder to say you're not into someone physically if you haven't invested a lot of time growing to like them personally!So there has to be a fine balance and its a balance that's tricky to find.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I disagree with all the messaging, you can write rubbish till the cows come home, but when your in front of a person, you'll be caught out, that's if you talk shit, I find it pretty hard here though, woman like to here promises even though they say they want you to be honest, i have meet woman that say they have been disappointed by guys who promise them more and they get a lot less, at the end of the day I think you read the profile if it sounds like you go out for a drink and see were it goes, you might think your being honest but most shine the light on themselves a lot brighter than it is
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'livlaughnluv'Selling ones self and lying....does that include your age, do most older people put quite abit younger age down to get younger people. oook Damit! I am 71 caught out again.
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