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other married woman play?
July 15 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi there, i been here for quite a while and I never get asked that. Just ignore them all and have fun.
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RHP User
15 years ago
...im just making sure i understood the question..? but i read that you are looking to play and your husband or partner doesnt know ? .. and also do married women play? .. i am a married women and play with my husband,and with his consent.. ..but to the other part of your question ,where you feel like you are being judged if you are playing and he is unaware, and you think that that seems to be an ok thing for men to do and not women ? then we are reading totally different forums ! ... i dont believe from what i read (or see in society) that anyone is more lenient on men in this case. as i get older and learn more about my relationship and others from what i am told, and i realise that there are many, many , many types of relationships out there , but the ones that are honest and , more importantly true to themsleves, seem to be the happiest ones....have a beautiful day x msC ...ps i hope i understood question correctly x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Your free to do as you wish with whomever you like... and if anyone passes judgment simply tell them where to get off. On this site there is a variety of everything but plenty of dickheads and in the end do you really care what some twat from here thinks of you I Doubt It so no big deal
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RHP User
15 years ago
to my experience its mostly single guys that ask if so steer clear of them and just stay with the married or attached ones L xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
So why do you play without your husbands Knowledge or consent? I am not judging just curious.Kj and i used to do the solo playing thing, but always with consent, and mainly for reasons of convienience, having small children at the time.Though we always prefered to play together.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
but won't. i got screwed over by a cheatin ex.works great for providing but not much chopfor bein there. over the years i forgave her4 times and moved on till she gave me "the orderof the boot" to move on herself and party hardy.don't know yer fella but i know that it felt likea kick in the guts to me personally when i found out.many posts out here will say that eventually you willget caught.ohh, and not all fellas cheat and thats a fact.Knees to the breezeEarl
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drhelixs
15 years ago
Bring back free love You just don't know what's happening in other peoples lives, so good not to judge too quickly. What they think is best, should be OK with you. Why deprive people of their sexuality. We're all adults. Its free and feels sooo good. love and peace to you all
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RHP User
15 years ago
i guess in the end you can do whatever you want on this site, who cares what others do or think.. But for us we always play together...its OUR fun and release. sometimes WE get an extra girl or guy for extra pampering. If we wanted to play alone without consent, we might as well be single... :>
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't do guilt or judging. It doesn't sit well in my head. Big believer of not saying till you have walked in another man/ women's shoes. I am a married women and funny but have never been asked either. My husband does know but would rather pretend that I am always out with my girlfriends shopping and that works best for us. Miss K
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think that we all get questions...the married man/woman gets asked why he/she is seeking outside of his/her marriage, the swingers get asked why they swing, the single woman gets asked why she is single. It is a never ending stream of questions. Don't allow anyone to judge you and try to make you feel that you are doing wrong. None of us are in your shoes nor living your life..this is your choice and if others don't like it...just pity them for being such judgemental little souls. Do what makes you happy hun and have fun xo xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Having recently found my husband has been cheating on me with a few women he met on dating sites, I can say it is a terrible, shocking, heartbreaking experience. I only wish he had been upfront with me in regards to his desire to cheat or whatever his reasons for doing so, and end the marriage with me, but alas, he wanted his cake and eat it too. It's not fair on the unsuspecting spouse to have to deal with this kind of emotional turmoil that has been wreaked on my marriage. It would have been far easier all around, if he had divorced me then lived the life of a single man which is what he was doing behind my back for 6 years. If married people are open and honest about their playing with others, then that is their choice and it is none of my business. But when a spouse goes behind your back with a desire to cheat and deceive, it is a gutless selfish thing to do and I despise the women who knowlingly play with a married man behind another woman's back. Arent there enough single/separated/divorced men to choose from without contributing to the breakdown of someone else's marriage and the trauma created to innocent children of that marriage if the parents divorce?
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
If you need to cheat..then your relationship has major problems. However, playing outside of relationships WITH each others consent is a totally different thing...you get to have your cake and eat it too and it's the best & fairest way to do it. If more couples were in this scene, there would be less break ups!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey, We are all here for different reasons. I have learned not to judge people. I have met some nice people on RHP and have met some very odd people too. I'm very selective but it doesnt mean I'm better than anyone because I'm married or not married, male, female, transexual, heterosexual or homesexual etc. This is a journey and one day it well end (positively I hope). Lifes too short, so enjoy, do what you have to do and remember - don't get caught!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well she lasted a long time! NOT! Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
You all scared her away!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I can feel a rare Nev topic welling up inside me.....lol Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Married and Faithfull for 30 yrs, we just dont understand. We love swapping partners same room. But no way swapping partners different places ...call it what u want open...Bi etc It just does not cut with us...thats not swinging
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RHP User
15 years ago
i grew up in a "normal family"and wish everyday i could some howturn back time and change somethingto give my daughter that aswell.bugger being mere mortal.Earl
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RHP User
15 years ago
I remember getting absolutely hauled over the coals in here cos i dared to say that i wouldn't have ANYTHING to do with someone who cheated!! I think the..."but you're a swinger" line came up and how could my husband let some other man fuck me??, you have all put across exactly the same as I said, funny how you haven't been jumped on!!, but you were all exactly right... cheating is cheating...male, female.... all tarred with the same brush!!, don't do it and don't expect a lot of sympathy from people!! Happy hunting Brennie xxxxx ps.. is you scared her off... maybe she realise.. or maybe she got found out????
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RHP User
15 years ago
For me i believe 'cheeting' is going beyond the perscribed boundaries of any relationship without the other persons permisson or approval.We swing, we partner swap, im allowed to go to parties on my own and have fun but all with his blessings.People ask me if you're so open how would you know if he cheeted or how can he cheet?Our relationship is based on black and white honesty & lies always comeout in the end as for how can either of us cheet? Well thats easy if either of us was to go without the others knowledge or if he was to pick without me, get a number etc then for us that would be cheeting.
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RHP User
15 years ago
You've tonnes more chance of success than me and I'm single. Do whatever makes you happy and be mindful of all significant others in your life. Show integrity(as you obviously do in this realm) and deal with the guilt appropriately as is for you. Good luck and get inspired and fulfilled in your quest. you deviant you! (compliment)
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married2aBBW
15 years ago
greetings all. i have to admit that we are the cause of her question, TM had made contact with me on her and we chatted a bit on her and on msn and i told my wife of what this lady was looking for, i hadnt taken much notice of her saying hubby has no idea of her wanting to play with others but did know she had said she would be online when hubby was at work. anyway my lovely cuddly wife saw all of this info and pointed it out after TM had sent us an email with some attached pics of herself. my wife didnt like the idea of playing with another whose partner was unaware of what was going on behind their back {this would be the same if a marriedman wanted to join us without his wife knowing what he was doing} and said it made her feel sick to her stomach as she herself would be devastated if i was to go behind her back and would never do that to me and does not want to help someone to do what she {and many of you have said} says is basically cheating. we did say to TM let your hubby know what you want to do, and if he is fine with your having fun with us then thats different and ok (or maybe he might want to join in, bonus all round !! ) since then she has not wanted to chat :( i hope for the best for her as she does seem a nice person aside from the not letting hubby know what she wants sexually.
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RHP User
15 years ago
As a single guy looking from the outside on this one..I have to say what i think ..I think a new person to the forum felt safe enough to ask an uncomfortable question .. I do think she was bagged out by most talking of their situation , hey which is fine but most of us here already know our positions , which we all respect..She may have been struggling with guilt , we dont know because now she is gone.. As i say it is only my thoughts..
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm going to make this post as restrained as possible but it's not going to be easy. By what rules do you people judge morality, right from wrong etc? This woman hasn't broken the law, hasn't stolen, hasn't injured anyone or taken away anyones quality of life. Are you judging by the 10 commandments as passed down by god to some bearded old dude named Moses thousands of years ago? If so perhaps the swingers need judging by these same standards? Perhaps the singles enjoying premarital sex should be judged too? Or are these particular morals just too much to ask? Are you judging by your own standards? If so, who the fuck are any of us to make rules and judge anyone? Sometimes something is missing in a relationship and sometimes you just need to get it somewhere else. Why should this lady lessen her quality of life? Perhaps she has changed in her desires since she made her vowes and feels she must experience some things to be fulfilled. Fuck I can imagine some Fred Nile type ranting in here about the sins of swinging and pemarital sex, in literary terms he/she would be gunned down, kicked to death and drawn and quartered and told to fuck off it's a free country to swing in. I find a lot of this thread disappointing to say the least, I really thought people would be less judgmental.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its NOT ok for married men to go around without their partners knowledge. Im not saying you cant, im just saying, think about it first.
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RHP User
15 years ago
speaking for myself who is the only person i can speak for of course we play together but also male play solo, and that is something we discussed and talked through at great length and in the end it's our choice afterall and the reasons were many a varied, but family work etc played a big part, our relationship is still strong, but one of the main reasons was the an reaction to birth control, which caused a hormore inbalance, which killed off the libido so rather than letting a lack of sex ruin our relationship, the solo play thing happened and to honest its a friendship and play thing, already have a life partner, so why look for another, but sex with friends has worked for us but it's not for everyone
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RHP User
15 years ago
The OP didn't ask if it was right or wrong to play she simply asked if other married women who play get the same reaction from men. So it seems that there is a heap on unsolicited opinion on the morality of cheating. So in MY judgment YOUR ALL OFF TOPIC lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks for writing what i was thinking. Others here don't know what other people's circumstances and until they have walked in someone else's shoes, they have no right to judge. Life is not always black and white there are many shades of grey in between. I've been here for a while now and if others don't like it, then they can take a hike as far as I'm concerned. I don't hurt anyone and besides at least I'm happy to play with the married guys, whereas many others apparently are not.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I answered the question right in the first place!!
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drhelixs
15 years ago
Something is clearly missing from teachme's life. SEX Where is her husband? And why is she craving it so much? He needs to be more sensitive to her needs. Leave her alone. She just wants some good lovin.
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RHP User
15 years ago
To answer your post.....as a couple who has been approached by married men and women looking to play without their partner's knowledge:We ask that question too, because we are curious, because we have been there. I have been on both sides of the fence cheated on and the cheater, neither really worked for me.We have a rule that we will not knowingly play with someone who is playing outside of their relationship and without their partners knowledge. Simply, we do not want angry partners chasing as down. We wont take that chance. It is not judgement on you or anyone else in a similar situation and we have only ever politely declined advances from people we know are in that position by saying exactly what I have just said here.Another way to look at it is like this, because you play with couples and play outside of your own marriage, you may be seen as a threat to the female half of a couple. In swinging the lines are blurred somewhat and it just maybe out of a couples comfort zone, either it causes one of them to feel like they can not trust you or even that they can not trust their own partner.I hope I have shed some light on your question? xx Salina
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Ruggedly_Rugged' I'm going to make this post as restrained as possible but it's not going to be easy. By what rules do you people judge morality, right from wrong etc? This woman hasn't broken the law, hasn't stolen, hasn't injured anyone or taken away anyones quality of life. Are you judging by the 10 commandments as passed down by god to some bearded old dude named Moses thousands of years ago? If so perhaps the swingers need judging by these same standards? Perhaps the singles enjoying premarital sex should be judged too? Or are these particular morals just too much to ask? Are you judging by your own standards? If so, who the fuck are any of us to make rules and judge anyone? Sometimes something is missing in a relationship and sometimes you just need to get it somewhere else. Why should this lady lessen her quality of life? Perhaps she has changed in her desires since she made her vowes and feels she must experience some things to be fulfilled. Fuck I can imagine some Fred Nile type ranting in here about the sins of swinging and pemarital sex, in literary terms he/she would be gunned down, kicked to death and drawn and quartered and told to fuck off it's a free country to swing in. I find a lot of this thread disappointing to say the least, I really thought people would be less judgmental. i do believe the judgment comes from the fact she is "married" which in most circumstances, means you have made a "Promise" to your husband/wife.If you are just "Together" you haven't exactly formalised that "promise" so feel free to move on, and screw your way around, if that is what floats your boat!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Ruggedly_Rugged' I'm going to make this post as restrained as possible but it's not going to be easy. By what rules do you people judge morality, right from wrong etc? This woman hasn't broken the law, hasn't stolen, hasn't injured anyone or taken away anyones quality of life. Are you judging by the 10 commandments as passed down by god to some bearded old dude named Moses thousands of years ago? If so perhaps the swingers need judging by these same standards? Perhaps the singles enjoying premarital sex should be judged too? Or are these particular morals just too much to ask? Are you judging by your own standards? If so, who the fuck are any of us to make rules and judge anyone? Sometimes something is missing in a relationship and sometimes you just need to get it somewhere else. Why should this lady lessen her quality of life? Perhaps she has changed in her desires since she made her vowes and feels she must experience some things to be fulfilled. Fuck I can imagine some Fred Nile type ranting in here about the sins of swinging and pemarital sex, in literary terms he/she would be gunned down, kicked to death and drawn and quartered and told to fuck off it's a free country to swing in. I find a lot of this thread disappointing to say the least, I really thought people would be less judgmental. I agree with Rugged...no one knows what is going on in anyones life and people cheat for many different reasons...some are personal, some are sexual, some are to fill a void that isnt being fulfilled and noone knows where Teachme was coming from or why she chooses to do what she does. We have our own rules and boundaries too but i do not ever judge someone else for why they do what they do. Let he who has never sinned, cast the first stone...or something like that as the saying goes... I feel sorry that she has gone...but reality is, no matter where you are or what you do, people will judge. Mrs Shy xxxx
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