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online only never IRL
January 04 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't understand it as well....Has happened to me every now and again....When that happens to me makes me think..Was I just an OPTION??That I am NOT.... :)There is nothing wrong with your profile...IT'S NOT YOU IT'S THEM!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Welcome to adult internet dating.....has happened to us as well....its the last contact we have with that person...no more chances. its something to do with not being able to turn their fantasy into reality!
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RHP User
13 years ago
JJ that is SO frustrating. Seems like you need to work out somehow who got the kahuna's to actually meet. Good luck it. There are genuine people out there. xxx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can't even get a reply to an email more than half the time. I must be fucking ugly. I couldm't cancel because I want to know who would even think of meeting me. They must be blind. Mike
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RHP User
13 years ago
Listening to someone’s voice will often give you an idea of their sincerity..Also a voice can be a very sexy thing. This will add to your build up.And if they won't chat to you on the phone, then you've saved your self a coffee ~smiles~
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi JJ Happened a few times when I first joined up here. I think it comes down to developing a good screening process for genuine people and sensing any hesitation in meeting. LRE's advice to talk on the phone first is a good spot on. Only other thing I can think of is maybe have a face pic in your private gallery and make sure you get to see a face pic of the other person too. If they won't show you a pic then NEXT.... Good luck SFxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
these things are all about timing and inclination.Sometimes life gets in the way,sometimes inclination goes out the window,sometimes it is just fear ,who knows why and does it really matter,just don't take it personally. Even if you have spoken on the phone and they sound interested and keen,their reasons for cancelling may have nothing to do with you .Take the emotion out of it,if it happens and all goes well ,then it is a plus.If it doesn't ,remember the RHP catch cry...NEXT. You are afterall auditioning at this point only and plenty of men will want to play the part ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm a firm believer in being up front and honest. And if that means you promise to meet someone you should keep your word. But...always a but... the fear of that first encounter is pretty real. I have no desire to lead anyone on and in doing so it seems easier to just not meet people. Most people want to have the pants off before desert or make sure the night will end with sex. I'd rather not meet anyone than go out for drinks or dinner and when nothing happens be called a tease or a dud. We're not the kind of people who can just meet up for sex on the first meet. I understand that a lot of people are, but even when you clearly say so they still pressure you and it can be off putting.Not saying anyone here is like that, but I figured I would add my 2 cents as someone who really really wants to meet new people but hasn't been able to because everyone seems to expect sex straight up and the pressure that can put on someoneMrsSplicey
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RHP User
13 years ago
... as you JJ. A change of heart maybe, performance anxiety, an attack of the shy, or simply playing silly buggers :-( Like the fabulous Freya has already said, try not to take it personally. Chin up ... KK xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would like to say I hold to my word, but in the end I have bailed on encounters, the shame of it :( . I will not give some bullshit excuse, just tell the truth. Meetings set up days, week/s ahead I generally say I will contact you on the day. Especially if its just for sex. I might be horny as hell at the time, but then the day comes and I am not in the mood at all.Or sometimes, when again I am horny as hell, I will leave all my options open especially seeing its such a hit and miss affair. So will commit on the provision that nothing better comes along. This is not a job, there is no requirements or rules. We are here to have fun. Last thing I am going to do is feel guilty for dumping a meet because something better has come up.In the reverse I don't have hard feelings toward people that cancel. The only time I do get a little peeved is if I have gone out of my way (ie drive all the way cross town) and then there is a bail. Or the bullshit lie excuse. Man/Woman up for F sake, there is no need to lie.So with a pinch of salt we all dance to the same beat here.OP I do not know how long you have been doing this but with time you will be able to workout who is worth the effort. As I am bi and meet with guys as well. If the communication gets too heavily sexual, online/text/voice, I don't bother they are just getting off at home. If the instructions or circumstances are to hazy or changing all the time, I do not bother. Many guys use this as a cheap phone/text sex site. I can pick that up now all the time.A nice feature to add to RHP. Display how long people have been members and some value to indicate how often they are actively online. I find long term regular members more reliable.Happy RHPing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find it is a good thing, if they don't have a balls to follow up then they probably weren't worth worrying about. Sure there maybe times when people are time poor but their social skills and manners are lacking and again you are probably lucky they didn't show and they showed their own true self, it is all about perspective and a different approach to an age old thing. In most cases it is them not you, of course you may want to re read what you have said(in the past) from a very objective view, maybe it could be in the way you respond and send emails - ie. if your pattern is the same and guys cancel all the time maybe you need to look at that aspect. Rather than take it personally, clear your mind and step in the shoes of another when reading your posts, then you may see it from others eyes, ie too underwhelming, too overwhelming be honest and critical to weed out a possible problem from your side, also in a lot of people's cases, some aren't so good at communicating, or not used to the social graces of responding or following through and replying as such. Some people's attitude on this site, just because it is a sex site they forget their manners, and lack respect of others, even though on the surface they express otherwise, but that is a good thing they didn't show then.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' So will commit on the provision that nothing better comes along. This is not a job, there is no requirements or rules. We are here to have fun. Last thing I am going to do is feel guilty for dumping a meet because something better has come up. I would never dump someone because I got a "better" offer at the last minute. Do guys agree with this statement or is BM giving you all a bad name here?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most of the guys/couples that have canceled on me have seen a face pic. I am very honest in my profile, I also understand that some are not as honest. My issue with this us when I feel I have gotten past the bull shit and they send a nothing "sorry something came up" then you reschedule or try to. Am I just finding ppl who are hiding this from partners? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Blindman67' So will commit on the provision that nothing better comes along. This is not a job, there is no requirements or rules. We are here to have fun. Last thing I am going to do is feel guilty for dumping a meet because something better has come up. I would never dump someone because I got a "better" offer at the last minute. Do guys agree with this statement or is BM giving you all a bad name here? How do you know when a "better offer" has been made? Do you mean a certain thing rather a possible? Are you that stuck in your comfort zone Blindman and it's really too hard to see out? I may not have a date every week but I turn up for everyone and have not had a no show either. I have usually messaged the lady in question a few times and ask them to choose where so they can be as comfortable as possible. I've even travelled to Sydney to meet someone for the first time and I was never concerned that she may not show. She did and I can't wait to get back to Sydney. What I find interesting with Blindman is the way he can be in the middle of saying something intelligent or insightful and then come out with a line like 'better offer' that destroys the good points he is making. Bugger, I can't think of a one liner to finish this, oh well.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes we have set up meetings and out of every 10 only one will meet and we are pissed of with the time we have wasted....We have even been sitting in a coffee shop waiting when getting a txt to say: we cant make it!!!!So now if they stand us up with our a good reason we just block them as time wasters (next's) Its very sad when people just want to play games at other people expense GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
some guys are wankers...they'll chase you and chase you, and make a thousand promises to meet and play, but once you really put the pressure on by making a concrete arrangement...they crumble, and dissappear... revealing that its all been about the chase, and the one handed chats, and never about actually meeting a real, warm blooded, breathing person.....(omg in the flesh...what if she sees and doesnt like my melon head?......what if she wants me to shave/wash/dress properly?...omg omg omg).....this happens to us regularly....suddenly the guy you've been chatting to for a week (who said he was single/available/good looking/able to host).....becomes a workaholic hobbit who lives in a hole in a hill with his mum, wife, 7 kids and a dog........... thats internet dating for you tho....
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RHP User
13 years ago
It happens to me too. I go out of my way to arrange to be somewhere, organise my kids, my time etc and get the 'sorry something came up' buillshit right beforehand. Are these people real? Its just so rude. I don't get it...
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RHP User
13 years ago
We have had 4 so called single bi-guys from Perth say they are coming up here to Gero to meet over the xmas and new year brack but we have not seen one of them yet...... We have had to couples say they will be here over xmas too which never came about.... If you ask me they are just full of bull shit...... We dont mind if they want to meet and not have sex but if you say you are going to meet them meet the people dont fuck them around..... GT & MM
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RHP User
13 years ago
A lot of the time they are online personas only.They have no intention of meeting you or anyone.Try not to take it personally.There are a few infamous "no show'ers" right here on the forums....they banter, they chat, they can be extremely verbose and when it comes time to meet "poof" lolThe last minute cancellation messages can be hysterically funny, especially when the women from here compare notes and find the same excuses are used over and over.....highly entertaining at times.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Like mentioned above - if a few phone calls are had the chance is a little less likely. If it is just text on a screen it really doesn't break through the basic anonymity factor....our ego doesn't relate to a bunch of text but as soon as a human voice is heard it becomes meaningful and significant....and they are less likely to cancel.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh, women cancel too.....it's not just the guys...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' I would never dump someone because I got a "better" offer at the last minute. Do guys agree with this statement or is BM giving you all a bad name here? Well I did say that I make it plain that it's provisional.. Guess I am giving all a bad name. At least i am honest more then can be said for many here. So you would see mr average, even when mr blowMySocksOff suddenly calls. Well you are a better person then me by far. Hats off to you. Been here long enough to know that the BS layer is thick and sticky for many posters.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' How do you know when a "better offer" has been made? Do you mean a certain thing rather a possible? Are you that stuck in your comfort zone Blindman and it's really too hard to see out? I may not have a date every week but I turn up for everyone and have not had a no show either. I have usually messaged the lady in question a few times and ask them to choose where so they can be as comfortable as possible. I've even travelled to Sydney to meet someone for the first time and I was never concerned that she may not show. She did and I can't wait to get back to Sydney. What I find interesting with Blindman is the way he can be in the middle of saying something intelligent or insightful and then come out with a line like 'better offer' that destroys the good points he is making. Bugger, I can't think of a one liner to finish this, oh well. Well if in the mood then any port will do, I am looking for a bay to anchor in (I love meeting new people). But if its a blow and go type deal that's fuzzy in it's details, and then all day fun with a someone I know, love, admire, comes up. I know where I am going. Does not happen often but has. Have been disappointed many times with people that are not what the profile and communication make out. Cynical maybe, comfort zone well yes its comfortable. Who knows I could have missed out on meeting someone well worth knowing, but who spends life going, What if.We all have to make choices and for me family and friends are first. For me if its 1pm I am there on the dot. I am never late ever (believe me its a ADD thing) But this place is like a club (online) and strangers do take second fiddle over friends and lovers. Least I upset a friend.. eek never.If people here could tell the truth then it would be different. My first ever hook up here (four years ago) was a lady that was fake. I spent weeks chatting, but then when I rock up, it was all a lie. God I almost gave it up after that.So I am here for fun. Not here to provide a service. I err on the side of caution but that's what 4 years of meeting lying bullshit artists does. So its family, lovers, friends, then strangers. That's the order of my priority. People that put strangers first are crazy.And wow, nice work finding someone far away that rocks your socks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' So you would see mr average, even when mr blowMySocksOff suddenly calls. Well you are a better person then me by far. Hats off to you. I would not meet anyone that was "Average" in my books in the first place. But theoretically, you bet. And just to clarify, what is considered "Average" according to "The norm" , whatever that means, has nothing to do with what may or may not rock my socks off.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' For me if its 1pm I am there on the dot. I am never late ever (believe me its a ADD thing) That's a Dutch thing. I tend to be five minutes early myself. No other reason than that I was raised that way, but it really unsettles some people.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well if MrWonderful called and wanted to meet at the exact same time as my other date well I would try and re-schedule but only if I could give someone a few days notice. And if they can't reschedule well .... There is 24 hours in the day. Ah the beauty of being a woman, shock horror I will just have to two dates in the one day. Nothing wrong with that. Right?
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's an Italian thing. I am pretty much always 10 minutes late.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Guess it is a Dutch thing. Strange thing is my brother can never seem to be on time, but then he did marry an Italian Devious is an apt name I will have to say. But here I bite my tongue.Meeka I do not get it? What gives women special powers that they can have two dates? If your inference is what I think it is then I should point out there are plenty of men that recharge rapidly. If not ill just The beauty of being an arrogant shit (another Dutch thing) is that i don't really give a rats. In my eyes all are average. Which of course is well below me, but I hold my judgement for sometimes average turns out to blow my socks off. So lets all take a deep breath as we sit atop our lofty perches and admire the wondrous diversity of the unexceptional.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am fine with that, as long as it its done in a timely manner not 4 hours after you should have arrived. But no communication at all. Plain rude- Posted from rhpmobile
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Bigsouthozcock
13 years ago
In this day and age of mobile technology, it's not too hard to drop a line to cancel or reschedule! Hours late or no communication at all is just plain rude indeed!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' The beauty of being an arrogant shit (another Dutch thing) is that i don't really give a rats. In my eyes all are average. Which of course is well below me, but I hold my judgement for sometimes average turns out to blow my socks off. So lets all take a deep breath as we sit atop our lofty perches and admire the wondrous diversity of the unexceptional.
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is not a job, there is no requirements or rules. We are here to have fun. Last thing I am going to do is feel guilty for dumping a meet because something better has come up. Reason being that if you put a little lipstick around your thumb and for finger It can look pretty good when you go wank yourself A think people that do this have no respect for the other persons time. I am a busy woman, the last thing I do is wait around for some dipstick to make up his mind if he wants to get laid or watch the footy with his mates. If you make a date, a time a what ever in business or in pleasure then you stick to it , unless something IMPORTANT comes along, then you ring and let that person know. No manners in life mean even less will happen in the bedroom. If your like that , you will come to a meeting late or not at all and when your at a play date, you will cum fast and leave just as fast. I like my men with a bit of class and manners comes with class.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Reason being that if you put a little lipstick around your thumb and for finger It can look pretty good when you go wank yourself A think people that do this have no respect for the other persons time.I am a busy woman, the last thing I do is wait around for some dipstick to make up his mind if he wants to get laid or watch the footy with his mates. If you make a date, a time a what ever in business or in pleasure then you stick to it , unless something IMPORTANT comes along, then you ring and let that person know. No manners in life mean even less will happen in the bedroom. If your like that , you will come to a meeting late or not at alland when your at a play date, you will cum fast and leave just as fast. I like my men with a bit of class and manners comes with class.Oh what tripe. Nothing worse then a snob. What in hell's imaginative lustful embrace do you offer but a cheap thrill, if that. Your lovely centric profile shows you are but the same as the mediocrity. Expatiation conditional, and a sense of disposable humanity. Your assumptions of we are bland and show nothing but a contemptive presumption. Sadly dear lady you would stick to me like glue if I showed you what a real man can do. So best of luck, im am sure the masses of class you admire have you busy as a bee in spring.. So with a lustful glare and a swagger breed and confidant I offer a hand and a subtle bow. Dare to dance sweet girl with a bogan crass as me. The tango jives tonight, and the floor, wet with sweet sweat is a ride we could explore.LOL girl you know nothing of me and would stand me up in a heart beat if your love bothered to give you time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Blindman67' So will commit on the provision that nothing better comes along. This is not a job, there is no requirements or rules. We are here to have fun. Last thing I am going to do is feel guilty for dumping a meet because something better has come up. I would never dump someone because I got a "better" offer at the last minute. Do guys agree with this statement or is BM giving you all a bad name here? That's BS, BM !That is incredibly selfish, disrespectful and dishonourable !Thats the sort of shit children do when they get new best friends or choose birthday parties to go to, totally shallow and fucked, me, me, me.If I make a commitment, barring emergencies or accommodating my kids , I honour it !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '50zcool'That's BS, BM !That is incredibly selfish, disrespectful and dishonourable !Thats the sort of shit children do when they get new best friends or choose birthday parties to go to, totally shallow and fucked, me, me, me.If I make a commitment, barring emergencies or accommodating my kids , I honour it ! Oh the bullshit is thick on the ground here and when you walk in it one's shinny image losses its luster. So who am I being disrespectful and dishonorable too, a good friend? a lover, or some complete stranger? These strangers are often not what they say they are, way to often. You would pick a complete unknown stranger over a lover or friend? Well I could not stoop that low. Guess you are the one calling me names, shows me the level of your beguiling character.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' LOL girl you know nothing of me and would stand me up in a heart beat if your love bothered to give you time. I don't think Tuscan would need an excuse... Quoting 'Blindman67' Quoting '50zcool'That's BS, BM ! That is incredibly selfish, disrespectful and dishonourable ! Thats the sort of shit children do when they get new best friends or choose birthday parties to go to, totally shallow and fucked, me, me, me. If I make a commitment, barring emergencies or accommodating my kids , I honour it ! . Guess you are the one calling me names, shows me the level of your beguiling character. 50zcool calls your actions selfish, disrespectful and dishonourable. But where does he call you names?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Blindman67' LOL girl you know nothing of me and would stand me up in a heart beat if your love bothered to give you time. I don't think Tuscan would need an excuse... Quoting 'Blindman67' Quoting '50zcool'That's BS, BM ! That is incredibly selfish, disrespectful and dishonourable ! Thats the sort of shit children do when they get new best friends or choose birthday parties to go to, totally shallow and fucked, me, me, me. If I make a commitment, barring emergencies or accommodating my kids , I honour it ! . Guess you are the one calling me names, shows me the level of your beguiling character. 50zcool calls your actions selfish, disrespectful and dishonourable. But where does he call you names? Guess I stand corrected . Silly me he must have directed the "totally shallow and fucked" comment to someone else. How did I not know that.I am sure she (Tuscan) would even even consider that proposition to start with. My loss but I will deal with it. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well we have been dumped as the guy has at the last minuet got a better and younger deal.....But he did not ring us we rang him to see where he got to, and now single guys from Perth wonder why we don,t trust them any more...We are sick of wasting our time for these wankers, but in all honesty we have had couples do the same....We only give then one chance then hit BLOCK........GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Blindman67' So will commit on the provision that nothing better comes along. This is not a job, there is no requirements or rules. We are here to have fun. Last thing I am going to do is feel guilty for dumping a meet because something better has come up. I would never dump someone because I got a "better" offer at the last minute. Do guys agree with this statement or is BM giving you all a bad name here? BM I just think you dug your own grave..THAT'S A THUMBS DOWN FROM ME TOOOO!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Philosopherpoet' Oh, women cancel too.....it's not just the guys... I cancel when I get a gut feeling and little responses from a man..That says to me "he's just not that into me"...To me if he can't put in some sort of effort to meet me as I do them, then I'm not interested.So I figure why waste my precious time?? I am very polite (and am tactful) tho when cancelling...not rude, that is just not me..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Hun ..Thanks for the topic.. I get to know a Guy before we meet including chatting on the phone.I agree with freya .The thing is sometimes Life issues get in the way they need to cancel If they're texting you and letting you know cool.If they leave you sitting waiting then that's not good form very Inconsiderate. That's happened a couple of times I'm not amused but I allow the Guy to explain his reasons for not fronting up or texting me.It depends on his reason if I continue or not .. I also now make it that we update our Plans the night before or in the morning .But sometimes it's unavoidable.. Good Luck! enjoy the Guys who do turn up for you Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Quoting '50zcool'That's BS, BM !That is incredibly selfish, disrespectful and dishonourable !Thats the sort of shit children do when they get new best friends or choose birthday parties to go to, totally shallow and fucked, me, me, me.If I make a commitment, barring emergencies or accommodating my kids , I honour it ! Oh the bullshit is thick on the ground here and when you walk in it one's shinny image losses its luster. So who am I being disrespectful and dishonorable too, a good friend? a lover, or some complete stranger? These strangers are often not what they say they are, way to often. You would pick a complete unknown stranger over a lover or friend? Well I could not stoop that low. Guess you are the one calling me names, shows me the level of your beguiling character. They may be strangers but they are still people ! And as for;"These strangers are often not what they say they are, way to often."That is just a massive assumption on your part, to justify your actions, you never gave yourself the opportunity to find out otherwise ! I would of thought the assumption would be that they are interesting and fun, is that not why you arranged a meet in the first place ?A good friend or lover is someone who you could see or contact at anytime, but dumping a stranger is closing that door for good. Strange priorities me thinks !Agree with SF, the grave your digging is just getting deeper. Maybe if they bury you with your arse out of the ground we can still use you as a bike rack.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There seems to be a lot of children in here. I thought this was 18 Plus?Personal integrity. You either have it or you don't.MrsSplicey
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RHP User
13 years ago
,,,,getting replies, getting repeat replies, getting meetings. I guess you just have to accept, some people will find you attractive to look at, maybe talk to, not to meet. Things do happen or change, especially in modern life. People get cold feet, and then go 'what am I doing?' Pics I find are often terribly misleading. Chat can be also - and that's when they're not trying to lie to you. Some people do get all enthused when you have a sexy little chat going. Then back right off at the last minute or overnight. They are scared what they will think. They are scared what you will think. They start to think you might be a superstud/pornstar and look down on them. However, in two years on RHP I have met 2 couples and about ten ladies. Two ladies, it went no further than the initial meeting on their say-so. The others....... They ranged in age from 23-56. Interestingly, the person I have seen most was the 23 y-o. Llasted about three months and a dozen meetings. Two have been more than twice. Several others would have except for distance/timetables. One or two, it didn't work for me. A couple of 'just meetings' turned into 'come back to my place'. Think about it: we all think we're 'better than average'. Some of us think we're hot and we are (at least physically). But how someone else perceives us is completely individual. Even if we're gorgeous, our attitiude and behaviour could mark us as someone to avoid. And remember: shave, shower, brush teeth, floss: mouthwash and mints are your friend. Nothing worse is being with someone who's attractive and reasonable to talk to, and being turned off at first contact by halitosis or food stuck in their teeth, or ranks smells from the bits where similarly you might want to put your tongue.And they might be thinking that of you. It's almost impossible for someone to hide that reaction to offensive odour and it spolils the moment for all players. If you're a smoker and they're not, consider not smoking for a few hours before you meet at least until they're used to you. Even if they say it doesn't bother them - it does, they're just being nice. One person's 'yuck' is another person's 'yum'. Don't be discouraged when some reject out of hand. Attraction is a strange and individual thing. So what works? Be polite online and in person - and smile a lot especially if you're a smartarse like me. Nervousness can make us deadpan: looks like 'he/she doesn't like me'. Be positive, but not pushy. Back off if requested. Be confident, don't say 'you probably don't think I'm handsome' but be honest 'I'm not bad, but could lose a few/quite a few/a whole lot of pounds'. There's no guarantees of success - but whining or wheedling is a no. And if you say you are going to meet, the No. 1 turnoff is not to show with an inadequate or no explanation, without any excuse. Let the person know ASAP. Shit happens in life, reasonable people will understand as long as they're not tapping their foot looking at their watch when you SMS. Unreasonable people? Why would you want to be with them, anyway?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe the expectations of meeting can be to high ! We haven't met anyone yet but finding when mention to catch up they run maybe pic hunters or something were got kids an yes little harder to make time but how hard is it to go beach for the day meet at shops or even have a coffee . We're not here like some to jus get rocks of for another number but have some fun when the time permits and mood and maybe some good friends out of it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
DO NOT get me started on this!! Its my number 1 pet peeve, happens far too often and I have the opinion it's not me it's them! I don't think it matters how attractive you are ect, happens to everyone, super annoying and massive time wasting exercise, lift your game people!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Very true and well said...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '3s_a_party'DO NOT get me started on this!! Its my number 1 pet peeve, happens far too often and I have the opinion it's not me it's them! I don't think it matters how attractive you are ect, happens to everyone, super annoying and massive time wasting exercise, lift your game people!!Wish I was your sort, as I would def. turn up!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '3s_a_party' DO NOT get me started on this!! Its my number 1 pet peeve, happens far too often and I have the opinion it's not me it's them! I don't think it matters how attractive you are ect, happens to everyone, super annoying and massive time wasting exercise, lift your game people!!- Posted from rhpmobile Anyone standing you up should be taken for a long drive and put out of their misery ! Unbelievable !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thank God! I thought it was just me that happens to. And the suggestion that one should exchange face pics and talk on the phone still does not work...I've done that an still been stood up. One guy said "not feeling the connection" (after exchanging pcs and saucy messages), the other just stopped answering my messages. Nada! Zip! Zilch! Nothing.... after the "cant wait to see you" from him. Go figure!
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blueballs212
13 years ago
....there are people on here who get their kicks out of standing people up...nothing to do with a better offer...or the pressing demands of a busy life...just the perverse pleasure they get out of deliberately inconveniencing others...so much so...that I always arrange a meet on the way to something else I have to do...so it's just on the way if there's a no show with nothing lost......the no show rate would be 2 out of 3 incidentally(...I very rarely get a cancellation...they just don't turn up).
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes has happend to me twice both times i spoke with them on the phone made a time and place they seemed as keen as i was but no show then dont return calls i just mooved on as i dont bother with it they must have changed there mind or some thing came up but a quick msg would be nice at least then you know what happened . but there are plenty of us that will turn up every time so i just take it as life we get some and we lose some. daz
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RHP User
13 years ago
But apparently they do show up, check you out and THEN decide to stay or go.But I doubt anyones going to fess up to that stunt !
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usm79
13 years ago
It happens. In fact we reckon that at least 90%+ of the contact we make will not get past the first two or three exchanges. In the last couple of years the rate of cancellations has seemed to increase dramatically. Fakes and floppers seem to be everywhere ATM. Here's a hint, if your only looking to just perve on pics, the Internet has billions of pics just search for them and leave the swinging sites for swingers.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'sukbuddies'In this day and age of mobile technology, it's not too hard to drop a line to cancel or reschedule! Hours late or no communication at all is just plain rude indeed!!- Posted from rhpmobile I for some reason my brain thinks speak into the microphone dear, make sure its close to your lips
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RHP User
13 years ago
now plkay nicely and stop pullling Tuscans pigtails....she will notice you...eventually
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RHP User
13 years ago
meant play
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh! Poor Petal ...Come here and I'll kiss it better for you he!he! Just messing with you as I do :) How are you Hun you've popped by a few times but never said Hi! since we chatted ages ago . I hope Life's treating you well Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
If he pulls my hair I like a little rough at times
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '50zcool'But apparently they do show up, check you out and THEN decide to stay or go. But I doubt anyones going to fess up to that stunt ! Well its only when they do show up that I make up my mind if they can stay or go. what else am I going to do, knit? I need to decide if I am going to have sex with them,and if not then I just say thanks for the effort you took to meet me. I do appreciate that you took the long drive down, and thats about it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's on all sides of the fence females males couples there are some on here I believe for a confidence boost some are nasty as and should really be seeking some kind of medical help But oh we'll I have met two genuine nice lady's on here over the year and we had allot of fun but I won't pay for a membership again allot of people need to grow up on here it is real life and not just a copy of sims or some other game people play just some of the comments and behaviour from people is shocking but yeah it comes from every gender I've spoken with a few People that have Cancelled there membership due to some messages people send it doesn't bother me personally it just shows me who u are and as for fogging people off for something they think is better how do you know allot of things always look good I e always found going the other way leads to more fun and hey if someone cancelled on me like that I'd be stocked they did cause in my view there just disrespectful arse holes
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blueballs212
13 years ago
...yep...alive to that...in fact pretty sure that's what the last one did...but was it to check me out...or was it for the vicarious thrill of seeing the result of her perversity...much like an arsonist will always watch his fire.....who knows?...the result's the same!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting '50zcool'But apparently they do show up, check you out and THEN decide to stay or go. But I doubt anyones going to fess up to that stunt ! Well its only when they do show up that I make up my mind if they can stay or go. what else am I going to do, knit? I need to decide if I am going to have sex with them,and if not then I just say thanks for the effort you took to meet me. I do appreciate that you took the long drive down, and thats about it. I think 50zcool meens that they don't meet you just see who you are and leave, and this does happen as we have watch then check us out and leave with out saying hi..... If you take the time to drive to the place of meeting, then why not meet??? Some people are just FUCKEN rude..... GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
Annoying! I have cancelled/rescheduled before when something else has come up. Always with plenty of notice. I do check people out pretty thoroughly before meeting. Loving the diversity of opinions in this thread. Guess I can see everyone's point of view as valid. You do have to prioritize, family and friend's do come first. I just can't see how the two would clash enough to make me not turn up to a meet. So if you've said you'll meet at a time and a friend calls and wants to spontaneously meet at that exact time why wouldn't you ask your mate to meet an hour later? Most of my friends are pretty relaxed about such things. Just can't see it as a problem. Xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
unless of course he was dead or something. I mean, why make a time to meet if you aren't going to show. Yes, she might not like me, or you may not like her, but at least have the balls to show up. And then you can say no thanks!...or yes please . Where on earth has the manners of this generation gone to? I have yet to miss a scheduled meeting, have been canceled by one or two for various reasons (sick kids is always a good one, lol) and occasionally my time has been wasted. Move on, there are many more beautiful people to meet.I always try and text and talk to someone on the phone before meeting. Heck, they may be an awesome texter, but sound entirely different on the phone. It also always helps, if you provide a current pic, and see if they will do likewise. I met someone once who looked nothing like her pic, she had completely changed her hair, and I did not recognize her!And remember, she (or they as a couple) are just as nervous as you are. If there is no spark, politeness and considerateness always goes a long way.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ruby, someone has cancelled on me a few times, with notice admittedly, wonder if it's the same guy? Lol. It SOUNDS like the same guy!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting '50zcool'But apparently they do show up, check you out and THEN decide to stay or go. But I doubt anyones going to fess up to that stunt ! Well its only when they do show up that I make up my mind if they can stay or go. what else am I going to do, knit? I need to decide if I am going to have sex with them,and if not then I just say thanks for the effort you took to meet me. I do appreciate that you took the long drive down, and thats about it. They observe you from a distance or anonymously, giving you the impression you have been stood up, but in actual fact you have been checked out and stood up.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'gtbi_mm' Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting '50zcool'But apparently they do show up, check you out and THEN decide to stay or go. But I doubt anyones going to fess up to that stunt ! Well its only when they do show up that I make up my mind if they can stay or go. what else am I going to do, knit? I need to decide if I am going to have sex with them,and if not then I just say thanks for the effort you took to meet me. I do appreciate that you took the long drive down, and thats about it. I think 50zcool meens that they don't meet you just see who you are and leave, and this does happen as we have watch then check us out and leave with out saying hi..... If you take the time to drive to the place of meeting, then why not meet??? Some people are just FUCKEN rude..... GT That is bloody rude. I just meet people where they have to get out of their car and walk into where I am. then I lock the door.....nobody can hear their cry for help I would never drive on past etc., only the peasants do that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' They may be strangers but they are still people ! And as for;"These strangers are often not what they say they are, way to often."That is just a massive assumption on your part, to justify your actions, you never gave yourself the opportunity to find out otherwise ! I would of thought the assumption would be that they are interesting and fun, is that not why you arranged a meet in the first place ?A good friend or lover is someone who you could see or contact at anytime, but dumping a stranger is closing that door for good. Strange priorities me thinks !Agree with SF, the grave your digging is just getting deeper. Maybe if they bury you with your arse out of the ground we can still use you as a bike rack. Digging keeps one fit. It's no greater assumption then all are interesting. I have meet many people that just outright lie on their profile. So you have to treat people with a little respect. Friends and lovers have their own times are busy. So one can not always see them. I said I would never leave someone hanging without contact of some sort. So I make sure whats going on, a friend or a lover that you may not have seen for some time, just happens to have time and wants to see you. I would rather that then some one that may or may not be interesting. Could be a long time till I see my friend again.Arranging a meet is some times; Me: Wow your sexy?Them: Like you too?Me: You got a place? Them: Yep what time?Me: Blah o'clock?Them: Can I look at you photos?Me: Here is my number txt the address?Me: See you then.So if being honest is grave digging well I hope I am doing a good job. Maybe a bottomless pit would be nice.If a friend calls up, "I am back in town want to catch up?", I text to the stranger "Sorry something has come up. Thanks hope you get what your looking for." Some times you have to be an ass, there is no choice. I don't want be an ass to a friend over a stranger. As I have said, Family, lovers, friends, strangers. We only have so much time in the world.The blind grave digger, "Are we there yet?"... Hi MadamDragonfly. Kisses back at ya.. :) xxx Messaged you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
This here is a sex site so there are no relationships involved this means the rules are a bit different. Some just get cold feet or are on here to perve only. We can’t really be angry this is part of being and playing this game on the net. All on here want to be seen as sexual, sensual and the best fuck ever, but this is dream world and should somebody stand me up, so be it. So now wait what do I think, ohh….. why did this happen to me???? or do I just not take a big notice of it and forget it quickly. I don’t know, I really don’t store it in my mind for long. Yes, I was angry with some males and I voiced it to them telling them about my disappointment. I have to take also there reason in consideration whether I think its bullshit or not, I don’t know for sure what they telling me is the truth or a lie because I don’t know them. So after my initial disappointment, I am Ok. Do ( I) feel bad or think something is wrong with (me) because 1% of people who make arrangements don’t show up or are not what they say they are, no I am not, to be truthful, no not at all. I find I get out what I put in and that’s in 99% of the cases a very positive outcome….so I can’t say I get stood up a lot. I will say this so, because I let the men come to my place, they have to do a big job and drive, most are from Perth. I think I have to say wow to them just coming for a fuck and not knowing for sure what to expect. It’s a big ask from me to expect them driving all the way, and I ask them to do this and they do. No I don’t get stood up a lot…..so why not? I have to ask the men who have been with me. Cheers Ellen And before you even think this thought, no I am not doing tricks. I am not overly exciting I believe, I am just real. However I really can't comment on myself can't I?
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RHP User
13 years ago
from me x hugs
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RHP User
13 years ago
Here i sit wondering if it is only me,my pic or lack of them,what i say or do or even if some of the people on here are for real,have not been on the site for as long as others but am smart & mature enough to take a no for a no but if it is one thing that irritates me & others so it would seem is the mindless dribble people cum up with,yeah you sound nice & we would love to meet or chat but then what ???,there is no mention of when where etc or even hey thanks for your interest but not at the moment or lets meet over the next week for drinks & maybe some fun but then nothing ever heard from them again,go figure.Sad thing is these are the same people you see & read about on these pages complaining about been lonely or not finding enough of whatever they seek to find,how about following up with what you actually say or mean & give the man,women or couple a call or send a message so they are not left in the dark literally,surely we are not asking for much & yes we do know better offers cum along from friends etc but isn't this site all about meeting new friends with a similar outlook on life & a wanton desire to have fun of all kinds weather it is sex either 1 on 1 or in a group situation or just to meet for drinks,chat & some fun weather there is some intimacy involved or not,cancelling or not even showing up is weak & pathetic & should never be an excuse to play with someone's mind,i would never do it unless there was a legitimate reason & there have been time's i have stuffed up due to circumstances but always do try & apologise to those i have affected as being my friends or whatever i know they will understand & i hope they know i will try to make it up to them at future meets.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'gtbi_mm' Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting '50zcool'But apparently they do show up, check you out and THEN decide to stay or go. But I doubt anyones going to fess up to that stunt ! Well its only when they do show up that I make up my mind if they can stay or go. what else am I going to do, knit? I need to decide if I am going to have sex with them,and if not then I just say thanks for the effort you took to meet me. I do appreciate that you took the long drive down, and thats about it. I think 50zcool meens that they don't meet you just see who you are and leave, and this does happen as we have watch then check us out and leave with out saying hi..... If you take the time to drive to the place of meeting, then why not meet??? Some people are just FUCKEN rude..... GT That is bloody rude. I just meet people where they have to get out of their car and walk into where I am. then I lock the door.....nobody can hear their cry for help I would never drive on past etc., only the peasants do that. You could close the door behind me any day I promise I will not scream or cry for help Well we mush have a few peasants here in gero have to weed them out Pss tuscanred I would be happy to just have a coffee and chat with you GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
A general rule of thumb I follow in any form of online dating is if your correspondent isn't prepared to move offline and meet within a week or so of making contact, it's probably not going to happen. These sites are littered with window shoppers who talk the talk but have no intention of doing the walking part. With experience, they're usually easy to pick. When it comes to the meeting part of this adventure at least, a fast game is a good game. Anything that follows after that is down to the vagaries of human chemistry/desire. And a telephone conversation is always a great way of testing intent and veracity - it's far more difficult to conceal your real self once the contact gets more personal.......
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'gtbi_mm' Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'gtbi_mm' Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting '50zcool'But apparently they do show up, check you out and THEN decide to stay or go. But I doubt anyones going to fess up to that stunt ! Well its only when they do show up that I make up my mind if they can stay or go. what else am I going to do, knit? I need to decide if I am going to have sex with them,and if not then I just say thanks for the effort you took to meet me. I do appreciate that you took the long drive down, and thats about it. I think 50zcool meens that they don't meet you just see who you are and leave, and this does happen as we have watch then check us out and leave with out saying hi..... If you take the time to drive to the place of meeting, then why not meet??? Some people are just FUCKEN rude..... GT That is bloody rude. I just meet people where they have to get out of their car and walk into where I am. then I lock the door.....nobody can hear their cry for help I would never drive on past etc., only the peasants do that. You could close the door behind me any day I promise I will not scream or cry for help Well we mush have a few peasants here in gero have to weed them out Pss tuscanred I would be happy to just have a coffee and chat with you GT or I am up in Gero then we can have a cuppa jo cheers tr
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