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ok got another one for you all
March 20 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Heya Roxxy! For me it's not so much the baggage you can see...it's the hidden baggage that makes me run. Men who don't take risks because they are afraid of the outcome make me say NEXT! Jx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I just like it all known upfront..Tell me warts and all then you can start taking things further if that is the plan..And if you have warts i definately want to know !!
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RHP User
16 years ago
To be really honest with you, if we get to late 30s or early 40s and someone says they have no baggage I run more than a mile because they are lying. We all have baggage as we get older, its actually what makes us what we are, some good some bad some bloody horrible. If you are with the right person they will accept your baggage and help you work through it with love and understanding. Otherwise it just aint right. I say beware the person that says they have none cause you are liable to find absolute pallet fulls of it. Greg
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RHP User
16 years ago
Also know as life experiences ...Baggage is what makes us what we are today...(i'm sure i could have fitted in another "what" in there somewhere)...lol...And baggage both grows and shrinks...somewhat like the passing seasons...Some people say in their profiles, "no baggage"...or"leave your baggage behind"...they just want FUN, no issues, don't want to know about your life etc etc...which is cool...But it is what is in someone's baggage...and how they've packed it which makes them so fascinating...christ, i feel like i'm rambling here...must be from lack of sleep..lol...wellcheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'OneBrightStar' Heya Roxxy! For me it's not so much the baggage you can see...it's the hidden baggage that makes me run. Men who don't take risks because they are afraid of the outcome make me say NEXT! Jx A closed mind and heart isn't worth the effort.... His issues with the Ex is another deal breaker.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Jose and Suferboy explained it perfectly, to me baggage is life experiences. When I read a profile or hear someone say they have no baggage, well they are either lying through their teeth or have lived life wrapped in cotton wool. It is how you handle your baggage, your experiences is what defines you.Roxy, I don't consider kids baggage but the way the woman deals with the kids is often baggage. Being a single father myself, I have been told not to mention my daughter in my profile (on other sites) as 'women want men with no ties'. Well as you can guess, that woman got told very unpolitely where to go. As for large families, let me tell you a parable (lol), two tales about children.Few years ago, I med online a woman from Canberra, lovely lady, very sexy and very honest. Right up front she told me she had 9 children, aged from 10 months to 19 yo, and to make matters worse, she received no support from the ex. Now I will admit I was a little worried about the situation until I thought like an adult and went down to see her. Her house was small, old but immaculate. Her children were polite, well behaved, all doing well at school and just a delight to be around. They might not have been rich financially but damn if they weren't overflowing in love and alughter If I could have organised a move to Canberra I would hopefully still be with her but as eveyone knows, long distance romances just don't work over time.Then there is the exact opposite. A woman from Sydney, was born into a rich family, married wealth, hubby died, she got the lot. She had one son, he was around 13 at this time and got $500 a week pocket money. I have never met a more spoiled shit of a child in my life. Hell just before I met her she had to donate $20,000 worth of library books to cover up him beating up some 8 year old kid. Yep he was a typical rich bully. That kid did affect the relationship, he was an only child and she naturally adored him, to the point that he could and do anything he wanted. I could have easily throttled the little shit of a child, and yes it did destroy the relationship (well him and the fact she had no idea of being poor, in her little world everyone had $10,000 laying around and be able to take a week off to go skiing in NZ)).The point to this rambling tome is that having baggage isn't a bad thing, it is how you handle and store the baggage is what defines you to the rest of the world. The hardest baggage isn't the physical one, the children, being taken to the cleaners by the ex etc, it is the hidden ones, the emotional ones. Those little terrors that lurk in the deep recesses of the mind, they are the ones that the new partner will often have to deal with if they even know they exist.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its not so much that we have baggage its how we carry it around...Mine sits beautifully(most of the time) in a well worn and richly created tapestry bag.... I like to open it when I want ... sometimes its good to peer inside and remind ourselves where we have been and where we are going..... sometimes though the opening does leak and some comes out.... that again needs to be mine to control.... If the keeper of the bag cant look after whats inside ..... I look very quickly for the exit ......sass
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RHP User
16 years ago
Seriously, I think you are reading too much into things...Just let things flow..We meet all different kinds of people for different reasons..Just relax... I agree whole heartedly, when you get to your 30s 40s even 50s you have had to travel some roads and can't travel without baggage right? I am not ashamed of my baggage and would not change a single moment of my past. It's who I am today and luv who I am today. Is it because of my baggage, nah..It's who I choose to be today and how I act and do act naturally. Honey !!! Just be yourself and life doesn't have to be that serious..or as serious as you select it to be. Taipan, no warts here, just happy being me. Unfortunately, it takes a while to get to know someone and the baggage is unzipped by the way they act and react in situations. No predictions, you just find out... Black Stiltz xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have the usual baggage that a twenty fifteen yr old would have.........kids and ex's. But sometimes I have been accused of having extra baggage, but im sure its not mine and they make it up to run........ Meaning I have been told Im to truthful, and they feel confronted. So Im thinking other try and give you their baggage?????????? Sxybits :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
you have all taken me wrong...i need to learn to comunicate better i think.....but i like what you were all saying so i just left it....its good to know that most of you only have promlems with emotional baggage not outside baggage...kids and the likethe reasoning behind the question was....a friend of mine who has been with a fella for 6 months and has brought a house with him (thats where im running lol)...well he has a child and his ex has decided he cant see her and its all going to court and all the stuff that goes with that....well my friend is thinking very seriously about walking out because it is all too hard with what his ex is putting them through...personally i think that is the stupidest thing to dopersonaly im a stayer ill stick in there i dont care if an ex is a cow or your mother is a bitch...mine are so why not yours lolso i really wanted to know about outside influences..things the other person cant or wont control....mooka i think if i had a man that had kids like that id think twice tooblack stiltz i havent had a man hang round long enough to run yet hahaha and i have learnt to take it as it comes see where it all leadsroxxy xxxoh the things that would make me run would be if i got a wiff of something sexual with him and kids or if i found out if he had violence against women and children in his background...so mine are a bit obvious really
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RHP User
16 years ago
I carry my baggage under my eyes.....Hey! was so obvious just wondering why no1 else said it first....lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
WOO!!! HOO!!! well said!!! Joce!!! I totally agree!!! Our life, our journey makes us who we are today!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Sassy beautifully put !! It not necessarily the baggage someone has,,,,,its how they choose to deal with it ATTITUDE IS A CHOICE !!! Baggage only becomes an issue when it is the focus of somepnes life, when contemplating a relationship, when its hidden or produced too early...... men who do not participate in their childrens lives would make me suspicious and probably prevent me wanting to get any closer or more involved. serious miss b
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