M57
never been married
July 05 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Lucky!You just dodged the bullets!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Why would this concern you ? have you played with married woman ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am 50 and have never been married! I have also not been in a relationship for 11 years at all! I just guess that that is my lot in this life and gave up looking years ago... Do you feel weird or different? xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have never been married and I haven't had what I would describe as a long term serious relationship either. Although, makes me wonder if I have committment issues. Maybe... although maybe I will always be a bachlorette? . Pump_Action, I don't feel weird or like I have missed out on anything either to be honest. I think people feel more uncomfortable that I have never been married and I don't have children as they don't know how to take that. They don't really get it. I find that wives don't always like me either. :P . Now maybe this is because I grew up in the Shire (sorry fellow Shire peeps) but when I went to my 20 year reunion the looks of horror on people's faces when I said - no husband and never been married and no kids. And to make matters worse, not only am I a keen travellor and have lived overseas, I now live outside of the Shire. OMG the horror. Truely, alot of people just didn't know what to say to me. All they could talk about was their kids. That was a strange experience for me. . xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Damn you smug marrieds. : ) xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Although mine didn't work out, I would never say that I wished that I hadn't experienced marriage. Among other things, it gave me my daughter, who I love dearly.The trend is to delay getting married more and more. Your circumstances are the inevitable product of that trend so although you're early in the curve, you can probably assume that over the coming decades, you'll be much closer to the norm than you might feel now. The most important thing is to live your life in a way that makes you happy and proud.
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RHP User
15 years ago
The good news is....you have never been divorced either. Not only can that mess with your head...you suddenly find out that you are worth a lot more than you were telling each other you were worth the last time you were arguing. | ...pass on both, thanks!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well, I am in the process of getting a divorce, so I am not sure my opinion on marriage would be considered either fair or impartial. But I can say this...while marriage is not for everyone, there is no actual 'use-by date'either. In other words, it is not like at 43 it is too late. Is it wierd that you have never been married? No. Is it different? Not really. Are you worried? You shouldn't be. You will find marriage if you really want it, and if you are comfortable now, in your state of non-marriage, don't lose any sleep...it is only weird if you make it weird.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's actually a very brave thing to do, not conforming to others expectations of what 'should' be normal for you or anyone else that chooses not to. You do what makes you happy, in the way you want to, when you want to and thats all there is to it . Lol Meeks, wives don't really like me either. Always thought it was more about their personal insecurities that it stemmed from though, rather than my potential (imagined ) threat .
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RHP User
15 years ago
Married for 23 yearsafter that been seeing a guy for 3 yrsTheres no right & wrong its what makes you Happy! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Try being Italian (first generation)...single mum...never turn up to weddings/engagements/baptisms/funerals with anyone.... The only comfort I get nowadays is the fact that I know that a couple of cousin's husbands are on here (cheeky cheeky) and that a couple have been divorced...sounds cruel I know to find comfort in that...but at least it keeps the wog Aunts and Uncles off my back for a little longer! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
53 and never been married.I dont have a problem with that...but it seems that some friends, family and even strangers seem to think its weird..Many folk seem to think there must be something terribly wrong with me...lol.A lot of my married friends just say that I am the smart one .Reality.....I just have found anyone that I am willing to share wardrobe space or bathroom basins with
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RHP User
15 years ago
I wouldnt stress too much about not being married.. Look at the statistics...How many married people actually stay married long term?? Having been married and divorced.... Its just too much drama.... Or better still... live seperately and enjoy what freedom you have while you can :P
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RHP User
15 years ago
Managed to give birth to three kids. Raised them and a heap of ring- ins along the way. Been in several long term relationships, last one lasted 20 years. Truth of the matter is that nobody ever gave me reason enough to get married. Each to thier own of course but I still havent figured out the reasons why and no one can offer me a reason either. To me, marriage is a church made institution, not really legally practical anymore. It was, back in the days when woman needed the protection of man but now? I dont know so much. To get married just because we can is not really a good enough reason for me. I admit though, I have been close several times, but thankfully, something always made me pull away.......
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RHP User
15 years ago
Fiona, I know we have done that topic to death but I hate to tell you this, but in my view if someone has been in a 20 year relationship and has kids they are "married" regardless of whether they have physically been married or not. That is just a ceremony you have on one day. You were married or as good as but that is just my view so let's not argue over semantics, as I know you will disagree with me. : ) xxMeeks
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Fiona, I know we have done that topic to death but I hate to tell you this, but in my view if someone has been in a 20 year relationship and has kids they are "married" regardless of whether they have physically been married or not. That is just a ceremony you have on one day. You were married or as good as but that is just my view so let's not argue over semantics, as I know you will disagree with me. : ) xxMeeksBecause damn straight I will!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am 50 years old and I have never been married, had a girlfriend or been in a relationship and I feel quite normal. Everyone should feel that way, married or not. We are all different and we all have our faults, and that's what makes the world go round. A lot of single people have done great things in the world and have led meaningful and productive lives. However I feel that having ot had the experience of a relationship is preventing me from being able to meet someone on RHP and I do feel self concious about it. I just can't seem to get my profile right, no matter what I do.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've been in a couple of long term relationships. They were long term because I loved the person and some still love. Though when it came to the rest of my life, never have I found that I am "In Love". For me there is a difference. Luckily, I have never become an enemy of my past partners. Life is what it is for whomever is living it. I do believe in Being In Love. I just don't want to waste my life living in the hope. When it happens, we will know it and feel it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'HoleInOne69' I am 50 years old and I have never been married, had a girlfriend or been in a relationship and I feel quite normal. Everyone should feel that way, married or not. We are all different and we all have our faults, and that's what makes the world go round. A lot of single people have done great things in the world and have led meaningful and productive lives. However I feel that having ot had the experience of a relationship is preventing me from being able to meet someone on RHP and I do feel self concious about it. I just can't seem to get my profile right, no matter what I do. There's a lot of competition here, so I don't think that you should blame your lack of relationship experience on your difficulty hooking up with women. I doubt whether the hottest guy here would get anywhere near as many unsolicited messages as an average woman would - it's a tough market for men.Your profile? Personally, I'd lose the golf jokes and tell them something about yourself instead - what makes you tick, what are your interests, what sort of relationship you're after (friends with benefits, fuck buddy, etc.) Of course, I don't do that in my own profile and don't read many men's profiles, so you may want to confirm that with the women here. Good luck!
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RHP User
15 years ago
You can't have extramarital sex LOL
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RHP User
15 years ago
After reading theses posts!I feel like the odd one out! having been Married! Lots of never been Marrieds here!Very Interesting! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had lunch with my ex partners sister in law the other day and she said to me did I know XX got married. The scenario is, he is 52, he lives with his elderly mother to care for her and they got married to give her peace of mind when she passed on, that he had someone to look after him. He continues to live with her and she lives where she did prior to gettting married. A little unconventional, but works for them. I wonder what will happen when they actually live together full time? Conventional? I know of other scenarios that aren't, but they work well. Each to their own. While there are many opinions on what constitutes a marriage, I have to say I have been married in a previous life and am glad of the experience and whilst it didn't end well I have fond memories.
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RHP User
15 years ago
That almsot sounded like "Sweet sixteen and never been kissed"...|Quoting 'ruby_blossum' 53 and never been married....and seriously, next time you throw something like this out there the least you could do would be to make it easier to rhythm with "Sweet 53 and never been...|ummm, missed? Or is that Ms.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks Snowshoe and you are absolutely right about it being a tough market for men. You only had to read the replies on the unread mail topic to find that out. I believe that I am a nice person and I have tried being nice in writing my profile as you have suggested, but that didn't work either. I will give it another go. Bearing in mind Snowshoe's comments, any advice from the ladies on this site would be very helpful.
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RHP User
15 years ago
....ms 53 and never been dp'ed :)....or sweet 53 and always been free!(never cheap though! ).Is that better ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
You may not be but I sure as hell am... | Quoting 'ruby_blossum'...never cheap though! | Use the "Buy It Now" option next time I am trying to flog off my virginity on eBay and there will be enough left to buy us a coffee before surrender myself to the winning bidder. | ...again.
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