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is a 3some going to wreck a relationship?
April 22 2009
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RHP User
17 years ago
Been there done that ,, i lost my 30 year sole mate . Dont just talk to the success stories , talk to the train wrecks like myself also ,, be informed !! Good luck ! ~~~Horrible~~~
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RHP User
17 years ago
Depends. Why are you doing it? Is it simply to please your partner? Relationship getting stale? Having a threesome isn't going to solve it - there's probably an underlying symptom that needs dealing with first. How much do you trust each other? And I do mean trust. Have you discussed how you are going to deal with the aftermath, the fallout (if any)? Have you thought about potential jealousy arising in the midst of the threesome? How would you cope with that? There's a million and one things to consider. But at the end of the day, if you're into it for all the right reasons and have worked out the fallout bits, it's actually a lot of fun, and the angst and jealousy you might be feeling can be turned into a whole lot of erotic energy. Oh, yes, and make sure the positions you use are comfortable. Adding an additional person into the mix can be ... a bit tight and cramped. But an interesting type of tight and cramped.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Good post. From experience it could easily lead to a wreck. Set clear boundries and stick to em. Make sure you you are in tune with your partner and watch for danger signs. This can be hard in the heat of the moment. However the risks can be worth it for the sheer pleasure a 3rd hand can bring to both of you. Also if you have a MMF one time then next have a FFM so it even and fair. Best way is a couple though the feeling of 2 on one is hard to beat. Mars
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would recommend that you take it slowwwwwwwwwww. You're both only quite young (yes, I sound like a fkn parent now) and if she's only just starting to explore then she has a whole lot of stuff to deal with. Having to worry about her man on top of it all is probably a bit too much. Maybe have him there for emotional support while she gets naked, does some kissy touching with a girl and then take a break and discuss. I think jumping straight in would probably train wreck it up. Also, if you've been together since she was 15... it might be a matter of wondering about how it is with other people? Be prepared for an MMF down the track. I'd probably discuss 'what if' on that before doing a FFM. In fact, I'd be discussing a lot of 'what if' Good luck with your relationship and experiences :)
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youngnhard4u
17 years ago
its possible ... mrs curious if it ends up being a wreck well you can have me ima waiting :-) so go for it with out a worry ... gluck!
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RHP User
17 years ago
My main piece of advice to you both is make SURE its a stranger you invite to join you. My ex and I made the mistake of asking a friend to take part and while it started off well it ended up ruining the friendship and almost our relationship as well. Don't get me wrong it was an amazing experience and with the right person its incredible. So go for it just make sure your eyes not just your legs are wide open lol. Good luck!
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well if you are worried because it will be a little "one sided" why not meet up with a compatable couple instead where the four of you can equally participate. Just a thought, but good luck and hope it turns out to be the pleasure you wish for
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would say in the case of MMF make sure its someone u dont know and is not in any circle of friends. There are plenty of guys like me who are happily in a relationship like yourself but wish to explore group things in a non pushy way. The boundaries are clear, the emotions are clear from the beginning and there is no confusion about what we are all looking for. At the end of the day if it works, u can do it again, if it doesnt feel right u'll never see the guy again.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I think the very fact you are asking the question here in the first place is you have some element of doubt . Even saying you " think" yous can handle it would show an amount of doubt as well. I would say to step back a bit until you have talked and thought over all possible issues until you 100% "know" for yourselves you can handle it before taking the big step . If you still have any doubt , stay away from it ...we ourselves have seen other couples fall by the way , or train wrecks as they say , simply because of not having all their emotions and feelings thought through upfront. To put it simply , dont let your fantasies cloud your sight of the realities. If you are 100% certain yous are comfortable with the concept...then go for it !!!. Its great , and sometimes you even get to learn new and kinky tricks hehe.
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RHP User
17 years ago
work out your feelings about other girls first..and preferably have you first bi experience without your guy...then re-evaluate the threesome question.
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RHP User
17 years ago
My wife and I have been married just over ten years. We love a good three way, MMF or MFM. But we keep it very much to our rules. The main rule is "we only play together". We both decided together to give it a go, we started with a 4some with a couple we have known for ever. Since then we've had two good sessions with a mate of mine and we have also had one that whent pear shaped with a young woman. Unknown to us she was suing us to get at her boyfriend. The important thing is you both want to try it, make sure you both talk about it after and find out if you both liked it or not be very open and HONEST.
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RHP User
17 years ago
As you can see from our profile, we are out there and promoting ourselves as a 3sum, it works really well for us as the 3rd knew the rules from the very beginning..... the word of advice here.... dont make it too regular and keep it more physical than emotional... thats when the troubles begin !! D&C&S xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
Why is all the good stuff in Perth? :(
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RHP User
17 years ago
My lady loves seeing me with other women, it has not wrecked our relationship.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Being honest, it depends on the relationship. At the end of the day the only people who can answer that is yourselves after it. So dive in and try, and see for yourselves. Alot also depends on the person your involving. Its alot more exciting in thought than the actual doing sometimes, and others it just flows magnificently. Good luck to you
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RHP User
17 years ago
hey, it's up too you. My fuck/whatever we are wants one and i don't yet. If you know what you want, you both agree and well both want to go for it. Just be sure the third party won't get attached if you don't want to do it again or start joining in whatever you do in the future. if you trust him and yourself not to stray afterwardsd either you should be fine, just play it safe ans be sure :>
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RHP User
17 years ago
I am new to this site, but the reason I am looking around is because the lady with which I am having a discrete relationship with; has suggested that we explore same room sex with other couples. We both like the voyeuristic side to this idea; watching people while they are also watching us. (She ejaculates when she cums and didn't realise that not all women experienced this) I would love to share our sexual climaxes with others and have them share their climaxes with us. We have not considered a 3some as we feel that we can learn and be aroused from having other people around, rather than having active participation into our (very private) space. A 3some is probably a dangerous thing if you try to jump in with all six feet.
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RHP User
17 years ago
simple test - 1. if you get rock hard or wet at the thought of your partner getting or giving a good thrashing....? 2. Do you love them and trust them completely? 3. Are they your best mate? 3 x 'yes' responses means you'll probably love the experience. One 'no' - don't go there.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I would like to say that it can so be careful. I had an experience where my partner of the time and I had a night out and decided to get her a massage back at our room. One thing led to another from a simple massage and she turned into a woman I'd never seen when she started begging to be fucked. I was totally turned on and let her have her way as I loved her so much. Not long after she got guilty and has never really got over it and it did affect our relationship. Still turns me on though when I think of it!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
our thoughts are that three is a crowd. Especially to start off with. IF the BOTH of you really want to experiment then a well balanced experienced couple is the best way to start. That way there are no gender inbalances in the mix. We've played with both singles and couples and have found that with threesomes someone ALWAYS loses out in some way. That in turn can lead to resentment and trouble. Lastly, if you have to ask the ask, then your relationship is usually NOT a the stage that you should be considering it all.
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RHP User
17 years ago
if you are secure in your relationship, then i think it is ok, hubby and i have been indulging in threesomes for years now, and at the end of the day, we go home together.just think about it and discuss it first before making a decision....its not for everyone.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Loved it, want it !!! Go for it !!! xxx
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RHP User
17 years ago
Threesome.....yum We live a polyamory relationship with Me ( Leesa ) my hubby Bryan and my other partner ( male ) wont say his name, but most people in chat know who he is. We have been doing this for some 5 months now and it has been a struggle emotionally for us all, but wonderful at the same time. We almost live together at the moment and are looking for a house for us 3 to share. We have only been apart a few days since we started seeing eachother. The three of us are inseperable and love it. The guys get on so well, ( there is no bi play ..lol ) and we all love each other in our own way. My husband is always number one..he is awesome and my other partner knows that is the case. We do special things together and each guy has different needs. Trust me , it is hard work on my part, but i would not give it up for anything, and i am sure it is hard on the guys too. We see this lasting for a very long time, and we are all so comfy with that. We talk about everything together, ( the 3 of us ), we cry together and laugh together. We share every part of each of our lives with each other. This is a whole new experience for us all, and we are going down the path of happiness and fulfillment together. We have played with other couples and single guys and single girls over 18 years of being on the scene and this is different. Can we suggest to you that you make sure you talk , talk, talk. No matter what it is about , just a simple little feeling you may have that niggles in your tummy, talk talk talk. We are the extreme case of MMF play, but we feel we can let you know that it does work, and you can have a lot of fun with it, just talk and communicate to eachother , and know that you and your partner are the most important thing in this game of life, and you should never dismiss his or her feelings as minor. Trust each other and always stop if something doesn't feel right, even if it felt right in the begining of playing. Life is so short , live ,ove and experience what you can without hurting anyone and you will look back and smile and feel like you have not left any stone unturned and you are complete. But most importantly, DO IT AS A COUPLE AND TOGETHER.
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RHP User
17 years ago
No one can answer this question.Some work some don't you only know once its happened You cannot predict the future with any relationship this is no different.As harsh as it sounds you have to think of the extra person as a sex toy.They are there for your sexual pleasure only.The main issue is jealousy. Can you handle seeing your partner with someone else.If you are not sure start of lightly with just kissing and touching so you can easily pull out if you want to without feeling obligated to do more. Ive had experiences with current and the ex partners where the threesome gets thrown in your face.
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DonnaBrett
17 years ago
Are you talking about with another girl or guy? In any case..if either of you suffer from the slightest insecurity ie: jealousy..don't don't do it! Maybe you should try a couple first..that way it's all even. If it's just a girl you want..go to a brothel..it's a bit more clinical but when finished you can just walk away with no risk of emotional attachment. In our 10 years in this scene we have seen a few train wrecks...it is just not for some people...and funny enough, 99.9% of the time it is the male who can't handle it. It seems the fantasy is much more exciting than the reality. Good Luck!
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RHP User
17 years ago
heya hun :) the golden oldie rule applies....... if in doubt....dont!
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RHP User
17 years ago
I met my now wife during a 3some with a other frend and we have had other sleep over frends since. Only problem we have encounterd is went sleep over frend finds some 1 new and theay find out what type of frends we all wer
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