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if a partner goes on web cam/live chat n pays to see sexual acts performed is this a form of being unfaithful, c comments
July 06 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
He was deceitful about his actions, and by the sounds of it, at some stage tried to pass the blame and some of his guilt off by accusing you of the very act he is hiding..,, IMO , what else is he hiding, I mean if paying a lady on a screen to display an act for his own gratification is acceptable to hide, Where does it end? Kudos to you if you can see past it, sadly it would have simply planted a seed in my mind, and I can't help but wonder what else he feels so insignificant not to share....???? Good Luck, hope it all works out smoothly for you :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Tree_nymphs, this is his way of passing on the guilt, accusing you. Since Ive been on RHP Ive come to realise it is something that goes on....Ive been in chat and someone Ive been seeing has been in there chatting up a storm or camming for someone else, its just how it is. Im guilty of it myself. Its too easy on here. But if its honest and in the open it shouldnt be a problem. Your partner hid it from you so I think you have a right to be frustrated. You just need to have a talk about both of you being 100% honest with each other. Good luck xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile talks about your girlfriend, but you keep referring to "he" and how "he" is paying girls? What am I missing?
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RHP User
11 years ago
As Meander pointed out, the gender thing was a bit confusing. I guess if you care about him (enough) then talk through this. It sounds like he has a bit of an obsession or addiction. I am just basing this on how far he went to hide it from you. But whatever you do, tread carefully - he could just be a dick.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If it has hurt you, or it bothers you, then that's it. You can't change that. Even if we all told you you're wrong for feeling that way, it is what it is, and you are who you are. So whatever the outcome of this will be, don't settle for anything less than you NEED. What doesn't bother one person, would absolutely crush another... And my own personal opinion on it? Not that it matters one bit, but I would be kicking his or her ass to the curb. Everyone has vices, and sometimes we all need help or understanding. But I just don't tolerate lying - especially then being made the scapegoat. It speaks volumes about ones character, and that's a flaw I wouldn't be willing to deal with knowingly...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I see your other near identical thread got deleted, just as I was about to agree with Blindman (maybe the universe was trying to stop me?) He said something to the effect of "It's cheating when your partner thinks it's cheating" and I think the same thing. If you're unhappy, then speak up and don't tolerate behaviour from him that makes you unhappy. (You're a woman, am I right? Did you accidentally post from his profile?)
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's just pron tho isn't it. Live porn? How is watching porn cheating?? Or have I missed something
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me it wouldn't be cheating either, but I guess it's about everyone's own boundaries, and people in a relationship agreeing on them. The man the OP talks about can say it's not cheating, but if his partner's definition is that it is, than his view won't make a damn difference. Defining boundaries and terms like cheating and being faithful at the beginning of a relationship is essential I think, to avoid arguments about them later on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' (You're a woman, am I right? Did you accidentally post from his profile?) Yeah that is what I thought but I see that Dougie says he has a girlfriend... but she doesn't do anything for him! What the? If this really is the girlfriend writing this, shouldn't you be more concerned about that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is it called jealousy then? Is their an insecurity in there somewhere? If people get jealous of porn? Each too their own of course.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Meander and Inspirit... watching porn (albeit live porn) doesn't constitute cheating in my book. But the person was deceptive in that they denied doing it until caught out. That would be the bigger issue for me. And I too am totally confused about Dougie's gender?! If it is the girlfriend posting from his account, then ( as Meeka pointed out) I'd be way more concerned about the derogatory comment about her on the profile than anything else.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Doesn't care about how you feel If you feel wronged and he / she remains defensive.... Walk away
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are lots of women who would consider a man paying women over the internet as cheating. In fact, there are women who consider men watching any porn to be cheating. Yeah, I know weird, but there are women who definitely think this way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP! Now, I am just confused.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe ..... girlfriend found out about Dougie hobbies, including RHP ... and jumped into his account. Maybe the reason she isn't doing it for him ... is he that he is addicted to porn and webcamming. Since cheating is betrayal and acting dishonestly, then if you feel he has betrayed you, then he has.
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