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i wanna know
September 14 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've often asked myself that very same question. Feedback from my male mates is neither hell nor highwater would keep them out of regular contact with a woman they are really interested in. Give and take...50/50.
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RHP User
15 years ago
...it's when you stand back, that you actually see the situation for what it really is. "Busy" is both an illusion and a reality...think about it. Women are magnificent at waiting! We wait and we wait and we wait....what for??? For our fellow men to become "un-busy" enough to give us some time? (oh yes....it can go both ways, but I am not a man so can only speak from a womans point of view ;p). We fear the label of "nagging", which when you look at it, is simply just one-way communication. Stop the co-dependency. Time for women to stop waiting! Responding to the situation is waaay better than reacting. Hugs Jx
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RHP User
15 years ago
you got to laugh! men complain that they cant meet woman on here! yet! most of the time they dont say much! its almost like baby steps! U know what I wouldnt want that type anyway! much perfer a bit of cheek n confidence! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
From one males POV. Sometimes us guys don't do subtle hints, lots of us, me included just miss them, perhaps he thinks your just engaging in harmeless flirtation or being friendly.Though if you have made it patently obvious (by guy standards not girl standards) that you are interested and he is dodging you, then i think its safe to assume that he is just not that into you.Test the water.......back off and see if he chases.I think on Rhp its a little easier for guys to test by checking the girls profile, and if you don't match their criterior its an easy assumption to make that its just friendly flirtation. Then again assumptions are often the mother of all fuck ups!Mz J's feedback is spot on!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok enough is enough....you get along well, see each other regularly and then nothing... help oh wise one Nev...babe whats a girl to think??? he responds to texts...responds to msn messages but doesnt initate first contact like he used to??? (or she used to surely girls have done this too) so whats a person supposed to think?? Do I still make the first move or do I wait and see 'how into me he is' by waiting for him to initiate contact??? And this after constant contact....I know its confusing... Awaiting the sages response Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Is this the guy from the email? How often do you think he should get in touch, what does he think is reasonable....are you just beating him to the punch.I can recall getting into trouble with a woman because i called her each night, she reckoned every couple of days was plenty, so i took that on board and yep these days i am comfortable with every 2 or 3 days.Sweety i would adopt the wait and see approach, i know... easier said than done!If he comes a runnin you know he's into you, if not you know its done.Short of asking him if he is still keen, and that doesn't always work, sometimes people will tell you whatever they think you want to hear to avoid a confrontation.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think.......guys are hunters. If they are keen they will hunt, especially when all the signals are go go go!! I agree with Nev, as hard as it is, sit back and see if he chases you. Other than that, you could always just ask him how he feels.Fingers crossed for you.
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RHP User
15 years ago
can't you just ask if he's keen or not and then agree on a set pattern of making contact if he is?
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RHP User
15 years ago
i get what you are all saying and i agree i know for a fact this bloke is very busy (owns his own business) and at the moment he is sick and sore (just out of hospital)...plus i know he is shy, but we chat well.....i have asked him if he wants me to keep ringing and he tells me yes...i have even told him that normally i would have walked away by now and he pleaded that i dont do that...he asked i just give him time...he even told me he was being slack and was sorry but shit a girl has some self respect for christ sake...i feel im being annoying or a dumbarse, im just not sure which lol roxxy...to confused to care any more
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'NevandKj' Is this the guy from the email? Cheers Nev No need to worry my sweet just adding fuel to the fire and explaining situations in a different light.... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think men are Hunters... and that book .. 'he's just not that into you' .. whilst not rocket sense.. sums it up beautifullly I wonder what it is that makes us hang in there though .. I know in a number of instances I have done so for way tooooo long .... but always find... If I had listened to my women's intuition .. I already knew it was wrong ... Perhaps listen to that ...... Sassy xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think thats probably all to accurate a lot of the time! Whether it be the people in it for a thrill.orPeople who have been hurt one to many times to trust agin.or People with impossible shopping lists and not posessed of the word compromise in their vocabulary.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
I like the word "compromise" Nev...quite different from the word "sacrifice" :-) Jx
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RHP User
15 years ago
i think il do what i do best turn my back and walk away roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i think il do what i do best turn my back and walk away roxxy For once I agree with you babe.... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't know that thats a great plan........ Makes it all to easy to turn your back and walk away the next time.Sometimes you gotta fight for what you want.The again sometimes you have to know when to cut your losses and run!Sheezes who knows....lolCheers Nev..........but you know what i mean right
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RHP User
15 years ago
Glad to see you back on the Forums lovely lady, and i hear congrats are in order! Have missed you!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
yeah but Nev sometimes you just get it in your head that your looking like an idiot and although i dont mind looking like an idiot (i look like one often lol)...sometimes you just have to say....enough is enough i am a fighter for what i believe in...but these days when it comes to men and the whole feeling crap...i totally believe if its too much of a hassle....just turn your back and walk away roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've missed you too It's great to be back - just stepped out for bit to enjoy my new man. And yes...I'll be tying the knot next April Who would've thought hey! Jx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think maybe what you are doing is "taking charge" rather than walking away. That's a good thing - because then the door won't slam in your face. Heaps of hugs! Jx
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RHP User
15 years ago
And you know what? Inspiration goes both ways....you make me think and reflect too :)) I really admire people who have integrity....which just happens to include all the peeps on this post :) Cheers GT(with lots of smiles!) Jx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'OneBrightStar' I think maybe what you are doing is "taking charge" rather than walking away. That's a good thing - because then the door won't slam in your face. Heaps of hugs! Jx yes you have a point...im not running...im taking charge thanks brightstar and congratulations hun...you give us all a bit of hope xx roxxy
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