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i just declined my first red hot pie'er
December 13 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just a polite "thanks but you are not what i am looking for and good luck on the site" should do It saves people wondering, it is just the politer thing to do rather then ignore them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think they get the idea either waybut it is the polite thing to dobtw that new pic of you - wow! your others are great too but that one - good lord :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'sexycountrycpl' Just a polite "thanks but you are not what i am looking for and good luck on the site" should do It saves people wondering, it is just the politer thing to do rather then ignore them. Cheers... Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
Cassie, If you contacted someone, would you expect a reply back? Of course you would, you wouldn't have contacted them otherwise. It is always polite to reply, nothing is worse than not knowing. At least with a 'NO' they know where they stand. I have heard from friends here that sometimes when they don't reply, they get pestered for a reply or get an abusive reply to a "NO". One thing about the latter, if you do get an abusive reply for declining someone, feel good that you are a great judge of character for rejecting the prick in the first place lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
i was polite about it and still feel not nice :(
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hell I've been declined by about 300 people on here and believe it or not have probably declined 2 myself. I wouldn't wory about it, if it was a guy you declined he will be used to it already. If it was a girl then she is probably shocked but already moved onto the next 50 messages.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just the "no thanks" options are good enough I think. We all have our own tastes and attractions and there shouldn't be any real reason to justify to someone why you are not interested. I do agree with shane, nice pics cassy! Very sexy. Joey
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RHP User
16 years ago
true mooka ok so now ill just say no thanx :D and thanx devious
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RHP User
16 years ago
to set up templates for a quick reply... AND there is the auto-reply option that we have set up to reply automatically when we receive messages, that lets people know that we really aren't looking right now lol. We even warn people about the auto-reply in our profile
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you're getting cut up over having to make one refusal Cassy, that's your feminine side coming out. Nothing wrong with that at all. There are a lot of people, specifically females on here who obviously care not about anyone, other than themselves, and don't respond to messages at all - hell, what's it going to cost them? Half a minute of their time - get with it ladies, if a bloke takes the time to send you a message have the decency to at least say NO THANKS! There, got that off my chest - have a great day readers
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RHP User
16 years ago
SO U WOULD FEEL BETTER ILIKU69 IF SOMEONE WAS TO STR8 OUT SAY NO THAN JUST NOT REPLY? i seriously cant do it haha arghhhhhhh i know what it feels to be rejected and it sux!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Replying is always the best policy, it's the courteous thing to do.
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RHP User
16 years ago
If only the other women on here had the same attitude as you Cassie.Yes rejecting anyone is difficult at the best of times, hard as it is we need to make these choices in order to grow personally.Don't feel bad, you made the right choice for you.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its ok to just say no.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'cassy_84'SO U WOULD FEEL BETTER ILIKU69 IF SOMEONE WAS TO STR8 OUT SAY NO THAN JUST NOT REPLY? i seriously cant do it haha arghhhhhhh i know what it feels to be rejected and it sux!!! Cassy, from a guy who has been rejected by many, I would honestly say getting "No" is s damn sight better than not knowing. Only guys with massive ego's get upset with being rejected, hell I would guess most guys half expect a rejection 90% of the time - those that understand they dynamics here anyway. you take care now and keep on replying lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yep, go with the reply. A little courtesy goes a long way.
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Aww cassie...Stop It ....Cassie is not only HOT...but cassie is nice to ...feeling bad about declining someone ! Cassie I would Imagine you would get quite a lot of messages, that like you said " wouldn't be worth replying to " but a polite no to someone that just isn't your type, just lets the other person know that you actually arn't interested, cassie don't feel bad about being polite...... Love and Peace Tam
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Cassie...I find that it's not a pleasent feeling to think that someone feels rejected..yet by the same token if they're not what im seeking..i have to delcine them staying true to what i wantSo i do so politely..dont think there's an easy why do it....rather do that just ignore thembut am guilty of not repling staight away at times and i even feel slack then.but honesty is the way i go.xoxoheymumma
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RHP User
16 years ago
i think a reply is always better...i quite like peachy's idea of a template reply...not sure how busy ya inbox is...that's email in inbox...sheesh....giggles...but a reply is always appreciated rather than being ignored...cheers...oh, and great pics too...jose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Cassy, From a guys perspective i'd much rather get a reply than not, even if its a "thanks but no thanks". At least he can move onto the next profile and forget about yours.
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RHP User
16 years ago
We'd certainly rather hear a polite thanks but no thanks ourselves and we figure the template is a great tool to help us send our thanks but no thanks when we're reply to messages... Hugs... Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
yea i feel heaps cut now hahah.
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RHP User
16 years ago
big boi ur on my friends list aint u? thats not being rejected silly lol thanx again and again guys my new fave word ... thanx but no thanx lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
You have been rejected. Damn they must be picky. You look amazing. Who could say no? Their loss
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RHP User
16 years ago
so I guess no response...means u definitely not interested...grrrr oh well my loss and i know it...lol...least he got the response
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playfulminx
16 years ago
There are easy ways to reject someone without them feeling rejected. I often tell some guys that while I find them attractIVE, I am not sexually attractED to them. Other times I simply point out that we may have different play styles or may not be on the same general wavelength (ie - you're a bogan, i am not... lol) It's just so much nicer than saying 'no' staight out. No one likes to be told no. There are some people who can only respond to a good old 'NO!!' mind you lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
You are soooo right - I'd rather have a door slam in my face with a no thanks attached, than never hear back. Guarantee you wouldn't be rejected if you sent me a message!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Cassy, if you didn't reply to me I would be devastated, you are soo soo gorgeous and soooo compatible for me xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'sexycountrycpl'Just a polite "thanks but you are not what i am looking for and good luck on the site" should do It saves people wondering, it is just the politer thing to do rather then ignore them. Absolutely agree... and we write exactly that. We're not nasty about it... Just say that they're not what your looking for... but ALWAYS wish them luck with their search. We've only ever had one person write back with a negative comment. Most thank us for being honest. (MRS)
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RHP User
14 years ago
We try to reply to everyone, And some people who i have no interest doing naything with im happy to chat with.. others, when i offer talking dont even reply .. so obviously they just wanted to fuck and nothing else.. I believe it is polite to atleast let someone know your not interested, but we get a huge amount of msgs, and sometimes no time to answer them all .. Plus - the rude ones "ey, wot r u upto 2morrow, wanna meet n fuck? " with out asking how we are etc i do feel the need to ignore. Sorry, if you cant ask me how im going.. why expect politeness ?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Being Declined is much nicer than being ignored I am looking for girls only but always send the good luck in your search or Noooooooooooo Flirts to guys who try ! but find a lot of girls are not that kind to one of their 'OWN' what is with that Cassy you should never feel bad if you respond even if it is with a No ! Babe by the way your are the prettiest T I have ever laid eyes on xxx K
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