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how to catch a man,
December 10 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Someone decent to snipe with.RA
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hmmmm just being easy to talk to, confident, believing in themselves does more for me. Though I must say if they look like Beyonce Knowles, that helps too :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I found one paticular study that breaks down male/ female relationships. To keep women happy, I had to go through pages of info on being the perfect lover, gentleman, strong, understanding, compassionate, patient, kind, etc. literally pages. To keep a man happy.... Let him play with your tits. One line. That's it
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Lifes_great
13 years ago
Witholding sex....flirting with others.....being sarcastic....I'd get the hint and leave quietly
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have to say Freya each one of those examples would have me going the other way...FAST...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Playing games is just ridiculous. If I had to play games to attract a man, then I wouldn't be very good at it! As soon as a man starts playing games with me, I exit stage left.
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RHP User
13 years ago
And finally Someone else has figured out why I'm still single and it has nothing to do with my floosie ways !!! Currently practicing the old flick of hair over the shoulder and touch of fellow passengers arm litely whilst posting, on the commute train. Anything to change my single Facebook status ..rite ? Will get back to you on how these tactics work out for me ....:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Flirting with others = immediate turnoff - goodbye Withholding sex = I guess this can work but withholding any kind of passion is definitely going to be a turnoff.. But going home after having a passionate kiss does keep me looking forward to the next date. Sarcasm = depends how it's done, too negative and you'll send most guys packing
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belladonna888
13 years ago
Liking this topic , i have been wondering about this .. Wheres the line between coming on to strong , showing too much interest or not enough ? Play hard to get or to easy ? Its so hard being a woman
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RHP User
13 years ago
There was a book that was a hit by Steve Harvey (a comedian) called Act Like A Lady/Think Like a Man...I had never read so much garbage in my life! I was given this book as the person that read it found it to be rubbish and wanted my opinion on it! He has a 90 day rule...90 days before you sleep with the person you are dating!! 90 days???? Is he kidding me? . This withholding sex makes me laugh...I have even seen it written in other Threads! We are adults and if the chemistry is there on the first date or even in the first 5 minutes...I say bonk your brains out and enjoy it! xFunloviingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
On the other hand, there's three of the top 50 reasons I'm now divorced
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RHP User
13 years ago
Um Still single .....:(
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RHP User
13 years ago
Try not withholding sex with the passengers and let us know how you get on
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RHP User
13 years ago
Lasso
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' pmsl...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27'OK I've just withheld sex from all the passengers on the train from Mandurah to Perth Um Still single .....:( RHP Really needs a like button!!RA
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'RandomAgent' Quoting 'Shinasbabe27'OK I've just withheld sex from all the passengers on the train from Mandurah to Perth Um Still single .....:( RHP Really needs a like button!!RA
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RHP User
13 years ago
...sensual, playful, sexy always works for me. If you also just happen to be attractive, put a bet down at your local TAB.If you really are trying to catch a man, belt him over the head with your club then drag him back to your cave. Keep belting him until he agrees to be your slave. Being caught is better than being unconscious...or maybe not?Always bring your best game forward, it's all you've got.
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Lifes_great
13 years ago
Quoting 'Deepdarkwoods77'Try not withholding sex with the passengers and let us know how you get on
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RHP User
13 years ago
Way to go S, they'll be tearing your knickers off on the way home! ;-) KK xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
If your looking for a partner, we'd both say, be upfront, relaxed, go with the flow, easy to talk to, chatty, ask questions if you interested, dont play hard to get, stuff the games, confident and smile! There's not really alot to it... If its not working, the person you met isn't the right one anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It works, you guys can crap on all you like about how you will marry a girl if she fucks you on the first date me thinks not think of the women you havve married> and left or they left you were on an adult sex site, not here comes the bride any woman who thinks that by fucking on a frist date is a winner, is kidding themselves your still here and single, is it working for ya? I have two daughters, believe me they know the drill they see their friends open their legs for guys and then the guy runs for it after a few quick fucks. One has only had the one boyfriend and they live together but dated for many many moths before sex the other is 26 and sick to death of men with their bullshit tactics to just fuck her when they try to pick her up at a pub, hence she hardly goes to pubs. young women have to run the gauntlet of young men with the same old bull shit views they had back in my day. nothing changes hows that for sarcasim boys? I do not think sarcasim works as most the time it goes way over the head. indiference does, its like bees to honey its the challenge of the chase.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' It works, you guys can crap on all you like about how you will marry a girl if she fucks you on the first date me thinks notIf I ever think of marriage again, putting out on first date will not be one of the selection criteria.Withholding sex, to me, is using sex as either an incentive or a weapon (based on the assumption that sex either has or will occur). Mere mind games, and I ain't playing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Im a commando girl and Im still single !!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
works for me when it is clever and sharp, not blunt and crude.Sex, has it's own path with me, if it's joyous and the mental connection and desire from both is there on the first meet so be it. When it's given up for no other reason than just "coz" it has no value.Flirting with me in a cheeky sexy way is a big plus, flirting with others hmmm, if it's fun then sure, if it's being used to "make" me jealous then sorry dealbreaker.If it's fun and honest we're good, one whiff of games and manipulation and my interest falls away fast.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have to disagree with you there to a point. If a guy is really into a girl it doesn't matter whether they hold out or not. That's the fairy tale we are all taught to believe, that men only get serious about good girls. And yep, some guys have fallen for this line too. But seriously, If a man is really into you he will come get you regardless of whether you bonked on the first date or 5th.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe hold me Beer or wash my shirt and clean my floors
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RHP User
13 years ago
Men want what they can't have. Is it human nature? So play hard to get and they will chase harder. The catch me if you can game is very exciting. But at the end of the day, not having sex for a few dates does not guarantee anything as thy are still just after that elusive fuck. Are we still talking about old fashioned values? That a women that puts out on the first date is fast, loose and a slut?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Withholding sex on a first date isn't going to make a guy fall in love with you and neither will the accompanying mind games.And for the record I have fucked on a first date and - surprise, surprise - got asked for a repeat performance. Several times in fact. Result - Winner!! And am I still single? Nope. Got myself a permanent partner. Did I need to withhold sex? No, fucked like rabbits for 3 days. Did I need to flirt with others? No, but we are both big flirts and there is no jealousy. Did I need to be sarcastic? No but I have a dry sense of humour so that may have helped.Not all young men are full of bullshit. There are a lot of genuine guys out there and we women confuse the hell out of them. Let's stop with the cynical man bashing and start realising that women play games just as much or even more so than the men.
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
Be yourself, people see through fake crap pretty quick. Be upfront. Don't play any kind of games, withholding sex is BS, if the feelings right, go for it. Don't flirt with others more than you flirt with me, that implies to me on some level that you're anyone's if they make the move. Don't act like dating is rocket science, for me there are 2 ways things go- yes or no, and that's not just in a sexual context either. The word "maybe" turns me off real quick.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' any woman who thinks that by fucking on a frist date is a winner, is kidding themselves your still here and single, is it working for ya? I rarely have sex on the first date, though I've made exceptions for out-of-towners. But is being here and single working for me? Heeeell yeah!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well Freya ..as you know I decided to take it upon myself today to trial your reported theory…my eternal dedication to science and research…I’ve employed all these said method for approx. 10 hours today. I’ve flirted – I’ve batted my eyelashes so much I now have a permanent tick happening, my eyelash extension have fallen off and many a persons have enquired after the health of my eyes today…like have I developed a squint, a sty or conjunctivitis !!! …??? I’ve tossed and flicked my long ebony black hair all over the place, so much so that I look like the frigging chick in the Pantene commercial withoutt he glossy locks, Ive lost over 4387 individual hairs, not to mention putting my neck out with the whole toss/flick process I’ve pretty much touched up all my work colleagues…subtlety of course, but in that flirty way that women naturally employ …I’ve been asked by two colleagues, am I on the make ? And whose job was I after?? I’m now waiting for a class group sexual harassment suit to be lodged by the end of the week. I’ve have been a sarcastic cow all day with lots of eye rolling and continual use of the word “Whatever”….apparently no one has really noticed any difference in my demeanour by employing this technique.. And I haven’t shagged a soul all day….…………………nope not one To no avail Freya..I’m still single !!!! Accordingly, I’m now with xfunlovingx …to hell with it…if you want it..bonk it..and enjoy the ride……………cause apparently tomorrow we all die !!!! I’m returning to my skanky ways as of COB…and for those interested….I will be open to all sorts of sexual suggestions and positions on the 5.10pm train tonite - Perth to Mandurah - just make sure you tag on and off with your Smart rider… (Perth joke)
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RHP User
13 years ago
well i with hold sex the first date but if i like the guy then a good passionate kiss at the end just to let them know im interested, sarcasm no cheeky yes lol. Oh who wants to be caught anyone we arent fish lol. Oh and flirting with others just is a mind game and a BIG NO thank you. Personally myself its body language for me if a like a guy i just damn well hope they can read body language lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I salute your dedication to science,like I said in my original post,who the hell does this research? Mistress T,I fail to see how this post was man bashing but I guess it is all about perception.So to any man who feels offended I offer my apologies and promise to kiss any resulting bruises all better ,please form an orderly queue.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ive always relied on my smile. Now and then a man will look up from my cleavage and notice.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sarcasm and flirting ....2 of my favourite things.........Witholding sex......no way!! couldnt do it ;))
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' I salute your dedication to science,like I said in my original post,who the hell does this research? Mistress T,I fail to see how this post was man bashing but I guess it is all about perception.So to any man who feels offended I offer my apologies and promise to kiss any resulting bruises all better ,please form an orderly queue. As you said Freya "Who the hell does this research?"My comments on your post were tongue in cheek and meant to debunk the results.My man bashing comment was directed at others who have been doing a lot of it lately and were not directed at your post. I wasn't suggesting that you were doing any bashing but will be happy to help you deal with the queue of bruised and battered.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT' Quoting 'Freya13' I salute your dedication to science,like I said in my original post,who the hell does this research? Mistress T,I fail to see how this post was man bashing but I guess it is all about perception.So to any man who feels offended I offer my apologies and promise to kiss any resulting bruises all better ,please form an orderly queue. As you said Freya "Who the hell does this research?"My comments on your post were tongue in cheek and meant to debunk the results.My man bashing comment was directed at others who have been doing a lot of it lately and were not directed at your post. I wasn't suggesting that you were doing any bashing but will be happy to help you deal with the queue of bruised and battered. All except the bit about helping with the queue of bruised and battered....sorry, ladies, you're on your own!Nothing offensive about your OP - like you, I'm really not sure who does the studies..
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RHP User
13 years ago
thank you ,but only if I can watch
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RHP User
13 years ago
come here and pucker up
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hell no!!! Why would I want to do that? That means that I miss out then and I dont like to miss out. Sarcasm I can do...really really well!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Men want what they can't have. Is it human nature? So play hard to get and they will chase harder. The catch me if you can game is very exciting. But at the end of the day, not having sex for a few dates does not guarantee anything as thy are still just after that elusive fuck. Meeka is on to the crux of it here.It's the same for men and women - we want what we can't have.Yes, withholding sex is going to make us want it more - to an extent. Hold out too long, and we'll start to think you've got issues/are uptight/are playing games. I once had a girl I dated who told me 'blowjobs are for boyfriends'. Since I was a terribly large fan of both her AND blowjobs, you better believe we escalated it as soon as possible. Of course, that 'relationship' ended up not being a good idea, and we broke up soon after. But I think it illustrates the point quite nicely that withholding things drives us crazy (in a manipulative way, not in a good way,) or at the very least, that I'm a sucker for blowjobs (pun semi-intended.) It builds attraction, but it doesn't guarantee anything more than that.#2 on this list: flirting with other guys. Of course this will work! To an extent, that is. If she's desirable and other guys want her, we'll want her too. If she could have any guy there, how amazing will we feel that she wants us?! Of course, if she doesn't get the balance right and doesn't give us enough attention, we'll lose interest as we won't think realise she's interested. Or we'll just think she's an over the top flirt who does this with everyone and likes the attention etc.Being familiar with university psych studies, this sort of investigation doesn't surprise me at all, and I can assure you that if it was conducted at a research institution (and not a Woman's Day self-selecting poll) it will have some evidential basis. What amuses me is that these findings work on pretty much the same principle as those the 'secret to attracting women' brigade like to spout. I can't say I'm shocked more people haven't recognised it for what it is - be in control, be confident, be desirable, don't be clingy or invested in the outcome/seek approval. And its corollary: people want what they can't have.It's basic human nature and it applies to men and women.As for sarcasm: my gods a woman who 'gets' proper sarcasm has me enthralled. I never understood the phrase "sarcasm is the lowest form of wit" - it's up there as the highest, with punning and wordplay! I mean, sarcasm is a form of irony - a linguistic device we've been captivated by since Aristotle. We're not talking childish imitation here - true sarcasm involves understanding the world and subverting it to highlight its inherent absurdities. It's not negative - it's playful. It's sexy. It's fun. It's sexy. The best sarcasm makes you pause to think "wait, was that sarcastic?", and draws the thinnest of lines between those that 'get it' and those that don't.Yes, excellent sarcasm gets me hard.And I'm not being sarcastic!
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RHP User
13 years ago
... you haven't 'alf given me a good laugh with your posts today!!!! And wowwow I'll hold your beer as long as I can have 'alf. Sharing is caring ;-) KK xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not this little black duck...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Withholding sex?? I do it all the time :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' Withholding sex?? I do it all the time :p And your hand hates you for it!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Freya Thanks for the Topic.. Yes one does wonder who dreams up this crap.. Firstly People come into your life when they're meant to and for whatever reason.Stay for however long they're meant too for you both to grow.. My Opinion I'm not forcing it on Others.. 1.I believe being Secure in who you are.. and your Sexuality be true to yourself,Open to others, but not judging them does attract Guys. Then it's important to Keep their Interest but without coming on too hot n Heavy .If you plan on them sticking around to be Relationshp Material Lovers a quick romp sure go for it.. 2.Taking a little time to know eachother keeps their Interest.I Never use sarcasm or any negative approach. I've found Positive fun approaches seem to work, 1 Main thing They come to me I don't go around with a Butterfly Net trying to catch them.he!he! I had a visual then I'm of the attitude if they want to be with me Cool.Because I don't want anyone who isn't committed in some way to our Relationship on an equal basis..Enjoy Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
...now there's a scoundrel, he can catch a duck.I'm happily single and would rather just catch a ... movie.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think the first part of the study was done by christians, the rest done by twits, funded by christians :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
TRY CONTACT , MASEGING THEM BACK , BEING BEING REAL
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RHP User
13 years ago
my favourite quotes Mr.Drift: ''Perversity is always ready to consort with human nature"' ....Norman Mailer ''We strive towards what is forbidden and always desire things that are denied us''...Ovid I have a really short memory so if I am denied anything for too long I just forget what is was in the first place, and besides there is always more candy in the store...now where did I put that Mars bar ....ah yes there it is..now Tuscan ya did promise to share
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cannot agree with the withholding of sex, or stringing a man along. Sure, we want what we can't have, for a little while anyway. But it feels like a game to me, and I'm just not a fan of those. Been there, done that, and ended up frustrating myself more than the other person. The "Trust me, this hurts me more than you" thing was certainly true! Flirting with others in front of a date is not something I would do either, unless we were planning on having them join us... As for the sarcasm though, I'm totally with Drift. In a different lifetime when I had a profile on a 'regular' dating site, I had it listed as one of the top five qualities a man must posess. Sarcastic remarks made with a dead straight face, or the smallest hint of a smile, get me all hot and bothered!
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On_Safari
13 years ago
Men are hunters......it's the thrill of the chase that courses through thier blood, I mean, once the meat's dead who gets lumped with the gutting and cleaning? Yup Cavegrrrrrl..... OR as I say to my girls, "If he's still standing there after the second shot from your father's gun he's not just in it for the root." There's a bit of redneck wisdom for y'all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Those tactics would just piss me off - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
a character in a Nancy Mitford novel I would be known as the ''bolter''.
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