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fuck buddy life span
March 23 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Dear Perigrine2 Ab fab post! Gosh, I had a fb for 2 yrs, met him on this site. We discussed all the time, it was casual fb's. It was about once a fortnight. Then we started to go away on weekends. Met the parents, who lived next door (awkward). It was a fb arrangement upsized lol. It lasted 2 years approximately. I think sooner or later the situation becomes somewhat serious and either one or both parties get a little scared. In the end we were brave enough to admit, mm getting very serious and we were honest enough to realise we wanted different directions in life. The End! I don't think a fb arrangement has a timetable, well good if you can. Oh that's an awkward question. Do you have a regular fb. And it's your business? because? mm tacky question. My saying is if it is good right now and enjoyable, enjoy it now! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm not looking for more than a fuck buddy myself at the moment and was only wondering the other day how long something like that could work for. I'd guess it really depends on what each person wants and whether one of you find someone else or end up getting either attached to or bored of the other person.It'll be interesting to here other peoples stories.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had a fb that lasted 5 yrs...we chatted bout families, work etc but it was purely a sexual thing. Ms bearygood4all
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think its up to the individual and how they treat their fuck buddy, i know of one that broke her FB in one month, no warm up, wrong lube and to much to soon.then one day pop, If your gonna treat them like that make sure its made in Aussie, these imports dont seem to handle the heat.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know a guy who I see maybe once ever two months when he comes to Hervey Bay on business from Sydney. He was the very first guy that I met in person from the internet & he is also the longest fuck buddy I have had (I have known him for 3 years). The only time we will talk or catch up is when he is in Hervey Bay on business. I have never once texted, called or chatted to him once he went back home to Sydney. If he is in town he will text me, we will catch up & I then wont hear from him again until the next time he is in town. This is the silent understanding we have always had since day one & I have no problem with it. I know this may sound strange to some people but I think the only reason we have been fuck buddy's for so long is because we do not pry into each other's lifes. It is purely a sex thing. P.S - I know I am always complaining about not having a regular fuck buddy & this is because I do not consider once every 2 months regular. Taby.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm reaching 7.5 years with one, 7 with another. I don't go with 'regular FB' I chose to say 'repeat FB.' The 7.5 year one averages out to every 3 weeks over a year. The 7yr one, probably every 6 weeks.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Question... When does someone officially become a Fuck Buddy. After the first time, second time, 3 time?? What if you only see this persone 2 or 3 times a year? As for how long it lasts...?? If the sex is great, it keeps going until one of the two find a partner.Or one gets emotionally involved. Maxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
i think it should last as long as it lasts as long as your happy with the arrangement and so is he then keep going with it a lot of people on here will have a FB while they are looking for that one person to blow them away...that could take years around here lol but hey as long as your getting what you want from it...keep it going as for how regular is regular...i think thats a bit more complicated than just once a week/fortnight/month/year i think if you or him make that call that says..."hey wanna root???" and eight times out of ten the other person says..."yep come on round" then they are regular it doesnt have to be every second sunday to be regular...just whatever you are both comfortable with as for the people that ask if you have a regular FB...tell them to fuck off it has nothing at all to do with them all they need to know is your a safe sex partisipant roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
why is it everytime you are talking about banging some guys brains out i get caught up in this dreamy world of WHY CANT THAT BE ME !
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had one last for about 3 years. It suited us both as we both had busy life styles.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i think it should last as long as it lasts as long as your happy with the arrangement and so is he then keep going with it a lot of people on here will have a FB while they are looking for that one person to blow them away...that could take years around here lol but hey as long as your getting what you want from it...keep it going as for how regular is regular...i think thats a bit more complicated than just once a week/fortnight/month/year i think if you or him make that call that says..."hey wanna root???" and eight times out of ten the other person says..."yep come on round" then they are regular it doesnt have to be every second sunday to be regular...just whatever you are both comfortable with as for the people that ask if you have a regular FB...tell them to fuck off it has nothing at all to do with them all they need to know is your a safe sex partisipant roxxy Hits the Like button! xFunlovingx
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
If you are having fun, enjoy each others company and the sex is awesome then just go with the flow, as they say..Life's a journey, not a destination!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Im sorry, but you do live on the other side of Australia you know, & your a little out of my age limit.. But hey I'm cool with being forum buddies Taby.
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RHP User
15 years ago
But hey I'm cool with being forum buddies Taby. Oh, Taby... you've won my heart back! TeknoMan81
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have had a "repeat" (like that!!) fuckbuddy for over 3 yrs now. Catch ups can be anything from couple times a week to 3 mths between visits. The set up is purely sex and not always in person. We have induged in some amazing phone sex too. Works for us and who knows when or where or how it will change.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'taby001' Im sorry, but you do live on the other side of Australia you know, & your a little out of my age limit.. But hey I'm cool with being forum buddies Taby. Yeah well I will drive to whatever tiny town you're in to sample the goods. Just sayin'
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a FB I've seen on and off for 7 years now.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Perigrine2 I think you should gather as much info on this subject and publish it (entitled F.B.vs F.W.B) as I don't know that the duration is a set parameter but in your quest you could assemble enough data to approximate these questions. . Incidentally I know a F.B. couple been going for 7 years now and that would be defined as them not declaring a relationship outside sex. I imagine that would be a 'unique case' and you may be able to narrow it down to say, 5 months and 4 days and 8 hours on average....who knows? I do however take F.W.B.'s to be people engaged in sex but the 'friendship' status is varied to the 'Buddy' status in some defined co-efficient. . I have not had a F.B. or F.W.B for many years but from memory the duration was not overly long.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Maxking2010' Question... When does someone officially become a Fuck Buddy. After the first time, second time, 3 time?? What if you only see this persone 2 or 3 times a year? As for how long it lasts...?? If the sex is great, it keeps going until one of the two find a partner.Or one gets emotionally involved. Maxy For me, 7 years ago, when I started seeing those guys, I never expected them to come back (I had a wonderful self esteem then - not) Now I am pretty sure they WILL be back. I don't expect it though. So for these ones, it took me a few years to say they were FB's.Fast forward a few years, and for the last year or so, I actually ask what a guys intentions are. Does he want a one off fuck? a shag every couple of months? How long does he expect this to 'last'. I'm not overly concerned with what the answer is, as long as I know. The new guys are deemed FB's almost from the get go, coz that is why we are meeting. If they say they aspire to be a boyfriend though....er..pass. But to answer your question..I'd say that they could be termed a FB after 6 months to a year. Depends on the frequency I'd say, or what you have agreed to. But it would certainly be after 3 sessions :D gotta work out if you are compatible.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It depends on how much fucking you're doing, tied in with how much you're talking in between. A totally sexual relationship where you literally meet up, hardly say a word and just tear into each other will not become as difficult as a scenario where you sit in each others arms and pour your inner most thoughts out.A fuck buddy who you literally meet up with once a month could go on for ages, but someone you're screwing every waking moment is going to get complex because you're not getting on with your every day life.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a FB that I see once a week and have been seeing her for about 3 years now. only call or text when one of us is free for some fun
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've been looking for a repeat FB for a few months now. Still 'testing the applicants'.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have had a FB for 14 yrs, it was something that just happened at work one day and we carried it on on a regular basis every week and lasted for 2-3 hrs each time, it was purely sexual, i got a little bored with the same flavour, now we see eachother once every 6 weeks as i have other FB's now
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RHP User
15 years ago
I guess time varies as you can see from the posts.. the important question is does it remain regular and is it working - as long as you're both having fun it can be anything from a couple of playdates to several years...!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
1 of them always gets attached in my experience u r beta off not seeing lover otha than the bedroom 4 it 2 work
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RHP User
15 years ago
Holy shit, if they're dropping dead you're doing something terribly wrong.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Taby Taby Taby So close yet so far!! HAHA How bout every 2 weeks, to regular??
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had a fuck buddy who I met on here and it was pretty good but I found it felt kind of hollow. I am not sure I am the kind of guy who can just meet for a fuck. Got to be a connection, a friendship, something that adds an emotional element to the physical. I have friends with benefits who I have known for years but found my fuck buddy lifespan considerably shorter at 2 months... So I suppose the lifespan of so ethnic like that varies from person to person. Just my thoughts. Fun x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tonyerotic' Perigrine2 I think you should gather as much info on this subject and publish it (entitled F.B.vs F.W.B) as I don't know that the duration is a set parameter but in your quest you could assemble enough data to approximate these questions. . Incidentally I know a F.B. couple been going for 7 years now and that would be defined as them not declaring a relationship outside sex. I imagine that would be a 'unique case' and you may be able to narrow it down to say, 5 months and 4 days and 8 hours on average....who knows? I do however take F.W.B.'s to be people engaged in sex but the 'friendship' status is varied to the 'Buddy' status in some defined co-efficient. . I have not had a F.B. or F.W.B for many years but from memory the duration was not overly long. Time to draw up some new stat's hey T Quoting 'goldy31'1 of them always gets attached in my experience u r beta off not seeing lover otha than the bedroom 4 it 2 work I beg to differ, I have had friends that have morphed into FB's that have then turned into FWB's and we eventually ended the sex and just remained friends, and with these varies peeps, I still continue to catchup with some time to time, some span over a decade of friendship now. Somehow sharing sex with a friend, can lead to confiding in other parts of yourself, and they can be excellent confidants and just nice buddies to catchup with and chew the fat with at times, i find it is a deeper connection that is remembered, so catchups every now and then are still awesome! But in these situations, it was always clear from the beginning that that was the type of relationship it was, i believe you have to spell it out at the beginning. Friendship + Sex + Talking about it after = Awesome Close possible Long Term Relationships hehe I haven't burnt myself with people I knew as friends first, as that friendship was what is what it was based on, with a period of norti fun stuff, always fond memories
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had a FB for two years and it was GREAT!!! Looking for a new one now.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'slippery_halo'Holy shit, if they're dropping dead you're doing something terribly wrong.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG'I beg to differ, I have had friends that have morphed into FB's that have then turned into FWB's and we eventually ended the sex and just remained friends, and with these varies peeps, I still continue to catchup with some time to time, some span over a decade of friendship now. Somehow sharing sex with a friend, can lead to confiding in other parts of yourself, and they can be excellent confidants and just nice buddies to catchup with and chew the fat with at times, i find it is a deeper connection that is remembered, so catchups every now and then are still awesome! But in these situations, it was always clear from the beginning that that was the type of relationship it was, i believe you have to spell it out at the beginning. Friendship + Sex + Talking about it after = Awesome Close possible Long Term Relationships hehe I haven't burnt myself with people I knew as friends first, as that friendship was what is what it was based on, with a period of norti fun stuff, always fond memoriesI couldn't Agree more with BoobaliciousFG There is something special about sharing sex / intimacy with a friend, They may not be boyfriend / girl friend material, but they are close to you, you do care about them, and love them as a person. and from experience it does bring the relationship closer on more than one level.In Saying this tho, I do have FB's and a couple of FWB's as well. I would never compare them, as they are all for different reasons.
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RHP User
15 years ago
if one of you start to have feelings it's done just going to be awkward. i've had FB last 3 months up too 5 years looking for a new one at the momen
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'TassieRose' i think it should last as long as it lasts as long as your happy with the arrangement and so is he then keep going with it a lot of people on here will have a FB while they are looking for that one person to blow them away...that could take years around here lol but hey as long as your getting what you want from it...keep it going as for how regular is regular...i think thats a bit more complicated than just once a week/fortnight/month/year i think if you or him make that call that says..."hey wanna root???" and eight times out of ten the other person says..."yep come on round" then they are regular it doesnt have to be every second sunday to be regular...just whatever you are both comfortable with as for the people that ask if you have a regular FB...tell them to fuck off it has nothing at all to do with them all they need to know is your a safe sex partisipant roxxy Hits the Like button! xFunlovingx I've had a couple of FBs and a couple of FWBs and there is abbasolutely a difference. I agree with TassieRose that it's one of those things that shows "regular" is a very fluid idea. Every two weeks or two months is regular and as long as the people involved are happy with it, why muck up a good thing? With one of my FBs, we established an easy-out clause right at the start and we were seeing each other for about a year before we wound it up. We were both looking for someone we could call and spend the night with, no entwining of lives, just a bunch of nights like ships passing.FWBs can be a bit more complicated, I think, and my gut reaction is always that I don't want to jeopardise a good friendship by maybe complicating it with sex. In both cases it worked out OK and the times together were great but the in-between times could be a bit gruelling. Both FBs had excellent boundaries and one I now consider a great friend. The friendship grew out of our FB arrangement and I really do think that because of the boundaries we established early on and the nakedness and vulnerability we allowed ourselves in that arrangement meant that our friendship now is actually more deep and forgiving than many of my other, non-sexual, long-standing friendships are!I too, along with xFunlovingx, hit the like button!
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