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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Imagine you go to the letter box and there is a pile of junk mail...woolies...Coles....Iga same thing over and over again. You need to stand out a little. . . The Hi want a root approach hardly ever works unless you are Goerge Clooney... . . Call them by their profile name not babe. sexy, ... . . Try to make comment about something in their profile...The text before the photos...Great tits is not a good line either. Say why you like their profile perhaps you have things in common...Look at the forum posts they have made this can generate conversation. . . I should have said right from the start read the whole profile. . . You can be flirty but try to not be overly sexual in message one. Ask a question of two as well so it is more likly to get a response. . . Just my Humble opinion. . . LC

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Mrverynaughty, just try and be nice and polite. From reading previous forums, messages like "wanna fuck" or "how would you like 9 inches on meat in ya?" don't work and if I was a woman, I would be very offended in receiving a message like that from someone that I have never met. You have to remember that most women on adult dating sites get bombarded with messages and are spoilt for choice, so they are very fussy about who they will meet because they can afford to be. One stupid comment and you have got no chance. At the end of the day, if they like you. they will reply to your message and meet, if not you won't hear from them. Don't take it personally as this happens to a lot of guys on adult dating sites. Good luck.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I have found that being too eager is sometimes a little off putting. So try not putting every possible contact number (mobile, hotmail, pager and landline) on your first message. I like what LC has said about making it personal and identifying what it was about the profile you like and make sure you read the whole profile to get an idea about if you would a positive impact.   Just my thoughts.   TB

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  What LC said

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I need help. Can someone tell me how do i grant access to my private pics. Emergency!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Effort expended >\= response likely.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Dont ever called them love, babe, sexy, sweetie etc etc and I fourth what curvie said.   Pusscat xx

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  How you doin?^that *never* works. Ever. And the not-so-bright ones that keep trying it are the ones that won't read the forums!!!!!!!!!! Aaaaaaaargh! So they'll just keep trying it!!!! *headdesk*

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  A message that is newsy, flirty and a little playful with a touch of humor thrown into the mix gets me every time Cissy

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I'd tell you, but worry that if you need help to work out whether the direct "Hey sexy, when and where?" is the right or wrong approach, you might expect me to come and give you tips on on your first date too. I mean you think this messaging thing is hard... Do I invite them for Coffee or Dinner? Does red wine go better with this meal or white? Do I sit next to her or across from her? If there is a bit of spinach stuck in her teeth, do I mention it or just ignore it. If she stands up and her skirt is caught in her bum, do I pull it out or leave it there? Is it ok to just talk about my ex all night? If my favourite meal is asparagus soup and a raw herring main and I know it will my cum taste foul, should I still order it? Is it ok to wear ladies underwear, even if I haven't ticked cross-dressing on my profile? If she has watersports listed as a like, should I organise jetski hire? And if so, will a half hour make me look like a tightarse? Who pays for the meal? If I pay, should I expect payment in sex? If she pays, will she expect payment in sex? Oh the list is endless.... . Best thing to do here is post some of the messages you have sent, and the ladies can provide some feedback.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I think there is a movie or book or both that's a bit like this...one guy writes notes for another and in the end well, you'll just have to find out for yourself as I don't want to give away the plot. | Probably the one thing to remember is that every woman on here regardless of the type of site that this is.....is unique and actually a living breathing person just like anyone else. Read the profile and hope there is something there to go on, look behind those little clickety tab thingys to see if your likes and dislikes match up then look at the pics if any. |Then comes the scary part...just be yourself. Here's a little hint about the way the plot goes...in the end they meet and well, you only get to take you along then. | Ask a question and remember there are only three answers to any of them...yes, maybe and no. If you don't get the last one as the answer (and always accept it if that's what it is) then odds are still 67% in your favour. If you don't get an answer at all, don't worry about it...there will be another thread popping up here soon about why women don't answer every message they are sent and you can tell them off then. That stuff about the squeaky wheel getting greased first doesn't work...but the "Block" tab on your profile does and they use it. | Good luck and have fun.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'bbwhound' I need help. Can someone tell me how do i grant access to my private pics. Emergency!When you send a message look in the toop right hand corner there is a drop box that allows you to do that :)

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