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finding men for wife

December 06 2012

mmf

Ok.....so im just going to put it out there..... Im really wanting to find a good looki g, well endowed man to join my wife and i. The problem is......i know my wife wants to do it....but how do i let her know its going to happen without her freaking out??

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Why would she freak out if she knows it is going to happen? Also you would have a better chance of finding her a guy if you sign up as a Couple and not a single male! xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    You say you know your wife wants it, but at the same time you're worried she may freak out. That makes me wonder if you two have actually discussed this openly. Could you give us some more info?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    just surprise her for Xmas,say you have invited Santa over,open the door and there he is,just wearing a cute hat and a very,very large bow.She will be thrilled.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...about the naked man hiding in the closet that about to jump out and scream 'Surprise...let's fuck'.The bedroom is the 2nd most likely place in the house where accidents happen, avoid all dangerous behaviour and she'll be right and raring to go.Or not.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Organise a night of drinking and dancing with your wife - organise a guy to meet you there, and without your wife knowledge, have him flirt, buy her drinks, dirty dance and whisper compliments in her ear - if she looks I've at you with that "help me" look, just give her the nod of approval :-) and keep doing whatever.... If she doesn't take him up on the offer that night, tell her how turned you were watching her and take her home and fuck her like you never have before! It'll take time, maybe a few more nights of the same, different guys of course - but guarantee shell become addicted to the attention, and nature will take its course.... Good luck!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'BomChickaWahWah'Organise a night of drinking and dancing with your wife - organise a guy to meet you there, and without your wife knowledge, have him flirt, buy her drinks, dirty dance and whisper compliments in her ear - if she looks I've at you with that "help me" look, just give her the nod of approval :-) and keep doing whatever.... If she doesn't take him up on the offer that night, tell her how turned you were watching her and take her home and fuck her like you never have before! It'll take time, maybe a few more nights of the same, different guys of course - but guarantee shell become addicted to the attention, and nature will take its course.... Good luck!   Weve talked about it, put it out there but trying to find an approach to help us get over the nervous uncomfortable feeling LOL......(would also help too if guys say they are happy to proceed, actually go through with it LOL)....but were not into rushing it and hoping we find that ONE patient and considerate straight chap who is open to exploring with us ......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    If your wife wants to do it, she wouldn't get freaked out. Is this her fantasy or yours????

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    how do you 'know' she wants this? if she 'freaks out'....wouldnt that be a pretty fair indicator that she doesnt really 'want' this? do it properly....join as a couple and include her in every single step of the journey, if you dont, you may find the idea bites a great big piece out of your ass..... just sayin..... spring it on her and you run the very real risk of doing irreperable damage to your relationship.......been there done that.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    You made the first mistake at thinking YOU know what she is after...I think you need to discuss it more first as the poor dude that turns up may get rejected..your version at"good looking well endowed"may be totally different to what she's is after..if she's even after anything.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Don't just assume that all fantasies in the bedroom have a need to be fulfilled, some are just fantasies and that is where they will stay... gladly. You need to firstly find out if this is something she really wants to realise, and take it from there.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    all ladies love the attention, organise a man or men to flirt with her discretly if she responds positivily proceed, if she does not you know it was not meant to happen. obvioulsy you have to find her type of man.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I think your wife needs to create her own profile if she really wants to do it......and in the profile somewhere she could mention...."my husband will be screening potential candidates".

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Enigmaoflove' I think your wife needs to create her own profile if she really wants to do it......and in the profile somewhere she could mention...."my husband will be screening potential candidates".     i agree, if you know she want to play with others just ask. if she is embarred about it like i know many women who are as they think they are cheating. leave it alone. if you want it to happen and she does as well it will, but only if you are both open and honest and talk about it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    We recently heard about this word from a friend and immediately looked it up and was suprised to find that is what Mr Devil likes to do. I (Mr Devil) did try to set up Mrs Devils when she was out one night with 2 males to take advantage or her and spoil her and see if she would choose one while I was doing a nightshift, however this didn't eventuate as the club that Mrs Devil went into, the guys didn't get allowed in lol. It can be a lot of fun but tricky trying to suprise somone :) As we have been with others in the past we hadn't tried this, but we know we can trust one another and it was something we have fantasied about too, but harder then what it seems to organise. Especially trying to find a guy that is ok looking, well mannered and actually free and keen to do this. Unfortunately a lot of guys on here aren't as single or free as they say they are and aren't as good looking or well hung as they say they are lol, so good luck :) Will be interested to see how you go???

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hi! John :) Geez1 you know how to open a can of worms with your Partner don't you .. 1st of all I suggest you both sit down talk about this Logically. Jot down what you're expectations are from both of your views . Once you agree totally then go check out the Guys together.. Even put up a couples Profile so Guys know what they're in for.. .You both can be excited by the Prospects of a Guy your Partner is lusting over joining you .. plus you get turned on by her reaction or Not! In the light of day this maybe your fantasy and possibly hers, that should remain just that. `I don't feel you're quite mature enough to handle this in reality.. Cheers Lu :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I agree with many of the people above. Talk to your wife. Tell her what turns you on and ask her about whether making love to a new handsome man would turn her on. She will think it is a set up and suspect that you are only offering this so you can screw around. Be patient and don't push her and eventually she will believe you and will actively start looking for men herself. The process can take years but can be shortened if she meets the right man Best of luck R

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Why cant she just look for herself? That way she can let you know, OP, who what and where......- Posted from rhpmobile

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    13 years ago

    What we have here is a total lack of communication..... if you go through with it before discussing it with her the result will either be ...She'll have a blast and love it...or you'll be looking for a new woman! Good Luck!