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excuses
September 23 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I cann't say I give excuses as I don't usually get much contact. I just went to look at your profile and it seems to me you are the sort of woman most of the guys on here are looking for. Are these on first dates? or have you met the person/s previously. Its all a bit strange as I will usually say if I don't want to see you and why, so if these guys are giving excuses it seems they are trying to keep in the good books so they can see you again. However they could be married and trying for a bit on the side and the cacellations are because the missus has their eye on them. Good luck and if you are sick of young men treating you poorly give me a run. Mike
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RHP User
13 years ago
The messages sent and received gets hot and heavy, agree and set to meet, I send a message to confirm on the day, and..... ~tumbleweed blowing in the desert~ Nothing! Not even an excuse, they just fall off the earth. Oh well, NEXT!
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RHP User
13 years ago
If someone bails on me - and it happens often - I wasn't meant to meet them. The universe knows where I should be headed and if I get bumped in a different direction I'm happy to go with the flow. Finding the positive in a negative situation makes everything easier to take. Don't be concerned - just think of it as the universe looking out for you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! BellaS :) Thanks for the Topic :) I've had similar but it happend twice with the same Guy.. His Mate drove him here but he got ansy so My Guy made it for another day ..Then the Mate just happend to turn up 10mins before he was leaving..I didn't bother with him too attatched to his Mate I think he!he!.. Mainly I get the No excuse because they don't bother to ring leaving me Ready Willing Waiting to catch up for someone who's a No Show.. I think it's very Inconsiderate ,Disrespectful, Bad Manners.. What does it take a 5min text earlier that day to say sorry I can't make it.It's a No Brainer! Atleast we can make alternative plans if we wish instead of the time being wasted... I agree with Keeping Karma..The Universe does tend to point us in the right direction ..So go with your Intuition Plus..Get them to let you know a cut off time before hand if they're coming or not.. If no reply by then ..Treat it as not going to Happen that way you aren't stood up! You can make alternative Plans..Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had them from you bella... one time you said you ended up in hospital on the night of the date and the other time it was that time of the months just set in on that day.Hmmm... you get what you dish out I suppose.Happy dating!
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RHP User
13 years ago
hi bella i tried to send you message please respond on [email protected] plz thanks
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razor2000
13 years ago
Maybe it's a WA thing
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RHP User
13 years ago
sound like excuses thet married/attached guys use...... only its the daughter/son/wife who's had the accident, even tho they swear on 3 stacks of bibles they are single..... and had no family within a 1000 kms.....lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I give them one chance, a benefit of the doubt because there have been times when I messed up and did a re:date/meet, but if it was a constant cancel then that is a good thing because you can strike them off your list of reliables. I guess I have been lucky as (in the past) I would have had one maybe two no shows the rest reliable.
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
FYI Ocean airing dirty laundry via the forums just sounds like sour grapes, NOT cool Quoting 'ocean57' I had them from you bella... one time you said you ended up in hospital on the night of the date and the other time it was that time of the months just set in on that day.Hmmm... you get what you dish out I suppose.Happy dating!
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
Yep you get cancellations (life can get in the way of fun sometimes) sometimes the reasons sound like excuses sometimes the excuses sound like reasons..............If someone cancels on me once i take it as genuine if it happens more than twice i generally give up and move on, having said that i have had to reschedule on people before for genuine reasons and have then been told i am just a time waster (which of course is thier loss as far as i am concerned) I make no secret of the fact that i have a life outside of RHP which means i have a Husband, 3 kids and a full time job which all come ahead of meeting people on here so if something comes up i am going to cancel BUT when i can make it i make it worthwhile, if that makes me a timewaster then so be it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
had a classic one the other day - he had to cancel cos his room mates gf was bringing dinner over for them... told him not to expect another offer....
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RHP User
13 years ago
They seem like very plausible excuses to me, being in hospital sounds serious, having ones period, well if you were a woman you would understand the inconvenience and discomfort of it all, plus some women have trouble that time of month, sorry you seem so bitter you have to put your personal attack upon this thread. We all at times may have to pull out of arranged dates, life happens we all have to deal with it then move on.
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RHP User
13 years ago
But I'm with ocean on this Before the Op opens a forum bitching about excuses, should probably look at her own actions first Ocean mate, she gave me the EXACT same excuses Must be her standard lines Colourblind. Save your typing fingers
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RHP User
13 years ago
is all about timing and inclination.As long as they let you know they can't make it ,does't really matter what the excuse is.However it can be very annoying and frustrating if you are all dressed up with nowhere to go....or naked in hotel room all moist with anticipation.....then there is only one thing to do......order room service
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RHP User
13 years ago
Had a regular thing going with an amazing RHP couple, and it was great!Then I suggested something ..... a bit different ..... and pretty way out there.This couple said "Hey, yeah, We'd be into that if we can arrange it!" type thing, and I as willing to do my part!Didn't hear for a while ....... turns out they gave it a go with someone else first!Saw them again but it didn't feel right any more and so started making bullshit excuses not to meet ..... felt second class but didn't want to offend so purposely drifted away.There's sometimes a reason .......
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is that if we put up a post then the people will see that the "Emperor does not really have new clothes" Sometimes we deserve a little egg on our face and I am sure Bella is a big enough to cop it in the chin if someone outs her. we are all grown ups in this sand pit, right? Besides both men may have contacted her at the same time, so the reasons could be exactly as she said. I am guilty myself of saying no can meet , but I always tell them on the phone that I have changed my mind. Its not very often as I usually am pretty straight up and not a lot of time between text and meeting. I do not get many no shows, did when I first started but now I am a heat seeking missile with what I want. I love the “my mate excuse” yada yada, seems that men all have the same mate. Like me and my phone a girlfriend or the kids need something, that’s the phone call a woman gets ten minutes into the date. If she likes you she will say ohh yeah yep its ok. If she does not then some emergency will ensue. We all have our escape routes and no body can blame anyone for that but just to no show and no text is plain inconsiderate. If they are like that out of bed, it will match to how they perform in bed All talk and no action , or selfish fucks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
LOL at the room service comment..The last excuse I got was "You sound a bit keen". I texted back saying "Hey I'm a little disaponted, but that's cool and I'd be an odd bloke if the thought of a young woman contemplating a fling with an older man did not make me a bit keen. You take care."That was January. At the end of March, out of the blue, I get "Hi It's me, I know it's selfish but I just want some safe, fun, casual sex with a man who possibly knows how to hold a woman..." How's about we share so neither of us feels selfish, I suggested.Funny how not burning bridges is a good idea.. :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
For your information Ocean I was in hospital!!!! I think the excuses are funny. I give 2 chances before I move on, as some of the guys ive met can tell you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have been stood up 3 times, no excuse, no nothing, just profile evaporates or I found myself blocked, the trip to the city hotel pissed me off a bit but really their loss !
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't normally reply to these but reading yours ocean and the way you are sounding off....yes you get what you dish out... 1 'my daughter got sick' ok fair enough I have kids too. 2 'I got busy' mmmmm 3 'my daughter got attacked by a peoadophile and I have been with the police all day' absolutely disgusting disgraceful excuse! 3 strikes n your out please stop sending me flirts I am not interested. Happy dating :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Look on the bright side at least you are making a few dates :) but in all seriousness, I have had to cancel at the last minute three times, twice because my son broke his arm (same arm but a year apart) and once owing to illness. On each occasion my reason was accepted at face value. If you are getting the same excuses from multiple guys, maybe you need to change the way you "screen" them, perhaps at the first couple of messages or perhaps on the phone. There really is no excuse for cancelling without a reason, it is shitty behaviour from a man or a woman, and both sexes seem to do it. C'est la vie perhaps? Don't let it stop you from getting out there and having fun though! Never say die! Never surrender!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ocean57' I had them from you bella... one time you said you ended up in hospital on the night of the date and the other time it was that time of the months just set in on that day.Hmmm... you get what you dish out I suppose.Happy dating! Well Bella your loss as we met for coffee and he took me home and the sex was awesome. Great man and a gentleman who has a great cock and know's how to use it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
if i talk to someone and it gets all hot and heavy the last thing i wanna do is make excuses i always do what i say
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'lindy69' Quoting 'ocean57' I had them from you bella... one time you said you ended up in hospital on the night of the date and the other time it was that time of the months just set in on that day.Hmmm... you get what you dish out I suppose.Happy dating! Well Bella your loss as we met for coffee and he took me home and the sex was awesome. Great man and a gentleman who has a great cock and know's how to use it.
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N4November
13 years ago
I think ocean was stating his (lack of) experiences with the OP which is ironic!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just admit it...you had a better offer??
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RHP User
13 years ago
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