dating question on a sex site

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  well i recon the 4rth date will tell u if your ready to hav sex but there shouldnt be any rush unless u just want to hook up then go for it, if u think it could turn into a relation ship take it slow iots the safest bet, merry christmas to u too!!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  This is one of those how long is a piece of string questions. I think the short answer is, when you are comfortable to progress to the next step.There used to be the old "if she doesn't put out in three dates"  dump her rule, but thats just dumb, any guywho applies that to you is only after sex.There is no right or wrong answer, no magic formula, the only person who will knows when its right is you!Good luck Velvet, hope it works out for you. Trust your instinct, your a grown woman, not an 18yo.Cheers Nev

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  And a very merry Christmas to you too.... Dear Velvet its nice to know that you've just come out of the cloisters... twenty nine and still figuring out dating? Well that was my first impression on seeing your question on a sex site full of swingers, friends with benefits and no strings attached. I take it you're looking for love... and with Valentines Day coming up soon... I do hope you find what you seek. Instinct often tells what a person's true motivation is and where things are heading... with often the hands doing the talking. My humble thoughts are the little voice within must be telling how you feel about him, where you would like it to go and which journey this should take. How much romance and genuine affection being big influencing factors on how rapid things move... Wishing you a happy outcome....

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If it feels right, then there's no reason why you can't have sex on your next date! Woo Hoo!! Its not 1950.   The most important thing (from a male's point of view) is that you should never make a guy feel as though he is being tested, or that the girl is the sole dictator of how fast the relationship progresses.   If you want to have sex, and he wants to have sex, why complicate things by NOT having sex?? Its a pretty simple formula.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I know how I personally feel about it (my rules for me) but it is my understanding that men in fact do not care when a woman chooses to sleep with them. If you have sex on the first or second date, if they really like you, they're coming back for more of YOU and will not see you as merely an easy lay. Do it whenever you're comfortable and when you feel it is right in the given situation.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If you know what you want from the person your going to sleep with. When your comfortable. When you feel its right. If something doesnt feel right dont do it...wear protection if you do.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Personally I believe sex between two consenting adults should always be discussed, rather than one side trying to mind-read what the other wants ! Both men and women do this.  If we keep it simple and express how we feel about the relationship then the timing doesn't matter.  (I was going to try and give an example of what to say but every example I wrote sounded soooo cheesy that I gave up ! I think it needs to be a spontaneous discussion NOT a rehearsed one.)   I think if you want sex and you know the guy wants sex but you're holding out because you don't want him to not take you seriously AND you don't communicate this with him, then you risk being a game-player.    Dating is a lot about trial and error.  But it's better to do something than do nothing out of fear.   xx Ms Saturn

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I whole heartedly agree with MsSaturn... discussion is the key. There is no magic number here, it all depends on how you BOTH feel about it.  Discuss it with him... put it to him that...   hey it's one of those things isn't it... you never know when is the right time... tell him that you are keen on him, but not sure how he might be feeling... be prepared for the "I thougt you'd never ask..".    If he's a true gentleman then he will listen and wait.  If he's just after a root then he might not be the one you want longer term.   As I said - talk to him.. talk openly... what have YOU got to lose here?   Wayne PS - good luck VB - let us know how it works out.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  well i was up front from the beginning that I wasnt interested in jumping into bed we have had 3 dates first he kissed me on the cheek  second we kissed goodbye  third a little more cheeky but still comfy and fun  we are having our 4th tomorrow now he still thinks that sex is a long way off and because he is not expecting it I dont feel under pressure so it is all good and I am being a little cheekier   I am a very upfront person he actually laughed at me for how direct I am but said it was good cause he knows where he stands   I think the simple fact here is if he isnt that into me he wont keep in contact so one step at a time it is

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