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confidence
February 17 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
The amazing ability to remember selectively. There's no point being overly self critical (I keep telling myself this so it must be right). As for turning things around, I hit the reset button by going to gym or a nudie beach or some mindless physical activity that increases dopamines. Sometimes that doesn't work. Sometimes overwhelmingly so but there are drugs for that. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
MM Chilli nicked my answer !!! with you on that one Chilli..love my shoes At 47 years old, I 've taken up pole dancing ( I used to dance when younger - ballet, jazz etc) and I love it..apart from the obvious benefits of the work out - toning up and losing weight etc - it also builts core strength (leave Pilates for dead) and trust me you have no idea how fit those ladies..complete respect for them..complete. But what I do love is for a hour each nite , after work ( I go 5 times a week) I am a totally different of my "normal" persona... I am flirty, fun, sexy, sleazy, suggestive, playful and down rite "working it" - best confidence booster ever !!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
..taking a deep breath....saying 'righto'....and getting on with life..... life is what you make it, or allow it to be...and for us, theres 'happy' in just about everything we experience, so very rarely, if ever, actually get to feeling 'low'......
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RHP User
14 years ago
...Armani suits, leather jackets, levis and hand-crafted cowboy boots. | Guitars...electric and acoustic, they help too.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I was always very shy and slow to warm up to new people and found it hard to do the chitchat get to know you thing. I'd constantly be analysing everything I said and everything they said and feeling socially inept because the conversation wasn't flowing easily.I had to force myself to get out there and give it a shot and keep forcing myself to do it again and again ~ the alternative was staying home sexless and therefore not a viable option.The first few times were either very very awkward or very very direct "I like XYZ, you like XYZ, awesome! Let's fuck cos then I don't have to struggle through a conversation anymore!" but after I'd fucked them I could relax and converse like a normal human so by persisting I kinda got used to having those conversations and was eventually able to gather a few 'stock' questions and answers I could fall back on if I got stuck.I have worked out that shy guys who can't converse are not my thing tho, I feel like that's too much pressure on me and it's wearing and not fun. Guys who can talk and make jokes are definitely are my preference and I find I can hold my own with them rather than having to carry the whole thing like I would with a shy guy.Oh and stockings, suspenders and a corset are my go-to sexy 'shield', I can't walk in stilettos :)xx Sarah
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RHP User
14 years ago
I used to be so intimidated by smart educated women, so I got myself an edumication. That gave me a little bit more confidence in myself. Sexual confidence comes with letting go of convention and trying not to be anyone else but yourself. Knowing that we are all dust in the end, so pin your ears back and live it to the full. A wise man told me not to give up my power to anyone. People can only make you feel bad about yourself if you let them. Live in the now Get a Teflon coat over your self and do not catch other peoples shit,let it slide of you. Do the things you love, like the others on here do, that make you feel happy I do my art and also am going to get back into belly dancing. I stopped as I felt to old but now I think stuff it , I will join the old girls shake it all about team, and just have a fun time. The benefit of old age is your allowed to make a fool of yourself, its a wonderful freedom. And finally “Known the world will end as you know if you fart in bed with a lover.”> It may end for him but not for you :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
When I finally stopped trying to fit in the box of what a 30 something woman should be and should be doing (what society tells us anyway) and accepted my sexuality and who I am and stopped caring what other people thought. Also to the lady who does pole, I also do lessons, so so much fun and what a confidence boost, def helps a girl love herself and her body and all its glorious lumps and bumps. :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Amyone interested in a good sturdy pole, I.m. Me. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
He has seen me through some very difficult times with strength and loyalty.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have a pussy which smells nice, tastes nice and does the job................I give an amazing blow job.................and I'm an adorable poppit!!!!! Bahahahahahahaha!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I arree totally...You have to be comfortable with yourself. It does not matter what others say if you dont love the skin you are in then you will never truly he happy & confident
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RHP User
14 years ago
If I'm having one of 'those' days, you know the ones right? Feeling a bit premenstrual, having a rubbish day at work, wishing you didn't indulge quite so ferociously into the chocolate drawer to combat that PMS...I take a walk, head up, shoulders back, a little swagger in my walk and a flirty smile at the next available man I walk past...invariably, I'll get turned head....and that's enough to hit the re-set button and I'm all good.Mrs Addy
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RHP User
14 years ago
Did I mention REALLY smart and a legend in my own lunchbox?Ooh! and FUNNY as all get up, FUNNY ha ha not funny weird......although...
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RHP User
14 years ago
...get very comfortable in your skin. | Quoting 'LittleMissMish'... if you don't love the skin you are in then you will never truly he happy & confident. | It might even help my confidence, what with me being the shy retiring type that I am. Seriously, I was bashful...once. | Of course I was a virgin once too.
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RHP User
14 years ago
My secret to confidence is.. That I assume every1 thinks I'm simply irresistible until I have hard evidence proving otherwise:D lolz
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RHP User
14 years ago
...comes with maturity.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Realising that I control my emotions and can switch them on and off and so it's me that picks myself up not the validations and attention of others (it's only recent, actually its transitional ;)Cass xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
'yours is the energy that makes your world. there are no limitations to self except those you believe in'my answer....... change your state of mind, work out what makes you happy and then back it up by following through with those thoughts..... treat yourself!!...... shift your intention and get your head in the right place first, and the rest will follow....... you are your thoughts!!! well..., the thoughts you listen to anyway
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RHP User
14 years ago
There is not one thing that will give me confidence when I feel low. My low times are never due to a lack of confidence anyway. I am comfortable in my own skin and know my own worth. The opinions of another do not matter to me in the least and this helps. I actually like who I am. I can look in the mirror every day and someone I like looks back. My family and frineds know me and love me for who and what I am. To me that is all that matters. The opinion of a stranger means diddly squat Ask yourself if you are going to remember this exact moment in ten years time. If the answer is "NO" then it really does not matter at all.
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RHP User
14 years ago
For me, the issue of confidence is an issue of choice: You can wear your baggy jeans, OR the hot dress which you know clings to all the right places; You can huddle at home, miserable after a break up, OR you can tilt your head up and know that you will find someone better; You can eat a pint of Ben & Jerry's, OR you can go to the gym and go to that Zumba class you've been wanting to try out for ages. Bottom line is, cliched as it is, is simply to believe in yourself. Whether for you it's wearing those killer heels or getting a new haircut that really frames your face properly, anything that puts even the smallest spring in your step is going to make a difference.
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