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breaking point
November 26 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had yet some more "thank you but no thanks"replies to job applications. I was threatened with legal action for doing what I thought was the right thing. I checked the bank account and wished I hadnt. I fell out with a friend of mine simply because of the mindset I was in. ( Sorry D) So that was a big F**k it day for me. The next morning I realised that there were better days to come. We all have days when everything seems to look hopeless or go wrong. But you know what....tomorrow is a new day. Always count your blessings and thankfully I have those in abundance xx
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Bitter and twisted first wife after separation found out about my cross dressing and bisexuality. Combined with her new boyfriend, made a blackmail demand. Forgo all access to your son and forfeit your share in the family house (equiv to $400,000 today) or all your friends, workmates and family will know. A very low point and at breaking point. The S word was thought about. But i thought fuck the 2 of you. I went to the police. Secret recordings were made. Charges were considered against them. Strange that the proceedings were dismissed. I'm sure the fact that she was an ex assistant to a police inspector had nothing to do with that. Funny that she was also had just become a born again baptist christian. Surviving breaking points make you stronger. You just got to work through it. But it gets very dark at the time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That don't completely break you will transform you...2007 -2009 were two of the worst years of my life...But those events in the long run helped me understand that I was not defined by my work and status...I am now enjoying my life more than ever xxFreya
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I think we've all (each and everyone of us) have had breaking points and bad shitty days. I believe the key is not to play victim (poor me) and let built up frustration over ride the ego, as that will not get one far. Acknowledging those feelings and not act out on them-take control of them I think is the key. It's ok to have thoughts. It's ok to say what ever it is you feel. I believe the key is to rebuild confidence back, change mind set, get rid of those angry feelings and have a good bottle of bubbles (with friends) to celebrate all the good days what life has to offer...well that's what I do. Ms Fox
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RHP User
10 years ago
Daily. But when you crawl into bed at the end of the day there is nothing you can do about anything at that point of space and time. Whatever is happening outside of the bedroom is not your problem. You need your sleep to deal with again tomorrow and the hope that the next day brings new friends, hope and laughter. Fingers crossed.
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compressor
10 years ago
Well said Ms Fox
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Bob Marley's "Everything's Gonna Be Alright". Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
To true everyone...thank you.....its a new day
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tylannister
10 years ago
My personal favourite is a song from The Presidents of the United States called "Twig". It has the line, "Shoulder-high in crap and my water-wings are flat!" Yep. That is the feeling.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For me those are the days that I go to the Rifle range. Its incredibly therapeutic to pull out a high powered rifle and punch holes in targets out to 1000m. And its a skill that takes constant practice. There are days when I know I'll never be able to shoot at 1000m and those days I might settle for 300 or 600m, but the focus required to put that round down range time after time knowing that the only person who can make a difference is me, helps to flush away all the bad shit at let me focus on what I need to do right then and there. Interestingly I always come away feeling much much better about the world. favourite song when I"m sitting at the range: The Cruxshadows - Winterborn. Another good song by the same band - Valkerie AJ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thankfully, I don't tend to get to that point as much as I used to, but I've found that my "f¥ck it" point is most often brought on by an onslaught of a lot of little things that are out of my control. I tend to cope better with big dramas, but when I get piled up with stressed and pressures from others' incompetence, or inability to meet deadlines and fulfil their responsibilities. What gets me through? Deep breathing. Good loud music. Friends. A good bottle of red and a hot bath before a good night's sleep. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I cant say I have reached that point in over 10 years, but I do have days when you just get ground down.Days when pressure & stress mount and things feel very hard.days when there just are not enough hours in the year to do your days work, kids need stuff , bills to pay , deadlines, house chores, pets, kids, bills, cleaning, family , extended family....blah bl;ah I am sure we are all the same For me I punish the shit out of myself, I head to the park and will do sprints until I just cant run anymore. It might be 45 mins it might be an hour but once I just cant push another burst of speed out into my legs I know I am done.I will do it regardless of the time I just do it then walk home clear my head and I feel a million bucks.best part is a sleep like a baby and the next day is a fresh start I have done this for a very long time and now I look forward to doing it Strange I know but it work for me
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
Mr Q here. Like a battleship I try to have sealed compartments, work, home, friends etc. When I feel one area is full of shit I can escape to the other for respite. My whole life is rarely full of crap unless I choose to let, my reaction to work flow into my home life, or I take arguments with teenagers to work with me. And best of all, we have made some great friends in the swinging scene, and I don't think there is anything that if I needed to, I could not share with them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... mines ...' If I can just get through the night' ... Phoebe Snow 89' . .... it'll be better in the morning light ... la la lala la
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I had yet some more "thank you but no thanks"replies to job applications. I was threatened with legal action for doing what I thought was the right thing. I checked the bank account and wished I hadnt. I fell out with a friend of mine simply because of the mindset I was in. ( Sorry D) So that was a big F**k it day for me. The next morning I realised that there were better days to come. We all have days when everything seems to look hopeless or go wrong. But you know what....tomorrow is a new day. Always count your blessings and thankfully I have those in abundance xx What sort of work are you looking for ? ..... maybe RHP can help you SEEK
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RHP User
10 years ago
What doesn't kill you will make you stronger, once read this and it really rings true for me. Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal;it strengthens, tempers, intensifies but never destroys it.
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MissBishere
10 years ago
Played really loud is kick me by sleeping with sirens.... Fanfuckingtastic 😬
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RHP User
10 years ago
Then I might just throw up the hands and say .. fuck it... do it yourself you ungrateful - - - - - ..
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RHP User
10 years ago
How much tolerance I have for life's bullshit depends on my mood in the moment. Some days the slightest hiccup will have me clenching fists and teeth and begging for patience. Other days it all just rolls off my shoulders. The days I remember as being shockers in the past have been from multiple irritants piling up, that feeling like every element of your life is broken or messed up in some way all at the same time: work, friendships, finances, health, family, home. Sometimes they all shit themselves at once, that's when I say fuck it and give up on everything, usually in a mess of tears. But life never gives up on me, I just keep waking up to birds singing and pretty sunrises, the relentless joy of being alive doesn't let me rage quit when things get heavy. Thanks life, gotta hand it to you, you're certainly determined. May pretty skies, singing birds and accidental smiles be with you all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
for me has been one big long breaking point. It has tested my resolve and broken my marriage. Hopefully the Come February I'm out the other side and free to grow again. The actual point of snap was last xmas day. All I wanted was a beach xmas holiday which ended up just going to the beach on xmas day. We never got there. A massive fight started before lunch and that was pretty much it.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Yep I've had quite a few of the fuck this shit, I give up, I'm done, breaking point days in the last few months. I tend to lock myself in my room, think a lot, cry, listen to music, think some more, long deep breaths then try and remember that things will get better and it could always be so much worse....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
No not the exercise. I walk out of undesirable situations, once the bullshit level has passed a level which which I am prepared to tolerate. Rarely though. But it has included leaving during the middle of a conversation, leaving a social outing early, and leaving jobs. I never "snap" in an aggressive or angry manner, maybe it's good to sometimes, but for me even feelings of being extremely pissed off just end up manifesting as feelings of sadness and isolation. ... To lighten the tone - a funny phrase that gets around sometimes: "Stress. The confusion caused when one's mind overrides the body's natural desire to choke the living shit out of someone that desperately deserves it!"
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RHP User
10 years ago
^ Typo above :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
This year has been filled with some incredible highs and some soul destroying lows. The last 4 months have been some of the worst, but yesterday I finaly said fuck it, I give up. This was followed by a 14 hour lunch with copious amounts of alcohol and I danced my booty off with some great people until 2am to an incredible band. Today I have a terrible hangover and my feet feel like they don't belong to me but my heart feels lighter. Onwards and upwards, I'm ready for the next chapter of my life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Having reached my breaking point....literally........in my 20s I now recognise the signs when I have to say 'fuck it' early and walk away before I break. In the UK I drove. For miles, to new places in the middle of the night singing at the top of my voice. God knows what the fox's though as I'm a terrible singer. Here in Oz I walk.......for kms sometimes. Talking it through in my mind until my sensible side gives me the right answer. Head over heart etc! Self preservation is a wonderful thing but having no feelings for anyone else is worse. So I walk for clarity of mind, to maintain a sense of feeling and it works for me.
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SassyRascal
10 years ago
In the old days when I had a shocker of a day I would head out for an Anger Management session......... Straight to the driving range to belt a huge bucket of balls!! Each one would have a name on it of who had pissed me off. I remembering having the white knuckle grip till I slowly calmed down!! My friends used to laugh when I said I'd been to anger management sessions heehee
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RHP User
10 years ago
Walk it out. I walk when i'm happy, walk when i'm sad, when things really get on top of me, you guessed it, reach for the shoes. I can also recommend swimming in the ocean, it's amazing. I've been in a very low place, and it scares me hearing stories on here, knowing how close that line is, where you just think you're a waste of space, so low that you can't tell anyone. There are always people in the world that care, even on here, you're not alone. But it took me a long time to pull out of it. Hang in there, it will get better, the light will shine again - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
To be clear, in my past, just thought I should clarify that - Posted from rhpmobile
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