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best way to loose your couples/ threesome virginity
June 03 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
We have never looked for fmf 3 somes so cant help with that. But as for couples. We gradually explored must be over 8 years now enjoying each part of our journey together. Starting with just chatting on line swapping photos .....12 mths Cam sex etc ........6-10 months. Meeting couples ....maybe 15 couples over 18 months and not taking it further, then one conversation we can remember from some experianced swingers they said "They must be a pretty ugly lot you guys are meeting to not get it off with one of the fifteen couples you have met!" Same room sex with our own partners with other couples ..... 10 months, the first couple we really clicked they were lovely but the male half went and died the day after our 1st experiance, we put it down to we excited them too much! Last 3 yrs full swap, tried seperate rooms a couple of times, now only ever same room. Experimented a couple parties and thats not us nor the club scene. Problems: We are allways still nervous when meeting couples that we have decided to play with, which is a good trait we think. Anything less than a full swap we find a tease now and wont go there. Male performance issues, others cant get hard, blow in a couple mins, below 5 inches we feel we should be told! most of this we dont accept because Viagra does overcome these issues. The wife gets really upset and we have a rule, if the other guy cant perform / blows early I go back to my wife, which has met with negative remarks from the other girl. But swinging there are 4 players! Taking one for the team: Opposite problem, hot guy and really awfull wife after 5 minutes just could not do it any longer, So we both have to like otherwise no swap.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I jumped right into the deep end. Poor somewhat innocent me decided to go to a swingers party last year hosted by SalAndy (host awesome party's by the way). It was a real eye opener and I had a lot of firsts that weekend. I was as nervous as I possible could be to start off with but by the end of the weekend (was a full weekend event) I was fine walking nude around the houes with everyone else. I think it helps a lot if you feel comfy with the people you have decided to play with. I loved the swingers party & I would happly go to another one if I knew the people there. It was an awesome weekend that I will never forget. I took a single male with me to make number even & we did set down rules before hand so that I felt safe because he had attended a party before. As far as I know we both equally enjoy it. Taby.
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RHP User
15 years ago
thanks taby were thinking about jumping in the deep end and maybe going to CI for our first swinging time. Also were there specific rules you had with the male you took id be very interested to here what they were. Also if your looking for a couple wed love to have you :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'JustEnough' We have never looked for fmf 3 somes so cant help with that. But as for couples. We gradually explored must be over 8 years now enjoying each part of our journey together. Starting with just chatting on line swapping photos .....12 mths Cam sex etc ........6-10 months. Meeting couples ....maybe 15 couples over 18 months and not taking it further, then one conversation we can remember from some experianced swingers they said "They must be a pretty ugly lot you guys are meeting to not get it off with one of the fifteen couples you have met!" Same room sex with our own partners with other couples ..... 10 months, the first couple we really clicked they were lovely but the male half went and died the day after our 1st experiance, we put it down to we excited them too much! Last 3 yrs full swap, tried seperate rooms a couple of times, now only ever same room. Experimented a couple parties and thats not us nor the club scene. Problems: We are allways still nervous when meeting couples that we have decided to play with, which is a good trait we think. Anything less than a full swap we find a tease now and wont go there. Male performance issues, others cant get hard, blow in a couple mins, below 5 inches we feel we should be told! most of this we dont accept because Viagra does overcome these issues. The wife gets really upset and we have a rule, if the other guy cant perform / blows early I go back to my wife, which has met with negative remarks from the other girl. But swinging there are 4 players! Taking one for the team: Opposite problem, hot guy and really awfull wife after 5 minutes just could not do it any longer, So we both have to like otherwise no swap. Thanks JustEnough, Very good insite were a very well prepared couple and we have antsipated some of these problems but we are very interested in how they are dealt with as well. we have come across some tips and tricks so to speak and sme very interesting rules. For instatnce one couple had a 7 metre rule where they could only play within this distance of each other or they had to be visable to each other for the whole time playing. Interesting if not a good tip.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We had both been in 3 some situations before in our past and when we talked about it early in our relationship we decided to hire a hooker to see how we would go with a FFM.....and then the next week jumped right in with a party at a club and got an invite back for a private party with other couples......We had the best sex together after those experiences so that was the begining for us! Mich
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RHP User
15 years ago
We are in the same situation. But after having gone through Justenough's post, we realize that it takes quite a bit of time, commitment and patience to do this. We'll keep looking out for that perfect couple to "socialize" with.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ok so the single guy I look to the swingers party with me had been to an even before. because I hadn't been to any events and had only perviously played one on one with men I was very nervous. One of the rules I had was that the single guy stick close to me. I found this helped a great deal and once I got over my nervousness I was able to leave him to go play while he also went off and played. Because we where both single rules that apply to some couples didnt apply to us. I will admit there was one person at the party that I was not attracted to at all so I did use the single guy as a sheild to avoid that certain person (I think everyone should have a sheild, especially if you are one of those people who feel bad about saying no or letting other people down). If you get a chance have a naked spa with everyone at the party do it, it does wonders to ease your nerves. lol Just have fun. I suppose my swinger party was different to many that other people attend because it was a whole weekend event and not just one night for a few hours. The fact that we all actually went out to lunch, did the tourist thing, visited a whinery & just chatted & that it wasnt all about sex was one of the things I liked the best about the weekend. Taby.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sorry for the spelling I just finished work & my brain is dead :( Taby.
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RHP User
15 years ago
The first fmf we had was with a gorgeous young lady who contacted us through a site,it was a one off and we all totally enjoyed ourselves.The lady mentioned was looking for a long term relationship and she wanted to have a few experiences before she found the right guy.Since then we have had a great deal of fun mainly meeting through sites or at parties,still get nervous every time we meet someone new.Taby ,the spa is an excellent ice breaker or play some sexy party games just to get every one in the mood.Michnruss,yes we always have really good sex together after we've played with someone else.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'taby001' Ok so the single guy I look to the swingers party with me had been to an even before. because I hadn't been to any events and had only perviously played one on one with men I was very nervous. One of the rules I had was that the single guy stick close to me. I found this helped a great deal and once I got over my nervousness I was able to leave him to go play while he also went off and played. Because we where both single rules that apply to some couples didnt apply to us. I will admit there was one person at the party that I was not attracted to at all so I did use the single guy as a sheild to avoid that certain person (I think everyone should have a sheild, especially if you are one of those people who feel bad about saying no or letting other people down). If you get a chance have a naked spa with everyone at the party do it, it does wonders to ease your nerves. lol Just have fun. I suppose my swinger party was different to many that other people attend because it was a whole weekend event and not just one night for a few hours. The fact that we all actually went out to lunch, did the tourist thing, visited a whinery & just chatted & that it wasnt all about sex was one of the things I liked the best about the weekend. Taby.oh yeah i can see how a guy would help in that sitch and i totally understand about being brain dead :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'taby001' Ok so the single guy I look to the swingers party with me had been to an even before. because I hadn't been to any events and had only perviously played one on one with men I was very nervous. One of the rules I had was that the single guy stick close to me. I found this helped a great deal and once I got over my nervousness I was able to leave him to go play while he also went off and played. Because we where both single rules that apply to some couples didnt apply to us. I will admit there was one person at the party that I was not attracted to at all so I did use the single guy as a sheild to avoid that certain person (I think everyone should have a sheild, especially if you are one of those people who feel bad about saying no or letting other people down). If you get a chance have a naked spa with everyone at the party do it, it does wonders to ease your nerves. lol Just have fun. I suppose my swinger party was different to many that other people attend because it was a whole weekend event and not just one night for a few hours. The fact that we all actually went out to lunch, did the tourist thing, visited a whinery & just chatted & that it wasnt all about sex was one of the things I liked the best about the weekend. Taby.oh yeah i can see how a guy would help in that sitch and i totally understand about being brain dead :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
That sound s like a hell of a party. My first time was with a good friend as well. It was on her bucket list and we were dating. Went to a small swingers party. All the girls jumped into bed together and she wasn't comfortable with that so I dragged her out and started kissing her. She then went down on me and soon everyone had their clothes off and we just joined in as a matter of course. It is a bit surreal the first time watching many naked couples having sex at the same time, but then it just seems natural. If in doubt just go to town on your partner, that is comfortable ground and go from there.Cheers and enjoy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Guys, Ill try and answer a few of those questions for ya. We have had a few FFM 3somes and have had some great times although online dating can be VERY frustrating. Our first as a couple (male has had a few 3somes with previous partners) was with a female friend and just "happened" one night when we were drinking at home. Sometimes it just works that way and there are no plans what-so-ever it just "happens" - which is always the way - the harder you look the harder is seems to be! At least we diddnt have to worry about nerves as it wasnt planned. As far as meeting single bi women online it can be really tricky. There are so many fake profiles and girls who "like the idea of being with another women" but never actually want to meet. Its a numbers game online ... you have to send out those emails. We have been online for 16 months and have met with 6 women and slept with 3 of them. Not really very good odds considering how many emails we have sent out and how many times we have been cancelled on. Not to mention the girls who arrange to meet and just dont show up - even after we have called them to confirm. But that just comes with the looking online. We found the best way to avoid months of online chat is to send out emails and try to arrange a meet as soon as possible. No amount of online chat removes nerves when meeting a girl so just meet her and see how things go. Take her out to coffee or for drinks ... if there is attraction is should be fairly obvious. From there you can just discuss rules ... if you have any (we are very easy going and havent really had to lay down any rules). After that just bite the bullet and suggest you go home or to the motel or whereever you have arranged. (maby wait till you have a few miniutes alone and as a couple decide if you BOTH want to sleep with her) Here are a few guidelines we follow. 1. Never arrange to meet without first speaking to her on the phone. (otherwise you might be in for a long wait!) 2. Only meet for coffee or drinks - a lunch or dinner date with someone you dont get on with is a waste of time and money. 3. dont get too excited before meeting someone (we have been let down so many times we dont set ANY expectations). Common problems for new couples .... where do we start ?? 1. As the female .... as you sure you will be ok to see your man fuck another girl (its not an image you can just forget if you change you mind halfway through) make sure you both see the new girl as someone to "enhance your sex life - not someone to replace or repair you current sexual issues) 2. As the male .... make sure you pay attention to both women (dont just focus on the new girl because she is new. you are a COUPLE remember) 3. Do your best to make sure the single girl is happy with the way things are going - she will probably be the most nervous as she is sleeping with 2 new people) Anyway hope I have helped. Damo
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Guys, Ill try and answer a few of those questions for ya. We have had a few FFM 3somes and have had some great times although online dating can be VERY frustrating. Our first as a couple (male has had a few 3somes with previous partners) was with a female friend and just "happened" one night when we were drinking at home. Sometimes it just works that way and there are no plans what-so-ever it just "happens" - which is always the way - the harder you look the harder is seems to be! At least we diddnt have to worry about nerves as it wasnt planned. As far as meeting single bi women online it can be really tricky. There are so many fake profiles and girls who "like the idea of being with another women" but never actually want to meet. Its a numbers game online ... you have to send out those emails. We have been online for 16 months and have met with 6 women and slept with 3 of them. Not really very good odds considering how many emails we have sent out and how many times we have been cancelled on. Not to mention the girls who arrange to meet and just dont show up - even after we have called them to confirm. But that just comes with the looking online. We found the best way to avoid months of online chat is to send out emails and try to arrange a meet as soon as possible. No amount of online chat removes nerves when meeting a girl so just meet her and see how things go. Take her out to coffee or for drinks ... if there is attraction is should be fairly obvious. From there you can just discuss rules ... if you have any (we are very easy going and havent really had to lay down any rules). After that just bite the bullet and suggest you go home or to the motel or whereever you have arranged. (maby wait till you have a few miniutes alone and as a couple decide if you BOTH want to sleep with her) Here are a few guidelines we follow. 1. Never arrange to meet without first speaking to her on the phone. (otherwise you might be in for a long wait!) 2. Only meet for coffee or drinks - a lunch or dinner date with someone you dont get on with is a waste of time and money. 3. dont get too excited before meeting someone (we have been let down so many times we dont set ANY expectations). Common problems for new couples .... where do we start ?? 1. As the female .... as you sure you will be ok to see your man fuck another girl (its not an image you can just forget if you change you mind halfway through) make sure you both see the new girl as someone to "enhance your sex life - not someone to replace or repair you current sexual issues) 2. As the male .... make sure you pay attention to both women (dont just focus on the new girl because she is new. you are a COUPLE remember) 3. Do your best to make sure the single girl is happy with the way things are going - she will probably be the most nervous as she is sleeping with 2 new people) Anyway hope I have helped. Damo
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RHP User
15 years ago
I will answer your question as they seem well thought out 1. Our first time, well we started with an open relationship but our real first swinging experience was at a party And we just jumped in with some other people we found attractive. But our first meeting of a couple happened after chatting to them on the phone and they invited us to the party mentioned. 2. It was a lot of fun and sparked some great sex between us afterwards 3. yes, that is one our rules 'never take one for the team' 4. I did not really have too many nervous but mr did and he had a few drinks to take the edge off not too many mind you. 5. Yes and we even wrote them down on a piece of paper so that it was very clear and we were literally on the same page. 6. We met in a pub and will always met in a public place for the first met 7. at times yes and at times we have been into different aspects of it 8. The problems that raised for us is that we play apart too so of course it easier for mrs to find play dates alone then mr not because mr is not as sexy but because males don't seem to have a problem with it when mrs says "by the way i am married" where ladies do (another one of our rules - we are always honest with people about ourselves". Hope that helps
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes we seem to have the same issue with odds. There is not alot of selection in our general area and have had a couple of no shows. But we are going to be going to a swingers club next month so hopefully we should have some better luck there.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi, We did try for a number of years for a MFM, played once with a friend, wife didnt find that enjoyable, we started going to clubs to check them out and must of went about 10 times over 5 years, without much luck as wife has to hit it off, untill she watched one gentleman with a lady and how he treated her, we asked and found out he was very poplular and set out to be introduced, we found a contact and talked a little over texts. One weekend we went to CI to meet and see where it went, after chatting for a while with the guy, he went to get a drink and I asked her what she thought, she said she wanted him, long story short is we went to a room and for what would be classed as a proper first time, had a fantastic time, she came 5 times that night and a further 2 at hotel with me, she has been with him four other times and has not been dissapointed. so I can understand you so far not finding anyone as it took a while and now we are having the same issues as the first gent has moved on. Best wishes with it
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi 2hot2curious! Answers to your questions: 1. First time came about by my partner and I hitting town with mates for a few drinks and some dancing. I (f) began dancing, flirting and chatting with another young lady, I invited my partner in to dance with us and her friends. She asked for my number before leaving the club. She messaged me later that nite, I invited her along to a party we were having the next weekend. She came along, flirting continued and then things progressed to a threesome. 2. It was what we had expected it to be, horny and sexy; hands going everywhere and fantasies being fulfilled. 3. Yes there was attraction straight away; all three of us were very flirty. Though my partner let me control it so that I was completely comfortable with it all. 4. Got over the nerves with some sexy text msgs, a shower prior to her coming back around after the party, some champagne and laughs. 5. Rules are a MUST. Great communication between yourself and your partner is the most important part of it. If you guys have discussed it thouroughly, you will have made your own rules and will be set. Have a safe word. 6. We met in town, dancing... We had attempted meeting with ladies from this site and others only to be stood up 4 times, absolute bullshit... but that's another story. 7. & 8. Don't go ahead with it unless it is both of your fantasy - it can't be just your fantasy - or his. Be sensitive to one another and remember that it is an experience you both will share. Communicate and you'll have nothing to worry about. Hope it helps, J & K x
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